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No one prepares you for the way motherhood changes your body, and then it’s all too easy to put your health last because you’re so busy and tired. That was me for a LONG time—until I met health & fitness coach Tiffany Wickes.

In this episode, you’ll not only learn more about my health journey and see why I’m obsessed with Tiffany’s simple, no-BS approach; you’ll also be inspired to start putting your own health first and get tons of cheap, feasible ways to do that.

 BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

•  The difference between reasons and excuses—and how you can acknowledge your very real circumstances without letting them become a permanent permission slip to stay stuck
• Why nutrition has to come first, before workouts (especially for exhausted moms) and how fueling your body well naturally creates the desire and energy to move more
• How diet culture has done moms SUCH a disservice and is only wrecking your hormones and health
• The BEST way to support moms’ health & fitness (especially in perimenopause)
• Why becoming “stress resilient” is key for happiness and longevity
• Plus simple mindset shifts and all kinds of easy, practical health & fitness ideas that DON’T require a gym

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Connect with my amazing coach, Tiffany

• Website
• Instagram
• Strong Like A Mother podcast

Check out the health & fitness program that helped me lose 25# in 5 months!!!

Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made New, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to flourish. 

HOMEWORK:

Your homework is to reach out to Tiffany if you're ready to reclaim your body and health so you can finally feel good and strong again—or maybe for the first time ever! It is never too late, and I especially love how her program helps women like me going through hormonal fluctuations in perimenopause. If this episode resonates with you, email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to learn how your present-day triggers actually stem from childhood wounds and why it’s so important to do the inner work of healing to ensure you don’t pass those wounds on to your kids.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Why are boundaries SO hard? Because they force your brain to choose between listening to yourself and keeping others happy. You want to honor your own needs but if your nervous system thinks doing so will have negative social or relational consequences, it’ll always default to connection over self-trust and prioritize attachment over authenticity. 

This episode goes deep into what boundaries really are (so not what you think), why they’re not just essential but good, and the neuroscience behind why they are so inherently difficult to set and hold.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Boundaries aren’t threats, punishment, or control-seeking. They also have nothing to do with other people!
• Why the holidays are a perfect storm for boundary violations
• Why it’s essential to clarify your boundaries ahead of time and long before your nervous system gets stressed out by a violation
• Boundaries are how you rebuild self-trust, which is crucial for emotional health and physical wellbeing.
• And most importantly, that if boundaries feel terrifying, you’re doing it RIGHT! 

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Join my new 6-week program, Moms Made NewTM, to learn the six most fundamental life coaching skills EVERY mom needs to know. 

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HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to identify one boundary that you have (or want to have). Determine now what you will do if and when someone crosses that boundary. How can you avoid getting triggered, and instead calmly but firmly prove to yourself that you can trust yourself to honor your own needs and keep you safe? Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts!

If this episode was helpful, remember you are always welcome to book a free 60 minute consult with me if you want to talk more about your personal situation. 

 COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to hear a kick-in-the-pants interview I did with my personal health and fitness coach. We go deep into why it's so hard for moms to prioritize their physical health and some really simple, powerful ways to change that for good. I’ll also share more about my incredible health journey this year—don’t miss it!

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Whether you’ve heard the story of The Little Red Hen or not, you know what it’s like to feel like you’re doing everything and everyone else gets to enjoy the fruits of your labor. This classic children’s story epitomizes the struggle of the high-functioning mom who always does it all without any help or appreciation.

In this episode, I offer a few of my own personal impressions and insights into what The Little Red Hen can teach overwhelmed moms who feel tired and resentful of carrying the huge invisible load of motherhood.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

•  How common and normal it is to get frustrated by how much you feel like you have to do compared to others
• Why wallowing in pity because you’re the little red hen of your family hurts everyone
• Why speaking up and asking for help isn’t just hard; it’s threatening to your very identity 
• What happens on a nervous-system level when you start to hold boundaries or “impose” on others

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to think about whether you feel like The Little Red Hen. If so, what are two ways you could do a little less or delegate a little more? Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to learn how your present-day triggers actually stem from childhood wounds and why it’s so important to do the inner work of healing to ensure you don’t pass those wounds on to your kids.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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If you had it all together before kids but now feel like everything’s constantly falling apart, this episode is for you. I break down how high-functioning anxiety deviously shows up in mom life and why so many driven, capable women mistake it for a good thing even though it leaves you chronically overwhelmed and feeling like a failure.

High-functioning anxiety in moms is real—and exhausting. I offer a litany of emotional, behavioral, relational, and physical ways it pervades motherhood and how important it is to learn to rewire your nervous system for safety and capacity so you’re no longer on “high alert”. You’ll leave with clarity, self-compassion, and practical insights to help you be the calm, connected mom you want to be.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How high-functioning anxiety isn’t your personality; it’s your nervous system’s protective wiring
• Why becoming a mom amplifies high-functioning anxiety (even if you weren’t previously aware you had it)
• How guilt and control become two sides of the same anxious coin, dictating your responses and ruining your relationships
• How “doing it all” can actually be a form of insecurity and avoidance
• The many ways your body tries to warn you it’s overwhelmed before your mind catches up (yet few women listen)
• And so much more

FOR MORE:

Download my FREE checklist of “30 Signs You Might Have High-Functioning Anxiety”

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to reflect on the extent to which these signs do or don’t match you. Which category(ies)of signs best depict your default tendencies? Have you tended to think of these as “good” or “bad”? How do you feel about yourself now that you know high-functioning anxiety is a thing? Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode for a powerful story that’ll really resonate if you are a responsible, Type A, people-pleaser with high functioning anxiety like me. 

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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If you look calm and capable on the outside but constantly feel like a wreck inside, you’re not alone. This episode dives into the hidden world of high-functioning anxiety—the stress that hides beneath productivity, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.

I review 30 signs you might have high-functioning anxiety. You’ll learn how this type of anxiety can disguise itself as motivation and achievement, where it comes from, how it differs from classical anxiety, why it’s so hard for high-achieving moms to rest, and everyday warning signals that your nervous system is in unhealthy overdrive.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why I was furious when I first learned high-functioning anxiety was a thing
• The emotional, physical, and signs of high-functioning anxiety so you can recognize it for yourself
• The difference between drive and dysregulation, and where the need to perform actually comes from
• Why rest feels unsafe for ambitious moms
• Why you can’t out-organize or out-achieve your anxiety until you address the real, root cause

FOR MORE:

Download my FREE checklist of “30 Signs You Might Have High-Functioning Anxiety”

HOMEWORK:

Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to let me know which, if any, of these signs surprised you and what you felt in your body hearing all these “symptoms” for perhaps the first time. Your homework for today is to gently reflect on whether any of this hit home for you and, if so, which parts and why.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to delve into the vicious ways high-functioning anxiety gets worse with motherhood and the many tell-tale ways it shows up in mom life.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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If you’ve got it all together on the outside but are running on fumes, constantly feel like a failure, and seem to only get things done under pressure…this episode will completely change your perspective on life.

Dr. Hayden Finch (licensed clinical psychologist, behavior change expert, and founder of the Finch Center for High Functioning Anxiety) and I delve into the roots of procrastination, high functioning anxiety, mom guilt, burnout, and so much more. Make sure to share this with all the other high-achieving moms you know!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why procrastination ISN’T a time management problem, laziness, or lack of discipline; it’s an emotional regulation problem
• The vicious condition driving productivity for so many women that flies completely under the radar because it gets PRAISED by our hyper-success-driven society 
• How high functioning anxiety differs from regular anxiety, is naturally masked, and goes hand-in-hand with mom guilt
• Why smiling through the stress, pushing through, and pretending you’re okay when you’re not only hurts your kids
• Why exhaustion isn’t a weakness and a tiny, doable change you can implement TODAY to slow down and start repairing your nervous system

FOR MORE:

Get Dr. Finch’s books:

• The Psychology of Procrastination: Understand Your Habits, Find Motivation, and Get Things Done
• The Easy Habits Journal: Better Habits in 12 Weeks

Connect with Dr. Finch on her website.

HOMEWORK:

Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to let me know if this episode resonated with you. Your homework for today is to practice doing everything 5% slower; name your feelings the next time you catch yourself procrastinating; do a daily nervous-system check-in; and really model for your kids how good it is to rest, laugh off mistakes, and leave some things undone.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to dive even deeper into what high-functioning anxiety is, its telltale signs & symptoms, and more of my personal journey.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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What if your greatest traits—the things you’ve always prided yourself on and been recognized for—are actually survival responses your nervous system took on from complex trauma as a child? In this extremely personal and vulnerable episode, I share my eye-opening realization that the perfectionism, people pleasing, and high achievement behind all my “success” in life really stem from deep wounds I’m now working to heal. 

As hard as this is to put out there, I see more and more women wrestling as I do—especially once you reach perimenopause and can no longer perform up to your old standards. This episode introduces a variety of themes I’ll expand on greatly moving forward: complex trauma, protective adaptations, hypervigilance, high functioning anxiety, and more.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How every time I thought I found a solution to life’s challenges, it turned out that there was a bigger, deeper layer going on beneath the surface 
• Why trying to ignore or erase the wounded parts of you only backfires, and why it’s crucial to honor your many parts while minimizing the one(s) that no longer serve you
• The huge, huge tradeoff between being needed and honoring your own needs—and what that means for women like me who unknowingly defined themselves and their life’s purpose around fulfilling everyone else’s needs at the expense of your own
• How, sadly, awareness of your wounds and issues is not the same as actually healing from them
• How the metaphor of “molting” offers a comforting perspective shift in the midst of a painful healing journey 

 HOMEWORK:

Your homework for today is to email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to let me know if this episode resonated with you. Do you wrestle with perfectionism? People pleasing? High achievement? High-functioning anxiety? Martyr mentality? Would love to connect further! 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode where I interview renowned psychologist, Dr. Hayden Finch, on procrastination and high-functioning anxiety.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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What if your struggles with anxiety, irritability, or disconnection trace back to how your birth unfolded? Join me as I interview board-certified women’s health coach, Brigid Tebaldi, to understand how birth trauma affects your mind, marriage, and motherhood. We unpack the science and psychology of birth trauma, how it lingers in both your brain and body, and why it’s so essential to heal—for you, your marriage, and your children. 

In this powerful episode, you’ll discover the hidden impact of traumatic birth experiences on women’s mental health, relationships, and parenting—and learn practical steps to heal. This compassionate conversation will help you make sense of your emotions, rebuild safety in your body, and move forward feeling whole again so you can love and parent from peace, NOT pain.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

•  How common birth trauma is, and how it unknowingly shows up long after you’ve physically healed 
• The crucial differences between a “natural” birth and a “physiological” birth, and how that impacts a woman’s ability to actually have her baby
• Numerous signs you might have unresolved trauma—even if you didn’t have a “bad” or “hard” birth
• Why it’s crucial for moms to heal their birth trauma so they don’t unknowingly sabotage their marriage or wound their kids
• Simple steps to begin the beautiful work of healing so you can reconnect with yourself, your husband, and your kids

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Connect with Brigid on her website and Instagram.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for today is to spend 10 minutes writing out your birth story. Did things go as you hoped? If not, how and why? In what ways might that be affecting how you show up in your daily life now?  Always here as a safe space to process your thoughts & feelings via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity. Would love to connect further! 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to keep unpacking more hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy, along with more neuroscience-backed insights to help you live your BEST life.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Whether you’re brand-new to planning or a planner addict like me, here are 14 neuroscience-based planning tips that will help you maximize your time for who and what you love.

In this episode, I’m divulging the signature, science-backed planning process I’ve cultivated through years of research along with trial and error. Implementing these simple tips will save you time, skyrocket your productivity, significantly decrease your stress, and enable you to be more present for what matters most.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

•  Effective ways to incorporate a regular planning process and why that’s so beneficial
• Why it’s so hard to accurately estimate how long a task or project will take (and a simple fix to overcome that)
• The biggest mistake most women make (assuming all hours of the day are equal) and what to do instead
• Why underplanning is key (and how to do that while still getting everything you need to done)
• And a whole host of other lesser known or even unconventional planning tips you might not have heard anywhere else, along with numerous ways to take things up a notch for even more success!

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My absolute FAVORITE planner (use code SIMPLICITY15 for 15% off)

• Video: Top 10 Reasons You’ll LOVE Day Designer Planners
• Can’t decide whether to get the daily or weekly format? Watch this!
• Video: How I Plan My Week

Grab my Pinpoint Your Priorities worksheet to organize & prioritize tasks

Learn more about the powerful Pomodoro time management technique

Want to better understand your body’s natural energy rhythms? Snag my FREE guide, “Empowered: The Hidden Secret to Getting MORE Done without Burning Out!”

Join my Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, accountability, and built-in rewards you need to take yourself off the back-burner, maximize your productivity, and make REAL traction on your goals. 

HOMEWORK:

 Your homework for this episode is to start simple and just start with one or two of these tips, incorporate them into your own planning process, and then send me an email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity because I would love to cheer you on and hear how it goes! 

COMING UP NEXT:

 Join me back next episode to keep unpacking hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy, along with more neuroscience-backed insights to help you live your BEST life.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Physical and digital clutter isn’t just overwhelming; it’s actually stealing our time and energy while harming both our and our kids’ mental health. But even when we want to do something about it, DEcluttering feels so daunting. Get ready for a whole new understanding why!

In this powerful episode, you’ll find out what clutter really does to your brain, why it bothers women so much more than men, four reasons you struggle to declutter even if you want to, and how you can use the acronym TRANSFORM to guide you through a proven decluttering process to simplify for good! Stay tuned to the very end for the most thought-provoking idea of all regarding the high price you don’t even realize you—and your children—are paying for all the stuff you hold onto.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why stuff isn’t just “stuff” and how decluttering is like a long-term savings account that’ll pay you back in spades
• What clutter really signals to your brain (and why that negatively affects women so much more than men)
• Why clutter is so problematic for kids’ brain development and how you can even get your elementary-age kids to declutter with you
• How perfectionism often makes your clutter problem worse!
• The real HARM clutter is causing to you and your identity

AS MENTIONED:

Check out Emily McDermott’s Moms Overcoming Overwhelm podcast on how to lead a simpler, more minimalist life.

Grab Emily’s FREE Guide: 5 Mindset Shifts to Help You Let Go of Clutter

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to set aside just 15 minutes to declutter one teeny tiny area of your home. Let me know what area that was and how it went via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity. Would love to connect further! 

COMING UP NEXT:

Don’t miss next episode where I’m sharing my top planning tips so you can declutter your thoughts and tasks to free up more time for what matters to you.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.