In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My husband left me for a much younger woman. It happened two months ago, so the shock is wearing off, but I have no clue how to recover from this. I’m 51 and my husband is 55. He left me for a woman who is 30.

2) If you could go back in time and give advice to your younger self about sex, knowing what you know now, what would it be?

3) What do you think would happen if you stopped all sexual activity, including masturbation? Would you go insane? Is it different for men and women? I am a man and just curious—I’m not going to try this.

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) A simple question for you: what do people use dildos for? I get why a vibrator is appealing, but why would a couple need one?

2) I’m in a new relationship with the most patient, loving man. He gives me the most fantastic oral sex, often bringing me to orgasm without a toy. But, he suffers from terrible PE and will orgasm just from giving oral sex. What can I do to help him, as I would love to be properly penetrated again? We're not young.

3) My girlfriend and I have been together two years. I’m mid 40s and she’s 13 years younger than me. We’re both into the idea of a threesome, but can’t decide whether to have FFM or MFM. My girlfriend thinks a threesome once a month sounds like a great plan, but I’m not sure. She’s suggested asking our personal trainer who is very hot and single. I think it should be an escort, which I have used in the past. Can you help with the logistics?

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’ve been single for a few years and was desperate for sex, so started an affair with a friend of a friend. I knew he was married, and it’s not my style to sleep with married men, but we all got drunk at a party and it happened. The sex was incredible, so we did it again. We’ve been meeting for sex about once a fortnight for a year now. To me, that’s all it is—sex. So imagine my surprise when he told me he wants to leave his wife for me. I have no interest at all in a relationship with him. He’s said he’s hinted to her that there might be someone else and told the mutual friend who introduced us what’s been going on. I’m going to come out of this looking very bad. How do I manage it?

2) I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and our sex is pretty good. We both used to take turns initiating sex, which is about once a week. Lately, he’s stopped initiating and leaves it up to me. He’s very happy to have sex when I do, but I don’t like it. I gently asked why he’s stopped taking the lead, and he said he hadn’t noticed any change so I just let it drop, but it’s bothering me.

3) I’m 31 and my boyfriend of two years is 25. We’re both really open about sex and he admitted early on to being addicted to porn and masturbation. He hasn’t done either—watched porn or masturbated—for over a year now. He’s in such a healthy place that I asked him if he wanted to start again. He was adamant that he doesn’t, for fear of becoming addicted again. Is that likely? I’m at a loss of what to do because I don’t want him to feel unloved or restricted.

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) What’s your view on ‘O-shots’? My friend had one after menopause and says it rejuvenated her vagina back to what it was in her 30s. She says sex is amazing again. They are expensive, but I’m tempted. Are they safe, and what’s your take on them?

2) So I know what you’re going to tell me, but I’m asking anyway: I’m 43, divorced, and have been single for three years. My daughter is 24 and recently broke up with her boyfriend. Her ex and I always ‘play flirted,’ and I’ve always found him sexy. But, I got quite a shock when he texted me after the breakup saying he can’t stop thinking of me and would I consider meeting up with him. My body screams yes—I haven’t had sex in two years and would kill to do it with him—but what would my daughter say if she found out? I feel like I deserve this, but don’t want to put my relationship with her in jeopardy.

3) What do you do when you can’t leave an unhappy marriage? I’ve been belittled by my partner for years and he’s behaved extremely badly. I stayed because my self-esteem was so low. Just when I’d plucked up the courage to leave—after telling friends the truth of what’s been going on—he delivers his news: he’s been diagnosed with cancer. I know what I’m in for—my life will now be spent caring for a man who doesn’t deserve the kindness this will take. But what would people say if I up and left now?

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) You’ve talked about penis size and sensitivity, but I haven’t heard you talk about clitoris size in that regard. I used to have a normal size clitoris, but after taking testosterone to help with low libido, it seems to have tripled in size. I have stronger orgasms now—but it takes so much longer to climax. I can’t figure out the right spot anymore: the sensitive area seems to have moved. Any advice on how to find it again?

2) My boyfriend is obsessed with one of my friends. I’ve only met her recently and she is very attractive and posts a lot online. I trust him, but I recently caught him masturbating while watching a video of her online. It’s completely freaked me out. Does this mean he’s going to leave me for her or would rather be with her?

3) How can you tell if your partner is a sex addict? My new partner has admitted to a history of repeated cheating, and, while he wants lots of sex, he seems disconnected from me. He never makes eye contact during sex. My gut tells me something isn’t right. I don’t know him well enough to tell if he’s watching lots of porn, but he is paranoid about me picking up his phone. Am I overreacting or sensing something?

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My marriage has been sexless for five years—literally, no sex at all. I tried everything to make my wife see how important sex is, but she refused to even talk about it. We’re young—in our early 40s! It’s strained our marriage beyond repair; so, I asked her for a divorce. Instantly, everything changed. She initiated sex the night I told her, and we’ve had sex twice a day since. It’s good, enthusiastic sex and she appears to be up for anything. I don’t understand what this means and am too scared to ask. The million-dollar question is: will this last? Are our problems finally solved?

2) I’ve been with my partner for five years and it’s the best sex I’ve had with anyone. But now, it feels repetitive and boring. I’m keen to push boundaries, like I did with my previous boyfriend, but he’s not willing to step outside his comfort zone. I suggested we find a partner for each other and watch, or go to sex club and just watch others. He says it’s not in his character to do those things. He’s not even interested in watching porn—I watch it by myself. What now?

3) My wife can only orgasm while lying on her stomach with her legs closed and using a vibrator. We’ve talked about it and tried many other techniques, but this seems to be the only way that works for her. Should I continue to encourage her to experiment and try new techniques? How can we avoid things becoming boring for both of us, especially me? 

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) My husband has recently discovered Viagra and now takes it every time we have sex. Rather than save our sex life, it’s destroyed it. His penis is now too hard, he takes ages to orgasm, and his focus is almost exclusively on intercourse. Before Viagra, we had lots of foreplay and oral sex. I’ve told him I don’t like it, but he still takes it.

2) Should men also do pelvic floor exercises? Do they enhance sex for us as well as for women? If so, how do we do them? I gather there are quite a range of muscles down there which do subtly different things.

3) I'm a man in my late fifties and while I've had various friendships with women, none have resulted in anything romantic or sexual. What do I say if I did meet someone and the subject of past relationships were to come up? The lack of experience with sex and love is embarrassing. Also, what if I never meet someone? This greatly concerns me. 

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’m a 26-year-old straight guy and I’m having no luck with women. I’m curious to know what you think of AI girlfriends. I’m tempted to try one until I meet someone in real life that I really like. Is it a good way to practice relationship skills? Is there anything I should know before I sign up?

2) I’ve met someone and we have AMAZING sexual chemistry. But when we’re not having sex, conversation is difficult, and I ask all the questions. We have mutual friends and things in common, so it should be easy. I told him I feel nervous around him, and he says he feels the same. We haven’t been on a date yet, but he’s planning one and I’m scared it will be awkward. We’re both usually loud, chatty people so it’s a bit of a shock that we can’t be like that out of bed.

3) Can you talk about the different types of relationship models there are, including open relationships?

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I followed your advice and asked my partner for something I'd like him to do in bed. He did it, and all was good. But now he doesn’t do it anymore and I’m tired of asking nicely and dropping hints. What now?

2) You’ve talked about ‘hot-wifing,’ but what about ‘hot husbanding'? Do women get turned on watching their husbands with another woman in the same way men get off on watching their wives with another man? I suppose it’s every man’s fantasy for their wife to want that in a way. Cheating with permission! I’m curious if it’s a thing.

3) My wife and I are in our mid 60s, still in love, and having sex. But intercourse is increasingly painful for her. She’s seen a very sympathetic female GP and tried HRT and other things, but nothing has worked. Any suggestions on what might be the issue and how to continue having sex? Toys don’t do it for her, and she’s gone off giving and receiving oral sex.

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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’ve listened to enough of your podcasts to know that women don’t often orgasm through intercourse alone. But, is there anything a man can do to make that more possible, apart from holding a vibrator on her clitoris while he is inside her? My penis is starting to get a complex!

2) I’ve recently lost a lot of weight through the weight loss jab. I’m thrilled with the results—except for the effect on my sex life. My husband and I stopped having sex years ago because I felt too fat. I don’t think he found me sexually attractive at that weight, anyway. He’s thrilled that I’m back to the same weight I was when we met and clearly expects us to resume having sex. The thing is, I don’t want to. I never did enjoy sex much, but I have zero interest now. Not sure if that’s a side effect of the drug? I look sexier, but don’t feel it. What do I do?

3) How safe are glass dildos? I’m tempted to buy one but worry they’ll break inside me. Are they okay for anal play (assuming they have a flared base)? I’m a man and we are not famous for being gentle, especially when we are playing solo.

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