MR: Morning Reads

Recently I read a book name called The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. This is the fourth idea of the book. "What if they don't like me?"

This is a fear that is common to almost every human being.

We're wired to thrive in communities - the fear of disapproval makes people freeze inside. The reality, though, is that someone will dislike us.

Being okay with people not liking us is freedom.

We wouldn't go and purposefully work to make people not like us.

But we shouldn't let go of our authenticity and make people like us. We should be ourselves - and be okay whether people like us or not.

Recently I read a book name called The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. This is the third idea of the book. All Problems are Interpersonal Relationship Problems. No confidence? We are likely afraid of being judged by others. In other words, if there were nobody else in the world, our problems as we know them wouldn't exist. All our problems have the touch of other people in some way or the other.

This statement helps us analyze other people's roles in our problems, which can help us take appropriate corrective measures.

Recently I read a book name called The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. This is the second idea of the book. People Fabricate Anger. Isn't anger a primal human emotion that is common to everyone? To insinuate that we fabricate anger?

The youth in the book narrates an instance where a waiter accidentally spilled food on him, and the youth immediately burst into an outburst.

The philosopher explained this interaction in a counterintuitive Adlerian perspective: the youth got angry so that he could shout.

The youth understandably was bewildered.

What the heck? It was but natural to lose control and get angry in such a situation.

The philosopher countered - if the youth had a knife with him, this line of argument would say that it is natural to stab the waiter.

Nope. Anger is a choice. Yes, a choice that has been conditioned as second nature over a long series of transactions. A choice nonetheless.

And we can choose not to get angry - by training our minds over time.

Recently I read a book name called The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. This is the first Idea of the book. Trauma Doesn’t Exist. According to Adler’s philosophy, ourself is not defined by our experiences but the meaning we attribute to our experiences. And we give meaning in such a way that we experience trauma. If trauma is the natural response, the same situation would create trauma in every person. We know this is not the case. Some people experience trauma and others are resilient. We create trauma ans we equally deny it.

Sometimes you're unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming ofliving your life... A child on a farm sees plane fly overhead & dreams of flying. But, a pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse & dreams of returning home. That's life! Enjoy yours... if wealth is the secret of happiness, then the rich should be dancing on the streets.

But only poor kids do that. If power ensures security, then officials should walk unguarded.

But those who live simply, sleep soundly.

If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have the best marriages. Live simply, walk humbly and love genuinely... All good will come back to you….!