Mums F**king Matter

I believe we all experience some kind of trauma in our lifetime. And it's often a tricky/taboo subject for some people. I wish to invite change in that, so that we can perhaps all heal a bit more over our traumas; small or large, from recently or many years ago.

Trigger Warning! — I speak a little about birth trauma.

WARNING! - I talk about Father Christmas at 15 minutes 50 seconds to 16 minutes 15 seconds.

In this episode I speak about:

• the gaslighting that can so often happen when speaking about our trauma
• birth trauma; my experience of it and the huge effect it can have on families
• the work of Dr Rebecca Moore and the Birth Trauma Conference
• 'silver linings', why there sometimes aren't any and how trauma can't always be 'swept under the rug'
• Gabor Maté's work on trauma and his documentary 'The Wisdom Of Trauma'
• being bullied and the positives of 'bad' things happening to us
• post-traumatic growth
• one person's trauma isn't the same for another and validating your own feelings

I share quotes from Gabor Maté, Alan Turing, Leonard Cohen, Brené Brown and Mark Groves.

I mention the book 'How To Heal A Bad Birth' by Debby Gould and Melissa J. Bruijn, that helped me a lot after birth trauma.

Here is a link to the blog piece I mention about trauma that's on my website.

Here is some more information on Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG).

Themes: trauma, birth trauma, healing, addiction, post-traumatic growth

At the end of the podcast I share a poem by Tanya Markul.

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Today I am talking to a dear friend of mine, Penny McKenzie.

Penny is an artist, a counsellor and a Mother to two grown up children. Penny used to be a client of mine, and it's been wonderful to remain good friends, witness her grow and step into who she is more.

What we talk about (particularly 35 minutes onwards) is absolute GOLD; about knowing we deserve time for ourselves.

In this episode we speak about:

• Penny's passions and the work she does
• the experiences in parenting grown up children
• consciously 'unmothering'
• Penny's journey with art and becoming an artist
• our own self-development, growth and how to replenish
• defying what others think of us decades on
• the work of Dr Gabor Maté
• Penny's experience of pregnancy, birthing premature babies and her matrescence; both early on and to this day
• how common self-abandoning is in motherhood and going against the grain to remember we matter too!
• the sociology of Motherhood (see EP43 for my chat with Motherhood Sociologist Dr Sophie Brock)

Themes: unmothering, martyr mothering, counselling, art, matrescence, therapy

At the end, I share a poem written by me.

To see more about Penny see here on her website. And connect with Penny here on Instagram.

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The world I/we live in can go at quite a pace so in this episode I aim to invite you to think about whether there really needs to be a 'rush' to your pace; from replying to messages to walking day-to-day and more.

Warning! — If listening around little ones, I mention Father Christmas at 14.50.

In this episode I speak about:

• the pace of modern life and how it can feel to some
• the book 'Wintering' by Katherine May and slowing down during divorce/stressful times
• dropping the apologies and prioritising what truly matters
• doing less at certain times during your monthly cycle
• Glennon Doyle's brilliant words
• the 'revving reflex' and the work of Dr Scott Lyons
• simple ways and places you could integrate a slower pace

I share quotes from Glennon Doyle, the book 'Wintering' by Katherine May and from Carl Honoré.

Here is a link to the podcast I mention with Mel Robbins talking to Dr Scott Lyons.

Themes: wintering, slowness, boundaries,

At the end of the podcast I share a poem by Emma Heaphy.

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All my guests are super honest and real in our conversations. It's something I'm very proud of sharing with the world. And so here is another one...

Annie Richardson is qualified holistic counsellor, healer, and women’s circle facilitator with over two decades of experience. Through her work as a Birth and Postpartum Doula, specialising in Matrescence, Annie saught professional education to become a certified counsellor specialising in the Birth to Rebirth of women's lives.

Outside of Annie's professional work, she is a Mother of 4 and a Grandmother to 1. She's been parenting for nearly 30 years and has gone through the full spectrum of parenting.

I love how Annie's wisdom oozes from her and she's is so f**king REAL.

In this episode we speak about:

• Annie's start to Motherhood at age 17
• Mothering grown up children compared to little ones
• riding through grief in all it's shapes and forms e.g. grieving the life we had before becoming a Mum
• the need for freedom that arises and balancing the 'scales'
• the HUGE power of someone truly meeting us where we're at
• self-discovery work and finding/meeting ourselves through Motherhood
• the physical and sensory experience of being in a 'postnatal body' (what is our own and what is society's BS)
• early menopause, menopause, post menopause and giving less f**ks
• healing through burlesque
• conscious 'unmothering'
• EXPLICIT language at 52 minutes in(!)
• the wisdom of menopause and 'sagescence'

Themes: mothering, grief, pregnancy and postpartum care, self-discovery, menopause, burlesque, human design

At the end, I share a poem by Tanya Markul.

To see more about Annie see here on her website. And connect with Annie here on Instagram. You can also check out her YouTube channel.

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The words we use and the effect they have can make a difference in how we communicate with others and of course how we portray ourselves.

In this episode I speak about:

• the difference between "are you still breastfeeding?" or "are you breastfeeding?" and how loaded similar questions can be (plus the endless unsolicited advice given to Mums and pregnant women)
• 'just' a Mum being the biggest understatement ever!
• how it can feel to be asked the every day platitudes
• words we can use to be less demeaning, upsetting and offensive
• how healing it can be to use words differently, especially around birth
• postnatal depletion as opposed to postnatal depression
• switching from blame to a question
• the work of Jono Lancaster
• gentle language I use in my teaching
• the musts and the shoulds we say to ourselves...
• "is she a 'good' baby?"!

Here are the two articles I read from; 'Six pregnancy terms you probably won't hear again' and 'Why are pregnancy terms so demeaning?'.

Themes: language, birth, pregnancy, breastfeeding, yoga, emotional inteligence, the podcast 'Child'

At the end of the podcast I share a poem called 'Just One?' written by me.

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Rebecca Hill is a transformational coach and hypnotherapist, who uses subconscious tools to peel back the layers of limitations acquired throughout our lifetime, which prevent us from reaching our full potential. 

Rebecca’s mission is to inspire, teach and empower clients to become the most limitless and elevated version of themself by exploring deep within, helping them to identify and heal limiting beliefs that block them from transforming to new levels.

She currently lives in Cornwall with her 5 year old son.

TRIGGER WARNING: 7 minutes in we very briefly touch on sexual abuse

In this episode we speak about:

• Rebecca's background and what led her to the work she does today
• Rebecca's struggles with her health in pregnancy, PoTS syndrome and what came up in early motherhood
• diagnosis with PMDD and healing with rapid transformational therapy
• doing our own inner work; how we can change and grow in life and people's responses to this
• the work of Dr Bruce Lipton
• Roly (my boyfriend) and I getting back together, why and how powerful a lesson it was for each of us
• people who are energetic matches for us when we truly value ourselves
• finding our identity as a Mum and our 'Becoming'
• Rebecca's experience of birth and matrescence
• knowing ourselves better and Human Design in parenting
• the importance of doulas and postnatal care
• investing in yourself and support when it's needed and the huge impact it can have
• an explanation of Human Design

Themes: hypnotherapy, hyperemesis gravidarum, PMDD, birth, human design, motherhood, matrescence

To see more about Rebecca see here on her website. And connect with Rebecca here on Instagram.

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I talk about the breath every time I teach or lead a coaching session. We can often take the breath for granted but it makes SUCH a difference when we think about it, and feel it.

In this episode I speak about:

• the difference it can make really listening to your breath; in everyday life and during yoga or fitness classes
• breathing to help with driving anxiety (particularly with young children in the car)
• listening to your breath while immersed in nature; deepening the experience
• using the breath as a tool in movement practices: for ease and/or power
• how the breath can help reduce stress, and calm the nervous system
• my experience doing 'Transformational Breath' with Rebecca Dennis
• using the breath whilst pregnant or postnatally for greater benefits; pelvic floor and core connection
• the beauty in breath 'work' for introspection and self-connection

Themes: breath, breathing, breath work, yoga, exercise, pregnancy and postnatal exercise

At the end of the podcast I share a poem written by me.

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In this episode I talk to Dr Sophie Brock, a Motherhood Studies Sociologist based in Sydney, Australia.

I've been absorbing Sophie's wisdom via podcasts and social media for a few years, so it's a pleasure and an honour to have her on the podcast for this juicy conversation.

Sophie's work in Motherhood Studies is fascinating and incredibly validating. Sophie is also a single Mum to her daughter.

I HIGHLY recommend listening to (and/or sharing) this podcast whether you're expecting, or a mother to children of any age.

In this episode we speak about:

• the difference between motherING and motherHOOD
• the 'Fish Tank of Motherhood Model'
• what we are conditioned to think a 'Mother' is and the 'Perfect Mother Myth'
• a personal share of mine; feelings about having another baby or not
• grief in motherhood and how all emotions are valid yet not widely accepted in society
• maternal rage; feeling it, acknowledging it and expressing it
• not having Mum guilt
• how different mothering can look for each family; disabilities, neurodivergence and much more
• Sophie's offerings and breaking down the learning

Themes: motherhood, mothering, parenting, maternal rage, disabilities and neurodivergence, fatherhood

We also mention the work of Minna Dubin and Adrienne Rich.

To see more of Sophie's work and about her resources and courses see here on her website. And connect with Sophie here on Instagram.

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I have a very special guest on the podcast today; my 9 year old daughter, Matilda.

It was so lovely recording an episode with her, in two short stints and hearing what she had to say.

In this episode we speak about:

• our love of dance
• Matilda's fabulous year 4 teacher
• gymnastics and Matilda's passion for it
• slime recipes
• rescue dogs and empathy
• turning 10 years old

Themes: dance, slime, gymnastics, rescue dogs, stick insects

At the end, Matilda reads a poem written by Rose Milligan.

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In this episode I talk to a fabulous recent connection of mine and kindred spirit, Becca Scott.

Becca has been a Homeopath since 2009, a Reflexologist since 2001 and has added Accredited Divorce and Breakup Coaching in 2023. She specialises in Women's Health with a particular focus on gynaecological, auto-immune and hormone issues.

Becca is also mum and step mum to four wonderful teenage boys and a little girl.

In this episode we speak about:

• What led Becca to the work she does today
• lichen sclerosus, how it presents and sadly how common a misdiagnosis is
• the huge importance of knowing our anatomy (mostly the difference between the vagina and the vulva)
• the link between toxic relationships and certain conditions
• my work with baby massage and starting early with reverence for the body
• how we're not taught to communicate 'difficult' stuff and why this is a problem
• Jessica Pin's story and her work in clitoral advocacy
• Bek Antonucci and her work de-shaming herpes
• learning about and feeling our emotions fully
• difficult relationships ending and how that can affect us
• letting go of shame and being advocates for ourselves and our health

Themes: lichen sclerosus, vulval and vaginal conditions, herpes, relationship difficulties, trauma, sex

To see a model of the clitoris and Becca's article about it, see here. To learn more about Becca's talk on lichen sclerosus that she mentions, see here on Becca's website. And connect with Becca here on Instagram.

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