Milo Time

Studio C in Lisa's apartment, Rocky the cat, Thanksgiving behind us, Dave and Lisa heading back to LA, Are people in LA just like people in NYC?, Similar with different complaints, SNL the Californians, Californians talk about driving while New Yorkers talk about alternate side of the street parking, Lisa selects Baba Israel, Nothing to do with Babka, Rapper/Spoken word artist, Brooklyn Academy of Music Spoken Word Poetry Slam, Baba Israel as host, Max and Milo were shocked and amazed, Max was first being exposed to music outside our control; Milo not quite yet, Attended with other good friends, Lydia, Jeff, Alex, Ben Muchnick, Caroline Fraser, Joel Barkow, Oscar Nobel, Alex Nobel, Did the exposure have an impact on their music appreciation?, Parents expose kids to things and hope they develop their own interests, Milo may have thrown suggestions out to Baba Israel, Lisa corrects Daryl's vocabulary, Share Baba Israel content @milotimepodast, Outro music "Milo" by Joel Barkow and Pass the Poi.  

Thanksgiving is a holiday we loved as a family, Family tradition of hosting Thanksgiving in our home, every year from 2001 to 2021, Food shopping the day before Thanksgiving, With the boys the evening before Thanksgiving, Begin cooking the night before Thanksgiving, Stuffing, Cornbread, Pumpkin Pie, Turkey, Brisket, Guests included a combination of Gordon, Katie, Zach, Noah, Marc, Alicia, Scott, Jared, Daryl's parents, and Alana's parents, Thanksgiving dishes, Apple cider from the Jericho Cider Mill, Alana and I always took a moment to note how lucky we were, Thanksgiving is the headline holiday of the year, What are you doing about Thanksgiving?, Insight into our new world, Do we continue with the previous tradition? Do we start a new tradition? Do we ignore the holiday entirely? What are we trying to accomplish here? Are we trying to generate happy memories and treat Milo's absence as isolateable? Is a new tradition a betrayal of Milo? What message are we sending with our actions? Daryl's brother noting that not celebrating Thanksgiving with our family is sad for his family too, Heartbreaking for our parents to not be celebrating with their immediate family, We acknowledge we still have lots to be thankful for, We feel very aggrieved in a very particular way, We do not plan into the future, Emptiness generated by Milo's death still at the forefront, We are tremendously grateful to the community that has supported and loved us over the past year, Wishing everyone a wonderful Thanksgiving, Joel Barkow, Pass the Poi "Milo", Jared Fontaine, The Idea of Machines, Sweet Lefty, Listen to the end of Pass the Poi's Milo   

Brooklyn, West Side Highway, Brooklyn car wash, Lisa and Dave spending chunks of time in Los Angeles, No Fall activity in Los Angeles, Lisa doesn't like the cold anymore, Isabel and Max bundled up in a blizzard, Seems like there is a lot less snow now, No Halloween winter coats anymore, Mr. Miyagi, Pat Morita character (aka Arnold from Happy Days) in The Karate Kid, Murray the Cop was Al on Happy Days after Pat Morita was Arnold, The Karate Kid, Elizabeth Shue, Ralph Macchio, Big Islanders fan, William Zabka, Cobra Kai, The Karate Kid ridiculous, Lisa defends The Karate Kid, Rudy, Notre Dame football, Hoosiers, From the movie to our home, Max and Milo played lots of sports growing up, Clapping hands together, rub them, grab an injured body part and yell "Miyagi", Daniel Larusso may have lost a few fights, Mr. Miyagi fixed Daniel's leg after "sweep the leg", The Karate Kid was age appropriate and sports related, Max curious about the seeding in Daniel's final tournament, a Miyagi breaks the stress of an injury, Having a little calf in your hands, Milo particularly flexible and mushy

Brooklyn, Jets football same as it ever was, Alana and Lisa collateral Jets damage, Watching the Jets is a separate kind of bravery, Dave and I care less about the Jets now than we used to, JetsCast Inspired by Milo Time available each week during the NFL regular season, Milo's birthday November 7, The List of Things Milo Loved growing quite a bit recently, Farmer's market in our neighborhood, Migliorelli's apple cider is available there, Milo loved the apple cider, Milo always loved apple cider, Apple cider is a bit of a snack, Not that thirst quenching, Visit to the Muchnicks (Jeff, Lydia, Alex, Ben) in Lacakwaxen, Owl Court, Migliorelli farm stand on the way to Owl Court, Apple cider doughnuts too, Farmer's market next to MS 51 (5th Ave. and 4th St.), Farmer's market on the Upper West Side, Jericho Cider Mill, Daryl grew up in Jericho in Nassau County, Lisa grew up in Huntington in Suffolk county, Running across Rte. 106/107 to go to the Jericho Cider Mill, Richard Kessler is the biggest proponent of the Jericho Cider Mill, The Frapple, Lisa's dad also loves the Jericho Cider Mill and he loves Turlock melons, just like Irwin Fishberg, Alana's dad, Apple Crumb Cake also delicious, Big Cider

Welcome back, Lisa, Thanks to Lisa for putting herself out there on Milo Time, Lisa acknowledges there is no such thing as "expertise" on the subject without the experience, You can't go wrong with saying something, We're always happy to learn that people are thinking about Milo, Annual run in Milo's honor Sunday November 10, Meet at 9:00 at Milo's tree in Prospect Park, Construction of our home, Milo stomping down the stairs after waking up, Alternative to singing in bed, Beautiful noise, particularly in hindsight, Just the way Milo walked down stairs, Max much lighter on his feet and a much earlier riser, Difficult to hear Milo coming down the stairs with a cane or crutches, Any time we hear people coming down our stairs we can't help but think about Milo's block feet, Final reminder about run in Milo's honor 

Milo loved the New York Yankees, Milo Seemed like the kind of person who would be a Mets fan, Daryl's father was a Yankees fan, Even though Milo's sensibility was more Mets, he was always a Yankees fan, Milo was at the first Yankees win at the new Yankee Stadium with Alana, Max, and the Pritchard family, While Milo was treating Alana, Milo, and I would go to games at Yankee Stadium, Amazing effort by Alana and Milo, Those games were extremely memorable for all of us, My father and I were at the Bill Buckner Game and at the Aaron Boone Game, Impossible not to think about the great times and the moments lost, We were only getting started, Visit @milotimepodcast, Two of my favorite Milo and Max pictures, The second photo is so revealing of both boys, Just watched Yankees drop Game 2 to the Dodgers, Milo is missing the Yankees in the World Series, Wouldn't remember much of their World Series win in 2009, There are players Milo wouldn't know as Yankees, Jazz Chisholm, Players I can't remember if Milo knew them as Yankees, Gerrit Cole, Oswaldo Cabrera, Anthony Rizzo, Giancarlo Stanton, Aaron Judge, Carlos Rodon, Clay Holmes, A fog falling over certain memories of what Milo knew, There will come a time when the Yankees will be comprised of players unknown to Milo, Every joyous moment includes the sadness of Milo's absence, Celebrating without Milo, Root for the Yankees with Alana, Max, Milo, and me and feel Milo's absence at the same time, 1996 Yankees lost Games 1 and 2 at home to Atlanta, Lisa will be back next week, The Idea of Machines

Ridiculous for Daryl and Alana to be recording about one specific thing that Milo loved, Sometimes the little stories are emblematic of bigger things, 101st episode, Jared Fontaine guest on episode 100, Lisa Cohen has co-hosted about 90 episodes, Latest group of Milo Fellows at Brooklyn Tech High School, Run in Milo's honor Sunday November 10th at 9 a.m. sharp, Milo's 21st birthday November 7, Explaining Milo's Fund, Link to donate in the Linktree on the instagram page @milotimepodcast, Challenges going to Brooklyn Tech, January event at Brooklyn Tech with our families and Milo's classmates, friends, and teachers, Fund is heartbreaking and amazing at the same time, Growing number of Milo Fellows is evidence of Milo's world expanding; also heartbreaking and beautiful, Run in Prospect Park November 10; meet at Milo's tree in Prospect Park at 9 a.m. sharp, Meet Milo's grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc., Harkening back to Jared Fontaine episode, Never so distant a relationship that we would not welcome contact, It's never the wrong time to reach out to someone who is struggling or grieving, New communities we've joined, Reconnecting with old friends even though we are different, TED Talk by Kelly Corrigan on the linktree @milotimepodcast, Article by Jancee Dunn on the linktree @milotimepodcast, The three Hs, What is a sweater? What is a sweatshirt?, What is a fleece?, What is a hoodie?, Milo and Max with different ideas about what constitutes a sweater, Earl Sweatshirt, Russell Sweatshirt, Russell Sweats section at Modell's, Milo putting on a "sweater" and giving side-eye to Alana, Milo's birthday coming at us like a train and we can't avoid it, Difficult days, Insufficient to talk about Milo on the podcast but it's what we can do, Thank you for joining us and staying with is, Listen to the Sweet Lefty lyrics

100th Episode, Openings are cold, Jared is The Idea of Machines, Jared wrote Sweet Lefty about Milo, Jared and Daryl have played soccer together for about ten years but didn't really know one another, Jared and a number of soccer friends attended Milo's service, Jared has become a good friend of mine and a good friend to Milo, Jared is grateful to have gotten to know Alana and Max, Jared kept up on Milo's treatment and has thought about him quite a bit since, Jared was moved by Milo's service, Service was packed, Jared has come to know Milo, Meaningful connections in the wake of tragedy, Jared began writing Sweet Lefty at Milo's service, Initial idea was Dr. Blozy's noting Milo's sweet lefty baseball swing, Jared completed the song in roughly one week, Song includes tributes to Milo and nods to the challenges faced by him and his loved ones, Jared was concerned about my reaction to the song, Alana, Max, and Daryl loved the song the first time we heard it, How is it that Laura (Jared's wife) and Jared come towards Alana and Daryl when others are struggling to communicate with us?, Jared is aware that this loss is always present for us and that not talking about the loss is a farce, Get in someone's face who's grieving and then being quiet, Our superheroes have emerged, Many of our superheroes have been surprises to us, There is a way to be supportive of people grieving even if we are only tangentially connected to them, There is a struggle to recognize the role you can play in anyone's life,  Not everyone grieving wants the same thing, Jared began asking questions immediately, Most of us are problem-solvers but this is not a problem that can be resolved, Jared has asked questions and listened to answers, We didn't have the basis for bullshitting at the time we became better-connected, Jared questioning whether Lisa exists, Jared was seeking to confirm the way I was thinking, Lisa has described our experience as "mysterious", The fact that I know that Jared knows how difficult all decisions are in the wake of Milo's death frees up the rest of our connection, There will be lots more for us to talk about down the road, Thank you to Jared and Laura for coming towards us and thank you for Sweet Lefty, Perfect way to close out the 100th episode of Milo Time    

Early October game in Brooklyn, Fall is a difficult time for grieving parents, PS 321, MS 51, Difficult reminders in the neighborhood, Celebrity a fun game we've played with David and Lisa, Description of Celebrity, I Think You Should Leave, The Colgate Comedy Hour, Playing Celebrity in Nantucket with the Toll-O'Flanagans, Bill, Michelle, Caity, Spencer, Robbie Toll, Bruce Toll, Mom's doing bad, Woodloch, with Alana's parents, Irwin and Terry, Duncan Reynaldo, The Cisco Kid, Alana getting upset that the boys would know the names Alana put into the hat, Boys were correct a high percentage pf time, Ask Alana about it, Mom's doing bad, Boys getting under Alana's skin

Lisa coming across the country to record this episode, Lisa chilly in 67 degree weather now, It's not the heat it's the humidity, Lisa extolling the Los Angeles weather, Car culture is too much for Lisa, Encouraging the listening audience to discourage Lisa from moving to Los Angeles on the podcast instagram page @milotimepodcast, Perfect episode to follow the Mike Lane? episode, Milo shaking his head at me with disdain "Dad's doing bad," Max could certainly list more things, Dad approaches random families/newborns to guess the age,  Lisa agrees that "Dad's doing bad," Dad checks the refrigerator is closed and the stove is off, Lisa agrees "Dad's doing bad," Dave Hillman does this too, Never once did I catch things in an improper state, Dad notes how talented Bruno Mars is, Lisa and I agree "Dad's doing bad," Kendrick Lamar definitely talented, Dad fell into the Bruno Mars trap, Bill O'Flanagan loved the "Dad's doing bad" joke, Michelle, Caity, Spencer, and Bill O'Flanagan thought it was so funny.