My Queer Life

By Gina Battye

In My Queer Life I talk about the everyday issues and challenges I face as an LGBT person. Expect me to talk about all things lesbian, gay, gender fluidity, transgender and non-binary. If you have any... more

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The podcast currently has 12 episodes available.

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February 08, 2018A Message For LGBT+ Young People
* As featured in Diva Magazine, Lesbians On The Loose, Thrive Global & Mind Body Network
A Message For LGBT Young People
This is a message for all the LGBT young people out there.
Whether you have just come out, thinking of coming out, you’re homeless, you’re struggling with drugs or alcohol or coming to terms with who you are.
This is for you.

I know. You’ve been called some pretty hurtful things.
Fag. Dyke. Queer. Poof. Tranny. They’re the ones I can say without offending my mum…
You feel down. You feel isolated. You feel alone. You feel separated from those closest to you.
And all you want to do is fit in. To be accepted. To be part of the group.
You have internalised those negative messages you received and the poor behaviour towards you – from your parents, grandparents, siblings, school mates, teachers, strangers even.
And now you feel shame, rejection, fear, guilt. You are unable to accept yourself.
That’s the last thing you expected when you came out.
Listen up.
It’s not your sexuality or gender that is the issue. The issue is being in a society that doesn’t accept anything other than cisgendered or heterosexual.
There are a few things I want to say to you.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
You are good enough.
You are perfect as you are and you don’t need to change for anyone.
Be true to yourself and follow your heart.
Give people the space and the time to process who they thought you would be. They have expectations of you and who you will be in the future. You’ve had time to process who you are. Now, give those you have come out to the space and time to process too. In the meantime stay strong.
Remember, you are not alone. Of all the UKs homeless youth – one quarter are LGBT. That’s around 11,250 LGBT young people on the streets. They have been forced out of their home or decided to flee – usually because of parental rejection or abuse in the family. If you are homeless, you are not alone. Speak to others that are homeless too. Look at ways to support each other if you can. And seek support. The Albert Kennedy Trust and Stonewall Housing are a good starting point.
You are never alone. There are many people out there, walking past you day after day, that would love to help you. Many don’t know how to help you. Get clear in your mind what would really
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5min
February 01, 2018How To Break A Bad Habit
* As featured in Curve Magazine, Lesbians On The Loose, Thrive Global and Mind Body Network
How To Break A Bad Habit: LGBT Style
Everyone’s got at least one bad habit.
Researching the top 6 personal bad habits, this is what I came across:
Complaining.
Addictions – be it smoking, food, alcohol, drugs, shopping. You get the idea.
Blaming others instead of taking responsibility.
Always apologising – saying sorry before you speak or before you do something.
Interrupting people mid-sentence.
Nail biting.
Nodding your head at any of those?
Another place bad habits can show up is in relationships.
The following 6 bad habits in relationships have been reported on many occasions to be the reason for couples breaking up.
Your partner’s behaviour. Does it drive you nuts when your honey leaves the dirty dishes in the sink? What about toothpaste etiquette or dirty laundry.
Waiting for your partner to initiate affection and intimacy.
Taking your partner for granted and not appreciating them.
Being on devices sat in front of the TV instead of being present with your honey.
Criticising or being negative towards your partner, their work or family.
Not talking about the things that are bothering you. You would rather bottle it up than air it with your partner.
Any of those resonate with you?
You wouldn’t be on your own – I can say yes to ALL of those. How about you?
Seriously, I can say yes to ALL of those.
Let me take you back 12 years ago. I was in the early days of a new relationship with my girlfriend. I was addicted to partying, smoking and drinking. I didn’t take responsibility for my life and making decisions. I just didn’t make them.
I WAS that person that would moan, complain and gossip in the office with my colleagues. People would go out of their way to not be around me. That was me.
I had MANY personal bad habits and even more bad habits in relationships. I was pretty rubbish at being in a relationship to be honest. I hated conflict so when there was tension, I would bury my head in the sand. I was the ONE with the behaviour traits driving my honey nuts. I had no idea about positive thinking or any of that stuff – I was always criticising or negative about what was going on.
So what happened?
Well, I realised I needed to be different. To be in a loving and connected relationship. To be around people. And to be comfortable with myself. Something needed to change.
Let me talk you through the 3 step-method I used to break all of those bad habits.
Step 1. Identify what your bad habits are. List them all. Personal, relationship based, social ones, work ones. Write them all down. Then pi
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8min

FAQs about My Queer Life:

How many episodes does My Queer Life have?

The podcast currently has 12 episodes available.