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Gay Adult Friendships: Beyond the Apps | Mindfully Gay Podcast

Why is it so hard to make and maintain meaningful friendships as gay adults? In this powerful episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore the unique landscape of gay adult friendship, discussing why it becomes increasingly difficult to build lasting connections as we age -- and what we can do about it.

From personal stories to cultural insights, John and Jerry break down the challenges that gay and queer men face when trying to create authentic bonds -- especially in a world dominated by dating and hookup apps. While these platforms have their place, they often reduce us to body types and sexual preferences, missing the richness of who we truly are.

But what if these same apps could be tools for genuine connection and community-building? John and Jerry share tips on how to shift intention, lead with authenticity, and use these platforms to grow your circle of friends based on shared values, creativity, and personal magic.

This episode is a celebration of the Gay Blessings and queer power we all carry -- a reminder that when we show up fully as ourselves, we don't just make friends… we change lives.

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Air Date: April 11, 2025
Hosts: John Cottrell & Jerry Buie

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Gay Adult Friendships: Beyond the Apps | Mindfully Gay Podcast

Why is it so hard to make and maintain meaningful friendships as gay adults? In this powerful episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, hosts John Cottrell and Jerry Buie explore the unique landscape of gay adult friendship, discussing why it becomes increasingly difficult to build lasting connections as we age -- and what we can do about it.

Goes live on Friday, April 11th.

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In this eye-opening episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, co-hosts Jerry Buie and John Cottrell explore the complex and transformative world of Shadow Work, breaking it down in a way that's relatable, relevant, and real.

What is shadow work, really? Jerry and John begin by offering a clear, analytical definition of this powerful inner process before expanding the conversation to include real-world examples that impact the LGBTQ+ community every day. Together, they examine how queer individuals can sometimes become tethered to the identity of the "wounded" or "victimized" community -- and how that narrative, while rooted in truth, may actually limit personal growth and empowerment.

This candid conversation invites you to reflect on how you may be holding yourself back by clinging to outdated roles, traumas, or societal labels. John and Jerry each share vulnerable insights from their own shadow journeys, revealing surprising discoveries and thoughtful strategies for healing and integration.

Whether you're new to shadow work or exploring your next level of growth, this episode offers heartfelt wisdom and mindful reflection with a queer-centered lens.

Let your shadow be seen -- not feared. Tune in and join the journey.

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Premieres March 28, 2025 -- In this eye-opening episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, co-hosts Jerry Buie and John Cottrell explore the complex and transformative world of Shadow Work, breaking it down in a way that's relatable, relevant, and real.

What is shadow work, really? Jerry and John begin by offering a clear, analytical definition of this powerful inner process before expanding the conversation to include real-world examples that impact the LGBTQ+ community every day. Together, they examine how queer individuals can sometimes become tethered to the identity of the "wounded" or "victimized" community -- and how that narrative, while rooted in truth, may actually limit personal growth and empowerment.

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Why do we, as queer men, so often feel unqualified or unworthy in certain spaces? In this episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, airing March 14th, John and Jerry explore the patterns of self-comparison that hold us back. Whether it's age, gender, sexuality, race, or other aspects of identity, many of us create narratives that make us feel like we don't belong. But where do these false perspectives come from, and how do they shape our interactions and self-worth?

Through personal stories, John and Jerry discuss the impact of these internalized beliefs--how misconceptions about others can fester and lead to isolation, insecurity, and missed opportunities for connection. They also share ways to recognize and challenge these misleading thoughts, offering practical strategies to break free from the cycle of comparison and embrace our own worth.

Tune in to Episode 30 and join the conversation on self-perception, community, and the power of shifting our mindset.

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Why do we, as queer men, so often feel unqualified or unworthy in certain spaces? In this episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, airing March 14th, John and Jerry explore the patterns of self-comparison that hold us back. Whether it's age, gender, sexuality, race, or other aspects of identity, many of us create narratives that make us feel like we don't belong. But where do these false perspectives come from, and how do they shape our interactions and self-worth?

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Shame--an emotion that can feel inescapable, especially for queer men. In this episode of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, John and Jerry take an honest and compassionate look at the origins of shame and the lasting impact it has on our lives. Through personal stories, they reflect on how shame has shaped their experiences, the lingering "old stories" that reinforce those feelings, and the ways they've begun to shift their perspectives.

Join the conversation as they explore how to recognize personal shame triggers and offer insights into transforming those "dry bones" of the past into meaningful and empowering narratives. By reframing the language we use around our experiences, we can start to build a healthier, more resourceful relationship with ourselves.

Listen to the audio episode on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and watch the video podcast on YouTube (Mindfully Gay Podcast). Don't miss this thoughtful and enlightening discussion--available February 28th!

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Shame--an emotion that can feel inescapable, especially for queer men. In this episode of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, John and Jerry take an honest and compassionate look at the origins of shame and the lasting impact it has on our lives. Through personal stories, they reflect on how shame has shaped their experiences, the lingering "old stories" that reinforce those feelings, and the ways they've begun to shift their perspectives.

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In this special Valentine's Day episode of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, airing February 14th, John and Jerry welcome guest Trevor James from Los Angeles, a dedicated advocate for men's intimacy, sensuality, and sexuality. Trevor delves into the profound benefits of touch and how it plays a crucial role in fostering deeper human connections.

Queer men, in particular, often crave meaningful touch, yet many find themselves caught in the two-dimensional cycle of hook-up apps, which can leave them feeling unfulfilled and disconnected. Together, John, Jerry, and Trevor explore why touch matters, how it can be a pathway to authentic connection, and what it means to be truly seen and understood.

Trevor also shares an exclusive reading from his upcoming book, On Being Seen, offering listeners a glimpse into his powerful insights on queer intimacy and healing. Join us for this compelling conversation and hear how like-minded healers are working to strengthen connections within the LGBTQ+ community.

🎧 Listen to the audio episode on [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/) or [Spotify](https://spotify.com/)

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Learn more about Trevor James:

🌐 [TrevorJamesLA.com](https://trevorjamesla.com)

📖 On Being Seen -- [Available on Amazon](https://a.co/d/eMgyguY)

Don't miss this powerful conversation about the healing power of touch!

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In this special Valentine's Day episode of The Mindfully Gay Podcast, airing February 14th, John and Jerry welcome guest Trevor James from Los Angeles, a dedicated advocate for men's intimacy, sensuality, and sexuality. Trevor delves into the profound benefits of touch and how it plays a crucial role in fostering deeper human connections.

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