Negotiate Your Life

Today we'll finish up this, long overdue, series on connecting through real listening with:

P - Paraphrasing
I - "I" Messages
E - Effective Pauses
S - Summarizing

I'd love to connect with you on IG after you've listened and give you the simple 50+ open ended questions guide I have!

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Today Jeremy will put the RE back in RE-Connecting as he talks about the next two skills of true listening.  He'll teach you how he got it wrong and it turned out right!  Then he'll share why.

If you want to be an effective listener you need to utilize the power of:

• Reflecting and Mirroring
• Emotional Labeling

These skills make all the difference
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In this episode Jeremy will take you through the first two skills you need to actively engage a person.

You can use these skills in business, marriage, parenting, or even when hanging out with friends.  Consider the most influential person in the room.  They likely start here.

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This week the conversations between Jamil (a black man) and Jeremy (a white cop) continue.  They are answering questions about:

• Police Culture
• Who Polices the Police
• The Media's Role

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Every negotiation has one.  It may last an hour.  It may last more.  In this episode Jeremy will share what the screw you hour is, how it applies to you, and how to negotiate through it.

The steps are simple:

• Patience
• Low Temperature Responses
• Trigger Recognition
• Curiosity

Living them out in your daily interactions is a little more difficult.

This week the conversations between Jamil (a black man) and Jeremy (a white cop) continue.  They are answering questions about:

• Police Training
• Defunding the Police
• Emotional Dissonance
• Jeremy's reaction to the death of George Floyd

Join the Conversation at www.negotiatingforlife.com

What's the most important key to living your dream life?
How do you go from desire to reality?
Today I'll discuss our family mantra and how it's helped us build our business, assist with parenting, and even got me out of bed when I didn't want to get up today.


And here's the framework I promised you from the last episode:

Free Network Guide Framework

In our current culture, you may have ideas about why I've chosen to leave law enforcement. Why now?

I'll give you three reasons I'm leaving and share the false reasons you may think a person would turn in their badge for during this time.

Listen fully and ask yourself...What about me?

• Do I have full control?
• Are the costs of my current situation worth the rewards?
• Do I have margin?
• What if everything changed tomorrow and I "changed my mind?" Do I have options?

I was both excited and hesitant when I got the call from my friend.  Excited because the conversation has to be had.  Hesitant because I'm far from qualified.

In light of everything our society is facing, my friend, fellow coach, leader, speaker, and author, Jamil Frazier and I decided to interview each other.

Join in on the conversation and give us questions or thoughts for our next episode.

www.negotiatingforlife.com

If we're going to negotiate life together, you should know I almost didn't make the team and I almost quit before I was denied.

Today we'll talk about what I learned and why I chose to stick it out even when my ego hurt.  I'll also share what that moment impacted so many other decisions in from that point on.

When you get your action step of the day head over to jeremynicks.com and let me know what you're negotiating.