Domination, bondage, discipline, and other sexual kinks are merely tools to aid in a story being told between sexual partners. In this episode of The Bad Girls Bible, real-life dominatrix of 13 years,  Mistress Eva Oh joins us to discuss all things domination and share her tips for women and couples interested in these pleasures. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about how our guest became a dominatrix, how her career has helped her embrace her personality, what work is like day-to-day, and so much more! She shares (some unexpected) advice for women wanting to be more dominant sexually before telling us how couples can get into BDSM and discipline. We even discuss the personal exploration involved in sadistic sexual practices. From boundaries, to aftercare, to the traffic light and safe word system, this episode explores all things sexual domination from a realistic perspective so be sure to press play now!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing today’s guest, real-life dominatrix, Mistress Eva Oh. 
• Eva tells us about her background and how she became a dominatrix. 
• What it’s like to be a dominatrix day-to-day when she started versus now. 
• How being a dominatrix has helped her assert herself authentically. 
• Why she doesn’t try to understand why her clients want to be dominated. 
• Women wanting to be more dominant and how she suggests they achieve that. 
• Eva’s advice for couples wanting to try bondage and discipline for the first time. 
• How sadism is not only a sexual interaction but also a personal exploration. 
• The importance of having a conversation about boundaries before trying BDSM. 
• Eva explains the traffic light and safe word system for a kinky sexual experience. 
• The aftercare involved when a BDSM scene ends between sexual partners. 

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Mistress Eva Oh — https://www.eva-oh.com/ 

Mistress Eva Oh on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/youwillplease_me/ 

Mistress Eva Oh on X — https://x.com/youwillpleaseme/ 

Mistress Eva Oh on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@youwillpleaseme 

You Will Please Me — https://www.youwillpleaseme.com/ 

The Teakink Podcast — https://www.teakink.com/ 

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

Performance anxiety and the inability to make a woman reach orgasm are just some of the many issues so many men struggle with in the bedroom. Today on The Bad Girls Bible, seasoned porn star and sex coach, Erik Everhard joins us to share his 10 Clit Commandments and his tips for keeping an erection. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about how Erik got into porn, how to manage performance anxiety, some strategies to get erect and stay erect (including Erik’s CRUSH Protocol), how sex affects masculinity, and so much more! Erik even breaks down the 10 Clit Commandments as he shares how to perform mind-blowing oral sex and get a woman over the edge to achieve orgasm. Finally, he tells us all about his Everhard Academy and where we can learn more from him. Thanks for listening in!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing today’s esteemed guest, Erik Everhard. 
• Erik shares his journey and what led him to become a porn star. 
• How to manage performance anxiety as a porn star. 
• Erectile strategies someone with a penis can use to stay hard. 
• The biggest mistakes guys make when trying to last longer. 
• Erik shares his CRUSH Protocol for helping men stay erect. 
• Why sexual prowess is ingrained in a male’s identity and masculinity. 
• Erik breaks down his 10 Clit Commandments. 
• How vibrators can be a man’s biggest teacher when it comes to oral sex.
• What the tongue compass is and how to listen to it. 
• Primary cues to pay attention to when performing oral sex. 
• Being effective not fancy, the danger of novelty, and why consistency is key. 
• Common oral sex issues Erik sees with his clients. 

Quotes:

“Confidence is going to be a byproduct of competence.” [0:19:19]

There’s no way that you can decouple your sense of masculinity from your performance in the bedroom.” [0:20:35]

“Vibrators are the greatest teaching tool known to men and as men if we can look at what that vibrator is doing, we can extrapolate a lot of things from it that work on women.” [0:26:17]

“Give the pussy what it needs!”  [0:35:26]

“It might be tough for you to get honest feedback from a woman that has an emotional connection with you.”  [0:43:05]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Erik Everhard — https://www.erikeverhard.com/

Erik Everhard on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/erikeverhard/ 

Erik Everhard on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/groups/erikeverhard 

Erik Everhard on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/erikeverhardofficial/ 

Erik Everhard on X — https://x.com/ERIK_EVERHARD 

The Everhard Academy — https://learn.erikeverhard.com/users/sign_in 

Unleash Your Sexual Superpowers: A Porn Star’s Guide to Sexual Mastery — https://www.amazon.com/Unleash-Your-Sexual-Superpowers-Mastery/dp/1950367320 

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

We are joined by Tyomi Morgan for a Masterclass on how to give a great blow job. Tyomi has been teaching her techniques for years and today she reveals more than 30 different methods you can use on your man tonight. We start the podcast talking about Tyomi’s background and talk a lot about how to ride your man with confidence. You’ll learn how to get into the right mindset so that you can enjoy giving oral sex and your partner can feel that enthusiasm. You’re also going to learn things you can do leading up to the blow job so that you’re teasing your man throughout the day, building tension, and having him crave you. Most importantly, Tyomi teaches her step-by-step techniques to use with your mouth, lips, and tongue, as well as your hands to give your partner the greatest blow job of his life. Join us today to hear all this and more! 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing Tyomi Morgan, her background, and how she became a sex educator and coach.
• Some reasons women typically don’t feel comfortable riding their man.
• Overcoming these reservations by connecting the body and the mind.
• A five-minute tutorial to find confidence and pleasure riding your man tonight.
• Determining whether or not oral sex is for you.
• Why you should never give a blow job out of obligation.
• Whether or not to engage your hands in the process.
• Having an ‘interview’ process to determine what your partner likes best.
• The role of teasing and how it can be a kink.
• Cleaning the penis and genital area.
• Massaging the penis and balls before giving a blow job.
• Making sure you have the right size of condom. 
• Underrated erogenous zones: nipples and hands. 
• Areas to consider when you start the blow job.
• Options for lubrication.
• Advice for anal and prostate play.
• How to approach edging your partner and how to take it a step further.
• Exercising the mouth and tongue for strength and stamina. 
• Making the process more pleasurable for the giver.
• Approaching the end of the blow job. 

Quotes:

“The first thing is getting out of your head; there’s literally no one right way to do anything. It’s either pleasurable, or it’s not.” [0:10:13]

“The only way we are going to bridge the orgasm gap is for women to take control of their own pleasure.” [0:12:55]

“If it’s not a glide, it is not a ride.” [0:14:35]

“If it feels obligatory, trust me when I tell you, the man can feel it.” [0:18:21]

“Edging is definitely the ultimate tease.” [0:42:32]

“What [edging] does is help a man relax into pleasure.”  [0:48:20]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Tyomi Morgan on Twitter — https://x.com/glamazontyomi/ 

Tyomi Morgan on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/realglamazontyomi/

Tyomi Morgan on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwQWS0xeETkjmSmbIZJO-TA

Tyomi Morgan Email — [email protected]

Tyomi Morgan Calendly — calendly.com/tyomi

Blow Course — https://www.thepleasureacademy.com/courses/Blow

Blow Him Away — https://www.amazon.com/Blow-Him-Away-Give-Mind-Blowing-ebook/dp/B000FC2O7U

Bad Girls Bible Sex Positions Guide — https://badgirlsbible.com/best-sex-positions

10 Incredible Oral Sex Positions for Wild Orgasms — https://badgirlsbible.com/blowjob-positions/

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

Have you ever been curious about what the swinger lifestyle might be like? Today we sit down with Dan and Lacy from The Swing Nation Podcast to answer all your swinger-related questions. Tune in as we discuss everything, from figuring out whether the swinger lifestyle is right for you to the impact it could have on your relationship.

Discover what drew Dan and Lacy to the lifestyle, their prior experiences with monogamy, and what they have learned from navigating this new world together. We discuss some of the best tips for exploring the swinger lifestyle, especially if you’re a beginner, before examining how to deal with jealousy, and why honest communication is essential! You’ll also learn how to recognize signs that swinging might be right for you, along with red flags you need to know about. Tune in for a deep dive into the swinging community from experts Dan and Lacy!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing Dan and Lacy from the Swing Nation Podcast.
• How Dan and Lacy found themselves involved in the swinger lifestyle together.
• Their experience with monogamous relationships and why they prefer the swinger lifestyle.
• Issues they encountered when they first started dating as swingers.
• Tips and advice on embarking on a journey of non-monogamy together.
• The benefits of taking it slow when you first start exploring the swinger lifestyle.
• How to recognize green flags that swinging might be right for you.
• Why insecurity and jealousy are normal and why good communication is essential.
• How swinging has benefited their relationship and communication.
• A breakdown of Dan and Lacy’s boundaries and how they set them.
• The value of having a list of rules when you’re starting out.
• Important red flags you should be aware of.
• Understanding compersion; the happiness you feel when your partner is intimate with others.
• How non-monogamy could change throughout your life and relationship.
• What led to them becoming prominent swinger influencers and educators.
• The type of events that Dan and Lacy host and how to join their Discord community.

Quotes:

“I knew that I can be monogamous if I really wanted to. It's not natural for me. I enjoy the non-monogamous aspect much more. It was nice to find a community that we could do it safely and together in.” — Lacy  [0:06:33]

“If you want to take this journey into non-monogamy, it should be something that you're doing together to explore each other's fantasies, to improve your relationship, to improve your sex life.” — Dan [0:10:07]

“The more you engulf yourself and experience things, I think the more you open up to new experiences.” — Dan [0:22:26]

“The average person on OnlyFans makes $150 a month. It takes a lot of work. We have a team of people now that run mine. We have four OnlyFan pages. It's a labor of love. It's taken a lot of work. You have to be comfortable with your body and you have to set clear boundaries.” — Lacy  [0:36:36]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

The Swing Nation — https://theswingnation.info/

Join the Swinger Society Discord Server! — https://discord.com/invite/swingersociety

The Swing Nation Podcast on Swinger Red Flags — https://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/lifestyle-education-swinger-red-flags/id1582945782?i=1000547768021&l=en-GB

The Swing Nation Podcast on Should I start a content subscription  — https://podcasts.apple.com/de/podcast/from-swinging-to-subscriptions-should-you-start-an/id1582945782?i=1000645432035&l=en-GB Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

Our early experiences with primary caregivers can profoundly affect our relationships later in life — often in ways that are deeply unconscious — and it takes conscious work to change our patterns and facilitate healing. Psychotherapist, Jessica Baum, joins us today to guide us through the different attachment styles and unpack how our early experiences shape adult connections. Tuning in, you’ll learn about the differences between anxious and avoidant attachment styles, why these types tend to be drawn to one another, and how you can support your partner if they are either of these types. We discuss what secure attachment looks like, the benefits of it, and why it’s essential to have a sense of safety in your relationships. Our conversation also unpacks the importance of setting boundaries, the healing practices in Jessica’s book Anxiously Attached, and how parents can support secure attachment in their children. Tune in to learn all about relational patterns and how to embark on a journey toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships!

Key Points From This Episode:

• What led Jessica to the field of psychotherapy.
• How she came to specialize in co-dependency.
• Imago therapy: how it helps us heal original wounds through our relationships.
• What secure attachment looks like.
• Anxious attachment and the signs that you might have this attachment style.
• Steps you can take to start healing from anxious attachment.
• Healing practices in Jessica’s book, Anxiously Attached.
• Understanding how memories and original wounds are stored in the body.
• The importance of setting boundaries for healing to take place.
• Why setting boundaries requires support.
• Parenting styles that prevent anxious attachment in children.
• How parents can support a secure attachment in their child.
• Assessing what level of anxiety is normal (especially in our current society).
• The definition of avoidant attachment.
• Why anxious and avoidant individuals tend to be drawn to one another.
• How social media and dating apps could be contributing to anxious attachment.
• What you can do to support an anxious or avoidant partner.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Jessica Baum — https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/

Jessica Baum on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-baum-lmhc-cap-038a1538/

Jessica Baum on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/

Be Self-Full — https://www.beselffull.com/

Relationship Institute of Palm Beach — https://www.relationshipspb.com/ Anxiously Attached — https://www.amazon.com/Anxiously-Attached-Becoming-More-Secure/dp/0593331060

Imago Relationship Therapy — https://harvilleandhelen.com/initiatives/what-is-imago/

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

If you’ve been struggling to achieve a perfectly equitable marriage, you’re not alone. Research shows that even couples who prioritize equality often find themselves fighting about fairness in their relationship.

That was the experience of today’s guests, Nate and Kaley Klemp, two high-achieving individuals, who started their marriage believing in a model of fairness, only to discover that, in reality, that balance was virtually impossible to achieve. It was out of this frustration that they developed what they call The 80/80 Marriage, a model rooted in radical generosity and shared success, which led to them co-authoring the New York Times bestselling book The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship.

I talk with Nate and Kaley about the concept of the 80/80 marriage, why fixating on fairness doesn’t work, and how adopting a mindset of radical generosity can transform your relationship. Our conversation also gets into key aspects of their book, like being intentional about each person’s role, creating explicit values, and setting priorities and boundaries together. Join us for a fascinating conversation on equality, radical generosity, and how to strive for an 80/80 relationship!

Key Points From This Episode:

•    Introducing today’s guests, Nate and Kaley Klemp.

•    The story of how they met and got married.

•    Why the first two years of their marriage were so challenging.

•    The many ways couples fight about fairness and why it causes resentment.

•    How they wrote the 80/80 Marriage together.

•    The concept of an 80/80 relationship, and how it differs from one that is 50/50.

•    Why it’s about striving for balance and radical generosity.

•    Steps to creating the right mindset for an 80/80 marriage.

•    How to create the structure for an 80/80 relationship.

•    Building a bridge between mindset and structure through values.

•    How to take a more intentional approach to your roles as a couple.

•    Setting priorities and boundaries as a couple (and why it can be so liberating).

•    Insights on what to do when you have an unwilling or reluctant partner.

•    How to approach your partner about entering an 80/80 relationship.

•    Nate’s new book Open: Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World.

Quotes:

“We're really the first generation in all of human history, striving toward equal marriage. [0:05:39]

“There's no such thing as 160% of anything. The whole idea is [that] it doesn't make sense, [so] strive. And then, [with] both parties striving for 80%, you land somewhere in the space of balance.”  [0:11:18]

“There are no good or bad, or right or wrong, values. There are known and implicit values. When you have known, or explicit, or agreed to, values, then you have a north star, where you can build the structure of your relationship. When you have implicit values, it's very challenging.”  [0:23:54]

“Most couples have never taken that step back and [have] never thought from an intentional place: ‘How could we redesign our roles, such that [it] really works for both of us?’”  [0:28:05]

“For many couples, when even just one person shifts to 80/80, it opens up a new space for the other person, who might be the undercontributor, to contribute more and to be generous in turn.”  [0:37:11]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Nate Klemp

Nate Klemp on LinkedIn

Nate Klemp on X

Kaley Klemp

Kaley Klemp on LinkedIn

Kaley Klemp on X

The 80/80 Marriage

The 80/80 Marriage on Instagram

The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship

Open: Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

What does it really mean to be confident in the bedroom? On this episode, we are joined by Dr. Alison Ash, a trained, Trauma-Informed Intimacy Coach, Educator, and Founder of TurnON.love. Dr. Aly helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written books and articles on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer identities and experiences. Join us for an insightful conversation that touches on many different aspects of sexual relationships. From self-discovery and the co-creation process, to dealing with shame and distinguishing it from guilt, our conversation is a deep dive into the fundamental elements of healthy, fulfilling sexual experiences. Dr. Aly demystifies the complex world of intimacy and the factors that all too often stand in its way. Thanks for listening!

Key Points From This Episode:

•    Introducing Dr. Alison Ash, Intimacy Coach, Educator, and Founder of the website, TurnON.love.

•    Her career journey which began in sociology before she found her true passion in education.

•    The constant process of self-inquiry and self-discovery necessary for fulfilling sexual experiences.

•    What it means to have the confidence to co-create your sexual experiences.

•    How shame can damage our relationship to sex and our bodies.

•    Empathy, reassurance, and normalization.

•    Differentiating between guilt and shame.

•    Three attributes of sex positivity.

•    Components that make up sexual consent.

•    Defining boundaries according to capacity.

•    Tips for affirming a romantic partner.

•    The role of self-deprecation in preventing intimacy.

•    How communication can enhance emotional connection during sex.

•    Tips for creating safety to share with your partner.

•    What lies at the core of any sexual fantasy.

•    Dr. Aly’s work and different options she offers for coaching and workshops.

Quotes:

“Society at large is pretty bad at templating healthy intimacy skills, but it is a skill, like any skill, something we can get better at with proper instruction and practice.” [0:02:47]

“One of the first things I tell folks is that sexual empowerment comes from knowing yourself.” [0:04:26]

“Some of the best sex comes from having a mutual shared orientation towards exploring and not having to have all the answers.” [0:05:39]

“So much of feeling confident and sexually liberated, and having fulfilling sex and relationships is about uncovering the things that we feel ashamed about and moving through it.” [0:08:46]

“A lot of institutions try to teach through shame. I think it's way less effective and problematic as supposed to holding somebody with love and compassion, but still accountability for mistakes.” [0:13:59]

“An affirmation is a compliment on steroids.” [0:21:10]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

TurnOn Love — https://www.turnon.love/

Dr. Alison Ash on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/alisonashphd/

Dr. Alison Ash on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/dralisonash/

Dr. Alison Ash on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/turnon.love/

Dr. Alison Ash on X — https://twitter.com/turnon_love

Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse — https://www.turnon.love/sexual-and-emotional-intimacy-skills

Sustainable Intimacy — https://www.turnon.love/sustainable-intimacyold

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

So many people have trouble orgasming and aren’t experiencing true pleasure during sex. Today on The Bad Girls Bible, sexual and relational communication profession Dr. Tara joins us to discuss the three main blockers of orgasms and why sexual chemistry is so important! In this conversation, you’ll hear all about Tara’s conservative background, what led her to the USA, why she became a professor of relational and sexual communication, body neutrality, sexual empowerment, Tara’s podcast, textbook, and the TV show she is in, and so much more! We delve into the three main reasons women struggle to orgasm before Tara shares her thoughts on the success of relationships with no sex or chemistry and how she helps her clients solve these issues. From attraction, to boundaries, to saying no, to the best positions for clitoral stimulation, to the use of vibrators, this episode has it all! We even discuss how same-sex schools affect sexuality in adulthood. Finally, our guest tells us all about what praise kink is. Thanks for tuning in!

Key Points From This Episode:

•    An introduction to today’s guest, Dr. Tara.

•    Tara’s background and how she became a professor of relational and sexual communication.

•    Why Tara loves the concept of body neutrality instead of body positivity.

•    How sexual empowerment can solve the issue of women faking orgasms and hiding it.

•    Tara tells us about her textbook and podcast and how she ended up on Celebs Go Dating.

•    The three main reasons women struggle to orgasm: physical, psychological, and relational.

•    Why Tara believes you cannot have a successful, happy, long-term relationship without sex.

•    How scent contributes to sexual chemistry and why it doesn’t ever lie to us.

•    Tara’s advice for what to do when in a sexless relationship with no chemistry.

•    The different categories of attraction and how it can be developed.

•    Why breaching boundaries is so detrimental in a relationship.

•    The importance of chemistry and why it cannot be built from nothing.

•    Tara speaks about the differences between spontaneous and responsive desire.

•    Why saying no is so liberating.

•    The best, easiest positions for clitoral stimulation.

•    Why men are generally so insecure about using vibrators and sex toys.

•    What praise kink is and how a couple can explore it.

Quotes:

“The solution to the inability to orgasm or even to embrace pleasure overall is sexual empowerment.” [0:07:57]

“So many different physical issues contribute to the inability to orgasm.” [0:14:43]

“Every single person is entitled to what is right for them. If you're in a relationship that you don't have any sexual chemistry with your partner, it's your prerogative to decide if you want to do.” [0:23:25]

“A breach of boundaries is a killer of trust.” [0:29:09]

“For me, the most important thing that I learned in my previous relationship that you can never get unless it was there is chemistry.” [0:33:29]

“There is no good sex life – without communicating, without feeling confident, without feeling comfortable in your skin.” [0:42:04]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Luvbites by Dr. Tara — https://www.luvbites.co/

Dr. Tara Email Address — [email protected]

Dr. Tara on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtaraluvbites/

Dr. Tara on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/ Dr. Tara on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@luvbites.co

Dr. Tara on X — https://twitter.com/luvbitesco

Sexual Communication: Research in Action — https://books.google.co.za/books/about/Sexual_Communication.html?id=KRRVzwEACAAJ&redir_esc=y

Celebs Go Dating — https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5993484/

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

So many relationships struggle with sexlessness and many couples aren’t aware of the fact that they can get help and save their relationships! Today on The Bad Girl’s Bible, sex therapist and podcast host, Dr. Nazanin Moali joins us to discuss causes and solutions for sexless relationships. In this episode, you’ll hear all about Dr. Moali’s fascinating background, what made her want to be a sex therapist, her podcast, Sexology, her Farsi podcast, and so much more! We discuss what a sexless marriage or relationship is and what may cause it before talking about infidelity, pornography, and trauma and their effects on sexual experiences in relationships. Sometimes, one partner initiates sex more than the other and may feel rejected often and today, Dr. Moali shares some tips to reconnect in this situation. We even talk about the differences between spontaneous and responsive desire, the main psychological causes of erectile dysfunction, and some cures for chronic erectile dysfunction. To hear all this and so much more, tune in now!

Key Points From This Episode:

•    Welcoming today’s guest, Dr. Nazanin Moali to the show.

•    Dr. Moali tells us about her background and why she became a sex therapist.

•    Her Farsi show and the demand for it among the Iranian population.

•    The definition of a sexless relationship and the main causes of it.

•    Infidelity causing anger and sexlessness and how to validate your partner to heal from it.

•    How pornography affects relationships and how to handle the effects of it.

•    Unresolved trauma and its contribution to a sexless relationship.

•    How to handle when one partner rejects the other for sex or initiation is one-sided.

•    Dr. Moali explains what spontaneous and responsive desire is.

•    The main psychological causes of erectile dysfunction in otherwise healthy men.

•    Some cures for chronic erectile dysfunction.

Quotes:

“Many people don't know there are solutions out there. Sexual health challenges are something that you can cure, you can get treatment for it. It could be even as easy as a few sessions.”[0:07:31]

 “Trauma can be an incredibly painful experience for people to have. It can really impact how our body responds to sex and sexuality. It can impact our responsiveness or lack of responsiveness.” [0:17:31]

“If you're not into foreplay, you're not doing it correctly.” — [0:29:24]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: 

Dr. Nazanin Moali on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/nazanin-moali-ph-d-9623482a/

Dr. Nazanin Moali on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast/

Dr. Nazanin Moali Linktree — https://linktr.ee/oasis2care

Dr. Nazanin Moali on X — https://twitter.com/oasis2care

Sexology Podcast — https://sexologypodcast.com/

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

Research shows that the majority of women will experience pain during sex at some point in their lives. But just because painful sex is common, it doesn’t mean you have to accept it as normal! To talk about this, we’re joined by Nora Langknecht, a sexuality educator, reproductive health counselor, and Brand and Digital Marketing Manager for the sex toy brand FUN FACTORY.

In this episode, Nora tells us about her career journey and role at FUN FACTORY, which she describes as the perfect mix of spreadsheets and dildos! Then, we delve into what could be causing pain during sex, the importance of arousal and lubrication, and tips to help you rethink sensuality, communicate better with your sexual partner, and much more. Whether you're flying solo or coupled up, this episode will help you to unlock pain-free pleasure in the bedroom. So, grab your headphones and get ready to revolutionize your sex life!

Key Points From This Episode:

• What led Nora to become a sex educator and counselor.
• Common causes of pain during penetrative vaginal sex and their solutions.
• Reasons that lube is for everyone!
• When Nora recommends speaking to your doctor about painful sex.
• Why anal sex can be painful and ways to make it more pleasurable.
• How to prepare for anal sex; hygiene, communication tips, and more.
• A warning against numbing cream and why orgasm isn’t always the “goal.”
• Tips to help you rethink sensuality and experience pleasure without sex.
• Advice for supporting your libido, whether you’re partnered or single.
• The role of pornography in a partnership (and when it can be a problem).
• Insight into how COVID-19 affected couples’ sex lives.
• Suggestions for self-discovery using sex toys.
• A comprehensive guide to consent and how to practice it intentionally.
• Spontaneous versus responsive desire and why mindfulness is key.

Quotes:

“Slowing down, focusing on arousal, and including more lube are the main solutions for vaginal pain during sex.” — Nora Langknecht [0:04:15]

“Thinking of sex as something more intricate, cyclical, and playful also helps if you're not moving unidirectionally – from [external play] to penetration to orgasm.” — Nora Langknecht [0:12:58]

“There are all these different ways to be sensual together that can involve any of our five senses that aren't necessarily focused on what we would consider a sex act.” — Nora Langknecht [0:19:14]

“Sometimes in partnerships, we focus on partnered pleasure more than solo play, but solo play is a fantastic way to support your own libido – It's an important part of your own sexual life, whether you're married, dating, or single.” — Nora Langknecht [0:23:37]

“For some reason, we started telling this story that [asking for consent] was going to be scary or unsexy, but asking someone if you can kiss them is the sexiest, un-scariest thing you can do.” — Nora Langknecht [0:32:39]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

FUN FACTORY — funfactory.com

FUN FACTORY on Instagram — @funfactoryusa

Ohnut — thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products/products/ohnut-depth-limiting-rings

Jade T. Perry — jadetperry.com

The Pleasure Chest — thepleasurechest.com

Lovers — loversstores.com

Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — badgirlsbible.com/newsletter

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