This episode is about a podcast I saw on YouTube with two black women. One was talking about another’s video and how husbands are a requirement. My perspective is obviously get married but really just put your money where your mouth is. It’s irritating when some women think that their opinion is the LAW and not an opinion, but also how toxic black women can be to one another. One of them was bragging about having rappers and NBA players in her DMs but refuses to be a baby mama. Which is fine but who is she trying to convince? 🫣I’ve always been Solo Dolo because I don’t like fake people around me and I move accordingly. I used to beg people to be my friend or even in dating which means I couldn’t take a hint not literally begging 🙄. But anyway….worry about things you can control so you don’t sound like you have bird brains. And if you want a good man then date a good man. Don’t try to turn a bad one good it will just hurt you in the end. My word is not law either but I do have a point. Argue with yourself not me. 🤗

Recently there was a ploy couple that went viral on tiktok because of the alleged scamming and violence that is suspected with the “ring leader” of the trio (Snapping Turtle). From what I have seen so far these are my thoughts on the matter and I hope these 2 women get out sooner than later and know they deserve better. Olive Garden is the 20 year old and Shoe Shine is 30 and in the navy. I can’t use real names for obvious reasons. I do wonder how this will all end…

This episode is reflecting on the couple times exes told me they moved on or more recently about to be engaged. I think people don’t talk about bruised egos that happen when you hear things like that because it can make you feel hurt or that you weren’t good enough. But you forgot that they weren’t good enough for you and that’s why you left…right? So remember why you left them and know that they haven’t changed or if they did not that much and you rise above your past. Know that you deserve better and leave the dust on the ground where it belongs. This society pushes a narrative that if you are single you are the problem or you will die alone. Stop placing your value on other people and determine your value for yourself 💯

This episode is about recent events that not only traumatized me but also absolved any hope of a relationship with someone who really never wanted me to begin with. I had a really hard time letting go as y’all know but this was the icing on the cake for me. Sometimes it can be hard to navigate situationships that’s why they are called that, but it can be done in time. Eventually you will get tired of the disrespect and disregard that this person continues to show and you will finally accept that as your closure. Take it from me, you will probably keep going back until you just can’t anymore. You will finally be free.

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This episode is about something that happened recently, how to navigate feeing regret and how to work on healing. I reference a book “How to Heal” my friend gave me for my birthday and sharing some of my reflections about myself. As I work on healing, I hope you do too.

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This episode is about how to deal with dreams about someone you were involved with or dated. Hopefully, this helps you not feel alone but also don’t think this means to reach out to them. Remember that you deserve better and actually believe it. Be careful when you feel very triggered or even pushed to contact them because it may hurt you when it doesn’t go the way you want. Figure out the feelings you had in the dream, sit with it, feel it, then let it go. This is very normal and understand that moving on is a process that doesn’t happen over night especially if you really cared for them ✨

Everyone says to be yourself but is that what we are seeing? Majority of people are fake but the only way to really be different is to be yourself 💗

I’m talking about my dating experiences, my standards and what I think about men having women best friends or mentioning exes too soon 😐

I know it’s been super long since I’ve posted but life has been happening however, I do want to move the podcast to YouTube so y’all can see me and interact more with me 🥰 the link is on my Instagram cj_nelle and I hope to see you soon!

To be frank, im angry for allowing myself to let things go on for as long as they did or going back when I knew I shouldn’t have. Yes they should’ve never been trying to date me knowing they couldn’t fulfill their promises, but when I saw the change I should’ve left. The fact they don’t care hurts even more when I never asked for any of this deceit. But im learning the hard way and this is how it feels.

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