By John Polo & Carolyn Gower
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What are limiting beliefs?
Where do they come from?
How do they stop me from doing what I'd really love to do?
How do they impact my grief?
How can I change them?
We answer all these questions and more in this insightful episode about how limiting beliefs and old wounds can shape our lives and also our grief.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
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The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books
AUS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books
UK:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books
GERMANY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books
FRANCE:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres
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The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros
ITALY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri
NETHERLANDS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken
POLAND:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki
SWEDEN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
JAPAN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
CANADA:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
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How would you feel if your loss and grief wasn't openly acknowledged, and you were forced to grieve in private without the support that other grievers receive?
In this episode, we introduce you to Ally, who has been living with disenfranchised grief since her boyfriend died in 2020.
We felt it was important to shed some light on this type of grief to help others have a better understanding of it.
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
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$4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording. $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters.
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This week we have a very important conversation around returning to work after the loss of someone you love.
We discuss the ridiculous amount of bereavement leave that most workplaces offer, how you may feel emotionally, and the expectations you may put on yourself. We share our own personal experiences, as well as those of some of our listeners, and suggest some things that you and your workplace can do to make the transition back to work a little gentler.
Feel free to share this episode with other grievers and workplaces. We really need to ensure that grievers feel more supported in their workplace.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
US:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books
AUS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books
UK:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books
GERMANY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books
FRANCE:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres
SPAIN:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros
ITALY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri
NETHERLANDS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken
POLAND:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki
SWEDEN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
JAPAN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
CANADA:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share
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MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following:
$4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording. $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters.
Visit johnpolocoaching.com to become a My Person Died Too supporter.
In this episode we introduce you to a truly amazing woman.
Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She is an award-winning writer and internationally popular sex educator specializing in sex and aging.
Her books include Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after
At age 80, Joan Price continues to talk out loud about senior sex – partnered or solo – and about grief and creative aging. Find her at www.joanprice.com.
A bit more about Joan's wonderful book that we discussed throughout this episode. This is such a valuable resource for widowed people of all ages.
Sex After Grief: NavigatingYour Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved
Sex is complicated enough when it’s easy—but when we’re in grief, it’s especially mysterious and confusing.
Joan Price’s award-winning Sex After Grief: Navigating
Please don't forget to rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
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When someone we love dies, it can really change the way we view the world.
Whereas once we may have been somewhat naive, we now know that bad stuff CAN and DOES happen... and that your entire world can change in the blink of an eye.
It's therefore understandable that grief can come with a heightened sense of anxiety, a state of hypervigilance where you are always on red alert waiting for something else to happen.
In this episode we discuss some of the most common causes and types of anxiety that we've come across in grief, and some things that are helpful and not so helpful in living with it.
Don't forget to rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
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A lot of people will resist setting boundaries because it's too uncomfortable and they don't want to let others down.
But what if you're letting yourself down and are neglecting your own self-care?
If you don't set healthy boundaries, you may constantly find yourself doing things others want you to do, rather than what you want to do, or putting up with things that don't sit right with you.
This can often lead to resentment of the other person.
Boundaries are even more important to have in place when you're grieving or experiencing a challenging time.
This episode may help you to look at boundaries in a different way, and to feel more comfortable when using them.
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
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MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following:
$4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording. $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters.
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It's a question that will sometimes cross your mind when you're widowed and might be starting to consider dating again...
"But if I re-partner, who will I be with in heaven?"
In this episode, John and Carolyn discuss their own personal thoughts on this topic, and how this question has affected some of their clients' decisions on whether to date after loss.
Please note that we are simply providing our own personal thoughts and beliefs on this sensitive topic and are not trying to say that this is the truth, nor should be for everyone. We respect everyone's personal beliefs, and expect you to decide what feels right for you.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
US:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books
AUS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books
UK:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books
GERMANY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books
FRANCE:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres
SPAIN:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros
ITALY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri
NETHERLANDS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken
POLAND:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki
SWEDEN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
JAPAN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
CANADA:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share
WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING?
MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following:
$4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording. $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters.
Visit johnpolocoaching.com to become a My Person Died Too supporter.
This week we introduce you to a very special guest, who is also one of our My Person Died Too Facebook Community members.
Connor Cogan was happily married to his beautiful wife Kate, with whom he shares three amazing kids. Life was going great, until it wasn't.
Connor shares his heartfelt stories of loss, grief, solo parenting, and learning to live again without his beloved Kate by his side.
Connor speaks with raw vulnerability about how different his life looks now, the ways he teaches their kids about grief, and the importance of raising them the way he and Kate had planned.
Connor's words are sure to inspire you.
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share
WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING?
MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following:
$4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording. $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters.
Visit johnpolocoaching.com to become a My Person Died Too supporter.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
US:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books
AUS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books
UK:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books
GERMANY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books
FRANCE:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres
SPAIN:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros
ITALY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri
NETHERLANDS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken
POLAND:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki
SWEDEN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
JAPAN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
CANADA:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca
We are back with the first episode of 2024.
This week we talk about what it feels like carrying grief into a new year. This can be one of those sneaky times when grief unexpectedly hits hard.
We both share some of the ways our grief has changed over the years, with the recent 8 year anniversary of John's wife Michelle's passing, and as Carolyn approaches the 7 year anniversary of her husband Tony's death.
We finish up with our "ins and outs" for 2024. The things we want to leave behind and the things we want to start or do more of.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
US:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books
AUS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books
UK:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books
GERMANY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books
FRANCE:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres
SPAIN:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros
ITALY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri
NETHERLANDS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken
POLAND:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki
SWEDEN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
JAPAN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
CANADA:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share
WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING?
MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following:
$4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording. $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters.
Visit johnpolocoaching.com to become a My Person Died Too supporter.
Post-Traumatic Growth is best described as the positive psychological changes that some individuals
In this episode we discuss the answers to the following questions and share some our our own personal experiences.
What is Post-Traumatic Growth?
Does everyone experience Post-Traumatic Growth?
What are the personality traits of those who experience Post-Traumatic Growth?
How do you increase your chances of Post-Traumatic Growth?
Can Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Post-Traumatic Growth co-exist?
What does the term "finding meaning" mean, and what does it have to do with Post-Traumatic Growth?
This is our last episode for 2023. We'd like to thank you all for your support this year, and we look forward to being back for our next season on February 20th, 2024.
Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order:
US:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Amazon.com: Books
AUS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.com.au: Books
UK:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Amazon.co.uk: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books
GERMANY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.de: Books
FRANCE:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.fr: Livres
SPAIN:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.es: Libros
ITALY:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.it: Libri
NETHERLANDS:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.nl: Boeken
POLAND:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Amazon.pl: Książki
SWEDEN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
JAPAN:
Amazon.co.jp: The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers : Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: Foreign Language Books
CANADA:
The Stupid Sh*t People Say to Grievers: Polo, John, Gower, Carolyn: 9798373054041: Books - Amazon.ca
We would really appreciate if you could rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists.
We'd love to help as many grievers as possible through this hardest time of their lives.
Visit our websites: carolyngowercoaching.com & johnpolocoaching.com to learn more about our work.
For added support in a caring community, join our FREE Facebook Group by clicking here : https://www.facebook.com/groups/696138811624151/?ref=share
WOULD YOU LIKE TO HELP US KEEP OUR PODCAST GOING?
MONTHLY SUPPORTERS receive the following:
$4.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude for your support & buy a coffee for John and a green tea for Carolyn to keep us going while we’re recording. $9.99 USD - Receive our deepest gratitude PLUS extra perks that will only be available to our supporters.
Visit johnpolocoaching.com to become a My Person Died Too supporter.
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