Parenting comes with enough guilt — you don’t need more of it. In this conversation, Hansel and Carlos unpack what it really means to parent intentionally without comparing yourself to others. From screen-time rules and family dinners to the art of flexibility, they get real about setting boundaries that actually work for your household. The dads also explore how media literacy, self-awareness, and curiosity can shape kids into thoughtful humans in a fast-paced digital world.

In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, the dads unpack how family traditions evolve with time — and what it means to raise kids in a world that’s both nostalgic and new. From Santa and the Tooth Fairy to honoring ancestors with coffee and candles, they share how they’re rethinking rituals to fit their modern families. The conversation dives into food, faith, and the joy of creating memories that last — without clinging to what no longer serves.

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This week, the dads go deep on father figures—how our dads (and stand-ins) shaped us, the messy parts we chose to unlearn, and the traditions we’re proud to carry forward. Carlos shares how a larger-than-life dad left a lasting blueprint, Phil reflects on friendship with his father across miles, and Hansel gets real about piecing together support after loss. From recording our elders’ stories to being honest with our kids about our own humanity, this one’s about presence, legacy, and love.

Between 3 a.m. toddler monologues, grocery-store banana chaos, and 5 a.m. alarm clocks, the three of us get real about the season every parent knows too well: not-enough-sleep o’clock. We swap stories on sleep regressions, teething, and kids who “just want to hang,” then dig into the habits that keep us afloat—routines that actually work, making room for decompression, outdoor time as a secret weapon, and the radical idea that rest is productive. If you’re running on fumes (and vibes), this one’s for you.

Fatherhood flips the script—but is it really an identity change, or a shift in priorities? In this episode, Carlos, Phil, and Hansel get honest about trading solo rituals for family rhythms, building shared spaces without losing themselves, and why self-care isn’t selfish when you’re raising tiny humans. From morning pages gone missing to gym time, kitchen therapy, and two-hour runs (respectfully denied by Phil’s knees), the guys unpack how to pour into your kids while still filling your own cup. It’s a conversation about patience, boundaries, and raising individuals—not mini-mes—so everyone in the house can grow.

Being there matters more than doing it all. In this episode, the guys get honest about what “presence” really looks like — from toddler chaos and phone distractions to work shifts, commutes, and calendar Tetris. They unpack the guilt that creeps in, why quality time beats sheer hours, and how presence evolves as kids grow. You’ll hear practical ways to set intentions, communicate availability, and make the moments you do have count. Plus: Dexter’s dog IG, ube waffles, and the eternal pineapple request. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re doing enough, this one’s a breath of perspective — and a nudge to reach out to other parents who get it.

Should we give our kids everything we never had—or are we setting them up to miss out on life’s most valuable lessons?

In this episode, Carlos, Hansel, and Phil dive into the dilemma every parent wrestles with: where’s the line between providing and spoiling? From Target trips that end in surprise pandas, to kids learning the hard way about money, to creating “artificial struggles” that teach patience and responsibility, the dads share hilarious stories and hard-won insights on modern parenting.

It’s a conversation about wants vs. needs, independence, and how our own childhood wishes shape the way we raise our kids today. Light-hearted, real, and unexpectedly deep—this one hits home for anyone trying to balance generosity with grit.

When does it really sink in that you’re a dad? In this episode, Carlos, Phil, and Hansel swap stories about the moments that made fatherhood feel real — from delivery rooms and sleepless nights to unexpectedly tender family milestones. They dive into the emotional highs, self-care rituals (hello, skincare), and community support that help them navigate parenthood. This conversation also explores the important roles step-parents play and how core memories are built in the quiet, ordinary moments with our kids. Vulnerable, funny, and refreshingly honest — this one’s for every dad learning as they go.

In this debut episode of Modernhood, the dads gather around the mic to talk about a tradition born in lockdown: Waffle Wednesday. What started as a simple excuse to connect with friends turned into a powerful reminder about the role vulnerability, authenticity, and intention play in keeping relationships alive—especially as parents in the digital age. The conversation ranges from managing kids’ screen time and cultivating curiosity, to prioritizing real-life moments over online distractions. Along the way, they share laughs, honest reflections, and a few “dad truths” you’ll want to bring to your own table.

In our very first episode, hosts Carlos, Phil, and Hansel introduce themselves and share their raw, real, and relatable experiences as dads. From navigating new fatherhood to the growing pains of parenting different kids in different ways, they reflect on the highs, lows, and unexpected moments that come with raising children today. You’ll hear why this podcast exists, what to expect in future episodes, and how you — the listener — are part of the journey. Whether you're a brand-new dad or just parenting-curious, welcome to Modernhood. We’re glad you’re here.