In this episode of "Sex Advice for Seniors," I’m thrilled to welcome back a remarkable advocate for the sexual rights of disabled individuals. The last time we spoke, Maria Cyndi had recently launched an Instagram channel and a Substack. Unfortunately, she felt compelled to shut them down after facing harassment and unwanted attention from individuals fetishizing her disability. However, she has now courageously decided to relaunch her platforms, fighting back against prejudice and speaking her truth unapologetically.

Maria’s prominence as one of the few women writing about sexual pleasure and disability has inspired her to dedicate more time to her craft. She’s now focusing on her writing, contributing guest posts to prominent blogs, and participating in an upcoming anthology.

Join me as we explore the challenges Maria has faced, her unwavering determination to reclaim her body and identity, and her invaluable advice for disabled individuals navigating their sexuality. Maria’s story is a powerful testament to the importance of understanding sexual well-being and disability, and her voice is one we all need to hear.

Chapters

01:02 Maria Cyndi's Journey into Advocacy

01:55 Challenges of Online Advocacy

05:14 Writing and Contributing to Anthologies

08:34 Transitioning to Full-Time Writing

10:21 Navigating Social Media and Community

13:47 Reclaiming Pleasure and Overcoming Trauma

15:31 The Impact of Education on Sexuality

17:43 Reclaiming Identity and Intimacy

20:34 The Ongoing Journey of Healing and Communication

22:20 Navigating Relationships and Disability

24:28 The Importance of Open Communication

26:10 Exploring Sexuality and Consent

29:18 Finding the Right Tools for Pleasure

30:47 Breaking Stereotypes: Disabled People and Sex

33:32 Media Representation of Disabled Sexuality

36:23 Creating Inclusive Spaces for All

39:00 The Need for Diverse Narratives in Media

Now’s here the bit about me:

Hi, I’m Suzanne — the proud host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a 365-days-a-year champion for the right of older folks to experience sexual pleasure. No matter your age, size, shape, or the state of your knees, hips, back, you should feel free to embrace your sexuality. If you don’t wanna have sex anymore, that’s cool. But if you do? You absolutely shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.

I’m on a mission to smash one of life’s last, stubborn taboos: the idea that older people can’t be sexy or sexual. SCREW THAT.

Every week, come rain or shine, I record at least one podcast where I sit down with an expert on sex, dating, or relationships. Let’s just say I’ve met some seriously cool people and learned a lot. (I’m not saying I deserve an honorary degree, but if someone wants to give me one, I’ll graciously accept. Just putting that out there).

My podcasts are free for all listeners, but for my discerning readers who enjoy a little extra spice in their lives, I offer paywalled posts. These juicy extras might include sex toy reviews (yes, I test them all myself, so don’t say I don’t go the extra mile), personal stories from my sexploits, or deep dives into more intimate topics.

If you’re a paid subscriber, you’ll also receive my 32-page booklet, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life,’ and gain access to a private chat room where me and my readers swap stories, share tips, and ask questions. All this for what I think is a very reasonable £6.99/month—or, if you’re feeling savvy, you can snag the Senior Discount with an annual subscription at £49.99/year.

So, whether you’re here for the laughs, the learning, or just the libido boost, welcome aboard.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

“Love the honesty and humour and the vulnerability too.”

“I like that you acknowledge so openly and joyously that older people can still want and need sexual satisfaction. And that it can be better and more satisfying than when you were younger! But we also need open, honest, non judgemental advice in order to get the most out of sex in later years.”

Sex Advice for Seniors is a proud reader-supported publication. Every single penny goes toward helping me continue to serve up expert advice and wisdom from some of the world’s leading voices on sex and ageing.

Around the same time my Advantages of Age colleague Rose Rouse and I were herding together amazing women for our Fabulous & Flamboyant Bus Tour, another trailblazer, Maryjane Fahey was kicking off her own movement called Glorious Broads. Armed with equal parts chutzpah and charm, she prowled the streets of New York, boldly and brazenly stopping any woman who looked remotely interesting. Her mission? To get their story, snap their photo, and showcase them on her website, Glorious Broads (she’s now also on Substack).

Her goal is as audacious as her approach. As she puts it: “To be the home of funny, unconventional, uncompromising broads over 50… I want to inspire women to say, ‘I WANNA BE THAT BROAD’ — and watch fear-mongering about age go extinct in my lifetime. Let roaring into age prevail.”

And honestly, can we just take a minute to stand up and cheer for that? Because who doesn’t want to roar into age like a rock star instead of tiptoeing in like a timid church mouse?

During our chat, we covered just about everything under the sun—like the rollercoaster ride of navigating love and relationships after 50, why confidence is the ultimate power move (at any age, but especially when you’re older), and how to keep your libido alive and kicking, no matter what your age.

Maryjane shared with me a great quote from one of her Glorious Broads about being older and trying to get yourself going again if you feel out of practice with sex. She said: “I may not be able to make alll the positions I used to, but my mouth still works.”

00:00 Introduction to Glorious Broads and Positive Ageing03:49 Reinvention and Embracing Change07:15 Navigating Love and Relationships After 5009:30 Common Misconceptions About Aging11:34 Sexuality and Libido in Older Women15:40 Confidence and Attitude Towards Aging20:26 Barriers to Enjoying a Great Sex Life28:45 The Importance of Self-Care and Health30:18 Embracing Visibility and Rejecting Invisibility

Now’s here the bit about me:

Hi, I’m Suzanne — the proud host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a 365-days-a-year champion for the right of older folks to experience sexual pleasure. No matter your age, size, shape, or the state of your knees, hips, back, you should feel free to embrace your sexuality. If you don’t wanna have sex anymore, that’s cool. But if you do? You absolutely shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.

I’m on a mission to smash one of life’s last, stubborn taboos: the idea that older people can’t be sexy or sexual. SCREW THAT.

Every week, come rain or shine, I record at least one podcast where I sit down with an expert on sex, dating, or relationships. Let’s just say I’ve met some seriously cool people and learned a lot. (I’m not saying I deserve an honorary degree, but if someone wants to give me one, I’ll graciously accept. Just putting that out there).

My podcasts are free for all listeners, but for my discerning readers who enjoy a little extra spice in their lives, I offer paywalled posts. These juicy extras might include sex toy reviews (yes, I test them all myself, so don’t say I don’t go the extra mile), personal stories from my sexploits, or deep dives into more intimate topics.

If you’re a paid subscriber, you’ll also receive my 32-page booklet, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life,’ and gain access to a private chat room where me and my readers swap stories, share tips, and ask questions. All this for what I think is a very reasonable £6.99/month—or, if you’re feeling savvy, you can snag the Senior Discount with an annual subscription at £49.99/year.

So, whether you’re here for the laughs, the learning, or just the libido boost, welcome aboard.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

“Love the honesty and humour and the vulnerability too.”

“I like that you acknowledge so openly and joyously that older people can still want and need sexual satisfaction. And that it can be better and more satisfying than when you were younger! But we also need open, honest, non judgemental advice in order to get the most out of sex in later years.”

Sex Advice for Seniors is a proud reader-supported publication. Every single penny goes toward helping me continue to serve up expert advice and wisdom from some of the world’s leading voices on sex and ageing.

This week, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Dakini Leah, founder of Living in Tantra and a true ray of sunshine from Grand Junction, Colorado (even if she admits she misses tea with clotted cream).

We dove headfirst into the world of Tantra—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it’s definitely not just about long orgasms or bizarre religious rituals, thanks in no small part, to its association with Sting. Here’s a sneak peek at what we covered:

* Erectile Dysfunction: Or as I prefer to call them, “unreliable erections.” We explored how Tantra can help men embrace this stage of life without shame, and even turn it into an opportunity for deeper intimacy.

* Soft Lingam Techniques: We got into the nitty-gritty of why even a non-erect penis is still an incredible source of pleasure - Leah calls it ‘the wand of light’.

* Libido Changes in Women: We talked about how midlife doesn’t mean the end of sensuality—in fact, it’s just the beginning of a richer, more radiant connection with yourself and your partner.

* Grieving the Old You: Both Leah and I opened up about the process of letting go of who we used to be and embracing the new, more self-assured versions of ourselves. We agreed it’s not always easy, but it’s so worth it.

This episode is packed with practical tips, heartfelt moments, and lots of laughs (because let’s face it, sex after 50 is full of surprises). Plus, Leah shares free tantric exercises you can try tonight - be sure and check out her website.

Grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), settle in, and enjoy our chat!

00:00 Introduction to Tantra and Personal Journeys

02:48 The Essence of Tantra: Beyond Sexuality

05:39 Tantra for Midlife: Embracing Change and Sensuality

08:26 Unreliable Erections: A Tantric Perspective

11:23 Navigating Libido Changes in Women

14:24 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Relationships

17:01 Exploring Joy and Connection in Relationships

19:29 The Role of Tantra in Aging Gracefully

22:19 Grieving and Embracing New Selves

25:19 Conclusion: The Journey of Tantra and Self-Acceptance

On this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with the brilliant Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, author of Late Love: Mating in Maturity. We dove into everything from relationships after 50, to why women are leading the "gray divorce" trend, to the surprising ways men and women experience this stage of life differently.

This stage of life—what Avivah calls Q3—isn’t about decline. It’s about reinvention, exploration, and finally putting yourself first. Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, it’s about finding what works for you.

And for those of you who feel like the dating pool at this age is too small, just remember: It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. There are good ones out there—you just have to know what you want and go for it.

If you’re curious about how to navigate love, sex, and relationships in later life, this episode is a must-listen. Avivah and I covered so much ground, and I promise you’ll walk away feeling inspired (and maybe even ready to shake things up in your own life).

You can buy Avivah’s book: Late Love: Mating in Maturity here.

Avivah’s website is here.

Thanks for listening, and let me know what you think!

00:00 Introduction to Late Love

02:54 The Journey of Finding Love in Later Life

05:37 The Impact of Divorce on Women

08:30 Redefining Relationships in Midlife

11:34 Sex and Relationships in Later Life

14:09 The Quest for Happiness and Self-Discovery

16:56 Gender Dynamics in Ageing

20:00 Challenges in Finding Love

23:04 The Role of Confidence in New Relationships

25:46 Navigating the Dating Landscape

28:39 The Importance of Self-Love

31:28 The Gendered Experience of Leaving Relationships

34:25 Conclusion: Embracing New Possibilities

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex

f you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think

When I first heard about The Phoenix, I wasn’t entirely sure what to expect. The name alone conjures images of grandeur—something mythical, rising from the ashes. Turns out, that’s pretty fitting. It’s a device designed to breathe new life into men’s sexual health, and Dustin Wolff, the co-founder of Launch Medical, joined me to explain how it all works.

Dustin is one of those people you warm to immediately—enthusiastic, knowledgeable, and genuinely motivated by a desire to help people. He explained how his journey began in a wellness clinic in Los Angeles, where he saw countless men struggling with performance issues. The solution at the time was in-clinic sound wave treatments, but they were expensive, awkward, and not exactly accessible to everyone. That’s when Dustin started to wonder: could this technology be brought into the home? And so The Phoenix was born.

The concept is simple but fascinating: soundwaves break down plaque buildup in blood vessels, improving blood flow and addressing one of the root causes of erectile dysfunction. It’s a non-invasive treatment, safe to use at home, and—importantly—avoids the embarrassment of a clinical setting. Dustin described it as “a tool in your toolkit,” emphasising that it’s not a magic fix but part of a broader commitment to health and wellness. Think of it like going to the gym—but for your… well, you get the idea.

One thing that stood out was the range of people using The Phoenix. It’s not just for older men with erectile dysfunction—Dustin mentioned younger men in their 30s and 40s, even biohackers and fitness enthusiasts, who are using it to stay ahead of the game. It’s about optimisation, performance, and, ultimately, confidence.

Of course, there are challenges. Marketing a legitimate medical device for sexual health isn’t easy in a world where taboos are still alive and well. Dustin shared that even platforms like Shark Tank weren’t willing to feature the device because of its “adult” nature. It’s frustrating, especially when you consider how essential this kind of innovation is.

We also spoke about the bigger picture—how The Phoenix fits into a holistic approach to wellness. Diet, exercise, and overall health are all part of the equation. Dustin admitted he’s not a saint (he’s partial to pizza and ice cream on Sundays), but he emphasised the importance of balance. It’s not just about treating symptoms; it’s about fostering long-term health and vitality.

The Phoenix is more than a device—it’s part of a larger shift in how we think about aging, intimacy, and wellbeing. And while the road ahead might be challenging for Dustin and his team, it’s clear they’re making a real impact. If nothing else, The Phoenix is helping men regain confidence and connection in their relationships, and that’s something we can all celebrate.

For those curious, I’d recommend checking out their website. It’s a fascinating innovation, and who knows? It might just be the spark you—or someone you know—needs.

Launch Medical are offering Sex Advice for Seniors Listeners $100 off the Phoenix if you use code SUZ100. Click here.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health Technology

02:59 The Phoenix Device: Concept and Development

06:03 Understanding the Treatment Protocol

09:08 The Importance of Overall Health

11:59 Cost Comparison: Phoenix vs. Clinic Treatments

15:03 Marketing Challenges in Sexual Health

18:04 Insurance and Regulatory Challenges

18:39 Navigating Regulatory Challenges in Health Tech

21:49 The Rise of Preventative Medicine

24:01 The Phoenix: A Tool for Sexual Health

27:29 Combining Technologies for Optimal Results

30:12 Pioneering a New Era in Home Health Devices

If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”

“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”

I’ve known Sam Evans, owner of sexual pleasure shop JoDivine.com for nearly 20 years, back to when she first launched her shop with her husband, and gifted me a toy to try out and review on my first blog, suzanneportnoy.com.

Since then, Sam has become a popular spokesperson on social media, advocating for women’s sexual health, especially during one’s menopausal years. As a former nurse, she has more knowledge than many others in the sex toy industry, and as a result, she receives hundreds of enquiries from women who are confused or received poor information when struggling with menopausal conditions such as vaginal atrophy, recurrent UTIs, low libido. In response, she has written numerous articles related to women’s and men’s sexual health, which you can read on the JoDivine website.

I was keen to catch up with Sam to dive into the often-overlooked topics of menopause, sexual health, and the importance of quality sexual wellness products. We discussed the challenges faced by menopausal women, the significance of vaginal estrogen, and the latest innovations in sex toys.

Our conversation emphasised the need for awareness regarding product ingredients and the importance of community education in navigating sexual health.

Sam is offering Sex Advice for Seniors subscribers a discount on any products in the store:

Your 10% discount code is SAS210 (£5 minimum spend on full priced products excluding P&P) ENDS 25/8/25

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:55 Menopause and Sexual Health

05:58 Vaginal Estrogen and Its Importance

09:56 Sex Toy Innovations and Trends

12:03 Navigating Sexual Health Products

19:58 The Importance of Ingredient Awareness

26:07 Community Engagement and Education

If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”

“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”

Imago Relationship Theory claims we all have a mental "dating app" in our subconscious where the algorithm is secretly set to "parental lookalike mode."

Essentially, we swipe right on people who remind us of our parents—because why not add a sprinkle of childhood trauma to the romance cocktail, right?

Shan Marchant is a couples therapist and relationship expert, who you might recognise from the BBC’s Point of View, or her writing for Metro.

She uses Imago Relationship Therapy, after witnessing its ability to repair and revive her own 13+ year relationship.

During our conversation we delve into why we often choose partners who resemble one or both of our parents as these familiar traits spark chemistry, but the twist is that we’re not just looking for love; we’re signing up for a self-improvement bootcamp. According to Harville Hendrix and his partner Helen, who invented Imago, relationships are less about happily-ever-after and more about healing those childhood wounds.

So, if your partner seems oddly familiar, congratulations—you’ve matched with your Imago! Time for the work to begin…

You can find Shan here: https://www.shanmerchant.com/

If you enjoy our conversation, let me know!

00:00 Introduction to Imago Therapy and Its Concepts

02:55 Navigating Power Struggles in Relationships

06:13 The Importance of Prioritising Your Partner

08:48 Recognising Relationship Patterns and Taking Action

11:56 Reigniting Desire and Intimacy Over Time

14:57 Understanding Infidelity and Its Implications

18:11 The Role of Couples Therapy in Modern Relationships

20:59 Building Emotional Intelligence in Relationships

23:56 The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Affection

26:57 Conclusion and Resources for Couples

If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”

“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”

Austin Cresap is therapist specialising in sex therapy and sex education in Seattle, Washington, and Hawaii.

In this conversation, she shared some fantastic ideas and practical tips for making intimacy easier, more playful and that takes the pressure out of who initiates sex. She talked about using a secret signal, like a coffee cup, to indicate interest in intimacy. Austin also introduced the "No, but…" approach, as a way of overcoming the challenge of mismatched libidos - a more thoughtful way to reject an act without rejecting your partner, keeping the connection intact.

For me, preparation is a big part of intimacy. Whether it’s putting on something that makes me feel attractive, doing my hair, or just mentally getting into the mood, it’s all part of the process. I also made the case for scheduling intimacy and we discussed why it’s not unromantic. As we discussed, we schedule everything else in life, so why not prioritise time for connection?

What really resonated with me was how creativity can transform intimacy. Whether it’s playful signals like the coffee cup, role-playing, or simply planning ahead, it’s all about keeping things fresh and fun. As Austin pointed out, these approaches help couples navigate busy lives and different arousal styles, making intimacy less about spontaneity and more about meaningful connection.

You can find Austin at:

http://www.icameheretotalktherapy.com

00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors

01:54 Exploring Intimacy and Nonverbal Cues

12:20 Understanding Female Hormones and Sexuality

19:33 Cultural Perspectives on Aging and Sexuality

26:00 The Pressure of Performance in Sexual Relationships

30:10 Creative Approaches to Intimacy

If you enjoyed our conversation, let me know! I love to hear from my listeners (and it doesn’t happen often enough).

If you’ve found any of the tips on this or any of my shows helpful, a review on iTunes would go a very long way.

If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”

“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”

One of the perks of my job is having the opportunity to try out a multitude of sex toys, many of which made it into my booklet and the people behind their creation.

Suki Dunham is the co-founder of OhMiBod, one of my sponsors, and is a pioneer in a predominantly male industry. During our conversation, we talk about her early days as a sex tech entrepreneur, the challenges of marketing sexual health products and the future of sex toys, especially around the integration of AI.

I’m a great believer that sex toys are there to enhance sexual pleasure and aren’t in competition with penises and vaginas but rather a way to increase stimulation, especially at an age when both women and men may find it difficult to orgasm.

All the OhMiBod products are incredibly well made and safe, and there are even toys such as the LoveLife Rev that Suki has designed especially for people with arthritis who may find more traditional toys challenging to grip.

Suki is offering Sex Advice for Seniors followers: USE CODE SAFS20 for 20% off of Lovelifetoys.com.

If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”

“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”

Indigo Stray Conger has been a therapist since 2008 and has completed over a decade of therapeutic training. She is one of less than ten AASECT certified sex therapists at a supervisory level in the state of Colorado.

During our conversation, we delve into what somatic psychotherapy entails and also the role of EMDR in trauma healing, and the challenges of intimacy in relationships.

As we discuss, trauma can turn up in relationships in many forms can impact on both the psychological and physical barriers to intimacy, which can prevent singles and couples from fully exploring the many ways to experience sexual pleasure.

EMDR is a tool I have used myself to try and overcome phobias and also behaviours that don’t serve me well. If you’re unfamiliar with the technique, EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is most commonly used to treat PTSD, but now is used to solve a range of issues.

It involves recalling the traumatic episode, or the particular fear, and then through specific eye movements and some other type of stimulation (talking, for example), the brain reprocesses the memory and reduces its significance in your mind. It may sound woo-woo, but it’s actually not and very quickly can help in situations where the traumatic episode is quite specific (at least, that was my own experience).

We also touch on the importance of consent, proper sex eduction and how sexual orientations such as asexuality and demisexuality are gaining recognition.

You can find Indigo here:https://milehighpsychotherapy.com/meet-the-therapists

If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”

“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”