Mind of Mateo

This has to be my most transparent episode yet. I break down how I lost 400K, how it impacted me mentally, having to fire my contractors, and my worst thought coming true the same day my son was being born.

Key Takeaways?

1. Whatever your number is for you to feel "safe"...double or triple it.
2. Don't get stuck in the valley. Pick yourself back up and move forward.
3. You aren't starting over from scratch. You aren't the same person as when you started. You've grown, learned, and achieved!
4. If you did it once, you can do it again but better this time.

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Ever been sitting at your desk and thought that you just want to be doing more impactful things? Make more money? Build something that you can pass down to your kids? Grow tremendously as a person?

I was able to build my IT company to between $300k-$400k in revenue in a little over 2 years. How did I do it?

The short answer: I set my eyes on a goal, then started...and figured out how to hit the target somewhere along the journey. No fancy tactics, marketing advice or sales guides. Just motivation, discipline, and grit to get some momentum going. I'm here to tell you that you can too! Want to know why? Take a listen to the episode.

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A friend I haven't spoken with in over a decade listened to an episode. I asked him to give me his honest feedback and he said "it is good but why should I listen?"

Listen now to find out why.

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Do you know when to risk it for the biscuit?

It starts with knowing what your level of responsibility is. Are you young, living at home, and haven't started a career yet? Maybe you're single, have a good paying job and rent. Married with kids and a mortgage? Here are some key takeaways for how to maneuver through risk v. reward in different areas of your life:

1. What is the reward?
2. What is the risk?
3. What am I missing? What don't I know about the situation?

*Bonus* - Doing nothing is a risk as well. Doing nothing is not "safe".

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Ever wanted to find a way to avoid fights in your relationship?

In this episode, Mateo speaks gives a few tips on how to do just that!

1. Adopt "Brutally Honest" conversations. This doesn't mean to belittle or go after your significant other. It is a chance for each person to share exactly what it is that they are thinking or feeling without the worry of an emotional backlash.
2. Schedule a weekly "Love" meeting to connect, stay aligned, and iron out any potential friction points while in a calm and emotionally neutral state.

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In this episode, Mateo discusses marriage, why he believes many relationships fail, and tips you can use to avoid a failing relationship.

Show Notes:

America is above a 40% divorce rate. Arranged marriages are around a 4% divorce rate (This can be affected by many reasons) 

Source: https://www.nbcnews.com/better/pop-culture/why-you-should-treat-marriage-more-business-ncna778551

Definition of vow: noun (dictionary.com)

a solemn promise, pledge, or personal commitment:

a solemn promise made to a deity or saint committing oneself to an act, service, or condition.

a solemn or earnest declaration.

How are people getting into situations that lead to divorce?

1. People are disillusioned and not honest with themselves. Lack of responsibility.
2. Driven by emotion.
3. Insecure and codependent.
4. Too many unspoken Expectations and too little communication on things that matters.
5. No idea what they want.

1. If you keep entering failed relationships, the problem is you, not them.
2. You have to stop for a moment and take some responsibility. This should be empowering because it means you have the power to change your outcome.
3. Who do you know personally (NOT CELEBRITIES), that have a marriage that you would like to model after? Speak with them.
4. Marriage is not about love….. it is about Duty. You are entering into an agreement with another individual (It is the biggest business deal you will ever make). Decisions made out of emotions have a high chance of being bad decisions. You can’t go into it thinking “If it doesn’t work out, I’ll just get a divorce”.
5. 50% of your life worth.
6. Massive time investment (Think the 10,000-hour rule but on steroids).
7. Saying no to every other person in this world from the moment you say “I Do”.
8. No longer autonomous like you used to be, you will need to make some compromises.
9. Insecure and codependent.
10. You need to do the work to come to a stable point. Go to therapy.
11. Too many expectations, not enough communication.
12. Unspoken expectations are like a slow-release poison. The longer they are in your body the worse everything becomes.
13. Brutally honest conversations - You both need to be able to have completely transparent conversations without fear of emotional backlash.
14. You need to get clear about what you want.
15. Stop dating endlessly. You should be able to make a decision within 6 months.
16. After the first date, it’s time to start seeing if you both have similar morals and asking more deep questions: https://www.patrickbetdavid.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Top_50_Questions_to_

Are you practicing to become a consumer or a creator? Learn how to make the switch.

1. Be intentional with what you are searching for.
2. Take some kind of action on what you have just learned about. The knowledge is many times more likely to stick if you take what you've just learned and apply it.
3. You will find that taking action will lead to another question…. This is your next intentional search.
4. Don’t let fear keep you in analysis paralysis or overanalyzing something. Don’t allow insecurity to stop you from taking action.
5. It doesn’t matter how much you study, you will most likely not be perfect the first time and there are already people out there that are years better than you at what you just learned to do…. Don’t compare yourself to those people, compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Start there.

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Analysis paralysis, fear of failure, indecisiveness, or just plain not knowing what to do? In this episode, Mateo discusses a few ways to help make the tough decisions.

1. Take a breath
2. Write down the important details and then step away
3. Re-enter deliberation and frame the event as if you were giving advice to someone else
4. Weigh the consequences of inaction or choosing one direction over the other
5. Once you’ve come to a conclusion, move forward with the decision and don’t second guess yourself.
6. Know that mistakes will come but the best you can do is make an informed decision, when possible. Don’t beat yourself up, and don’t fall into perfectionism.
7. Treat yourself to something light.

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Have you ever gotten in a fight with your significant other and had a clear winner and loser?

In this episode, Mateo speaks about his experience with this and why you should stop trying to win arguments in your marriage/relationship. Listen now!

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Ever feel like there is just not enough time in the day?

In this episode, Mateo speaks about his experience with time/schedules and offers a different perspective that can help you get the most out of your time. Listen now!

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