My Life My Choice

Triage is a medical term that is used to prioritize the urgency in which a medical situations need to be dealt with. This entails visualizing what the end result will be if action isn’t taken based upon what is happening NOW.   Determination of urgency is measured using a prioritizing scale of 1- 3 or 3 - 1.

 Requires immediate attention

Can be delayed briefly

Minimal intervention needed.  

The term triage comes from the French verb trier, meaning to separate, sift or select.  Using this methodology you can apply the basic principle to your life and areas of your life that need to be looked at.  By creating your own personal triage, you can start looking at what needs to be addressed and then you get to choose in which order it’s done.

Using the scale from 3 - 1 verses 1 - 3 closes the margin for error.  How?  By separating and selecting what’s not urgent, prevents you from being blindsided, by something you thought was a priority, only to find out later and to your detriment that it wasn’t.

Applying a personal life coaching triage to your life isn’t about pointing out what’s wrong or your perceived failures.  It is about the ability to put you directly on the pulse beat of what needs to be done so that you can get to your goal. It allows you to make choices in the best interest of self with speed and efficiency.   So, what’s your life looking like and what needs your attention first?

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we take a look at how to prioritize your life.

Saying NO can be the hardest two letter that you can ever utter, and the most empowering.  Saying no to your loved ones, to your children, husband and family and friends is monumentally challenging. Saying no to your employer and work colleagues is challenging also, but from a different stand point, but challenging none the less.  Saying no to people asking for charitable donations and no to the destitute, displaced and homeless asking for money, while standing on the corner with a hand written sign, has another set of challenges, all of which play havoc with your emotions.  Saying no to certain things can be a no-brainer.  No, you cannot have my left and right kidney!  No! I’m not giving you your car keys; you might not be aware of this, but you’re drunk.

Within all of this, the irony here is, that the person you find it hardest to utter those two syllables to, and mean it, is yourself.  Saying no can hurt you too, because you know that it’s not what the other person wants to hear and they're hurting. There is nothing that you can do about their hurt, other than to be truthful in who you are.  By empowering you; you empower them.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expressions coach and artist as we explore empowerment through saying no.

This is a fact of life, which sometimes means, you have to implement with the ones that you love.  Within a relationship, family, friends etc sometimes, distance works best.  This should not be interpreted by you to mean that you won't and don't care.  Putting space, even mental space, in between you and people, places and things can sometimes be the wisest course of action for maintaining your sanity and health...and the relationship!

Many people find this hard to do for a variety of reasons, however, I have found primarily, it’s because they feel guilty or a sense of duty that compels them to be up close and personal with whomever.   Sometimes you need to love the ones that you love from a distance it’s as simply complex as that.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expressions coach and artist as we talk about loving the ones that we love from a distance.

"Why can't I be rich?  I hate having a cash flow problem" is something that many people have said in jest.  Although in jest,  the underlying spark that created the smoke screen was very, very, very real. The feeling of lack is real. If the law of attraction is right in I can have what I want.  I can manifest what I believe and dream of.  If the Universal Law is correct and all the other spiritual doctorines that are so casually bandied about, why do I have a constant cash flow problem?

Understand why you don't have the funds that you are wanting is easy, it's what to do about it that may present a challenge.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expressions coach and artist as we look at what you can do about creating the wealth that you are wanting.

“I didn’t think my marriage or my relationship would be like this or turned out like that,” are common phases that I hear, and, I hear them far too often.  Many people enter into an intimate long term, committed relationship expecting to experience, until death do they part, that first, “OMG! Sukie-Sukie now” high.  You know, that all encompassing zing you felt when you locked eyes  and lips on each other that set your pheromones pumping and hormones jumping.   It’s that unnamable thing that attracted you to him/her in the beginning.  Like all things in creation there are ebbs and flows and your relationship, whether married or committed, is not exempt from life’s natural momentum.  The name of this game is whether you can weather the storms and build the type of long term relationship you are wanting. 

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne as we do a little real talk about you, expectations and your committed relationships.

When life happens it can leave you feeling battered, bruised and to be totally frank, feeling broken. This can stem from divorce, betrayal, settling for less, separation, death, overweight, loss of income etc. 

Note to self: There is a difference between feeling like it and it actually being that way. 

Life does, in its infinite wisdom creates space so the soul can heal and know and expand and grow.  This is what life is all about. The experiences you create and what you do with those experiences.  Everything that happens for your life is supporting you in the creation or manifestation of what you say you are wanting.

The day when you wake up asking yourself, “WTF has happened to my life” is when your sub conscious desires have come into the awakening of your full conscious mind.  Its arrival means it’s time for you to make a conscious choice about your life!

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne, Choice Expert and Life coach as we explore what this awakening means

Soul mate!  Having a clear understanding of what this term means can help put your life into perspective.  When thinking in terms of finding their soul mate, many people are looking for their dream version or mental movie of Mr. or Mrs. Perfect.  Ironically, for most, finding Mr. or Mrs. Perfect remains an elusive dream.  It can also mean that people settle for less than they are wanting in a relationship or that they choose to remain single.  From a spiritual standpoint would Mr. or Mrs. Perfect be your true soul mate?  And under your current belief system, who said that you are only eligible for one soul mate per life time? 

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach as we explore the meaning of soul mate and what that can mean for you.

Your internal dialog isn’t always kind when critiquing the many things that you feel have gone wrong or right in your life.   In fact, a lot of the time the dialog is downright negative, even when it’s couched with fake loving ownership.   Not only is this not helpful in finding solutions to your problems and answers to the question that you have about your life and where to go with your life, it also creates other things that we must deal with.  Namely lack, limitation, fear, illness, anger, stagnation etc.   

Today’s show has been inspired by an article I recently read, written by Madison Sonnier: 7 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough.  In our show today we will be discussing 10 self coaching points that will remind you that you have been and always will be more than enough.  How to implement them and the benefits you may experience.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and life coach and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist as we explore these 10 points.

Many people invest a lot of time, effort and money in building their retirement plan or 401K.  Many spend a lot of time systematically building for a future that will eventually cease to exist.  This is a wonderful thing to do, because if you are not worried about finances and the financial “how am I going to’s” in life, you are free you to explore another portfolio, which is equal in value to your current retirement plan or 401K.  Your spiritual portfolio is your exit strategy from this dimension called life.  Building it takes time, effort, strategic planning, understanding and of course the risks associated with your choices.  Building your spiritual portfolio is all about where you choose to place your energy once you've decided what you are wanting to experience.  And of course, the return on your investment, ROI that you are expecting. Choice=Risk=ROI.  Bring to your awareness that you can create your spiritual portfolio that is just as powerful as your financial portfolio is fun, exciting and rewarding.

Join me Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley as we explore, building your spiritual portfolio.

It has been written; it has been said; you have been told; it has been shown to you by you that “Ye are Gods.”  No matter the religion, the spiritual doctrine from fundamental to new thought, to Metaphysical to New Age there is one message that is the same.  And that message is that you are one with God or your chosen deity.  That fact, and it is a fact that you have come from or have been created by God or your chosen deity makes you a part of your creator.  Just like your parents and your children, or things that you have created, they are a part of you.  No they are not you, yet they are a part of you that can never be separated.  You are a part of that, which has created you, that which has supported you in coming into being or form.  And that gives you the right, to stand up and claim your heritage, and know that Ye Are Gods.

Join me, Dr. Wendy Dearborne choice expert and Olivia Lashley expression coach and artist for what will be a thought provoking episode of “My Life My Choice.”

Psalm 82:6 “I have said, Ye are Gods; and all of you are children of the most High.”