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Christina's powerful journey through endometriosis and fibroids reveals the silent battle many women face when severe pain is dismissed as "normal." As a dietitian and professional, she never expected to become the patient navigating a complex medical maze that would ultimately change the course of her life.

From mysterious bladder symptoms to devastating diagnoses, Christina walks us through her decade-long battle that included multiple surgeries, a shocking discovery of endometriosis during fibroid treatment, and eventually losing a kidney, ovary, fallopian tube, and appendix to this progressive condition. Her raw emotion surfaces when discussing how these health challenges altered her expectations about fertility and her future—a grief process many chronic illness warriors understand all too well.

What makes this conversation extraordinary isn't just Christina's medical journey but her powerful testimony of resilience. She shares how faith sustained her through eight-hour surgeries and waking up to news that more organs had been removed. The moment her surgeon used the exact words from her sister's prayer—"we were gentle with you, we took care"—stands as a profound spiritual marker in her story.

Beyond her personal experience, Christina offers valuable insights for anyone supporting loved ones through health crises. She emphasizes the importance of simply listening without trying to "fix" the situation, allowing people to process their changing emotions, and creating space for both vulnerability and strength. Her practical advice about seeking specialist care, joining support forums, and dietary approaches provides a roadmap for others facing similar diagnoses.

The conversation serves as a wake-up call about women's health—revealing how endometriosis affects one in ten women worldwide yet takes an average of eight years to diagnose. Christina's willingness to share her story breaks the silence around conditions often hidden from public view and empowers others to advocate for themselves when symptoms are dismissed. Listen now and discover how to navigate life's most challenging chapters with grace, community support, and unwavering hope.

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What does it really take to build a happy family life? Forget the glossy social media images and dive into the beautiful, messy reality with our guest Bessie Eritani, a family law solicitor who brings both professional expertise and personal experience to this candid conversation about what she wishes she'd known about parenting and marriage.

Bessie cuts through common misconceptions with refreshing honesty. Remember that advice to "eat for two" during pregnancy? "Don't," she laughs, sharing how she learned this lesson the hard way with her first child. But beyond such practical insights, she tackles the profound emotional adjustments that come with family life. "Be prepared for change," she advises, explaining the fundamental shift from putting yourself first to prioritizing your children and partner.

The conversation takes a fascinating turn as we explore the myth of perfection that haunts so many parents. "There's no perfect parent and no perfect child," Bessie emphasizes, cautioning against the dangerous habit of comparing yourself to others. Drawing from her family law practice, she identifies lack of communication, unwillingness to compromise, and gaslighting as the main culprits behind relationship breakdown. Yet she also shares success stories, including an elderly couple who rekindled their marriage through simple but meaningful connection.

What makes this episode particularly valuable is the blend of professional wisdom and personal vulnerability. Bessie admits she can't sleep until her adult children return home safely (while her husband snores away!), and confesses to occasionally overreacting to her children's behavior. These relatable moments remind us that even those with professional expertise are still finding their way.

Whether you're contemplating parenthood, already raising children, considering marriage, or working to strengthen your existing relationship, Bessie's parting advice resonates with hopeful realism: "Just go for it. There's no manual, there's nothing perfect under the sun... but if there are challenges, there are always solutions." Connect with this wisdom and more by listening now, and remember to share with someone who might need these insights today.

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Why do men suffer in silence? Newton Ohwerhi opens up about the unspoken battles men face in a world that demands strength but punishes vulnerability.

Ever slept outside a church for two weeks while pretending everything was fine? That's exactly what Newton did during his university years a powerful example of how men hide their struggles behind masks of strength. Throughout our conversation, Newton shares raw stories of financial hardship, societal pressure, and the dangerous consequences of keeping silent about life's challenges.

"There is a stage to which you wear that mask and it becomes very heavy for you," Newton reveals, "and you will even get to the extent you forget what your real face looks like." This poignant observation highlights why men's mental health deserves urgent attention. When Newton finally broke his silence after suffering to the point of hospitalization, he discovered something life-changing: vulnerability isn't weakness—it's often the path to finding the help we desperately need.

We dive deep into practical strategies for managing expectations, avoiding the comparison trap that steals joy, and finding purpose amidst pressure. Newton explains how he transformed his struggles into opportunities by recognizing his hidden talents and creating multiple platforms to help others navigate similar challenges.

Whether you're struggling with unrealistic expectations, feeling overwhelmed by responsibilities, or simply tired of pretending everything's okay, this episode offers hope and practical wisdom. Listen now and discover why speaking up might be the most courageous act a man can perform. Your story matters, and sharing it might just save your life.

You can contact Newton here : Youtube: Mr Review  & also NaijaShadows NaijaShadows - YouTube
Facebook : @Ohwerhi Oghenemine Newton 
Twitter: Ohwerhi O. Newton. (@iam__newton_) / X 
Email [email protected]

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From the bustling streets of Nigeria to the shores of Europe, Victoria's nine-year odyssey across the African continent represents one of the most extraordinary migration stories you'll ever hear. In this gripping conclusion to our two-part series, Victoria reveals how she navigated through Cameroon, Gabon, and Congo before finally securing passage to the United Kingdom in 2001.

What makes Victoria's journey particularly remarkable is the context - of the four friends who originally set out together, she alone reached European soil. The others settled in South Africa, building successful lives there, though not without tragedy along the way. As Victoria guides us through her complex path involving multiple marriages, children born in different countries, and countless risky situations, we witness the indomitable human spirit at work.

The most surprising twist? After years of attempting dangerous border crossings and living in precarious situations, Victoria ultimately reached the UK through an approved visa application. "I went to apply for the visa for the first time and they gave it to me," she recalls with astonishment. Sometimes the most straightforward path emerges only after every challenging alternative has been exhausted.

Victoria's story serves as both inspiration and caution. For those contemplating similar journeys today, she offers sobering advice: "If it was now, I don't think I would have survived it." The world has grown more dangerous for migrants, with exploitation and trafficking presenting even greater risks than when she traveled. She challenges listeners to reconsider what "freedom" truly means and whether the sacrifices of migration are worth it, especially for older individuals or those with established lives.

"When there is life, there is hope. You can be wherever you want to be, once you put your mind through it," Victoria concludes. Her remarkable journey stands as living proof that with persistence, faith, and a measure of good fortune, even the most challenging paths can lead to safety and opportunity. Listen now for a powerful testimony that will forever change how you think about the human capacity for survival and reinvention.

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What drives a young woman to pack her bags and leave everything behind with no plan, minimal funds, and without telling her family? In this captivating episode, we meet Victoria, whose remarkable journey across West and Central Africa began with a desperate decision to escape limited opportunities in Nigeria.

Victoria's story is one of extraordinary resilience and adaptability. After her father's accident left him partially paralyzed and her stepmother discouraged her education, Victoria decided to take a chance that would forever alter her life's trajectory. At just 18 years old, she embarked on a journey that would take her through Cameroon, Gabon, and eventually to Congo—crossing rivers on foot, spending months stranded on ships, and navigating complex border crossings along the way.

The heart of Victoria's story isn't just about physical travel, but about transformation. When she reached Congo, Victoria discovered unexpected talents and opportunities. Despite never having used a computer before, she taught herself digital skills and leveraged her English language abilities in the francophone country to build a career with international companies. Her integrity and work ethic led to her becoming highly sought after in a small community where everyone knew each other's business.

What makes this tale particularly powerful is Victoria's reflection that she has no regrets about her perilous journey. The experience taught her profound lessons about human dignity and respect that challenged the hierarchical traditions she grew up with. Her story reminds us that sometimes our most desperate decisions can lead to unexpected growth, new perspectives, and even love in places we never intended to stay.

Have you ever taken a leap of faith that changed everything? Share your story with us, and don't forget to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts. Your journey might just inspire others to find courage in their challenges too.

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Aramide Adebayo's personal struggle with finding stylish shoes for her size 10 feet didn't just remain a frustration it became the catalyst for a successful niche business serving women with plus-size feet. In this captivating conversation, Aramide shares the remarkable journey behind Long Feet Boutique and her second venture, The Avenue.

What began with just six pairs of shoes has grown into a thriving enterprise celebrating its 12th anniversary. Aramide reveals her entrepreneurial philosophy summed up in three powerful words: "Just Do It." Rather than waiting for perfect conditions or overthinking potential obstacles, she champions taking immediate action on ideas while enthusiasm is high. This mindset, coupled with her unwavering positivity, has carried her through manufacturing mishaps, capital challenges, and the demanding 24/7 reality of business ownership.

Perhaps most fascinating is Aramide's strategic decision to "stay in her lane" by focusing exclusively on larger shoe sizes. This specialization has made her brand memorable in a crowded marketplace and fostered a genuine community among her customers. Many have become friends who volunteer at her events and participate in her WhatsApp community, "Soul Confidence." Her commitment to exceptional customer service like personally calling customers for feedback and replacing defective products – demonstrates how turning negative experiences into positive ones builds lasting loyalty.

The conversation also explores how Aramide's primary business naturally evolved into The Avenue, a pop-up marketplace now featuring 50+ businesses and attracting over 500 attendees. This unexpected growth illustrates how being attentive to customer needs can reveal exciting new business opportunities.

For anyone feeling stuck in the planning phase of entrepreneurship, Aramide offers this powerful advice: "If you wait for the perfect moment, you're not going to do anything." Her journey from selling personal jewelery to fund her startup to now requiring external storage facilities for her inventory proves that starting small with passionate determination can lead to remarkable business success.

For more info check out the Instagram page; you can contact Aramide there as well -The_Avenue_UK

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What happens when the very parts of yourself you've tried hardest to hide become the foundation of your healing journey? In this deeply moving conversation, author and ministry leader Seun Sholanke shares the raw, transformative story behind her book "Living in Wholeness."

Seun reveals how a triggering moment during her social work studies unexpectedly unearthed childhood trauma she'd buried for years. Rather than staying in that broken place, she describes the pivotal encounter that reconnected her with God's tangible presence and started her healing journey. With disarming honesty, she explains how God challenged her to share her story publicly, a step that not only furthered her own healing but created space for countless others to begin processing their pain.

Throughout our discussion, Sheun unpacks the practical realities of living in wholeness. She addresses why we hide our brokenness, how unresolved trauma manifests in our daily lives, and the inside-out approach God takes to genuine healing. With wisdom born from experience, she offers insights into breaking generational patterns of brokenness, especially for parents seeking to raise whole, confident children. Her perspective on identity crisis rooted in biblical examples from Gideon to Jesus himself provides a refreshing counterpoint to our culture's endless striving for perfection.

The conversation culminates in a powerful reminder that our most painful experiences, when surrendered to God, become our most effective ministry tools. As Sheun puts it, "With the same comfort you've been comforted, you can comfort other people." If you're struggling with your own brokenness or trying to support someone who is, this episode offers both practical wisdom and the gentle assurance that healing is possible not despite your wounds, but often because of them.

What parts of your story might God be waiting to transform from sources of shame into channels of healing for others? Listen now and discover how living in wholeness isn't about achieving perfection, but embracing a journey of becoming all God created you to be.

You can get Seun's Book Living in wholeness on Amazon here-https://amzn.to/4o3hsTG

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www.pottersdaughtersministries.com

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What if you could transform a life-altering diagnosis into an inspiring tale of resilience and empowerment? Join us as Tayo returns to share her continued journey from cancer diagnosis to a vibrant lifestyle, showing us how she embraced herbs and holistic wellness as key components of her recovery. With practical tips and personal anecdotes, Tayo introduces us to her favorite natural remedies, like bay leaves and hibiscus, and offers insights into how she has woven these elements into her daily life, emphasizing the power of informed decision-making and the importance of small, consistent changes.

Tayo's journey doesn't just stop at personal transformation—it extends into a broader conversation about taking responsibility for one's health and wellness. We explore the mindset shifts required to move from a passive recipient of medical advice to an active participant in one's healing process. By sharing her reflections on cultural dietary habits, particularly within her Nigerian background, and her evolution in understanding health and wellness, Tayo challenges misconceptions and highlights the necessity of aligning dietary choices with individual lifestyle needs. Her story is a powerful reminder that taking charge of one's health is both a personal journey and a shared experience, requiring openness to new ideas and the courage to embrace change.

Listeners will find inspiration in Tayo's unique perspective on health as she shares how her cancer diagnosis became a wake-up call, reshaping her life purpose and approach to wellness. Through her experiences, she illustrates the significant impact of mindset shifts, the value of a supportive community, and the importance of continuous learning and adaptation. Whether it's her passion for dance, her dedication to sharing hope and encouragement, or her commitment to living a purposeful life, Tayo's story is one of transformation, resilience, and empowerment, inviting us all to reconsider how we approach our health journeys and to find our own paths to well-being.

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Why don't we talk about menopause? In this candid, laughter-filled conversation, Bessie opens up about her journey through perimenopause and the bewildering array of symptoms nobody prepared her for. Like many women, particularly those from African backgrounds, she received no education about this inevitable transition—not from her mother, not from her doctor, and certainly not from society at large.

From night sweats so severe they require midnight clothing changes to the sudden, inexplicable itching that appears at bedtime, we explore the reality of symptoms far beyond the stereotypical hot flashes. Brain fog that makes you forget your own name mid-sentence. The sudden aversion to cooking after a lifetime of enjoying it. Digestive changes that leave you sleeping sitting upright. Cold flashes instead of hot ones. The conversation weaves through these experiences with honesty and humor, acknowledging the confusion and sometimes fear these unexpected changes bring.

Most poignantly, we discuss how these symptoms impact women's professional lives and relationships. When concentration fails in important meetings or anxiety suddenly appears over minor changes, women often suffer silently rather than seeking support. The workplace is slowly becoming more menopause-aware, but progress depends on women being willing to speak openly about their experiences. Similarly, educating men—particularly partners—about menopause creates understanding during a time when mood swings and physical changes can strain relationships.

If you're experiencing perplexing symptoms in your 40s or beyond, you're not alone. Help is available, though you may need to advocate for yourself. Through rest, research, medical support, and connection with others going through similar experiences, women can navigate this transition with dignity and even find the humor in it. The conversation ends with a powerful reminder: this is a universal female experience, and breaking the silence benefits not just ourselves but generations of women to come.

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Can partners in a marriage grow at different paces without losing their connection? Join us as Fela shares his insights on navigating the complexities of marriage and personal growth. We promise you’ll uncover valuable tools for fostering mutual understanding and trust even when life’s path seems uneven. Our conversation covers the intricate dance between supporting your partner's development and ensuring your own aspirations are not lost, highlighting scenarios where one partner might pause their advancement for the other’s benefit.

We explore critical dynamics that come into play when partners experience divergent growth trajectories, whether professionally or personally. By focusing on the importance of awareness and communication, especially concerning often-overlooked topics like menopause, we discuss the necessity of redefining success based on personal fulfillment rather than societal standards. Through real-life examples, such as a husband adjusting his work life to support his wife's career advancement, we emphasize the power of collaboration over competition. This episode underscores how consciously uplifting each other can transform your relationship into a true partnership.

As we unravel the challenges of creating shared goals and maintaining balance, we delve into the significance of personal space and boundaries within relationships. Trust plays a pivotal role, allowing partners the freedom to be themselves without feeling threatened. By sharing stories of couples who have successfully navigated these challenges, we offer insights into maintaining privacy and respecting boundaries. Whether it’s the nuances of phone privacy or acting as each other’s cheerleaders, this episode offers guidance on fostering a relationship where both partners can thrive individually and together, ensuring both personal needs and joint aspirations are met. Listen in for a heartfelt discussion on nurturing a balanced and fulfilling partnership.

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