Sharing a life with someone is one of those things that most people long for - without it, we can feel lost, pained, unwanted, unattractive, all sort of negative emotions can arise from it.

With it, we can feel safe, loved, valued but, it can also be equally challenging. Sometimes we bounce around from one partner to the next hoping the next one will be the right fit. So what does it take to make a relationship great?

Easy! Well no... I shouldn't say easy. But I'm going to give you some easy things to start with!

You see, we all face challenges in our relationship but it doesn't have to stay that way. You have the ability to change things.

Change starts with you

Do you spend more time questioning your partner’s words or actions than examining your own? Blaming your partner can feel good in the moment, but it’s dangerous because it can lead to anger and resentment.

Conflict is not a bad thing in relationships. All couples argue. The difference between the couples that stay together and the ones who divorce is the way they repair after conflict.

The couples that don’t repair those hurts end up with festering wounds that grow bigger day by day, the month, and the year until they finally break the couple apart. Repair is absolutely crucial in any kind of relationship, particularly intimate relationships.

Relationships, especially romantic attachments, are transactional. When we make a choice, our partner can choose as well. However, the two decisions may not be the same. We can negotiate, but sometimes negotiation isn’t possible. While we may want a romantic attachment to continue, if our partner has a different idea, the relationship may not survive.

The nature of choice is complex. It involves selecting one option and leaving others behind. Letting go of possibilities. Choice affects how a relationship evolves and if it will end. Every day, we make decisions in a relationship—when to have dinner, how to handle anger, whether to move to a new city.

Focus · to cause (something, such as attention) to be directed at something specific ·

We focus on the good things when we are happy. If you want to be happy do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.

We can focus on the good by making ourselves happy. Many people have validated that we can make ourselves happy.

“Happiness depends on ourselves.”

When you choose to express gratitude toward your partner, you are increasing the chances that they will behave in loving ways toward you in the future. Gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness.

Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.

People feel and express gratitude in multiple ways. They can apply it to the past the present, and the future

In New York City, where massive skyscrapers exist or any major city for that matter, the buildings are constructed with a foundation that can support the tens of floors that you can see above the ground. Do you desire a relationship that grows upward? If so, we need to consider its foundation.

Without a good foundation or system of roots, there is no real connection to love. In other words, what you need to know on this ground floor level is that in most instances love doesn’t exist if a foundation or root system isn’t in place.

When a relationship is well-nourished, and the couple takes their time to build, they are well invested. Because of this great investment, they become unlikely to bend or break under the pressures that life can throw their way.

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What are the secrets to success? Well, successful people work hard. But you work hard too, right?

And if you keep working harder and harder you’re just going to be miserable. So what’s the answer?

Successful people don’t just work hard, they also work different. Extremely successful people make the impossible possible. And they do it by being resourceful. Creative.

Sometimes, you don’t get the results you want or deserve in life. Despite having a clear goal and plenty of ambition, it can seem like everything is going against you.

If you’re not getting the results you want that’s okay. While it may feel like the end of the world, it’s a part of your unique journey on this planet. The challenge is to avoid getting caught in the negativity of your current situation at the expense of action. The only way you can change your reality is by doing something about it.

"Happiness makes you more successful than success makes you happy."

The takeaway here is that re-aligning our mindset towards positivity is the first key to progress. While you haven’t got the results you wanted yet, you can find a way to appreciate your journey rather than allowing the binary outcomes of success or failure to define you

Before you can quit your bad habits, you need to first identify what you’re doing wrong.

Once you recognize your bad habits, you need to make changes. You need to replace your bad habits with positive habits—make them a new way of life so you can be more successful. So use this as a reference to help you stop doing things that are holding you back from being successful.

When was the last time you gave 100% of your attention to, well, anything?

Multitasking is a myth.

Most surprisingly, multitasking studies show that when we think we’re multitasking, we actually aren’t multitasking. It’s impossible for our brains to focus on two tasks at once it’s actually rapidly switching between them.

On the other hand, single-tasking is proven to help you get tasks done quicker and at a higher quality than trying to do multiple things at once.