This week’s conversation is with Lucy Rowett, a sexologist who works with women who struggle with shame around their sexuality, especially those who come from a religious background that did not recognise a woman’s right to experience sexual pleasure.

Together we unravel the intricate layers of shame surrounding sexuality, especially for women and vulva owners. Discover how faith backgrounds shape sexual identities and the vital role of understanding one's body and desires.

The episode also highlights the unique challenges older women face, particularly during menopause, and the societal pressures around female pleasure and duty sex.

Lucy passionately advocates for community support and open dialogue to dismantle shame, encouraging listeners to reconnect with their sexuality through diverse practices and resources.

Find out more about Lucy here.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Shame in Sexuality

02:50 The Impact of Faith on Sexual Identity

05:26 Unpacking Sexual Shame and Body Awareness

07:58 Navigating Sexuality in Later Life

10:57 The Role of Duty Sex and Female Pleasure

13:52 Reframing Menopause as an Invitation

16:42 The Importance of Community and Conversation

19:36 Tools for Reconnecting with Sexuality

Here’s a free gift from Lucy!

Feel Again: A guided practice to help you feel again during sex, from numbness and shutdown to pleasure: https://lucyrowett.com/heart-v-integration-practice/

Hi, I’m Suzanne — the proud host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a 365-days-a-year champion for the right of older folks to experience sexual pleasure. No matter your age, size, shape, or the state of your knees, hips, back, you should feel free to embrace your sexuality. If you don’t wanna have sex anymore, that’s cool. But if you do? You absolutely shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.

I’m on a mission to smash one of life’s last, stubborn taboos: the idea that older people can’t be sexy or sexual. SCREW THAT.

Every week, I record at least one podcast where I sit down with an expert on sex, dating, or relationships.

My podcasts are free for all listeners, but for my discerning readers who enjoy a little extra spice in their lives, I offer paywalled posts. These juicy extras might include sex toy reviews (yes, I test them all myself, so don’t say I don’t go the extra mile), personal stories from my sexploits, or deep dives into more intimate topics. I accept guest posts too.

If you’re a paid subscriber, you’ll also receive my 32-page booklet, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life,’ and gain access to a private chat room where me and my readers swap stories, share tips, and ask questions. All this for what I think is a very reasonable £6.99/month—or, if you’re feeling savvy, you can snag the Senior Discount with an annual subscription at £49.99/year.

So, whether you’re here for the laughs, the learning, or just the libido boost, welcome aboard.

If you want to help support me in smashing one of the final taboos - the idea that older people can’t be sexy or sexual, it’s £49.99/year or £6.99/month. That’s only a cup or two of coffee per month (depending on where you live).

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

“Love the honesty and humour and the vulnerability too.”

“I like that you acknowledge so openly and joyously that older people can still want and need sexual satisfaction. And that it can be better and more satisfying than when you were younger! But we also need open, honest, non judgemental advice in order to get the most out of sex in later years.”

Join me, Suzanne Noble, as I chat with the brilliant Dr. Pete Tsambarlis, an associate professor of urology at Northwestern University, who knows more about prostates than most of us know about our morning coffee! Dr. Tsambarlis was introduced to me by a patient of his, fellow Substacker Bob Mizek-Menopause for men, so I knew we were going to have a fascinating conversation around importance of understanding prostate cancer, the effects of treatment on erectile function, and the recovery timeline after surgery.

Dr. Tsambarlis emphasised the role of medications, lifestyle changes, and the significance of having a supportive healthcare team. The conversation also touches on Peyronie's disease and the importance of proactive health management for better sexual outcomes.

Listen as Dr. Tsambarlis shares his wisdom on everything from avoiding the dreaded prostate cancer to why your heart health is your best friend below the belt plus tips on how to have those awkward conversations with your doctor without embarrassment or shame.

00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health and Prostate Cancer

01:56 Understanding Prostate Cancer and Prevention

04:02 Supporting Men Through Prostate Treatment

09:46 Recovery After Prostate Surgery

10:56 The Role of Medications in Erectile Function

14:18 Empowering Patients: Questions to Ask Your Doctor

16:49 Exploring Peyronie's Disease

22:32 Taking Control of Sexual Health

28:06 Building a Supportive Healthcare Team

What’s this about?

Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.

Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.

Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.

Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.

Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:

* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’

* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature

* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life

I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

It’s always fun to talk to a fellow podcaster, especially someone like Karen Bigman, the host of the podcast Taboo to Truth: Life and Sex After 50. Karen is a certified sexuality educator and menopause sex and relationship coach, and she’s on a mission to help women over 50 embrace their sexuality and pleasure without shame.

Karen shared her incredible journey of self-discovery, which began after her divorce at 52, when she had her own “sexual awakening.” From awkward conversations with her gynacologist to discovering vibrators for the first time (doctor’s orders!), Karen’s candid and humorous take on her experiences was both inspiring and relatable.

We dove into topics like painful sex, the lack of education around vaginal estrogen and testosterone, and why women shouldn’t settle for discomfort or give up on pleasure. Karen also talked about her experiences with online dating, the challenges of navigating men with complex lives (or no savings!), and the importance of setting boundaries and knowing your own worth.

We laughed about ghosting, dating disasters, and the interesting (and sometimes baffling) reasons people give for ending things. Karen even shared her thoughts on how soon to have sex when dating and why it’s okay to break your own rules sometimes.

Karen also talked about her new online course, Hotter, Wiser, and Wilder, which is packed with practical advice on navigating ageing, improving your sex life, and even tips for dating and writing better profiles. She’s also building a private community to give people a safe space to ask those intimate questions they might feel too shy to ask anywhere else.

If you’ve ever felt like dating and sex in midlife is overwhelming or impossible, this episode is a reminder that it’s never too late to embrace your desires, have fun, and laugh along the way.

You can follow here on Instagram here.

You can find Karen’s website here and download a FREE Pleasure Playbook!

You can listen to her podcast, Taboo to Truth here!

00:00 Navigating Online Dating After 50

02:38 Breaking the Taboo: Conversations About Sex

05:29 The Journey to Sexual Awakening

08:24 The Importance of Sexual Health

11:10 Dating Disasters and Red Flags

14:04 Ghosting and Communication in Dating

17:03 Expectations and Realities of Dating

19:33 The Role of Sex in Relationships

22:27 Profiles and Authenticity in Online Dating

25:03 Future Plans and Community Building

Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

What’s this about?

Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.

Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.

Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.

Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.

Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:

* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’

* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature

* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life

I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

Galen is one of the few guests I’ve met in real life when he came, briefly, to London and I caught up with him in at a pub in Islington for a drink and a chat. As one of my older guests, in his seventies, I enjoy hearing his unique perspective about sexuality, informed by his decades of experience working with clients especially around kink and sexual shame. As an aside, he cites himself on his website as the inventor of the sex swing!

He’s also a sex therapist, educator, and author of Decoding the Kink. Galen and I dove deep into a topic that I feel is so important for older adults, how embracing sexual authenticity and exploring kink can transform intimacy, especially as we navigate the changes that come with ageing.

We talked about how kink is often misunderstood and stigmatised, but how it can open up new avenues for connection and pleasure, even when traditional notions of sex aren’t working the way they used to.

Galen introduced me to the concept of the "personal erotic myth," a unique aspect of our sexuality that’s as individual as a fingerprint. He shared practical advice on how couples can start exploring these aspects together and even how to gently introduce these conversations to a partner when it feels scary or vulnerable.

Galen also opened up about his own journey to living his truest sexual self, which started later in life after years of hiding his desires. His story is a powerful reminder that it’s never too late to reclaim your sexuality.

This is such an inspiring and hopeful conversation for anyone over 50 who feels like they’ve missed their opportunity to explore their desires. Trust me, you haven’t! This stage of life is full of possibility, and I hope this episode gives you the encouragement to start your own journey.

00:00 Introduction and Context

01:48 The Role of Kink in Later Life

08:42 Overcoming Shame and Fear

14:16 Pathways to Sexual Authenticity

18:05 The Importance of Connection

25:10 Embracing Sexuality at Any Age

27:46 Final Thoughts and Advice

You can discover more about Galen via his website: https://galenfous.com/about/

Galen’s book, “Decoding Your Kink: Guide to Explore Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires” is available via Amazon here.

This week marked a significant milestone for me: I reached 90 paid subscribers and was featured on the front page of one of the UK’s best-selling newspapers, the Sunday Mirror.

I am deeply grateful to each and every one of you who has chosen to subscribe to my Substack. As a token of appreciation, you should have received a downloadable copy of my 32-page book, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you haven’t received it, please let me know, and I’ll ensure it’s emailed to you right away.

As a reminder, paid subscribers enjoy exclusive benefits, including:

* Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life (digital book).

* My weekly podcast, delivered straight to your inbox.

* An exclusive paywalled post each week—often something intimate, like a real-life story, a sex toy review, or any topic I feel inspired to share!

* Access to my private chat room, where we can connect and discuss topics in a safe space.

Subscriptions are just £6.99 per month or £49.99 per year. Your support allows me to dedicate more time to interviewing some of the world’s leading experts on sex, relationships, and dating in later life.

Thank you for helping me keep this show on the road!

In this episode of "Sex Advice for Seniors," I’m thrilled to welcome back a remarkable advocate for the sexual rights of disabled individuals. The last time we spoke, Maria Cyndi had recently launched an Instagram channel and a Substack. Unfortunately, she felt compelled to shut them down after facing harassment and unwanted attention from individuals fetishizing her disability. However, she has now courageously decided to relaunch her platforms, fighting back against prejudice and speaking her truth unapologetically.

Maria’s prominence as one of the few women writing about sexual pleasure and disability has inspired her to dedicate more time to her craft. She’s now focusing on her writing, contributing guest posts to prominent blogs, and participating in an upcoming anthology.

Join me as we explore the challenges Maria has faced, her unwavering determination to reclaim her body and identity, and her invaluable advice for disabled individuals navigating their sexuality. Maria’s story is a powerful testament to the importance of understanding sexual well-being and disability, and her voice is one we all need to hear.

Chapters

01:02 Maria Cyndi's Journey into Advocacy

01:55 Challenges of Online Advocacy

05:14 Writing and Contributing to Anthologies

08:34 Transitioning to Full-Time Writing

10:21 Navigating Social Media and Community

13:47 Reclaiming Pleasure and Overcoming Trauma

15:31 The Impact of Education on Sexuality

17:43 Reclaiming Identity and Intimacy

20:34 The Ongoing Journey of Healing and Communication

22:20 Navigating Relationships and Disability

24:28 The Importance of Open Communication

26:10 Exploring Sexuality and Consent

29:18 Finding the Right Tools for Pleasure

30:47 Breaking Stereotypes: Disabled People and Sex

33:32 Media Representation of Disabled Sexuality

36:23 Creating Inclusive Spaces for All

39:00 The Need for Diverse Narratives in Media

Now’s here the bit about me:

Hi, I’m Suzanne — the proud host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a 365-days-a-year champion for the right of older folks to experience sexual pleasure. No matter your age, size, shape, or the state of your knees, hips, back, you should feel free to embrace your sexuality. If you don’t wanna have sex anymore, that’s cool. But if you do? You absolutely shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.

I’m on a mission to smash one of life’s last, stubborn taboos: the idea that older people can’t be sexy or sexual. SCREW THAT.

Every week, come rain or shine, I record at least one podcast where I sit down with an expert on sex, dating, or relationships. Let’s just say I’ve met some seriously cool people and learned a lot. (I’m not saying I deserve an honorary degree, but if someone wants to give me one, I’ll graciously accept. Just putting that out there).

My podcasts are free for all listeners, but for my discerning readers who enjoy a little extra spice in their lives, I offer paywalled posts. These juicy extras might include sex toy reviews (yes, I test them all myself, so don’t say I don’t go the extra mile), personal stories from my sexploits, or deep dives into more intimate topics.

If you’re a paid subscriber, you’ll also receive my 32-page booklet, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life,’ and gain access to a private chat room where me and my readers swap stories, share tips, and ask questions. All this for what I think is a very reasonable £6.99/month—or, if you’re feeling savvy, you can snag the Senior Discount with an annual subscription at £49.99/year.

So, whether you’re here for the laughs, the learning, or just the libido boost, welcome aboard.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

“Love the honesty and humour and the vulnerability too.”

“I like that you acknowledge so openly and joyously that older people can still want and need sexual satisfaction. And that it can be better and more satisfying than when you were younger! But we also need open, honest, non judgemental advice in order to get the most out of sex in later years.”

Sex Advice for Seniors is a proud reader-supported publication. Every single penny goes toward helping me continue to serve up expert advice and wisdom from some of the world’s leading voices on sex and ageing.

Around the same time my Advantages of Age colleague Rose Rouse and I were herding together amazing women for our Fabulous & Flamboyant Bus Tour, another trailblazer, Maryjane Fahey was kicking off her own movement called Glorious Broads. Armed with equal parts chutzpah and charm, she prowled the streets of New York, boldly and brazenly stopping any woman who looked remotely interesting. Her mission? To get their story, snap their photo, and showcase them on her website, Glorious Broads (she’s now also on Substack).

Her goal is as audacious as her approach. As she puts it: “To be the home of funny, unconventional, uncompromising broads over 50… I want to inspire women to say, ‘I WANNA BE THAT BROAD’ — and watch fear-mongering about age go extinct in my lifetime. Let roaring into age prevail.”

And honestly, can we just take a minute to stand up and cheer for that? Because who doesn’t want to roar into age like a rock star instead of tiptoeing in like a timid church mouse?

During our chat, we covered just about everything under the sun—like the rollercoaster ride of navigating love and relationships after 50, why confidence is the ultimate power move (at any age, but especially when you’re older), and how to keep your libido alive and kicking, no matter what your age.

Maryjane shared with me a great quote from one of her Glorious Broads about being older and trying to get yourself going again if you feel out of practice with sex. She said: “I may not be able to make alll the positions I used to, but my mouth still works.”

00:00 Introduction to Glorious Broads and Positive Ageing03:49 Reinvention and Embracing Change07:15 Navigating Love and Relationships After 5009:30 Common Misconceptions About Aging11:34 Sexuality and Libido in Older Women15:40 Confidence and Attitude Towards Aging20:26 Barriers to Enjoying a Great Sex Life28:45 The Importance of Self-Care and Health30:18 Embracing Visibility and Rejecting Invisibility

Now’s here the bit about me:

Hi, I’m Suzanne — the proud host of Sex Advice for Seniors and a 365-days-a-year champion for the right of older folks to experience sexual pleasure. No matter your age, size, shape, or the state of your knees, hips, back, you should feel free to embrace your sexuality. If you don’t wanna have sex anymore, that’s cool. But if you do? You absolutely shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.

I’m on a mission to smash one of life’s last, stubborn taboos: the idea that older people can’t be sexy or sexual. SCREW THAT.

Every week, come rain or shine, I record at least one podcast where I sit down with an expert on sex, dating, or relationships. Let’s just say I’ve met some seriously cool people and learned a lot. (I’m not saying I deserve an honorary degree, but if someone wants to give me one, I’ll graciously accept. Just putting that out there).

My podcasts are free for all listeners, but for my discerning readers who enjoy a little extra spice in their lives, I offer paywalled posts. These juicy extras might include sex toy reviews (yes, I test them all myself, so don’t say I don’t go the extra mile), personal stories from my sexploits, or deep dives into more intimate topics.

If you’re a paid subscriber, you’ll also receive my 32-page booklet, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life,’ and gain access to a private chat room where me and my readers swap stories, share tips, and ask questions. All this for what I think is a very reasonable £6.99/month—or, if you’re feeling savvy, you can snag the Senior Discount with an annual subscription at £49.99/year.

So, whether you’re here for the laughs, the learning, or just the libido boost, welcome aboard.

Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:

“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”

“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”

“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”

“Love the honesty and humour and the vulnerability too.”

“I like that you acknowledge so openly and joyously that older people can still want and need sexual satisfaction. And that it can be better and more satisfying than when you were younger! But we also need open, honest, non judgemental advice in order to get the most out of sex in later years.”

Sex Advice for Seniors is a proud reader-supported publication. Every single penny goes toward helping me continue to serve up expert advice and wisdom from some of the world’s leading voices on sex and ageing.

This week, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Dakini Leah, founder of Living in Tantra and a true ray of sunshine from Grand Junction, Colorado (even if she admits she misses tea with clotted cream).

We dove headfirst into the world of Tantra—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it’s definitely not just about long orgasms or bizarre religious rituals, thanks in no small part, to its association with Sting. Here’s a sneak peek at what we covered:

* Erectile Dysfunction: Or as I prefer to call them, “unreliable erections.” We explored how Tantra can help men embrace this stage of life without shame, and even turn it into an opportunity for deeper intimacy.

* Soft Lingam Techniques: We got into the nitty-gritty of why even a non-erect penis is still an incredible source of pleasure - Leah calls it ‘the wand of light’.

* Libido Changes in Women: We talked about how midlife doesn’t mean the end of sensuality—in fact, it’s just the beginning of a richer, more radiant connection with yourself and your partner.

* Grieving the Old You: Both Leah and I opened up about the process of letting go of who we used to be and embracing the new, more self-assured versions of ourselves. We agreed it’s not always easy, but it’s so worth it.

This episode is packed with practical tips, heartfelt moments, and lots of laughs (because let’s face it, sex after 50 is full of surprises). Plus, Leah shares free tantric exercises you can try tonight - be sure and check out her website.

Grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), settle in, and enjoy our chat!

00:00 Introduction to Tantra and Personal Journeys

02:48 The Essence of Tantra: Beyond Sexuality

05:39 Tantra for Midlife: Embracing Change and Sensuality

08:26 Unreliable Erections: A Tantric Perspective

11:23 Navigating Libido Changes in Women

14:24 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Relationships

17:01 Exploring Joy and Connection in Relationships

19:29 The Role of Tantra in Aging Gracefully

22:19 Grieving and Embracing New Selves

25:19 Conclusion: The Journey of Tantra and Self-Acceptance

On this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with the brilliant Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, author of Late Love: Mating in Maturity. We dove into everything from relationships after 50, to why women are leading the "gray divorce" trend, to the surprising ways men and women experience this stage of life differently.

This stage of life—what Avivah calls Q3—isn’t about decline. It’s about reinvention, exploration, and finally putting yourself first. Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, it’s about finding what works for you.

And for those of you who feel like the dating pool at this age is too small, just remember: It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. There are good ones out there—you just have to know what you want and go for it.

If you’re curious about how to navigate love, sex, and relationships in later life, this episode is a must-listen. Avivah and I covered so much ground, and I promise you’ll walk away feeling inspired (and maybe even ready to shake things up in your own life).

You can buy Avivah’s book: Late Love: Mating in Maturity here.

Avivah’s website is here.

Thanks for listening, and let me know what you think!

00:00 Introduction to Late Love

02:54 The Journey of Finding Love in Later Life

05:37 The Impact of Divorce on Women

08:30 Redefining Relationships in Midlife

11:34 Sex and Relationships in Later Life

14:09 The Quest for Happiness and Self-Discovery

16:56 Gender Dynamics in Ageing

20:00 Challenges in Finding Love

23:04 The Role of Confidence in New Relationships

25:46 Navigating the Dating Landscape

28:39 The Importance of Self-Love

31:28 The Gendered Experience of Leaving Relationships

34:25 Conclusion: Embracing New Possibilities

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex

f you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

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When I first heard about The Phoenix, I wasn’t entirely sure what to expect. The name alone conjures images of grandeur—something mythical, rising from the ashes. Turns out, that’s pretty fitting. It’s a device designed to breathe new life into men’s sexual health, and Dustin Wolff, the co-founder of Launch Medical, joined me to explain how it all works.

Dustin is one of those people you warm to immediately—enthusiastic, knowledgeable, and genuinely motivated by a desire to help people. He explained how his journey began in a wellness clinic in Los Angeles, where he saw countless men struggling with performance issues. The solution at the time was in-clinic sound wave treatments, but they were expensive, awkward, and not exactly accessible to everyone. That’s when Dustin started to wonder: could this technology be brought into the home? And so The Phoenix was born.

The concept is simple but fascinating: soundwaves break down plaque buildup in blood vessels, improving blood flow and addressing one of the root causes of erectile dysfunction. It’s a non-invasive treatment, safe to use at home, and—importantly—avoids the embarrassment of a clinical setting. Dustin described it as “a tool in your toolkit,” emphasising that it’s not a magic fix but part of a broader commitment to health and wellness. Think of it like going to the gym—but for your… well, you get the idea.

One thing that stood out was the range of people using The Phoenix. It’s not just for older men with erectile dysfunction—Dustin mentioned younger men in their 30s and 40s, even biohackers and fitness enthusiasts, who are using it to stay ahead of the game. It’s about optimisation, performance, and, ultimately, confidence.

Of course, there are challenges. Marketing a legitimate medical device for sexual health isn’t easy in a world where taboos are still alive and well. Dustin shared that even platforms like Shark Tank weren’t willing to feature the device because of its “adult” nature. It’s frustrating, especially when you consider how essential this kind of innovation is.

We also spoke about the bigger picture—how The Phoenix fits into a holistic approach to wellness. Diet, exercise, and overall health are all part of the equation. Dustin admitted he’s not a saint (he’s partial to pizza and ice cream on Sundays), but he emphasised the importance of balance. It’s not just about treating symptoms; it’s about fostering long-term health and vitality.

The Phoenix is more than a device—it’s part of a larger shift in how we think about aging, intimacy, and wellbeing. And while the road ahead might be challenging for Dustin and his team, it’s clear they’re making a real impact. If nothing else, The Phoenix is helping men regain confidence and connection in their relationships, and that’s something we can all celebrate.

For those curious, I’d recommend checking out their website. It’s a fascinating innovation, and who knows? It might just be the spark you—or someone you know—needs.

Launch Medical are offering Sex Advice for Seniors Listeners $100 off the Phoenix if you use code SUZ100. Click here.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health Technology

02:59 The Phoenix Device: Concept and Development

06:03 Understanding the Treatment Protocol

09:08 The Importance of Overall Health

11:59 Cost Comparison: Phoenix vs. Clinic Treatments

15:03 Marketing Challenges in Sexual Health

18:04 Insurance and Regulatory Challenges

18:39 Navigating Regulatory Challenges in Health Tech

21:49 The Rise of Preventative Medicine

24:01 The Phoenix: A Tool for Sexual Health

27:29 Combining Technologies for Optimal Results

30:12 Pioneering a New Era in Home Health Devices

If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)

Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn’t just a hobby—it’s my passion and profession.

Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you’ll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex

Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.

What others are saying:

"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."

“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”

“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.”

I’ve known Sam Evans, owner of sexual pleasure shop JoDivine.com for nearly 20 years, back to when she first launched her shop with her husband, and gifted me a toy to try out and review on my first blog, suzanneportnoy.com.

Since then, Sam has become a popular spokesperson on social media, advocating for women’s sexual health, especially during one’s menopausal years. As a former nurse, she has more knowledge than many others in the sex toy industry, and as a result, she receives hundreds of enquiries from women who are confused or received poor information when struggling with menopausal conditions such as vaginal atrophy, recurrent UTIs, low libido. In response, she has written numerous articles related to women’s and men’s sexual health, which you can read on the JoDivine website.

I was keen to catch up with Sam to dive into the often-overlooked topics of menopause, sexual health, and the importance of quality sexual wellness products. We discussed the challenges faced by menopausal women, the significance of vaginal estrogen, and the latest innovations in sex toys.

Our conversation emphasised the need for awareness regarding product ingredients and the importance of community education in navigating sexual health.

Sam is offering Sex Advice for Seniors subscribers a discount on any products in the store:

Your 10% discount code is SAS210 (£5 minimum spend on full priced products excluding P&P) ENDS 25/8/25

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:55 Menopause and Sexual Health

05:58 Vaginal Estrogen and Its Importance

09:56 Sex Toy Innovations and Trends

12:03 Navigating Sexual Health Products

19:58 The Importance of Ingredient Awareness

26:07 Community Engagement and Education

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