My Life My Choice

Millions of people have tried it, most have a hard time getting it to work and others are unable to maintain it consistently.  Yet, all seem to be a little more than curious about the Law of attraction, even when all is said and done, most have said it doesn’t work.  In a recent blog I wrote for Coaches4coaches, I stated that The Laws of Attraction have been erroneously condensed down to The Law of Attraction.  Omitting the “s” to make the word law instead of laws, have given the wrong information and impression to millions of people on how conscious manifestation works. 

 It’s Laws; not law of attraction.  If you want to be able to consistently and consciously manifest what you want in your life you must have an understanding of what this all means.

In today’s show we will be discussing the Laws of Attraction verses the law of attraction and what this means for you and your ability to get what you want in life.

Join me, Dr Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we look at what a difference an “s” makes.

When you get out of a bad relationship, whether it was just plain and simply wrong, or mentally and or physically abusive, most women and some men know what they don’t want ever again.  In talking with women who have been victims of abuse, most will speak candidly about why they stayed as long as they did.  They’ll discuss the turning point that encouraged them to leave.  They all know categorically what they don’t want to happen in their next relationship.   But, as a choice expert and coach, one of the most startling things I discovered was that most of the women didn’t know what they wanted.  Yes, they had it down in regards to what they didn’t want to happen, but not what they want to happen for their lives, for there future and this can turn out to be problematic.

Join me, Dr Wendy Dearborne choice expert and coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we look beyond what happens after an abusive relationship.

Do you understand the Universal Law of Return? No! Do you really understand what this law means?  It's one of the fundamental laws of attraction that many people have a tendency to gloss over.  As a result return on that type of investment, leads to disastrous occurrences happening in their lives.  The Universal Law of Return is The Law of Attraction 101 and because it's so basic I feel that the raw potential and power of this law it is misunderstood or at the very least, underrated.

Join me, Dr Wendy Dearborne, choice expert and coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we look at the latent untapped power found in the Law of Return.

Have you ever asked God or your chosen deity for something, a sign, anything to let you know what you should do next?  And then waited and waited and waited, and then waited some more for an answer?  An answer that didn’t come, only to realize later that you may have missed it because of how events are unfolding in your life.  Did you know that the Universal Creator uses people, places and things to answer your requests?   So why do we miss out on the answers?   Answers which do come to us, yet we don’t seem to hear them.

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert as I explore why we may be missing out on some of the most important messages in our lives, and what to do to tune in so you’ll hear them.

For as long as man has known him/herself and continues to know him/herself, this burning question, “what is my spiritual pathway?” will to be asked for eons to come.  Spirituality.  Dictionary.com suggests that it means “the state or quality of being dedicated to God, religion, or spiritual things or values, esp as contrasted with material or immaterial things.” This word encompasses so much, and yet to define it is simply impossible, even when you look in a dictionary. Why is spirituality so hard to define?  Why are people continuously seeking a pathway to spirituality? 

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach & artist as we take a look at spirituality and our pathways to it.

Today’s show is about real talk, real situations and real lives.  Do I, don’t I? What to do.  What not to do. Love, marriage, death, birth, mistakes, nutrition, conscious awareness, spirituality, choices, drugs, divorce illness, relationships, joys, pains are all apart of living.  So we will share our understanding, knowledge and expertise.  We are going to, as I call it, “Picasso Out.”  We’ll be talking on many subjects as they intuitively pop up.

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we sit down and have a fireside chat about life and living it.

Somewhere there has been a huge disconnect between the food we eat and where it comes from.  We have lost the art and understand of the value food brings.  But more importantly we have disconnected from the fact that food by nature of its creation is sentient, making it just as spiritual as you and me.  Like all things including you, food was and has been created on purpose for a purpose.  From texture, to shape, to color, to how and where it is grown plays a vital part how we live our lives.  

                                                               "Your body doesn’t give you life: You give your body life."

Food isn’t only the purported building block of your life; the food you choose to eat influences the way in which you make your life choices.  And as everything you do for your life is predicated on “choice,” food then become an integral part of your choice making equation.

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne, choice expert and coach Olivia Lashley, expression coach and artist as we discuss The Spirituality of Food: The Lost Art of Eating

Setting life goals is all you hear about these days, but how do you know if you have set the right goal for yourself.

Part of achieving and succeeding in what you want in life is determined by the goals that you set for yourself or the end result that you want to happen.

Many people set goals and in reality they have not set the stage for success.  You may have set some goals for yourself and found that it felt a tad anticlimactic when the goal was achieved. "Is this feeling normal?  Yes!  Far more than you’d think."  So how do you set goals that will allow you to be successful in all areas of your life and not experience that anticlimactic feeling?

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice Expert and coach and Olivia Lashley Expression Coach and artist as we look way in which to set your life goals.

It happens all the time, images in black and white or full Technicolor surge to the forefront of your mind making you feel like screaming, crying and curling up into a tiny ball. Words, sounds, the memory of smells, the visceral feelings that you felt, the knowing within your scope of understanding that you know, the visions of past events that you’d rather keep buried or locked in the recesses of your mind.  New and old hurts that you’ve dissected and then catalogued for some sort of future reference…if needed.   The problem is, these catalogued events seem to magically escape the mental lock and key and surge to the forefront of your mind replaying like a horror movie starring you.  This is what I call going down into the rabbit hole of Alice’s wonder-land. 

I wonder if I said this or I wonder if I did that.  These innocent questions start a chain reaction that compound.  And before you know it, somehow you’ve slipped and the perceived negativity that has happened in the past now runs rampant around your head unchecked, growing in power.  And as a result it becomes the focal point in your mind.  Your perceived negativity can be all consuming, yet it carries within it the answers that you are seeking.  The true understanding that you are wanting, and ironically, the magic you need to move you forward.

Join me, Dr Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach as we look at the negativity and the benefits that it brings.

Finding a new perspective for an old or new troubling situation can be a challenge.  It’s a challenge, because looking at the situation in the same way, from the same vantage point, doesn’t inspire new and creative thinking.   To create a new perspective, you have to take a step away from the situation.  This will enable you to look at it from a slightly different vantage point, or at the very least move around it.  Whatever you choose to do, the requirement is for you to find an answer to your troubling situation. And to achieve that you must do something different.   

You may be familiar with the phrase, “I need to take a step back from the situation so I can clear my head!”  What does that really mean to you?  Outside of you wanting change, there is within that driving force something compelling you to do something different.

You may have thought to solve your problem that you must change the attitudes, beliefs mindsets etc. of the players involved.  Changing or manipulating people, places and things to your way of thinking.   However, that doesn’t work.  In today’s show we’ll be talking about how to find a new perspective and then act on it!

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we look at finding a new perspective.