Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

What I Discussed With Dr. Kelly Barron...

- How chocolate and sex have always been linked, and the herbs Kelly uses to make that connection real.

- Why menopause changes my sex life without ending it, and what "designing a new sexual life" actually means.

- The physical and emotional signs that show up when I feel disconnected from my own body at this stage of life.

- Why so many women assume there must be a pill for low libido, when the real fix starts with removing pressure and giving myself grace.

- The generational silence around sex after 50, and why celebrities like Madonna never talk about what's really going on.

- What responsive desire is, and why it takes longer to get in the mood now than it did in my 40s.

- Why scheduling sex and building rituals makes intimacy better, not less exciting.

- The lingerie storytelling moment that taught me how anticipation can transform a night.

Chapters:

00:00 – Introduction & Sponsor Spotlight (https://www.ohmibod.com/)

00:23 – Why women love chocolate: Science, Pleasure & Midlife Wellness

01:42 – The Story Behind Dr. Kellfire’s Functional Chocolates for PMS, stress & libido

06:10 – Sensory Experiences: Connecting Taste, Touch, and Intimacy

08:00 – The Midnight Carnival: Making Sexual Wellness Fun & Playful

09:20 – From Chiropractor to Sexologist: Dr. Kelly’s Holistic Approach to Menopause

12:45 – Overcoming Body Image Struggles & Reclaiming Confidence After 50

14:31 – Midlife Intimacy Guide (GITM Playbook Sponsor)

15:02 – Taking Pressure Off the Bedroom: Body Awareness & Sensate Touch

16:16 – Where Are the Older Sexual Role Models? Calling Out Media Double Standards

19:46 – Midlife Dating Realities: Younger Men, Age Gaps & Finding Real Connection

25:18 – Mastering Responsive Desire: How to Set the Mood for Better Sex

26:23 – The Power of Scheduling Sex: Erotic Storytelling & Building Anticipation

30:59 – Dating with Boundaries: Knowing What You Want & Vetting Partners

34:04 – Desire Doesn’t Retire: Evolving Your Sex Life in Midlife and Beyond

34:53 – Episode Wrap-Up & Show Notes Links

Show Notes

I love chocolate, and I love talking about sex, so when I found a chocolate brand designed to support women's libido, I knew I had to bring the person behind it onto the show.

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Kelly Barron, a chiropractor, certified menopause specialist and sexologist based in Charleston, South Carolina, and founder of Dr Kellfire's, a chocolate brand formulated with herbs like fenugreek, maca and ashwagandha to support desire, mood and connection. Kelly and I talk about how her work with pregnant and perimenopausal women eventually led her into sexology, and why so many of her clients could get through hot flashes and brain fog, but not the disappearance of their sex drive.

What I love about this conversation is how honest it gets. We talk about why menopause isn't the end of my sex life, just the end of the sex life I used to have. We talk about why the media and celebrities like Madonna stay completely silent about what's actually happening in their intimate lives after 50. And we land on one of Kelly's most freeing insights: that at this stage, most of us have shifted from spontaneous desire to responsive desire, and that's not a loss; it's just a different starting point.

Whether I'm partnered, dating or figuring things out on my own, this episode is full of practical ideas I can actually use. Including one of my own tricks: making a partner tell me a story before I send a single photo.

Listen, learn and enjoy.

Key Takeaways

- Chocolate formulated with the right herbs can genuinely support mood, desire and connection.

- Menopause changes my sex life, but it doesn't end it. It's a chance to redesign it on my own terms.

- Body disconnection at this stage often shows up as confidence dips, not just physical symptoms.

- There's no single pill for low libido. Removing pressure and building body awareness comes first.

- Celebrities and the media rarely tell the truth about sex after 50, which leaves most of us with no real role models.

- Desire shifts from spontaneous to responsive with age, and that requires more ritual, not less spontaneity.

- Scheduling sex and building anticipation can make intimacy more exciting, not more routine.

- Storytelling, texting and drawing things out can reignite desire more than a straightforward photo or invitation ever could.

About the Guest

Dr Kelly Barron is a chiropractor, certified menopause specialist, strength and conditioning specialist, and certified sexologist based in Charleston, South Carolina. She is the founder of Dr. Kellfire's, a chocolate brand created to support hormone balance, desire and pleasure, with formulas designed for both women and couples.

About Suzanne

Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.

Connect With Suzanne

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

Want More?

Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.

Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie

Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

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Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

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The Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesnt

Why Long-Term Couples Drift Apart, and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-how

Bonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lesson

What I Discussed With Dr. Jenn Kennedy...

- The two problems that bring most couples over 50 into sex therapy, and why embarrassment keeps them away for so long.

- Why an unreliable erection doesn't mean the end of pleasure, and what "pivoting" actually looks like in bed.

- The surprising sensitivity of a soft penis, and why porn has left us all badly under-educated.

- Why sex that "feels like sandpaper" is so common after menopause, and the fixes that work within weeks.

- The generational reason women over 50 feel funny about keeping lube by the bed.

- Why the low-desire partner usually doesn't dislike sex. She dislikes the sex she's having.

- How pressure turns desire into obligation, and what brings real desire back instead.

- The two words that reignite relationships after decades together.

Episode Chapters

00:00 Why couples feel embarrassed to talk about sex problems

00:28 The missing word in long-term intimacy: curiosity

03:41 The most common issues couples bring to sex therapy

05:10 When people see a doctor first vs a sex therapist first

06:44 What ageing does to sex, erections, and desire

08:32 How to work with what still feels good

09:17 Why shame shuts down sexual connection

11:02 Why men struggle to move beyond penetrative sex

12:35 Practical tips for unreliable erections

13:49 Sensitivity, softness, and new ways to think about pleasure

16:01 Vaginal dryness, pain, and vaginal atrophy

17:32 Lube, suppositories, and vaginal estrogen

20:25 Why women over 50 still feel shame about needing lube

21:09 The biggest mistake couples make with mismatched desire

23:30 Why relational connection matters more than mechanics

26:08 How curiosity helps long-term couples rediscover intimacy

27:59 The power of asking questions and listening

31:52 Dr. Jenn Kennedy’s Pleasure Project course

Show Notes

Is it okay to say things aren't working in the bedroom? That's the question, according to my guest, that couples are silently asking as they walk into her office. Erections that have become unreliable. Sex that hurts. Desire that seems to have packed up and left. Most people wait years before saying any of it out loud.

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jenn Kennedy, clinical sexologist, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of The Pleasure Project in Santa Barbara. Jenn works with couples and individuals in their 50s, 60s and beyond, and she's refreshingly frank about what she sees: bodies that change with age, partners drowning in shame about it, and simple fixes that nobody has bothered to tell them exist.

What I love about this conversation is how practical it gets. We talk about what to do in the actual moment an erection doesn't arrive. We talk about vaginal estrogen, the treatment that clears up painful sex in weeks, and why so many women have never heard of it. And we land on Jenn's most freeing insight: the partner who has "gone off sex" usually hasn't gone off sex at all. She's gone off sex where her pleasure comes last.

Whether you're partnered, dating or somewhere in between, this episode is full of things you can actually use. Including, for the men, the simplest question in the entire universe. Ask it daily. Then listen to the answer.

Listen, learn and enjoy.

Key Takeaways

- Dysfunction and dissatisfaction are the two main reasons couples over 50 seek sex therapy.

- Pivoting to what feels good keeps shame out of the room, and often brings things back.

- Sensitivity doesn't disappear with an erection.

- Painful sex after menopause is common, treatable and nothing to be ashamed of.

- Lube is not a failure.

- Vaginal estrogen can transform painful sex in weeks, yet many women are never told about it.

- Pressuring a low-desire partner creates obligation, not desire.

- The low-desire partner often enjoys sex.

- Desire lives in play, curiosity and banter, not in routine.

About the Guest

Dr. Jenn Kennedy is a clinical sexologist and LMFT specialising in sex and couples. In 2023, Dr. Jenn launched The Pleasure Project, which is dedicated to helping us all have a better sex life.  She hosts a podcast called Pleasure Project: Sex & Relationships and offers small group intensives for women and couples. She recently launched a self-guided intimacy course for women and owns a 9-person group therapy practice called Riviera Therapy. Dr Jenn has been quoted in Redbook, Reader’s Digest, Forbes Health, DailyOm, Shondaland, Parade, Allure, Yahoo!, and others. She is often tapped to discuss intimacy and sexuality for therapists and physicians.

About Suzanne

Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.

Connect With Suzanne

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

Want More?

Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.

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Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

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Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm

Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

Related Episodes

Why Long-Term Couples Drift Apart, and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-how

The Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesnt

Bonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lesson

What I Discussed With Aine Rock…

- Why having the "perfect" life on paper doesn't always mean you're living the life you truly want.

- The surprising difference between being happy, being comfortable and feeling genuinely alive.

- Why losing intimacy often starts long before couples stop having sex.

- How reconnecting with pleasure can become the first step towards rebuilding your entire life.

- Why women often don't know what they want in bed—and how to begin discovering it.

- What happened when Áine and her husband experimented with opening their marriage before deciding to separate.

- Why small daily pleasure practices can create profound shifts in confidence, creativity and relationships.

- How learning to say both "yes" and "no" transforms intimacy at every stage of life.

And much more...

Episode Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:20 What Does It Mean to "Blow Your Life Up"?

04:00 Happy on the Outside, Lonely on the Inside

07:00 Opening a Marriage—or Ending It?

11:00 Rediscovering Yourself Through Dating

16:00 Why Women Struggle to Express Desire

20:00 What Is Erotic Alchemy?

24:00 Reclaiming Pleasure Without Leaving Your Life

28:00 Self-Pleasure, Rituals and Knowing Your Body

33:00 Final Thoughts on Living More Fully

Show Notes

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "Is this really all there is?" Not because your life is falling apart, but because everything looks fine on the surface—and yet something inside you feels quietly disconnected.

It's a question many people never admit out loud, particularly women who have spent decades caring for partners, children and everyone else before themselves. When you've built the life you thought you were supposed to want, it can be deeply unsettling to realise you're still longing for something more.

In this episode, I'm joined by author and coach Áine Rock, whose new book Blow Your Life Up explores what happens when we stop living by other people's expectations and begin listening to our own desires. After leaving a long marriage, Áine embarked on a journey of rediscovering pleasure, intimacy and identity—not simply through dating, but by learning to understand herself in an entirely new way.

What I love about this conversation is that it isn't really about leaving a marriage. It's about asking better questions. What brings you joy? What makes you feel alive? What have you been putting off because you've convinced yourself it's too late—or because you've spent so long putting everyone else first?

Whether you're happily partnered, recently divorced or simply wondering what your next chapter might look like, this episode is a gentle reminder that pleasure isn't selfish. It can be the beginning of coming home to yourself.

Listen, learn and enjoy.

Key Takeaways

- Feeling unfulfilled isn't the same as being unhappy.

- Long-term relationships can lose emotional and sexual intimacy without obvious conflict.

- Reconnecting with your own desires often starts before reconnecting with a partner.

- Pleasure is about much more than sex—it includes creativity, rest and self-expression.

- Opening a relationship isn't always the answer if deeper intimacy is missing.

- Learning what you want requires curiosity and practice.

- Clear communication about pleasure creates better intimacy.

- Self-pleasure can help women better understand their own bodies.

- Small rituals can reconnect you with your sense of aliveness.

- It's never too late to redesign your life around what truly matters.

About the Guest

Áine Rock is an author, coach and facilitator who describes herself as the Modern Priestess of Pleasure. Through her writing, workshops and coaching, she helps women reconnect with desire, pleasure and authentic self-expression after years of living according to expectations rather than personal truth. Following the end of her 15-year marriage, Áine developed a body-centred approach to helping women rediscover intimacy, confidence and what she calls their "erotic aliveness". Her latest book, Blow Your Life Up: The Wild Art of Wanting More, explores how listening to desire can become a catalyst for profound personal transformation.

About Suzanne

Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.

Connect With Suzanne

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

Want More?

Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.

Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie

Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Overcome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.com

Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm

Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

Related Episodes

Bonus Live: The Relationship Lesson That Ends So Much Conflict - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/bonus-live-the-relationship-lesson

Why Long-Term Couples Drift Apart—and the Simple Habit That Brings Them Back - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-couples-lose-the-spark-and-how

The Simple Practice That Brought Intimacy Back After 20 Years - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/why-waiting-to-feel-in-the-mood-doesnt

What I Discussed With Malia Lazu…

- Why so many women spend years putting everyone else's needs before their own—including in the bedroom.

- What the "pleasure gap" reveals about women's sexual satisfaction and why the issue goes far beyond orgasm.

- How shame, social conditioning and unrealistic expectations stop women from asking for what they truly want.

- Why learning what gives you pleasure is the first step towards better intimacy with a partner.

- How creating emotionally safe spaces allows women to explore sexuality without judgement.

- Why being single, child-free or choosing unconventional relationships can be deeply fulfilling later in life.

- How letting go of outdated ideas about ageing can open the door to greater confidence, curiosity and sexual freedom.

- Why stopping the habit of "faking it" could transform not only your sex life, but your relationship with yourself.

And much more...

Episode Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:10 Why Malia Created Sunflower Spa

04:30 The Pleasure Gap and Why Women Fake Orgasms

08:00 Shame, Safety and Talking Honestly About Sex

12:30 Why Women Need Spaces to Learn from Each Other

15:30 Challenging Myths About Sexuality After 50

18:00 Being Child-Free, Single and Sexually Confident

22:00 Decentring Men and Redefining Relationships

27:00 Why Self-Pleasure Builds Better Relationships

32:00 Final Reflections: Grace, Purpose, Power and Pleasure

Show Notes

Who told us that getting older meant becoming quieter, less visible or less interested in pleasure?

For many women, the second half of life brings an unexpected opportunity—not simply to rethink relationships, but to rethink the stories we've been telling ourselves for decades. Stories about worthiness, desire, ageing and what we're supposedly allowed to want.

In this episode, I'm joined by entrepreneur and community organiser Malia Lazu, founder of Sunflower Spa, a women-centred space dedicated to healing sensuality, confidence and belonging. Rather than seeing pleasure as something frivolous or self-indulgent, Malia argues that it's deeply connected to how we value ourselves and the choices we make throughout our lives.

Together we explore why so many women continue to fake satisfaction, remain silent about their needs or feel guilty for putting themselves first. We also discuss what happens when women begin to challenge those assumptions—whether that means exploring self-pleasure, embracing life without children, questioning traditional relationship expectations or simply becoming more honest about what feels good.

What stayed with me most is the reminder that pleasure isn't really the destination. It's often the by-product of feeling safe, respected and fully present in your own body. And perhaps that's something we become better at as we age—not despite getting older, but because of it.

Because the greatest freedom may not be finding someone else to choose us. It may be finally choosing ourselves.

Listen, learn and enjoy.

Key Takeaways

- Pleasure begins with self-awareness, not with a partner.

- Many women fake satisfaction because they struggle to communicate their needs.

- Emotional safety is essential for fulfilling intimacy.

- Social conditioning continues to shape women's sexuality throughout life.

- Self-pleasure helps people understand what they genuinely enjoy.

- Relationships shouldn't leave you emotionally exhausted.

- Growing older creates opportunities to redefine intimacy and partnership.

- Being single or child-free can be deeply fulfilling.

- Honest communication benefits both partners.

- Self-worth and sexual confidence are closely connected.

About the Guest

Malia Lazu is an entrepreneur, community organiser and the founder of Sunflower Spa, a women-centred community focused on healing, sensuality and belonging. After years leading businesses and working with major organisations, Malia shifted her focus towards creating spaces where women can explore pleasure, identity and self-worth without shame or judgement. Through workshops, community events and educational resources, she encourages women to reconnect with themselves, embrace authentic relationships and redefine what fulfilment looks like at every stage of life.

About Suzanne

Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.

Connect With Suzanne

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

Want More?

Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.

Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie

Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Overcome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.com

Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm

Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

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Bonus Live: What Great Sex Looks Like After 50 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-sex-advice-738

Bonus Live: Does Pleasure Really Get Better With Age? - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/live-with-suzanne-noble-and-avivah

Desire Doesn't Retire: The Secret Sex Lives of People Over 60 - https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/getting-down-and-dirty-with-kathy

I keep hearing the same story from people who are looking for love later in life: they want a relationship that feels good, but they’re not always sure how to tell the difference between real compatibility and a temporary rush of attraction.

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with dating and relationship coach Sandy Weiner, chief love officer at Last First Date, TEDx speaker, author of Choice Points in Dating, and host of the Last First Date podcast. We talk honestly about why so many people second-guess themselves in dating, why the spark can be misleading, and how to build a relationship that actually lasts.podcastmarketingmagic.

What Sandy shares is practical, refreshing, and deeply useful for anyone navigating dating after 40, 50, or 60. We get into attachment styles, self-trust, boundaries, and the difference between chemistry that fizzles and connection that grows over time.

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ABOUT SUZANNE:

Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast, one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.

CONNECT WITH SUZANNE:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.

Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie

Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Overcome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.com

Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm

Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

Follow Sandy Here:

Website https://lastfirstdate.com/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lastfirstdate

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@Lastfirstdate

Chapters:

0:00 Chemistry vs compatibility in dating after 50

1:16 Meet Sandy Weiner, dating coach and founder of Last First Date

2:37 How dating motivation changes for women vs men after 40

3:09 Why women over 50 second-guess themselves in dating

7:38 How long does it take to really know someone you're dating?

8:04 What it means to be a woman of value in later life dating

9:35 How to identify your non-negotiables and real deal breakers

10:08 Sandy's three pillars for confident dating

10:41 Why your values get flexible when you like someone (and what to do about it)

12:46 Dating in your 50s vs your 20s and 30s: what actually changes

13:20 How to state your standards early without being difficult

14:10 Why chemistry is harder after 50 and how to recalibrate attraction

16:50 Dating after 50: body image, confidence, and doing the inner work

18:26 Does therapy make someone a better partner?

19:14 Why dismissing people based on checklists costs you great relationships

21:31 EQ vs IQ in dating: what emotional intelligence actually looks like

23:44 How chemistry develops through shared experience (and what kills it)

25:47 Why coffee dates kill attraction and what to do instead

28:35 What travel reveals about a partner's real personality

32:06 Sandy's one piece of advice for seniors navigating dating and relationships today

What if intimacy in later life isn’t really about sex at all?

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with George Goulburn, a straight male escort in his 50s, who works with women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s.

What he shares challenges almost every assumption about escorting, desire, and connection in later life.

Far from quick, transactional encounters, George’s clients are seeking something deeper: emotional connection, safety, touch, and the chance to feel seen and desired again, often after years or even decades without intimacy.

We explore what women really want as they age, how confidence and sexual identity evolve, and why honest conversations about desire are still so rare.

This episode is honest, surprising, and deeply human, and it might just change how you think about intimacy in later life.

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ABOUT SUZANNE:

Suzanne Noble is a sex and relationship expert, author, and host of the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast—one of the top-rated shows empowering people 50+ to embrace confident, joyful intimacy. Known for her candid, warm, and often humorous approach, Suzanne challenges age-related taboos, misinformation, and awkward conversations about sex after 50. She helps millions around the world navigate their sexual lives with pleasure, connection, and self-assurance. Because life is too short for bad sex... or silence about it.

CONNECT WITH SUZANNE:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniors

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/sexadviceforseniors

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexadviceforseniors

Substack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexadviceforseniors.com — includes FREE guides and resources for better sex at any age.

Free Downloadable Guide: 10 Most Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex PDF: https://subscribepage.io/suzannenoblefreebie

Sign Up for My FREE Newsletter: https://sexadviceforseniors.com

Overcome Erectile Dysfunction & Stay Firm: https://www.stayfirmprogram.com

Check Out My Storefront for Better Sex: https://zaap.bio/stayfirm

Interested in 1:1 Coaching or Custom Sex Advice for Seniors Sessions? https://tidycal.com/suzannenoble/30-minute-mentoring

CONNECT WITH GEORGE:

Website https://www.georgegoulburn.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/georgegoulburnofficial

YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@George_Goulburn

Facebook. https://www.facebook.com/george.goulburn.2023

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction: Why this conversation matters

00:25 Meet George: A male escort for women over 50

03:20 Why intimacy takes time, not just sex

08:30 Who hires male escorts and why

11:20 What women really want

16:00 Do clients fall in love?

18:40 Ethical non-monogamy and dating life

21:40 Creating safety, trust, and consent

27:40 Myths about male escorts

29:00 Why older women don’t want “perfect” bodies

31:20 Why we struggle to talk about sex

34:20 Sex with older virgins: a hidden reality

35:50 The real outcome: confidence and self-worth

Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story.

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond.

We dive into Monica’s surprisingly simple “3% rule” - a powerful framework for maintaining intimacy, connection, and communication without needing to overhaul your entire life. We also unpack why resentment builds in long-term relationships, how health challenges affect sexual intimacy in older adults, and whether it’s truly possible to change relationship patterns after decades together.

If you’re navigating love, sex, and connection in later life, this episode offers practical, realistic tools you can start using today.

What You’ll Learn:

·       The “3% rule” for relationship success and why small time investments create big intimacy gains

·       How to maintain emotional and sexual connection in your 50s, 60s, and 70s

·       Why resentment in long-term relationships is often unspoken desire

·       The daily habit that keeps couples from drifting apart over time

·       How illness, aging, and health issues impact intimacy... and how to adapt

·       Why couples delay important conversations about sex, needs, and expectations

·       Whether it’s possible to change deeply ingrained relationship patterns later in life

Key Topics & Keywords:

Sex advice for seniors, intimacy after 60, relationships in later life, sexual health for older adults, maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships, marriage advice for older couples, communication in relationships, emotional connection in aging, sex and aging, overcoming resentment in relationships, relationship coaching, Relational Life Therapy, intimacy after illness, rekindling connection in later life

About Monica Tanner:

Monica Tanner is a relationship coach, Relational Life Therapy practitioner, and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast. She helps couples create deeper connection, better communication, and lasting intimacy - no matter how long they’ve been together.

Connect with Monica:

·       Website: https://www.monicatanner.com/

·       Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-and-intimacy-tips

·       Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monitalksmarriage

·       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/monica.tanner2

·       YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@secretsofhappilyeverafter

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In this lively conversation with Dr. Trina Read, a globally recognised sexologist, author, and one of the “most trusted voices on long-term intimacy,” we discuss the new wave of sex toys, namely those created by a company called Tracey’s Dog, which is “beta-ing” a toy called Drill Me. Yes, you read that correctly.

A company that sounds like it should be making pet products, which is what it originally was, has now entered the world of “teledildonics” (apparently, that’s a thing) to create a product that allows you to have sex with, for example, a werewolf (Hugh Jackman, are you listening?) via an avatar you can create. Or a doctor. A fireman. In fact, any fantasy you might have, whether it’s a younger or older man, a man in uniform, or a sexy beast.

You name it, and apparently the Aiphy app can create it, allowing you to move beyond the mediocre sex you may be experiencing in real life and have the kind of sex you’ve always desired. This, folks, is our future.

Or is it?

Trina and I discuss whether over-50s are ready for, or even interested in, sex toys of this variety, whether AI avatars can replace real people, and the pros and cons of this new technology.

I won’t give away the outcome. Instead, I hope you’ll listen to this Substack Live, which was a lot of fun. And, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!

The wonderful Amara Charles and I talk about how to design your sexual life as you age. How to experience pleasure, and what if an ageing body isn’t broken, but is simply done performing?

Can later life sex become freer, wiser, more playful and more intimate than the sex we had when we were younger? Listen and find out!

Go to amaracharles.com to learn more about Amara’s work.

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Erectile dysfunction is often treated as a physical issue, but this conversation explores the emotional, psychological, and lifestyle factors that can sit underneath it. Suzanne Noble opens with a personal reflection on how ED can be an early warning sign of more serious health problems, before introducing guest Tom Jenkins, author of The Drunk Gambler with Erectile Dysfunction.

Tom speaks candidly about his early sexual experiences, the role alcohol and gambling played in masking insecurity, and how poor confidence shaped his relationship with sex. He explains how honest communication with a partner, lifestyle changes, meditation, exercise, improved diet, and a major change of environment all contributed to his recovery. He also discusses why he eventually moved away from relying only on medication and toward addressing the root causes of his struggles.

The conversation also covers the link between erectile dysfunction and drinking, the pressure men can feel around performance, and why shame often prevents men from seeking help. Tom shares how an ayahuasca retreat became a turning point, helping him confront deeper issues and rebuild his life with more self-awareness and stability. The episode closes with a reminder that every person’s healing path is different, and that responsible, supported approaches matter when exploring alternative therapies.

Why listen

This episode is for anyone interested in sexual health, men’s wellness, emotional resilience, recovery from unhealthy habits, and the connection between intimacy and confidence. It offers a grounded, honest conversation about ED that goes beyond quick fixes and into real-life change.

Key topics

Erectile dysfunction and what it can signal.

Alcohol, gambling, and sexual confidence.

Shame, performance pressure, and communication in relationships.

Lifestyle changes, meditation, exercise, and diet.

Medication versus root-cause healing.

Psychedelics and responsible use in personal healing.

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FAQ

What causes erectile dysfunction besides age?

Erectile dysfunction can be connected to stress, alcohol use, low confidence, relationship issues, and broader health problems, not just age.

Can lifestyle changes improve erectile dysfunction?

This episode highlights how better diet, exercise, reduced drinking, meditation, and emotional honesty can support improvement.

Is erectile dysfunction always physical?

No. In this conversation, ED is presented as a mix of physical, emotional, and psychological factors.

Does medication solve erectile dysfunction permanently?

Medication can help symptoms, but Tom and Suzanne discuss the importance of addressing root causes too