We have a society that favors the victim mentality, and teaches us to become our trauma, not heal from it, or become resilient.

Sometimes we make achieving our goals too hard from the start. We are over planning, seeking perfection or even so afraid of failure that letting go of the goal is less of a risk.

Anything that is happening outside of us as the collective, good, bad, ugly, beautiful, etc., is a reflection and manifestation of the collective shadow.

Guess what? Those Happy people you admire, can be you! You just have to drop the victim consciousness and step into acceptance of the journey and show up!

What is success? What is holding you back? Sometimes its our own beliefs and thought patterns that keep us stuck or small in our life.

Many times subconsciously and just through survival, the victim turns into an abuser, to themselves and others.

The drama triangle is a model of human interaction comprised of three roles: victim, perpetrator, rescuer. The victim is passive and helpless to the perpetrator, the perpetrator is pressuring, manipulating or persecuting the victim, and the rescuer intervenes to “save” the victim and stop the perpetrator.

Through sickness and in health... doesn't mean that sitting in a relationship long term only giving 30% is okay. Yes sometimes we hit rough patches, sometimes we have a long term illness. But what I have noticed is many over functioning partners leaving the under functioning partners. Why? Because they no longer feel joy in the relationship and they are finally choosing themselves.

It's wonderful to get professional support and guidance when you are healing, but the most important and hardest part of healing, is the work you do on your own.

Healing your shadow can should daunting and also confusing. What is the shadow? The shadow is basically everything you have been sweeping under the rug and sometimes that includes what your family has been sweeping under the rug.

Lustful love is filled with fantasy, lives on the surface; Mature love has deep tree roots, yet can fade. What is better? Can lustful love turn into Mature love?