Mindful Impact with Justin Francisco

In this episode of Mindful Impact with Justin Francisco, we will have a meaningful conversation with a legendary ACIM teacher, Carol Howe. Listen as she shares her knowledge regarding the truth about how life works.

3 Key Points:

1. It is crucial to install the right impressions in the first three years of life, as this will become the person's truth in his entire life.
2. Relationships can make you upset because of guilt but, as " A Course in Miracles" points out, some of your beliefs may be harmful. If you improve how you think about yourself, things will get better.
3. We are not our emotions, emotions are created as a response to circumstance. We are way more amazing than the emotions that we have..

Episode Highlights:

• 4:21- The inner experience is the one you will never forget, triggered by circumstances, where you begin to experience the truth of what you are.
• 10:08- In the presence of joy, judgment becomes impossible.
• 14:00- Meditation is an ongoing recognition of staying present like doing a mantra or staying focused right where you are.
• 15:55- The miracle is a change of perception, a shift in the way you experience everything, people, situation, things, and allows you to direct the love that is always present, love that constitutes the substance of everything regardless of the form.
• 18:17- In a husband and wife relationship, upset happens when one says something that triggers some guilt of his own.
• 20:40- In the first three years of life, we have a bed of experience that became the foundation/blueprint for a self-concept that we are building.
• 23:10- When old wounds are triggered, the stress response is activated, putting a person in a defense mode.
• 23:36- Stress response dumps body chemistry that generates an emotional experience.
• 24-40- Guilt is painful and is related to things a person believes about himself that aren't true.
• 30:47- The frontal lobe of the brain and non-essential things at the moment of threat turned off for survival response.
• 33:51- Once the emotion has turned off the thinking brain, we tend to hide away with addiction to distract from how we feel.
• 37:45- Anger is the secondary emotion, underneath anger is despair or grief.
• 44:10- When we are being less than loving, we deserve compassion in the face of our lack of awareness of love at that moment.
• 45:50- Everybody whose response is not loving is desperately calling for help.
• 50:00- What's in the mind is what forms the basis for outside the world.
• 51:00 The good and bad are arbitrary and a personal perspective.
• 52:15- Emotions are not the enemy; it's the natural conclusion of our belief in ourselves that has been brought to our attention.
• 53:25- The three-dimensional world is the exact replica of the inner state of mind.
• 57:20- People create an awful outer life with their unloving inner life.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "We can never condemn another without directly experiencing the consequences of it."-Carol Howe
• "Our relationship and understanding of the real purpose are central to a successful life."-Carol Howe
• "You only feel better if you, yourself, stop attacking yourself."-Carol Howe
• "If I could stand on a rooftop and shout one thing, it could be, stop making your emotion the enemy.'-Carol Howe

Resources Mentioned:

• Justin Francisco: LinkedIn, Website
• Carol Howe: Website

Natasha Mason is a meditation teacher and you can learn to meditate at https://natashamasonmeditation.com/the-effortless-technique

My top 3 Takeaways from Ira Wolfe - Thriving during the pandemic using the adaptability quotient. Do valedictorians change the world? Two articles referenced below:

https://www.cnbc.com/2017/05/24/what-happened-to-your-class-valedictorian-probably-not-much.html

https://apple.news/AZ-Q71OVlSkONQK4eXd9dOQ

On this episode of Mindful Impact with Justin Francisco, our host speaks with Ira Wolfe, a millennial in a baby boomer body, speaker, president of success, and blogger. Listen as they talk about pandemic at large, the fixed vs. growth mindset, including adaptability quotient, and much more.

3 Key Points:

1. The ability of the person to adapt to change depends on personality and behavior. There are those who adapt well or thrive for change.
2. There are two economies happening now due pandemic, and there's great difference in the socio-economic status of people in both economies.
3. Adaptability Quotient provides different dimensions that help people learn how to survive and thrive despite the change.

Episode Highlights:

• 42:18 Ira Folfe is an older baby boomer who is still learning and growing.
• 3:42 Carol Dweck's studies show that the most successful kids in the class weren't always successful.
• 4:48 The fixed mindset is, we are trying to live our bubble trying to protect our image.
• 4:54 The growth mindset is constantly learning and unlearning.
• 7:00- We don't go backward, so going back to normal after the pandemic is not going to happen.
• 8:45 People must be comfortable with change and uncertainty because the new normal is not as predictable as it was.
• 9:54 We learned in the present, but it conflicts with what we've learned in the past.
• 11:00 Personalities and behaviors are absolutely impacting change.
• 13:30 The problem is not the amount of change but the phase at which we experience so much change.
• 14:50 There are two economies happening amidst the pandemic.
• 16:51 Front liners are now essential workers and have a more secure job than professionals who are struggling.
• 22:26 Adaptability Quotient gives different dimensions that helps people get comfortable with change.
• 24:01 Dealing with ambiguity is by listening to opposing points of view. .
• 34:00 Adaptability Quotient covers mental flexibility, growth mindset, and unlearning dimension, as well as grit and resilience.
• 36:00 Resilience is the biggest driver of adaptability.
• 37:30 The more adaptability you have, the higher is your EQ.
• 37:55 Adaptability provides courage to have hope for a better future.
• 38:11 EQ gives hope, courage, positivity in life, and allows us to see challenges as opportunities.
• 41:02 Change is happening, the pandemic just accelerated that change.

Tweetable Quotes:

• "You can either look at every3thing as a challenge or everything as an opportunity, and I tend to look at everything as an opportunity. "- Ira Wolfe
• "What's interesting in these 2 economies, we have a whole group that's thriving and a whole group who's suffering. The socio-economic differences are not great. "- Ira Wolfe
• 'Today is the slowest phase of change that we experience in our lives, which is frightening some people and exciting for others. "- Ira Wolfe
• "We as a leader, not only keep an eye on the ball but also need to be resilient. That's the setback, and we have to learn how to be smart and navigate around that."- Ira Wolfe
• "You can either decide you gonna be in despair and try to fight the world or help find the courage to thrive in this new world."- Ira Wolfe

Resources Mentioned:

• Justin Francisco: LinkedIn, Website
• Ira Wolfe: LinkedIn Website
• An Obituary for Normal

Life is different since the pandemic and Rob shares his thoughts followed by a brief journaling exercise and a short meditation.

1. Don't let others decide your future. You will have critics, people that give you crap, bust your chops, want you to fail, and want you to quit. Don't pay attention to them. Stay true to yourself.

2. When you go through a spiritual transformation you will find yourself slipping at times. Mostly because of outside influences, those around you that aren't used to you changing. In Adam's case, someone said "I just wanted you to stop drinking, what is this whole new person now? " Don't let others box you in.

3. Lead by example for your kids. Love yourself 24/7 and let your kids know you will love them no matter what. Adam said to his children, "famous millionaire or junkie on the streets I will always love you the same. I might not give you money or agree with what you're doing, but I will always love you no matter what."

bonus: Meditation creates time in your life you never even knew existed. We can't explain it or put it into words, but it allows for more space and time….

https://www.adamjablin.com

https://www.justinfrancisco.com

On this episode of Mindful Impact with Justin Francisco,the host speaks with a family man and spiritual trainer, Adam Jablin. Listen up as they have very deep conversations about trials and tribulation, from addiction to business and family, the prices you pay and the difficult lessons through the journey. How beautiful life can be when you follow your purpose.

• Adam Jablin: Website

3 Key Points:

1. The journey to sobriety doesn't happen overnight, there would be challenges and hardships along the way.
2. Everybody has their own lessons because everybody has a different personality, learn how to value yourself not other people's approval.
3. Be fully you, do not seek others approval, you cannot please everybody, nor you cannot make someone love you.

Episode Highlights:

• 1:13-Adam works with celebrities, entrepreneurs, war heroes, and regular people fighting a good fight as parents.
• 1:53- Adam's spiritual connection makes his heart sing out loud.
• 3:04- It took 14 years for Adam to have that clarity to live a purpose-driven life.
• 5:20- Adam was on a perfect storm when somebody called to buy his building, then he knew that it was time to be himself and pursue his passion.
• 8:20- Adam believes that God will do for you what you can't do for yourself.
• 10:00- Adam describes his life as an alcoholic as wanting to look like the most responsible guy, but deep inside, he's obsessed with a drink.
• 10:33- Adam felt despair, shame, and judgment as an alcoholic, while he doesn't want to let people down, however, he needs it as badly as he needs to breathe.
• 12:00- During the recovery period, a family may grow with you or be stuck when they help you.
• 13:17- Adam's spiritual journey is very intrinsic using all valuable tools such as prayer, meditation, taking care of his body, and reading.
• 17:20- The physical body shows your experiencing in your internal world.
• 22:19- Sobriety doesn't happen overnight.
• 23:00 People go through different shifts but we have to trust our intuition and keep going.
• 24:15 After being sober, everything changes for the better including, marriage and relationships with kids.
• 28:45 Being our true self is so hard it tends to disappoint a lot of people.
• 30:09- The work is the fun part, but the hard part is, dealing with people's reactions when you change.
• 33:30- The Hero Project is a 90-day transformation coaching.
• 34:57- With Adam's kids, he leads by example.
• 44:32-Adam's takes a 23-minute meditation every morning or deep breathing exercises.
• 52:00- You can feel envious about other's success but don't desire people to fail.
• 54: 14 For Adam's 18-year-old self, he will hug him and tell him to buckle up, it's one hell of a ride.

Tweetable Quote:

• "It's the connection to my higher power that I call God, it's just having a Redbull, ready to attack the day."- Adam Jablin

Resources Mentioned:

• Justin Francisco: LinkedIn, Website

Studies show that the first 30 minutes of our day have the most impact on how our entire day will turn out. I love to start my mornings by first brushing my teeth and then sitting down for a morning meditation very similar to this one. There is also RPM, Rise. Pee. Meditate :)

Top 3 takeaways from my convesation with Lorena Siedel.

1. Don't pick sides when your children get in an argument. This starts to make one feel like the "bad" kid and the other "good", also much more psychological reasons for it.

2. Weekly Family Meetings - Be consistent with the same time each week. Start with something great that happened that day, something they love about someone else there. Then what bugged them and what they wished was different.

3. Connecting before correcting - When disciplining start with compassion, empathy and then show them the correct behavior.

On this episode of Mindful Impact with Justin Francisco, the host speaks with a purposeful parenting expert Lorena Seidel about creating a parent-child connection and harmony that lasts. They will also talk about proactive tools to address children's dynamic and family issues.

3 Key Points:

1. What parents really wanted is to raise good human beings and have a lifelong connection with their children.
2. Both parents must be on the same page to create a more consistent household, thus, setting clear boundaries with their children.
3. Break the negative cycle by creating positive interactions with your children, thus, creating better strategies to end children's bad behavior.

Episode Highlights:

• 5:10 Lorena learned that at the bottom of it all, people want to be better parents, to raise good human beings, and want to have a life long commotion with their children.
• 6:20 Daily, parents are fostering relationships with their children in every interaction that they make.
• 9:27 Research shows that most adults have the maturity emotionally of an 8-year-old.
• 13:36 Understanding each other's programming as parents is a big piece of parenting.
• 15:35 Most issues with couples in parenting are being too kind and/or too firm. Then, they end up compensating for one another.
• 17:30 Parents compensating with each other for being too kind or too firm will end up creating a very inconsistent household with no clear boundaries.
• 19:07 It is essential to understand the root cause of the sibling dynamics by understanding the impact of adding a child to the family.
• 20:44 When there's a sibling fight, parents must be neutral and never take sides.
• 21:30 Taking sides will create the "bully and the victim" mentality thus, developing sibling rivalry.
• 25:44 Be more proactive rather than being reactive as parents.
• 27:05 A pro-active tool is having a family meeting at least once a week.
• 31:16 Start a gratitude practice in a family meeting.
• 32:30 Know the "bug and wish" of each family member to brainstorm the solution.
• 36:00 In mindful parenting Lorena recommends, connecting before correcting.
• 46:45 Children tend to negotiate but stay with the boundaries that you set.
• 48:25 Give yourself a time-out to calm down and brainstorm a different approach to teach children when you feel guilt and shame.
• 50:21 Change the mindset, as there's so much power in doing it over again.
• 50:47 Work on repairing the connection with your children
• 56:07 Negative interactions such as shaming and blaming create disconnection, thus, creating negative behaviors.
• 57:27 Break the cycle of negative interactions starting with the inner work to access better strategies (e.g. validating, brainstorming, connecting before correcting, apologizing, etc).

Tweetable Quotes:

• "I live and breathe this topic of parenting because it is not just what I do, but what I studied, it's what I teach, it's my work."- Lorena Seidel
• "All of us, we learned the love that we live, we learn the parenting that we experienced."- Lorena Seidel
• "Parenting is one of the jobs that didn't have a strategy. A proactive tool is having a family meeting." - Lorena Seidel

Resources Mentioned:

• Justin Francisco: LinkedIn, Website
• Lorena Seidel: Youtube, Instagram