How do you feel when you open your wardrobe?

For many women, particularly as our bodies and lives change in midlife, getting dressed can become surprisingly complicated. Clothes that once felt right no longer do. We can find ourselves buying more, wearing less, or simply wondering where the woman we used to recognise has gone.

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My guest Sarah Gale believes the answer isn’t another set of fashion rules.

Sarah is the founder of Wearing Your Worth and spent more than three decades in the fashion industry before developing a very different approach to personal style. She believes the clothes we choose can reveal much more than our taste. They can reflect the expectations, conditioning and stories we’ve absorbed about who we’re supposed to be.

We talk about what Sarah calls our “style essences”, the characteristics that express something fundamental about who we really are, and why rediscovering them can help us feel more at home in ourselves.

Our conversation ranges far beyond clothes. We explore changing bodies, our attachment to comfort, feminine power, going grey, make-up, the enormous pressure on women to remain youthful, and why midlife can be an opportunity to strip away some of those expectations rather than trying harder to conform to them.

We also talk about the example we set for younger women when we allow ourselves to age visibly and unapologetically.

If you’ve ever stood in front of a wardrobe full of clothes thinking, “None of this feels like me anymore”, this conversation may help you look at the problem rather differently.

About Sarah:

Wearing Your Worth WebsiteInstagramYouTube and podcast

Sarah Gale, former Project Runway Australia judge, seasoned fashion industry expert, and accredited coach, embarked on a remarkable journey from the competitive fashion business to explore the aesthetics of the soul.

As the Founder and visionary behind Wearing Your Worth®, Sarah has pioneered a paradigm shift in how women perceive their connection with clothing and embrace their authentic style. Her groundbreaking program empowers women to unlock profound insights into their psychological relationship with their wardrobe, transforming it into a potent tool for discovering and embodying their true essence.

Jo’s Book:

Ageing Wonderfully Well: The Good News about Midlife and Growing Older:https://geni.us/AgeingWonderfullyWell

There’s something about becoming a grandmother that is almost impossible to put into words.

That first moment. That first cuddle. The first time you hear your grandchild call your special name.

My guest this week, Joy Crawford, understands that feeling very well. She is the founder of What My Grandkids Call Me, a community of grandparents built around a wonderfully simple idea: celebrating the names our grandchildren give us – and the relationships behind them.

Joy tells me how one encounter between a little boy and his beloved “Boompa” inspired a faith-driven mission to make a million people smile.

We talk about the extraordinary bond between grandparents and grandchildren, the memories our own grandparents leave with us, loving grandchildren who live far away, and the freedom that comes with being Grandma rather than Mum.

There are laughs, a few tears, and plenty of stories – including the moment my four-year-old granddaughter informed me, when she spilt her juice on the sofa, that she is apparently the reason I can’t have nice things!

If you’re a grandparent, I think you’ll recognise a great deal in this conversation.

And I’d love to know: what do your grandchildren call you?

Find Joy

What My Grandkids Call Me:whatmygrandkidscallme.com

Joy is also the author of What My Grandkids Call Me A to Z, a collection of grandparent names and reflections from real grandmothers. https://geni.us/6M5s1Sf

And from me

My book, Ageing Wonderfully Well: The Good News About Midlife and Growing Older, is available worldwide here:

Ageing Wonderfully Well

Midlife & Beyond with Jo Blackwell is a weekly podcast about navigating the years beyond 50 with curiosity, confidence and an open mind.

Caroline Nield was 48 when she discovered she was autistic.

Until then, she had spent years wondering why certain parts of life seemed harder for her than they appeared to be for other people. She rehearsed conversations before they happened. Phone calls needed preparation. Friendships could be difficult to maintain. Changes to familiar routines could feel disproportionately unsettling.

And, like many women who receive an autism diagnosis later in life, she had become very good at adapting and masking.

Caroline’s route to diagnosis began when her son was diagnosed as autistic. As she learned more about autism – including sensory differences, social communication and repetitive behaviours – she began recognising herself.

When her own diagnosis eventually came, her overwhelming feeling was relief.

Rather than giving her another label, Caroline says it helped her begin stripping away some of the labels she had already given herself, like shy, stubborn, difficult.

We talk about what autism can look like in women, why so many women reach midlife without recognising that they are neurodivergent, and the difference that self-understanding can make.

Caroline also shares some wonderfully relatable examples from everyday life – from supermarket layouts and favourite sandwiches to friendship drift, phone calls and the need for routine.

We also explore:

• Why autism in girls and women has historically been overlooked• Masking and learning to copy other people socially• The relief – and sometimes grief – that can accompany a late diagnosis• Sensory differences and the need for routine• Friendship and the feeling of never quite fitting in• Executive functioning, overwhelm and the “too many tabs open” brain• Perfectionism and the freeze response• Finding ways of working that suit your own brain• Caroline’s decision to pursue acting in her 40s• Leaving a 20-year HR career and retraining as a coach• Why understanding yourself can be the beginning of treating yourself more kindly

What struck me most about our conversation was that this isn’t really a story about acquiring a label.

It’s about finally having an explanation, and, perhaps, being able to look back at yourself with a little more self-compassion.

FIND CAROLINE

Instagram: @caroline_nieldFacebook: Caroline NieldLinkedIn: Caroline Nield

Caroline also mentions her free two-minute quiz exploring patterns including cognitive overload, perfectionism, overgiving and the freeze response.

AGEING WONDERFULLY WELL

My book, Ageing Wonderfully Well: The Good News about Midlife and Growing Older, is now available worldwide:

https://geni.us/AgeingWonderfullyWell

What does it really mean to plan for our health after 60 – not from a place of fear, but so that we can remain active, independent and involved in the lives we want to lead?

My guest is Laura Ashforth, CEO and co-founder of Lateral, a specialist health insurer created for active people over 60.

Laura explains why traditional health insurance can become increasingly expensive as we grow older, and how Lateral has been designed to sit alongside the NHS rather than replace it. We talk about timely access to diagnostic tests and elective procedures, the importance of continuity of care and the choices available when navigating NHS and private healthcare.

But this conversation goes beyond insurance. Laura and I discuss:

* Why we need to think about healthcare before we need it

* The difference between lifespan and health span

* Annual health checks, screenings and preventative care

* Maintaining strength, mobility and independence

* Why health advice should reflect our age and stage of life

* The contribution older people continue to make

* How activities such as walking, gardening and pickleball can support both physical health and social connection

Laura’s message is a positive one: reaching our 60s does not mean that we intend to slow down or stop. By paying attention to our health now, we give ourselves a better chance of continuing to contribute, explore and enjoy the years ahead.

Please note: This conversation is for general information and does not constitute medical or financial advice. Health insurance is subject to individual eligibility, terms and exclusions.

Links

Discover Lateral & Explore healthy-ageing articles and resources: https://www.lateral.uk/

Buy my book, Ageing Wonderfully Well: The Good News about Midlife and Growing Older:https://geni.us/AgeingWonderfullyWell

What if you didn’t need to reinvent your life to make it better?

My guests this week are Ann and Sal, hosts of the 1% Happier and Healthier podcast, and their philosophy is wonderfully simple: instead of setting enormous goals that quickly become overwhelming, make small, achievable changes – just 1% at a time.

And they know it works because they’ve done it themselves.

After meeting as neighbours 25 years ago, Ann and Sal eventually found themselves training together at the gym. Eighteen months of gradual progress took them from small beginnings to completing a Hyrox doubles event – something Ann initially thought was completely beyond her.

But their 1% philosophy reaches far beyond exercise.

We talk about changing our relationship with alcohol as we get older, creating healthier boundaries around work, taking five minutes to stop and breathe, putting ourselves back onto our own priority list and recognising that sometimes the smallest pleasures – even drinking your morning tea from a favourite mug – can make everyday life feel a little better.

Ann also talks candidly about the transition away from a business that had been central to her identity for many years, and the question so many of us encounter in midlife: if the roles that once defined me are changing, who am I now?

We also discuss “preferment” rather than retirement, the importance of continuing to stretch ourselves as we age, and Ann and Sal’s own unexpected adventure into podcasting.

It’s a warm conversation about making change feel possible – without believing we have to change everything at once.

Because perhaps the question isn’t “How do I transform my life?”

Perhaps it’s simply: “What could I make 1% better?”

Find Ann & Sal and the 1% Happier and Healthier podcast via their social channels, and on Apple Podcasts.

And if you’re navigating your own next chapter, my book Ageing Wonderfully Well is an honest, hopeful guide to midlife and growing older:

https://geni.us/AgeingWonderfullyWell

Do you ever wake up regretting how much you drank the night before—even though, from the outside, your drinking looks perfectly “normal”?

My guest, Kate Bee, is the founder of The Sober School, an online community helping women change their relationship with alcohol without shame, labels or a lifetime declaration that they will never drink again.

Kate describes her own experience of feeling lost somewhere between “normal” drinking and the stereotypes associated with alcoholism. We explore grey-area drinking, the way alcohol has been woven into female friendship and empowerment, and why it can begin to affect us differently during perimenopause and beyond.

We also discuss:

* How to recognise when alcohol is no longer working for you

* Why moderation rules can become exhausting

* The connection between alcohol, anxiety, sleep and menopause

* Whether you need to identify as an alcoholic before choosing to stop

* Why Kate recommends a meaningful alcohol-free experiment rather than focusing on “forever”

* The unmet needs that can lie beneath the urge to drink

* Socialising and celebrating without alcohol

* How sobriety helped Kate understand her personality, values and the life she genuinely wanted

This is a warm, non-judgemental conversation for anyone who has privately wondered: Is this becoming too much?

Find Kate Bee

The Sober School: https://thesoberschool.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesoberschool/

Kate offers free guides, videos and other resources through The Sober School website.

Find Jo

My book, Ageing Wonderfully Well: https://geni.us/AgeingWonderfullyWell

Midlife & Beyond: https://joblackwell.co.uk

Important: This conversation is for general information and support, not medical advice. If you may be physically dependent on alcohol, do not stop suddenly without medical guidance, as withdrawal can be dangerous. NHS alcohol support and guidance.

Have you ever felt that something was missing—and wondered whether changing direction would finally make you happy?

Ulrika Torquato left a career in medicine to pursue her dream of becoming a singer. But even after making that enormous change, the happiness she expected didn’t arrive. What changed her life was a much quieter realisation: while she was caught up in her thoughts, she was missing the beauty already present around her.

In this warm and thoughtful conversation, Ulrika and I talk about slowing down, becoming more present and learning to notice the small moments that can easily pass us by – a bird in flight, a cup of coffee or time spent with someone we love.

Ulrika also introduces Joyering, the simple practice and web-based app she created to help us actively collect these moments. It’s a lovely, playful way to look away from other people’s lives and reconnect with our own.

We discuss:

* Why a dramatic life change doesn’t necessarily bring happiness

* The difference between experiencing a moment and merely recording it

* How our phones can disconnect us from the people beside us

* Why small moments reveal what truly matters to us

* Joyering as a gentle practice for anxiety and difficult times

* Why the small things are often the big things after all

Find Ulrika and try Joyering:

https://joyering.com

https://ulrikatorquato.com

Find more from Jo:

Book: https://geni.us/AgeingWonderfullyWell

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoBlackwell-MidlifeAndBeyondWebsite: https://www.joblackwell.co.uk

Season 8 of the Midlife & Beyond Podcast begins on Tuesday 11 August, bringing you warm, honest and sometimes moving conversations with women who have lived.

Over the coming weeks, we’ll explore everything from sobriety, strength and pelvic-floor health to late-diagnosed ADHD and autism, broken hearts, grandparenthood and wild new adventures.

In this short preview, I share a taste of what’s coming—along with news of a brand-new YouTube channel where you can watch the conversations and discover highlights from the podcast archive.

Put the kettle on, pull up a chair and join me for Season 8.

Neil Taylor helps families capture the stories, memories, and voices of their parents before it’s too late. After losing his own father to dementia, Neil realised how many stories had gone unrecorded – and how quickly voices and memories can fade.

In this conversation, we talk about ageing, grief, family connection, regret, memory, and why older people so often feel unseen. We also explore how understanding our parents’ lives more deeply can help us better understand ourselves.

A thoughtful and emotional conversation about storytelling, midlife, family history, and preserving the voices we love.You can find Neil and download his free question guides here:

Me and My Old Man

Why are women over 50 being overlooked at work? In this episode, Jo Blackwell and Celine Egan explore ageism, menopause, confidence, and why “second half women” may be among the most valuable hires.