Needy and Normal Podcast

EPISODE 81 | How often do we give in to the easy, go-to, question, what do you do? We think it's useful in breaking the ice in a new connection, right? Much like bringing up the weather, it's like an instinct to ask about work. But what are we actually asking? And what insecurities could arise from it? How does that actually help us connect, authentically?

This question lacks in true connection. In this short episode, we'll discuss why asking "what do you do?" is dated, what to ask instead, and dive into why this needs to change.

Your needs matter, because you matter.

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EPISODE 80 | Long distance relationships are not easy, but doable. And if you believe in your relationship, it's worth it. In this episode, we will talk through relatable, best outcome tips for LDRs, or for when you spend time apart. Save this one, share it, and use these tools to find success in your relationship no matter what.

Tips begin at 5 minutes 30 seconds. And yes, one is about intimacy!

Your needs matter, because you matter!

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EP 79 | Have you ever been accused of being "needy" or "too much?" Or have you been the one to feel this about a partner or a friend? Are you the "needy" one? This is your episode. We're debunking the negative label of NEEDY as BS and calling it normal! Yes, this is the mission of the podcast. Listen for clues and tips in this quick episode you may need right now! 

Answer questions you may ask such as:

1. Am I needy?

2. How did I become needy or why do I feel this way? Or

3. What can I do about it?

Your needs matter, because you matter.

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The Needy and Normal Podcast is brought to you by ABL Life Coaching. Now through the end of September 2025, receive $500 off of your first coaching package. Visit abllifecoaching.com to book your free initial call! And follow @abllifecoaching on IG.

EP 78 | This is not just any cancer story. Pancreatic cancer is typically a “death sentence”, as our guest, Carol Rubatt, states without sugar-coating her own reality.

During the height of the pandemic, Carol, a healthy and active woman, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Accompanied by her own strength, she quickly armed herself with an educated and determined medical team. With the support of her friends and family, Carol had the battle of a lifetime to become cancer free!

In this episode, Carol is so real, yet holds onto the best attitude anyone can adopt, cancer or not. Her story will captivate and educate you, and there is a plot twist. 

Listen for advice you might not expect and connect to a woman everyone she meets calls their friend. Carol is truly a wonderful person and you’ll feel all the feels in this episode.

Be uplifted, educated and inspired. (And bring a tissue box, too.)

Your needs matter, because you matter.

BIO: Carol Rubatt is everyone’s favorite neighbor, a retired high school teacher, mother of four and grandmother of four, and married for 42 years. She was free of pancreatic cancer for four and half years until its reoccurrence in the late summer of 2025. Carol is currently fighting again to become cancer free. She has an attitude towards life that we all need to learn from, and she spreads love and humor wherever she goes. 

Watch Carol’s interview with Dr. Doug Evans here:

https://youtu.be/OLhq9XgMxHk?si=hT_Oy9jmb5JONjQA

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EP 77 | As a life coach of many years, I have had the privilege of working with high achievers from all walks of life. From parents to business owners, professional athletes to bankers, I've helped many people with the hot topics in this episode. Take a "look" behind the curtain of a life coach's work, and listen for what you may relate to the most and also need support through in your life.

This episode will answer the question:

What do high achieving clients need most from a life coach?

Listen, learn, and breathe. You are not alone.

Your needs matter, because you matter.

Thank you for listening to the Needy and Normal Podcast. Please rate and review the podcast before you go, and share your favorite episode with a friend. 

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Follow @needyandnormalpod and @abllifecoaching on IG and come back next week!

EP 76 | Back to school is a hectic, exciting and even sad time! Seasons change, because they are meant to change. Human beings are tested with change and yet we adapt, too. In this episode, listen for six specific tips for getting through the transition into a new school year for your kids AND for you.

I will share my own reflections and stories, you can probably relate to, as well as dive into these very helpful tips.

Tips begin at minute 14:46 and a brief review of each tip begins at 33:07.

Your needs matter, because you matter.

Thanks for listening to the Needy and Normal Podcast. Please rate and review the show before you go, and follow along so you don't miss an episode you may really need. Share your favorite episode with a friend and follow @needyandnormalpod on IG.

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EP 75 | Change is scary, whether you choose it or not, and that is normal. In this quick episode, we'll talk through the difference between facing change and choosing change. 

Listen for some truth's, including:

1. Resisting the change you don’t choose never makes it easier.

2. Growth starts when you stop asking, "why is this happening to me, and start asking, what can this teach me?" 

3. Change can feel better when you accept reality and take action.

4. Feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t fix anything AND you're still entitled to feel your feelings.

5. Choosing to make a change, no matter how scary, could turn out better than you expected! The discomfort of uncertainty is often better than the pain of staying stuck.

6. Part of being human is facing change, becasue it's inevitable.

Listen for valuable mindset tips. And always remember it's okay to ask for support.

Your needs matter, because you matter.

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EP 74 | Formerly Paige Murphy from episode four, the more recently Paige Thomas, is waking up to a different life these days. From her years as a professional baseball wife, to years of contemplation, soul searching and finding strength, she is now living a life she's chosen no matter the sacrifices.

In this episode, Paige walks us through her story of discovering how her marriage to former MLB player, Donnie Murphy, was over.

Paige reveals the confidence she had in her kids to "be okay" through it all, as a final push to make one of the hardest and "best" decisions of life.

Find comfort in her explanation of how you can actually trust uncertainty, manage better with continued self-care, and shove the shame away.

Find relatability in Paige's fearless focus on honoring hers and her children's feelings through life's big changes.

Be reminded that being patient with yourself is okay, and so is being authentic toward your own needs.

If you are considering a divorce, Paige walks us through her experience, from first thought, to her new chapter, happy and connected in her new relationship and to herself.

While you may never stop growing, you can make all kinds of decisions in your life. Change does not have to be scary, if you really need it.

Your needs matter, because you matter.

Big thank you to Paige, for coming back to the show, to give us an honest update about hard choices and pursuing a better path.

Thank you for listening to the Needy and Normal Podcast. Please rate, review and follow the show, and share your favorite episode with a friend. Follow @needyandnormalpod on IG as well as @abllifecoaching. For more information about coaching, visit abllifecoaching.com. 

EP 73 | Are you in the middle of some chaos? Life does that sometimes. I am in it myself. Did you hear about the floods in Wisconsin on the night of August 9, 2025? We were apart of the aftermath. Our basement flooded. This felt like a good time to practice my tools, tools that I teach and coach people through. I needed them, too.

In this episode, I'll storytelling of course, but also walk you through key "how-to's" that we all need. The difference, you'll notice, is I am a big fan of allowing us to claim the human experience. Being human is necessary. Laugh, cry, freeze, feel the feelings. Then, take action based on what you actually can control and F the rest.

**This is an explicit episode because one of the steps is to "F-it!" Listen for it!

Your needs matter, because you matter.

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EP 72 | In case you forgot, YOU ARE ENOUGH. This episode is a calming reminder of how we each need to know that our existence matters. You don't have to people please or perform to be enough. You wake up worthy every day. You are valuable just by being you, and you are amazing. Listen carefully, love yourself, and share this episode with someone you care about, too.

Your needs matter, because you matter.

YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Thank you for listening to the Needy and Normal Podcast. Rate and review the show before you go and follow us on IG @needyandnormalpod. This podcast is brought to you by ABL Life Coaching. Follow @abllifecoaching on IG and visit abllifecoaching.com to learn more.