I’m just giving examples of toxic advice and things to not internalize. Don’t let others try to make you feel bad or dictate how you should be. It’s your life, not theirs

In this video I’m speaking on advice that I saw to help men heal. The message is from a man and I wanted to share it so it can possibly help you. Anyone is able to listen because it is applicable to healing pain. I hope that you can find the source of your hurt and start to correct it. I don’t want people to keep hurting others when they don’t have to. And I wish I recognized that how I was being treated wasn’t about me but the pain a man could be suffering from. No you don’t stay with men like that but you can be their friend to help them if they need it. It’s short and to the point so listen to it twice if you need to. ❤️‍🩹

This episode explains why I made “taking a break” and what it means. I also will continue talking about my experiences since that’s what this is all about and how to heal from that. I hope you learn to love the peace that comes will not dealing with anything less than you deserve.

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Sex is performative. For most if not all people participating in this activity, you are doing it for a reason. We use sex to prove something to someone, like we are lovable. We crave intimacy but not love. We even at times can weaponize sex to get what we want which is detrimental to others. Most of the time you are filling a void, escaping from yourself or boosting your ego. Either way I’m challenging thoughts and ideas about why you are sleeping with people that really don’t serve a purpose for you in the long run. I hope that you feel encouraged to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself some difficult questions. It’s unhealthy to sleep with as many people as you want. You can lie to yourself like you’ve been doing, but my purpose is to help you break that cycle. We try not to hurt people sometimes but we still do. Even if we don’t mean it. Understanding that will help you make healthier decisions. If you are abusive and didn’t realize it, this is the time to fix it. The point is to not be depressed about it but to DO BETTER. Let’s be better the next time around. 💕

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I just felt triggered and wanted to talk about.

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When you are in a toxic relationship, it’s like a drug. You go through withdrawals and start feening for his attention. But remember why you left in the first place. You need to learn how to let go and move on because most likely he is with someone or sleeping with someone anyway. And if not, him not being the one for you should be enough to let it go. It’s a process but you’ll be glad you left sooner than later in the end.

Are you doing things to get a man’s attention or are you really doing it for you? It’s normal to care what people think but that shouldn’t dictate what you do. Presentation does matter when it leads to a perception of you. That’s all I’m saying.

This episode is about me sharing something that I regret since I’ve been dating. In my 20s I feel like there is no room for error yet I keep making mistakes. I want to share how I feel because I don’t want someone to ignore themselves for a man. You have to prioritize yourself. When you neglect yourself you loose yourself. And sometimes you can’t come back from the mistakes you’ve made. Hopefully you can reflect based on my experiences and that way you will know first hand what it’s like from someone who went through it. Overall I’m ok and just taking time to be alone. I’m not saying I’m not open to things but I’m also not seeking anything.

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This episode talks about some experiences I had with a few of my patients and how representation matters in the medical field. Nobody understands us like we do and we need that support. If you want to create a business to help our community you should. Sorry it cut out around 10mins 🥲