Mindset Unlimited: Tips, Tools, and Inspiration for Women in a Time of Change

Being intentional with when to say yes isn’t just considering yes vs no.  Intentionality also involves how you engage internal resistance to what you say you want to do. There are many reasons you might experience tension and resistance even when you want to do something. First, it could highlight an area that needs clarification or additional discernment. Your subconscious will send you signals when it perceives potential danger including from a values conflict or past experiences. Second, it could be a warning around your capacity. That doesn’t mean don’t do it, but it may mean obtaining additional information and/or support. Remember saying yes isn’t just for giving and doing but also for receiving.

In this episode of Unlimited, I explore being intentional with when to say yes and when there’s subsequent resistance around then doing the thing.

Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

• Values assessment to identify internal conflicts
• Overcoming resistance from fear
• Preventing burnout cycles from misalignment
• Capacity and additional agreements to consider when saying yes

LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
Micro-Actions to Manifest Big Change with Taina Brown
How to Say No Without Guilt
Clarifying What You Want
How Do I Find What I Really Want
Dealing with Burnout Beyond the 9-5 

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Supporting Changes in your life means reconnecting to your power in your relationship to change. It allows you to transform the patterns that aren’t serving you during the transition period, rather than carrying them with you into a new space. Unfortunately, what often happens is that changes in our life feel in some way like they're imposed upon us, even when they're ones that we choose because the ripple effect of those changes are typically things that we get carried along by, rather than ones we intentionally curate.

In this episode of Unlimited, I explore a process for supporting changes in your life with holistic intentionality and without exhausting yourself.

Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

• The power to transform patterns during life transitions
• Navigating the cognitive and emotional load involved in life changes
• How to manage overwhelm and make aligned decisions
• Tools to support yourself through change

LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
Reclaim Your Routine Workshop Series
Dealing with Impostor Syndrome (podcast episode)
Redefining Our Relationship to Productivity  (podcast episode)
Loving Yourself Through Grief  (podcast episode)
The Courage to Change (podcast episode)

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Collaborative Leadership from Boardroom to Patient-Centered Caregiving is essential for fostering effective relationships between CEOs and board members, as well as between healthcare professionals and patients. This approach not only enhances organizational dynamics but also improves patient outcomes by prioritizing communication, trust, and shared goals. By empowering all stakeholders and embracing transparency, collaborative leadership creates an environment where diverse perspectives are valued, and innovative solutions can emerge to address complex challenges in healthcare and beyond.

In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Heather Maurer (she/her) CEO of the National Association of Nurse Practitioners in Women’s Health to join me in a conversation around advancing collaborative leadership from boardroom to patient-centered caregiving.

Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

• Listening to yourself, saying no, and respecting your own expertise and role
• Empowerment vs control and collaborative decision-making
• Building trust through transparency, time, and accountability 
• Separating systems and humans as we advocate
• Ways to support asking for what you need 

LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Cultivating Collaboration Over Competition
Navigating Our Relationship with Death

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Micro-actions to manifest big change is key because we can often feel overwhelmed by the changes we want to make in our own life, let alone the change we’d like to see in the world. The best part is micro-actions naturally build on themselves. First and most obviously, they provide momentum as you do the next thing and then the next thing. Second, they teach our brain what to focus on, so we notice more opportunities to access or create what we want. Understanding how our brain relates to our behavior can allow you to take small, totally doable steps that will naturally move you forward.

In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Taina Brown (she/her) to join me in a conversation around using micro-actions to manifest big change in your life and in the world.

Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

• Building momentum to manifest what you want
• Hacking your brain’s algorithm
• Feeding abundance vs scarcity
• Identifying a micro-action to take

LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
How to Manifest What you Want
Reclaiming Creativity and Healing Through Art
Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

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Realigning your core values requires exploring both what is consciously important to you AND your societal conditioning. Your values, both conscious and subconscious, shape your decisions and motivate our behavior. If you find yourself feeling stuck, drained, or sabotaging what you say you want, it’s likely you have a subconscious values conflict. There are 5 values that I regularly find creating conflict within my high-achieving clients. They are responsibility, reliability, respect, achievement, and discipline. During a period of change, particularly societal change, it is both crucial and powerful to examen these driving forces within yourself. The patterns are more noticeable AND values work can ensure that you are living in alignment with what you want to create in your life and in the world, rather than sliding into reactivity.

In this episode of Unlimited, I explore a process for realigning your core values so you can make more intentional choices that honor who you want to be.

Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

• Differentiating between internalized values and intentional, conscious values
• How to align your values with your desired way of being
• The values of Responsibility, Reliability, Respect, Achievement, and Discipline.
• Engaging values to improve the quality and sustainability of your motivation
• The updated values of Valerie Friedlander Coaching

LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
 Fearing The Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia
Stop Being Nice and Start Being Resilient
More Self-Control Is Not Always The Answer
About Me
Shift from Drained to Motivated
Free Exploration Session

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Navigating our relationship with death is a profound part of our human experience, yet we often avoid talking about it. This avoidance not only prevents us from asking for and receiving care, it also reduces our capacity to provide care. Additionally, we must be able to embrace our mortality (rather than trying to transcend it) in order to fully embrace living this one precious life. Death doulas are a valuable resource for those looking for support around the emotional, practical, and spiritual dynamics of death.

In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Nikki Smith (she/her) to join me in a conversation around navigating our relationship with death.

Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

• What is a death doula
• Allowing space for grieving, whatever that looks like for you
• Engaging our fear of death to fully embrace life
• How to find care as you navigate death and grief

LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Good Grief with Nikki the Death Doula - Understanding Hospice

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“Three Essentials to Maximize Your Experience at an Event” provides a strategy to keep your planning simple and ensure you get the most out of your investment of time, money, and energy.  Some of the obstacles to event ROI include overwhelm, self-doubt, shiny object, peer pressure, FOMO, and other such distractions. Additionally, the so called “mom guilt” is a common struggle for high-achieving women with children at home. With these kinds of challenges, you need something simple to support both strategic pre-event planning and at event discernment.

In this episode I explore the 3 essentials to maximize your experience at an event whether it’s a professional conference or personal development retreat.

Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:

• Exploring the relationship between your values and the event
• Preparing for an event with priorities and boundaries
• Planning supports and follow up during and after the event
• Creating accountability systems

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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding (an episode on values, plus “mom guilt”)
Shift from Drained to Motivated (an episode on values)
Silencing Your Inner Critic
How to Get the Most Value at an Event Workbook (on my resource page)
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Redefining our relationship to productivity is a necessary component of preventing burnout and cultivating well-being. Our current societal relationship to productivity is built on Industrial Revolution era conception of work ethic. This conception wraps our value into what we can produce, dehumanizing us in the process. In order to rehumanize our relationship to our energy, we must first reclaim our worth separate from external measures of production. Additionally we must learn to tap into our values and honor our capacity as we prioritize our energy usage.

In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Lisa Zawrotny (she/her) to join me in a conversation about redefining our relationship to productivity to support our mental health and well-being.

Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

• The Industrial Revolution’s influence on how we understand productivity
• Choosing where to utilize your energy based on your capacity
• Clarifying your values and releasing shoulds
• The glorification of overwork and weaponization of urgency
• Defining enough for goal setting and knowing YOU are enough

LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Rethinking Empowerment and Releasing Comparison
Loving Yourself Through Grief
Why Work Life Balance is a Myth
The Myths Around Productivity

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 Tending your self-relationship through values & shadow work helps you engages the roots of your motivation and how you live your life.  Our values form the basis of our core motivations. Shadow work helps us acknowledge and heal the wounds that inhibit awareness and access to our full self. While we live in a world full of obstacles to self-expression, this work will always be an ongoing process. By engaging focused value and shadow reflections, we can better align our actions with what really matters most to us, nurture important relationships, and live purposefully.

In this episode of Unlimited, I invited Erica Courdae (she/her) to join me in a conversation about the practical wisdom that supports tending our self-relationship through values & shadow work.

Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

• Exploring values for the foundation of your decisions and relationships
• Making values actionable and measurable to ensure alignment
• Values work is ongoing, non-linear journey than involves seeking into our shadow
• Overcoming fear and false security to genuinely heal and grow

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Cultivating collaboration over competition is essential in today's interconnected world. We don't exist in a vacuum; our social understanding and discernment must be engaged collectively. The spaces we inhabit, like social media platforms, exert significant influence on our interactions, sometimes more than our intentions to be collaborative versus competitive. The Religious Society of Friends, commonly known as Quakers, is structured around a corporate discernment process rather than dogma. I’ve found “Quaker process” offers valuable support and guidance for fostering collaboration, emphasizing collective decision-making over individualistic competition.

In this episode I share insights from my personal struggles and inspirations around cultivating collaboration over competition in the spaces I occupy.

Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:

• Social media influencer soundbites
• Finding the answers that aren’t inside you 
• Organizational problem solving
• Slowing down and making space

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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Reclaiming Creativity and Healing Through Art with Krishna Kayastha
The Atheist’s Guide to Quaker Process
Friends General Conference (for more on Quakers)

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