During an Instagram live last week, Ashley accidentally said “motihation” instead of motivation, and just like that, this episode was born!

While we were sure we had stumbled onto an entirely new concept, some light Googling after the fact revealed that motihation has been a thing for a while now.

Nonetheless, we are here to explore the concept of motihation, what it means, and what happens when motivation crosses the line into motihation.

The big dreams. You know the ones. Those goals or projects that have been on your aspirational to-do list for years.

Travel the world.

Write the book.

Record the album.

Get the job.

Earn the degree.

Run the race.

Climb the mountain.

The dreams so big that we feel completely overwhelmed by the thought of actually trying to achieve them.

Well, our very own Ashley just accomplished one of her biggest lifelong dreams, a dream that’s been on her list for years. One she thought she needed more time, more money, more skills, and more training to achieve. But she didn’t, and she did it...and she’s here to tell us how.

The idea for today’s episode came directly from a member of the Eff Perfect Fam, Haili, on Instagram. Haili said that she wanted to hear about “how to celebrate little wins throughout your day...cause it’s not gonna be perfect.”

Haili’s suggestion hit us right in the feels, and we knew we had to dedicate an episode to it ASAP! Join us as we dive into identifying the keys to noticing our wins, our favorite ways to celebrate them, and what gets in the way.

Have you ever considered making a life change so massive that you didn’t even know where to begin? Today’s guest, lawyer turned lecturer Peter Krogh, found himself in that position seven years ago when he decided to leave his law career and his comfy life in Atlanta to pursue teaching at a university in China. Say what??

If you’ve ever dreamt of traveling the world, living that laptop lifestyle, or even making a less drastic life change that feels out of reach, then this conversation is for you. Peter shares how any of us, even someone like him who’s conservative about change, can let go of procrastination and embrace uncertainty.

When we learned that one of the definitions of overwhelm is “to drown beneath a large mass,” we didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. All we knew was that the feeling is way too familiar.

While overwhelm is a common state, us perfectionists and people pleasers tend to experience it even more frequently than most. So, today we’re diving deep into why overwhelm tends to show up and how to respond when it does.

Embodiment means inhabiting your physical body.

Not feeling like you need to fix anything about it.

Just owning the shape and state in which your body is right now in this moment.

Not anticipating how it might change in the future.

Not dreaming or fantasizing about what it was like in the past.

But accepting it as it is right now.

In today’s episode, we explore the concepts of acceptance, trust, and love when it comes to our bodies — how we define each of those qualities and how we endeavor to create more of them.

Is happiness really a choice?

Could it be that simple?

From our perspective, happiness is multi-determined and more complex than a single choice, but it’s also more within our control than we might think.

Today, we’re delving into our own agency when it comes to happiness, including misconceptions, blocks, and simple practices for cultivating greater happiness in our daily lives.

The concept for today’s episode was brought to us by Eff Perfect Fam member, Nadine, on Instagram. Nadine said, “I would love to hear something about the word ‘normal,’ why this word can cause so much pain for so many, why we have to categorize everything, and why we are often not able to see and like people/things just the way they are.”

We resonated so much with Nadine’s question that we just couldn’t wait to talk about it on the show. Join us as we explore why "normal" isn’t a monolith, how our personal and societal views of normalcy change over time, and whether "normal" even exists.

Well fam, today we are taking a trip back in time because this month marks our two-year Eff Perfect anniversary! We’re chatting all about where we’ve been, where we are now, and where this community is headed in the future.

We’ll hit the highs and lows with lots of laughter and self-reflection along the way!

For us recovering perfectionists, finding and using our voices can be a lifelong journey. The rawness, realness, and authenticity involved in speaking up can be effing scary, and compassion is the best antidote and balm for that fear.

We’re sprinkling self-compassion on every ounce of this conversation as we explore what it means to speak up, what gets in the way, and why using our voice is so worth it.