Mums F**king Matter

Will you take 20-minutes for a pause? Here is a meditation to guide you into greater relaxation.

This is a rerelease of Episode #30; a meditation to hopefully help you relax.

As this busy time of year, it's possible there may be no time — or you don't have the headspace — to listen to a podcast sharing things to take on or a powerful conversation. Therefore I wanted to make today's episode a simple one to listen to…

All I warmly invite you to do, is:

• listen with patience for your ability to relax and try not to judge yourself
• notice the sound, the depth and the feeling of your breath
• allow yourself to pause and relax, even just a little bit more

This meditation doesn't have a Christmas theme, so it's suitable to listen to all year round. But I wish you a pleasant festive period and beyond, all the same.

Lucy xx

I tend to alternate a guest episode with a solo episode so here's me, on my own, with some personal shares and news in my world.

There will be some useful takeaways in this episode for you no doubt; hearing a bit about my recent announcement regarding my business and more.

As with any episode I share, it may be validating, it my be healing but most of all I hope you know that all emotions are valid and I'm not shy to show it all.

In this episode I speak about:

• my recent big decision about my work
• 'giving up' and the messages around it
• progress with Pickle (the highly reactive dog)
• healing and feeling all the feelings
• Marie Forleo's and Mel Robbins' podcasts
• Christmas as a solo Mum
• my debut solo act as a burlesque performer

Themes: Christmas, solo motherhood, rescue dogs, burlesque

At the end of the podcast I share a poem by me.

I mention Daisy Cutter. I share a brief quote from Steven Bartlett's podcast 'The Diary Of A CEO'.

To follow my burlesque journey on Instagram, find me HERE. I did my fabulous Burlesque courses with 'The Cheek Of It'.

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Today's topic is (yet another) that I'm passionate about; substance use, misuse and learning about our relationship with alcohol.

Carlie Jaye Johnson is a Mindful Drinking Mentor for Mums, guiding sober curious mothers to trust their instincts and cultivate healthier habits. She is a mother of two children and is based in Cairns, Australia.

With certifications in Addiction Recovery and Matrescence Coaching, Carlie supports mothers through 1:1 coaching packages, mixed media art workshops, monthly sober sister circles, and vibrant Facebook community (links below).

TRIGGER WARNINGS! We touch on suicide, substance misuse and birth trauma so please go gently if these topics are sensitive for you.

In this episode we speak about:

• Carlie's journey with alcohol and working with a coach to become sober
• my feelings about and relationship with alcohol over the years
• substance use disorder (SUD)
• the work of Dr Gabor Maté
• how parenting and drinking is, for some reason, regularly PORTRAYED as going hand in hand(!)
• Carlie's most challenging moment that tested her sobriety
• the 'pillars' that support us and learning what REALLY matters
• using art as a form of therapy; to bring up and process emotions
• people who boast about drinking to excess; why and how that is 'normalised'
• how 'white knuckling' it doesn't always work on it's own
• Carlie's experience of motherhood, matrescence and the 'inner split' that we can feel (for more about Matrescence see Episode #34)

Themes: alcoholism, sober curious, sobriety, art as therapy, motherhood, mental health, trauma, birth trauma, having a VBAC after c-section

At the end, I share a poem written by me.

I mention my solo Episode #50 about trauma.

You can connect with Carlie and her work here on Instagram, on Facebook or her website timetoshinesobriety.com

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This episode is ideal to listen to if you have had a baby in the last couple of years or if you are/have ever been, injured, close to burnout, or lacking in confidence as to what to do to improve your fitness (physical and mental).

Although I work with women from all walks of life now, I used to specialise solely in pre- and postnatal exercise, as a Birth Recovery Coach. And when you've had a baby, or are recovering from something else, it can be VITAL to remind yourself of your innate worth, minus the f**king medals for sporting events(!).

We live in a very ableist society and sometimes I feel that there are SO many people that feel unseen. So this episode is for them...

If you enjoy this or other episodes, please share the link with a friend or take screen shot and share it on your socials. I would really appreciate your help spreading the word.

In this episode I speak about:

• the value of true rest
• gentle and liberating ways to move your body
• the wonderful impact that dancing can have
• a former 1:1 client who went from wanting the confidence to dance at her work Christmas party — to leading the dance floor that night!
• what may seem 'basic' can be valuable
• struggles with your mental health? I get it
• respecting your body's varying abilities and why exercise does not need to be intense
• you're JUST as amazing! (I love my 'rant' 13.30 minutes in)
• my fondness for bouldering at The Climbing Hangar

Themes: birth recovery, rest, dance, postnatal depletion, postnatal exercise

At the end of the podcast I share a poem by me.

I mention Kimmy Fitness.

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Instead of a solo episode this week I wanted to share a conversation with Roly Starr, my wonderful boyfriend and 'bonus Dad' to Matilda.

Roly supports me to the nth degree, and TOTALLY gets my message about supporting Mums, parents and standing up for what matters.

Roly is THE most incredible man and supportive partner I've ever had the honour of being with. And to those who know we've separated twice in the past, it's wonderful having repaired to be where we are now, as in love and strong as ever.

To give you an idea of who supports me, and is part of my 'village', I wanted to introduce Roly to you.

Volume warning! at 34 minutes there is some loud laughter(!)

TRIGGER WARNING: at minutes in Roly shares his story of emotional and physical abuse.

In this episode we speak about:

• Roly's work in carpentry, fencing and other woodwork
• a bit about who he is, his interests and passion for good storytelling
• Pickle, the rescue dog and the intense challenges of having a reactive dog (for both him and me)
• grief for experiences we can learn to expect
• boundaries and the importance of autonomy for all ages (and beings)
• what Roly witnesses as a bonus parent and how vital it is to look after our needs for the benefit of our children
• the potential challenges of being a 'step-parent'
• beware of the volume at 34 minutes in — we have quite a giggle!!!
• the deep value of connecting with and listening to our body
• Roly's experience of abuse and escaping it

Themes: parenting, rescue dogs, domestic abuse, boundaries, mental health and fitness

Roly's work features in the film The Boy in the Shed. And here is the video we mention 37 minutes in.

At the end, I share a poem written by Nikita Gill.

You can connect with Roly and his work here on Instagram or on Facebook.

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I met Kay at a Poetry Night that a friend, Fi McQuay (ft. Episode no.16) and I organised at my local bookshop on International Women's Day, earlier this year. It was a very special night!

Since then it has been lovely to connect more with Kay as fellow Mums and poets and I'm delighted to share this conversation and more about Kay in this episode.

In this episode we speak about:

• Kay's journey with writing poetry and sharing it
• birth, motherhood and Kay's experience of Matrescence so far
• raising children with dual heritage
• judgement and racism in society and at school
• supporting and being advocates for our children
• how 'we' need to be better at having difficult conversations
• apologising with integrity
• knowing our capacity and not judging ourselves
• busting motherhood myths and the ripple effect of that
• Kay's video for her poem 'This Is My Body' and working with Her Story and Co.
• body image and loving ourselves more at any stage/age

Themes: mothering, poetry, matrescence, racism, story writing, boundaries, body image, mental health

You can connect with Kay and her work here on Instagram. And you can find a link to the amazing video and poem we speak about, 'This Is My Body' here.

At the end, I share a poem written by me.

I mention my Goddess Circles, and you can find out more about those HERE on my website.

I also mention Harriet Lerner's book 'Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts'. And 'Eating in the Light of the Moon' by Anita Johnston.

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As it's almost mid-November, and having witnessed what I have both as a woman and a coach I felt it super necessary to put out an episode talking about December/Christmas and the juggle — or let's be honest the STRESS — it can be for some.

Many don't speak about how the load and expectations can become heavier at this time of year and suffer in silence, whilst feeling like a pressure cooker(!).

In this episode I speak about:

• reducing stress and why it's important
• listening to your body
• the heaviness of real or perceived pressures and expectations
• welcoming greater enjoyment
• honouring your capacity at any given time (aka giving less f**ks about some of the things)
• a funny share about buying prezzies for Matilda
• boundaries and dealing with the emotions of others LESS (if you can)
• how our energy can be affected by people and places
• being an advocate for your/your family's needs and desires
• do you want to/have to travel around Christmas?!

Themes: boundaries, Christmas, family, parenting, relationships,

At the end of the podcast I share a poem by me.

The books I mention are 'Call of the Wild' by Kimberly Ann Johnson, 'When the Body Says No' by Gabor Maté and 'The Body Keeps The Score' by Bessel van der Kolk. I also mention Mark Groves.

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Heading into my 53rd week of podcasting with a bang! Today's topic is (another!) one that is close to my heart; DANCE.

In this episode I'm speaking to Tara Choudrie. Tara is a dance teacher, facilitator, and educator who is currently studying for her MA at Rambert Dance School. Her research area is supporting mothers working in the dance sector, with a specific focus on maternal mental health and dancers. She is a Mother of two boys whom have a dual heritage.

In this episode we speak about:

• being a Mother of boys and raising dual nationality children
• showing our emotions and being advocates for our feelings, whatever our age
• Tara's varied work as a dance teacher
• Tara's MA studies and incredible research into Mothers returning to dance as a career
• going through Matrescence in the dance world
• preparing for motherhood better and really knowing our boundaries as Mothers
• how the mindset and qualities of a dancer can impact motherhood
• Matrescence/Patrescence awareness and why it matters
• how maternal mental health can be pathologised instead of recognising MATRESCENCE
• the pressure to always do/be more that we can so often feel
• how motherhood can 'upgrade' us, our skills and CV — BIG time!!

Themes: parenting boys, mothering, dance, matrescence, hinduism, baby reflux

You can connect with Tara and her work here on Instagram. And you can find a link to Tara's MA studies here.

At the end, I share a poem by Mata Hari.

I mention Shahroo Izadi.

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Episode 52! — That means I am celebrating ONE YEAR of 'Mums F**king Matter'!!

In this episode I speak about:

• sharing my voice and my opinions openly over 52 weeks and how I've grown
• some of the conversations I've had over the past year
• how can you celebrate yourself?!
• I give thanks to Flo Lacy for being my podcast producer when I started
• and thanks to Mike Merrick for helping me with editing also
• thank you so much for the reviews and the messages I've received

A big THANK YOU for listening!

Themes: mental health, motherhood, healing, growth

At the end of the podcast I share a poem by Donna Ashworth.

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Rebecca Cox is a writer, a Mum to a 9 year old boy and a gorgeous soul with such wisdom to share on solo motherhood. She has become a friend of mine over the last few months and I'm delighted to share this conversation.

Rebecca co-authored the book 'How To Be A Happy Single Parent', with her friend Zoe Desmond, founder of the Frolo app.

TRIGGER WARNING: we talk about birth trauma at 36.30 to 38.00.

In this episode we speak about:

• Rebecca and Zoe's book 'How To Be A Happy Single Parent'
• the shame and loneliness in single parenthood at times, and connecting with others on the Frolo app
• the evolution of Rebecca's career before and after becoming a Mum
• the (ridiculous) stigma to being a divorcée
• failure/perceived failure
• the media's portrayal of single parents, Rebecca finding her niche and writing what she needed to see represented
• 'trends', masks, inauthenticity, the curation of life that's put out — and the need for honesty
• the self-doubt we can have, especially in mothering
• the parenting paradigms we are in and have come from
• birth trauma, the lack of REAL preparation (from certain birth prep classes) that we can often have for motherhood
• Rebecca's experience of matrescence over the years and growing alongside our children
• dating after divorce

Themes: single parenting, single mothering, journalism, matrescence, sexuality

You can connect with Rebecca and her work here on Instagram. And you can find the book 'How To Be A Happy Single Parent' anywhere you buy books.

At the end, I share a poem written by Jess Urlichs.

(Donna Laine Fine Jewellery is the lady/shop I speak about 13 minutes in.)

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