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"More Than a Boyfriend: Redefining What Gay Relationship Means"

🗓️ Air Date: August 29, 2025

What does it really mean to be in a relationship? In this heartfelt episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie offer a transformative conversation about love, partnership, and the myths we inherit around what relationships should look like--especially as gay men.

Drawing from decades of personal and professional experience, John and Jerry explore how queer men can rewrite the script on intimacy, connection, and identity. They share personal stories--from 30-year partnerships to chosen family and solo living--and challenge the cultural narratives that suggest you're only worthy if you're coupled.

The episode also explores the Five Love Languages and how understanding them can enhance emotional connection in any relationship--romantic, platonic, or self-directed. Whether you're partnered, single, polyamorous, or redefining what intimacy means to you, this episode invites you to center joy, authenticity, and self-love as the foundation of connection.

✨ Don't miss this powerful conversation that reminds us: You are already whole.

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What does it really mean to be in a relationship? In this heartfelt episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie offer a transformative conversation about love, partnership, and the myths we inherit around what relationships should look like--especially as gay men.

Drawing from decades of personal and professional experience, John and Jerry explore how queer men can rewrite the script on intimacy, connection, and identity. They share personal stories--from 30-year partnerships to chosen family and solo living--and challenge the cultural narratives that suggest you're only worthy if you're coupled.

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Join hosts John and Jerry for Episode 41 of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, where they boldly challenge the narrative that being gay or queer is something tragic to endure. Inspired by Zora Neale Hurston's iconic 1928 line "I am not tragically colored," they ask: What if we said, "I am not tragically gay"?

This episode is all about reframing our queer stories--turning what society calls a burden into a gift and a source of pride.

👉 John and Jerry discuss how language and self-storytelling shape our reality. They explore how our words can either limit us or liberate us, urging listeners to notice the "spells" they cast on themselves through everyday phrases.

👉 They share the famous "scar study," illustrating how internalized beliefs can distort how we perceive others' reactions--and how this applies to queer experiences, age, body image, and coming out.

👉 You'll hear powerful personal stories about confronting internalized ageism, anxiety, and feelings of being an imposter, and how to transform these with conscious, affirming language.

👉 The hosts talk about neuroplasticity--how we can literally rewire our brains to move from self-limiting narratives to stories of self-acceptance and empowerment.

👉 They invite you to feel what radical self-acceptance is in the body, with visceral metaphors like butter melting into every pore of your being, making this practice real, sensory, and accessible.

👉 They also call for a radical cultural shift within queer communities--from superficial stereotypes and limiting social scripts to spaces that foster genuine connection, emotional safety, sex-positivity, and body-positivity.

Finally, John and Jerry leave listeners with a powerful challenge: Fill in the blank--"I am (add adverb) gay." What word affirms your truth, pride, and magic?

✅ If you're ready to reimagine your queer identity as a source of pride and power, this episode is for you.

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Join hosts John and Jerry for Episode 41 of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, where they boldly challenge the narrative that being gay or queer is something tragic to endure. Inspired by Zora Neale Hurston's iconic 1928 line "I am not tragically colored," they ask: What if we said, "I am not tragically gay"?

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What if your healing journey started on a yoga mat?

In Episode 40 of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore how yoga can become a powerful, affirming tool for LGBTQ+ individuals--especially gay men--seeking emotional resilience, spiritual connection, and freedom from shame.

This soulful, funny, and candid conversation takes listeners beyond the stereotypes of yoga as just physical exercise. John shares his personal journey from dance and psychology to becoming a yoga therapist, and how his teaching now weaves together body, mind, and spirit--specifically for queer bodies navigating trauma, anxiety, identity, and self-love.

Whether you're yoga-curious or a longtime practitioner, this episode celebrates the power of movement, mindfulness, and rest as acts of liberation. Jerry offers his own insights as a student, recalling moments of emotional release, strength, and surprise that yoga has brought into his life. Together, they reflect on the unique role yoga plays in queer healing, spiritual growth, and the transformative work they do at their retreats.

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In Episode 40 of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore how yoga can become a powerful, affirming tool for LGBTQ+ individuals--especially gay men--seeking emotional resilience, spiritual connection, and freedom from shame.

This soulful, funny, and candid conversation takes listeners beyond the stereotypes of yoga as just physical exercise. John shares his personal journey from dance and psychology to becoming a yoga therapist, and how his teaching now weaves together body, mind, and spirit--specifically for queer bodies navigating trauma, anxiety, identity, and self-love.

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"Letting Go of Dry Bones: Rewriting Queer Narratives of Worth"

🎙️ New Episode of The Mindfully Gay Podcast

🗓️ Airs Friday, July 18, 2025

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In this heartfelt episode of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John and Jerry hold space for one of the most tender and relatable themes in the LGBTQ+ experience: self-doubt. What starts off as a lighthearted chat quickly evolves into a powerful conversation about the emotional and spiritual wounds that shape queer identity.

John shares a vulnerable moment involving his mother--a story about feeling invisible, misunderstood, and emotionally dismissed. From there, the episode unfolds into an honest discussion about internalized shame, spiritual disconnection, and the courage it takes to rewrite old stories that no longer serve us.

Together, John and Jerry reflect on:

🌿 How generational trauma and queer shame fuel self-doubt

🪶 The Native metaphor of "dragging dry bones" as a symbol of outdated beliefs

🌀 The spiritual cost of not knowing your place in the universe

💔 The fear of success, authenticity, and emotional risk

🔍 How to examine and shift harmful inner narratives

🎧 The healing power of simply being heard without judgment

✨ Why Pride is more than a parade--it's an everyday practice of coming home to yourself

Whether you're working through your own fears, seeking healing in your family story, or learning how to believe in your worth, this episode offers compassion, insight, and practical tools for your journey.

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In this heartfelt episode of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John and Jerry hold space for one of the most tender and relatable themes in the LGBTQ+ experience: self-doubt. What starts off as a lighthearted chat quickly evolves into a powerful conversation about the emotional and spiritual wounds that shape queer identity.

Whether you're working through your own fears, seeking healing in your family story, or learning how to believe in your worth, this episode offers compassion, insight, and practical tools for your journey.

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What does it mean to truly embrace who you are--beyond labels, beyond shame, beyond the story you've been told about yourself?

In this powerful and passionate episode of The Rebel Clinicians, John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore the liberating journey of radical self-acceptance as gay men. With warmth, wisdom, and wit, they challenge the cultural conditioning that limits queer expression and offer an expansive vision of healing, identity, and queer empowerment.

From sacred sexuality and tantra to the stories we build around trauma, this episode calls listeners to recalibrate how they see themselves--not by the body they live in or the roles they perform, but by the magic they carry. You'll hear provocative reflections on:

- Why vulnerability can feel scarier than nudity

- How sexuality, spirituality, and queerness intersect as sacred

- The difference between being accepted and accepting yourself

- How to reclaim your power by naming your unique gifts

- Why breaking your own mold might be the most radical act of all

John and Jerry also ask a vital question: What would your Grindr profile say if it described your soul?

Join the conversation and reconnect with your own capacity for freedom, joy, and embodied queerness.

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What does it mean to truly embrace who you are--beyond labels, beyond shame, beyond the story you've been told about yourself?

In this powerful and passionate episode of The Rebel Clinicians, John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore the liberating journey of radical self-acceptance as gay men. With warmth, wisdom, and wit, they challenge the cultural conditioning that limits queer expression and offer an expansive vision of healing, identity, and queer empowerment.

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