Mum's True Tea w/Kendall Lasha

In this eye-opening episode of Mum's True Tea, I dive deep into the emotional toll that motherhood can take on mental health, including how it can lead to PTSD. I explore the backlash I received for speaking this truth, especially as a single mom. Society often paints motherhood as a joyful experience, but for many, it's far from the truth. Single moms face intense financial, emotional, and physical burdens, often with little to no support from partners, family, or their community. We discuss the harsh realities of absent fathers and the lack of understanding from those who fail to recognize the struggles single moms endure. Plus, why men who despise single moms often have unresolved issues of their own. Let's shed light on these tough truths and call for the support and empathy single mothers deserve.

Chapters

00:00 The Disdain and Lack of Support for Single Moms 06:02 The Sole Responsibility of Single Moms 10:38 The Truth About the Difficulties of Motherhood 15:26 Men Who Hate Single Moms: Unresolved Issues 18:19 The Need for Support and Understanding for Single Moms

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In this episode I discuss how managing motherhood is more about moving through it and learning along the way. We don't really manage mothehood, motherhood manages us. Society often silences the struggles of mothers, but it's important to have support and express our true feelings about motherhood some days. It's okay to have regrets and struggles in motherhood. To navigate motherhood, it's important to let go of mom guilt, remove codependency, and embrace imperfections. Creating space and finding a community for moms who haven't had a great experience is crucial. Social media often portrays a perfect image of motherhood, but it's important to show self-compassion and prioritize self-care. Setting boundaries, managing time, and finding a supportive tribe are key to managing motherhood.

Chapters

00:00 Moving Through Motherhood: Learning Along the Way 02:30 Embracing Imperfections: Letting Go of Mom Guilt 05:09 Creating a Supportive Community 06:55 Prioritizing Self-Care: Nurturing Yourself as a Mom 08:47 Protecting Your Mental and Emotional Well-Being 11:06 Embracing Imperfection and Celebrating Wins

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In this episode, I discuss how some of us Gen X parents need to take accountability for how we may have gotten it wrong with our parenting and how we may have failed or enabled our children and the importance of setting boundaries with our children without feeling guilty.

I reflect on the independence and resilience of the Gen X generation and how we may have done our children a disservice by trying to be friends in lieu of parents, giving them more than they needed or deserved, wanting to be so understanding and giving them so much freedom and less discipline which is in stark comparison to how we were raised by our paretns.

This may have resulted in a sense of entitlement and a lack of resilience in the younger generation. We see the impacts of always being the safety net for our kids, we didn't teach them financial responsibility and there are negative consequences of enabling children. We should have been setting boundaries, because contrary to what societs says, boundaries are a loving act that promotes independence, resillence, respect, and appreciation. We made our suffering and struggles look too easy.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Gen X Parents: Failing & Enabling Our Adult Kids 02:22 The Independence and Resilience of the Gen X Generation 03:20 Enabling and the Consequences of Overextending 06:41 Creating a Sense of Entitlement 07:26 The Need to Set Boundaries and Overcoming Guilt 08:53 Being Unapologetic and Authentic in Setting Boundaries

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PART 2

Because of the feedback that I received, I went a little deeper on this conversation in hopes it will encourage someone.

Welcome to Part 2 of this very personal Mum's True Tea w/Kendall Lasha episode as I discuss grieving the loss of an already estranged parent further and share some of the ways that I have been able to process such a loss. Come take a look and listen at some insight on navigating this form of grief and loss. ABOUT "MUM'S TRUE TEA" PODCAST: Just in case you didn't know "MUM'S TRUE TEA" is the Podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought-provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood authentically, unapologetically, and without judgment. I'm your host, Kendall Lasha Williams. I wanted to create this community and safe space for moms who don't always have that warm and fuzzy feeling we're expected to have when it comes to motherhood.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Recap of Episode One 00:52 The Complexity of Grieving an Estranged Parent 02:18 Setting Boundaries and Dealing with Guilt 03:12 Exploring Personal Experiences and Emotions 06:00 Tools for Processing the Loss: Therapy and Writing 09:47 Self-Reflection and Finding Meaning in the Experience 10:15 Healing and Moving Forward 11:14 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Summary

On this very personal episode, I discuss the process of grieving the loss of an already estranged parent. This loss is a complex and emotional process. It is so important to allow yourself to grieve and process the emotions associated with losing a parent that was already gone from your life. It's a different pain when you have been abandoned by this parent and now they are gone. It's also important that you find healing and give yourself grace while navigating the loss of an estranged parent. They may have not been with us when we needed them, but I strongly believe they are with us now.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Processing the Loss of an Estranged Parent 01:48 The Absence of Father's Day Celebrations 05:56 Finding Comfort in the Belief of Parental Presence 07:25 Healing from the Absence and Abandonment

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Join me and my guest Nurse Practitioner Karin Hulon as we discuss perimenopause and menopause. We explore why there is a lack of conversation around these topics, particularly among black women, and the barriers that prevent women from seeking help and support. They also delve into the symptoms and changes that occur during perimenopause and menopause, including hormonal fluctuations, hot flashes, sleep disturbances, mood swings, weight changes, and vaginal dryness. The conversation highlights the importance of education, communication with partners and children, and finding effective treatments and support during this stage of life!

You don't want to miss this grown woman conversation! Tune in and listen to episodes sharing real life experiences authentically and unapologetically!

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and the Lack of Conversation 04:39 Understanding Perimenopause 08:12 Symptoms and Changes in Perimenopause 26:52 Transitioning to Menopause 31:04 Importance of Education and Communication

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Summary

This episode is a heartfelt apology and reflection on neglecting oneself and not showing self-love and appreciation. The host acknowledges the trauma, heartbreak, and pain caused by not recognizing one's worth and settling for mediocrity. They apologize for prioritizing others over oneself, staying in toxic environments, and tolerating disrespect. The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-love, and embracing one's own worth and journey.

Chapters

00:00 Apologizing for Neglecting Self-Love 03:13 Recognizing Worth and Stopping Settling 08:22 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Well-Being 11:22 Embracing Self-Love and Journey

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Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams

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Summary

In this conversation, the hosts discuss the stigma surrounding mental health in marginalized communities. They explore the misconceptions of mental illness, the impact of family beliefs and religion, and the cultural barriers faced when seeking mental health support. The guests emphasize the importance of seeking help and being open to therapy. They also discuss the challenges faced by marginalized communities in accessing mental health resources, such as lack of information and insurance coverage. The conversation highlights the need for advocacy and finding the right provider, as well as the importance of prioritizing oneself and taking accountability in the healing journey. The conversation explores the topic of mental health and therapy, discussing whether therapy has become a fad and the importance of open discussions with family and friends. The hosts share their personal experiences with trauma and the challenges of parenting. They also provide resources and support networks for individuals seeking mental health assistance. The conversation concludes with a reminder to prioritize self-care and seek help on one's personal journey towards healing.

Chapters

00:00 Breaking the Stigma: Mental Health in Marginalized Communities 03:59 The Impact of Family Beliefs and Religion on Mental Health 09:26 Challenges Faced by Marginalized Communities in Accessing Mental Health Resources 14:06 Advocating for Yourself: Finding the Right Provider 25:47 The Trend of Therapy and Mental Health Awareness 29:04 Developing New Habits on the Healing Journey 29:29 Open Discussions and Seeking Validation 35:39 Resources and Support Networks for Mental Health Assistance 37:07 Signs that Therapy is Working 38:13 The Weaponization of Therapy 40:05 Personal Experiences with Trauma and Mental Health 41:43 Parenting and Prioritizing Self-Care 45:44 Resources for Mental Health Assistance 49:51 Prioritizing Self-Care and Personal Healing

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams

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Summary

This episode explores the concept of finding grace for our parents. The host reflects on her own experiences with her estranged father and her relationship with her mother. She discusses the difference between forgiveness and grace, emphasizing the importance of understanding our parents as individuals and recognizing the challenges they faced. The host shares her journey of finding compassion, empathy, and forgiveness for her parents, and encourages listeners to do the same. The episode concludes with a reminder that finding grace for our parents is a personal journey that leads to healing.

Takeaways

Finding grace for our parents involves understanding them as individuals and recognizing the challenges they faced. Grace is different from forgiveness, as it extends kindness and compassion despite past actions. By finding grace for our parents, we can foster empathy, eliminate judgment, and pave the way for healing and reconciliation. Compassion and empathy create the opportunity to give grace and embrace imperfections, leading to true healing.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Reflecting on the 10-year anniversary of the host's father's passing 05:38 Eliminating Judgment and Fostering Empathy 12:16 Reflecting on the Host's Mother 16:31 Giving Grace and Paving the Way to Healing

Welcome to Mums True Tea, The podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood and life authentically, unapologetically and without judgment. I'm your host Kendall Lasha Williams

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Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, hosted by Kendall Lasha Williams, the topic of forced forgiveness is explored, particularly its toxic implications in family and societal contexts. Kendall challenges the common belief that forgiveness is a miracle cure for the wronged, arguing instead that it perpetuates cycles of harm and prevents genuine healing. The discussion delves into the pressures mothers face to forgive their children for toxic behavior, examining the unfair expectations and societal norms that invalidate their experiences and feelings. Through personal anecdotes and broader examples, Kendall critiques the idea of forgiveness as an obligatory moral exercise, advocating for freedom and self-care over forced reconciliation. The episode calls for a reevaluation of how forgiveness is approached, emphasizing the importance of supporting victims and allowing individuals to process forgiveness in their own time. Chapters 00:00 Welcome to Mum's True Tea Podcast 00:19 The Toxicity of Forced Forgiveness 03:54 The Unfair Expectations on Mothers 06:38 The Cycle of Toxic Forgiveness in Families 08:55 Finding Freedom Over Forgiveness 12:02 Steps Towards Genuine Forgiveness 14:40 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Takeaways

Forced forgiveness can perpetuate toxic cycles and hinder genuine healing. Mothers should not be expected to forgive their children regardless of the harm caused. Forgiveness should be on one's own time and not forced or rushed. Setting boundaries and finding true resolution are important before forgiving. Each person's journey to forgiveness is personal and should not be dictated by others.