Mindset By Dave Podcast

Rebecca Jones is a public speaker on a way to help us to think differently. She is the creator of the concept of Stretchy Thinking, where instead of trying the same old processes until they stick you stretch "around" the problem and as a result expand your results.

In this episode we talk about female entrepreneurs, how the reasons for getting into business maybe different between males and females, how businesses have changed over time and what the role of luck is in success. (And what the role "look" is in success, keep an ear out for that part!)

A month ago we brought you part one of this interview where Michael made the impromptu suggestion that we create a little bit of delayed gratification. So we did and we split the episode into two parts.

In part 2 we talk about the things that hold people back from living a life that is as brilliant as they want it to be.

Michael is a world renowned coach, author, public speaker and educator on all things "being brilliant". His books are fantastic and extremely accessible and his speaking style is down to earth and to the point.

It's men's health week, which I inadvertantly read as "men's mental health week" when I saw it... check your filters Dave! But that lead me to the question why do we even need a men's health week?

Well, the simple answer is that men (on average, not ALL men) are more likely to ignore illness, both physical and mental (except for man flu... by god will we tell you about that!) and try to push it to the side.

This is something that is generationally drilled into us and in 2020 is it still the right approach? In this episode I discuss that and more. WOuld love to know your thoughts on what it means to "be a man" in 2020!

Burnout is no fun and it's probably something that most of us have experienced. Especially those who are always putting everyone else first.

During the recent events I have been doing what I can to try and help as many people as possible... left one person out of that though didn't I?

And I imagine a lot of you have been in that situation too? All the extra pressures of home-schooling and still trying to show up for your self too? It's exhausting!

So this podcast and this week's episode of The Meantal Health Family Hour are my only contribution to the world of mental health this week and you know what? That's enough!

Claudia Van-Nimwegen has been through A LOT! So much it almost lead to them not living to tell the tale.

From being assigned female sex at birth and growing up not feeling like they belonged in that gender, to a mental health system that continuously let them down.

Claudia's story is equally fascinating and harrowing and a sign that there is still a long way to go in inclusivity.

But their story did not end with those labels and Claudia is someone who is continuing to not only discover what they are capable of, but help others to discover that too.

Do you know "why" you are doing the things you do? What is the overall aim of your interactions and are the actions you take indicative of that?

I've seen a LOT of online fighting recently and it often seems that the people in these Twitter arguments don't really know what they are trying to achieve outside of having the last Tweet in the fight.

It makes me think of how when an interaction shifts from a discussion to an argument the purpose moves, it may start out as "understand the other side better" then it may move to "make them change their mind" before eventually degrading simply to "win". And once it's at win, our actions will shift to match this new goal.

Think about this principal and ask yourself the following two questions regularly:

1- what am I trying to achieve?

2- does what I am doing reflect that?

Michael Heppell has probably played more of a direct role in my life than anyone with whom I had never met before as his books influenced one of the biggest events of my life... but I'm not going to tell you what that is, you have to listen to find out!

Michael is a world renowned coach, author, public speaker and educator on all things "being brilliant". His books are fantastic and extremely accessible and his speaking style is down to earth and to the point.

It was an honour to have Michael join me for this episode where we talk about the changing face of personal development across the span of his career. Part 2 coming in a month!

A few weeks back I realised I was struggling with social media addiction again. Not that I can't get off it, but that I couldn't stop obsessively checking the statistics on it. I realised that these things that were supposed to be data to help a person understand how their channel was performing had made the switch into me allowing myself to attach a relationship to my own personal worth.

The last time I remember feeling like this was back when I was gripped by body dysmorphia and how the weight on the scales had shifted from being a data point, to an emotional measurement of my value as a person. And just how obsessively weighing myself back then had fed this addiction, obsessively checking my social media recently had done the same.

In this episode of the podcast I open up about each of these situations.

Jake Mills is a man on a mission to change the nature of mental health signposting in the UK. Something he and I have in common is that we both believe there are a wealth of services out there that just aren't getting accessed because people simply don't know about them.

In this episode we discuss how prescribing the Samaritans as an only option can lead people to feel that this is all that is available and if that model doesn't fit the individual's needs then they are stuck. Each of us are individual and whereas some people get a tremendous benefit from the Samaritans, others may be best suited to a text service such as Shout.

There is definitely more to be done in the field of mental health, but there is also more and more being done each day and Hub Of Hope aims to make discovering and accessing these services as simple as finding a take out via Just Eat.

Richard Nicholls is a Psychotherpist who came into helping people from the background of hospital radio.

He now has one of the longest running mental health podcasts out there which is actually one of my favourite go-tos.

On this episode we get into Richard's "why", the way things have changed in mental health since he started this journey and where he plans to go next via his Patreon project.