Nelle’s World💜

Just giving some tips on how to get through feeling down or depressed. Be encouraged that it won’t last forever. 💕

Today’s episode is about what men know and what women don’t when it comes to commitment. Men usually know fairly quickly if you are their wife or something else. They judge you based on things they want in a woman and go from there. Either they will string you along or date you with intent (courting). This is important because men will drag you through the mud knowing they don’t want you because you don’t understand what it looks like when a man truly wants you. A man moves different when you are the one. I can’t speak for men nor can I speak for all men. But based on what I’ve heard men say and do this is a conclusion. Some men will take advantage of the fact that you don’t have standards and they will take whatever you give them. All the while judging you in the process (which is wrong and hypocritical). When a man doesn’t know what he wants you start to wonder where you stand with him. Usually that means you don’t have a place in his life at all other than something physical. Having love and being IN love are very different as well. But just remember a man knows. And don’t let a man that’s not for you take up the time that belongs to your future husband. If you don’t care to be married then don’t worry about this but if you do keep this in mind while dating.

Today I’m just talking about things I don’t agree with or subscribe to. Things that a lot of people disagree with or the mass media has shown to be important. I think that everyone should have their own thoughts and beliefs and stand in it all the way. A lot of my thoughts are things I’ve seen through social media, TV, music videos, family members, boyfriends, and friendships. If you want to know what I don’t like then here it is 😊 Appreciate people’s differences and respect them and you will be in a much happier space then trying to change people.

Today’s episode defines narcissism and also the traits that they have. I also mention 7 types of narcissism that was identified in an article by an actual therapist. The reason why I made this episode was to inform you of men like this and also so you won’t keep labeling every single man a narcissist. He may have the traits but he may not have the actual disorder/illness. Although that can be debatable let’s just be more aware and understand that these are unhealthy traits that we should stay away from. Be careful out here and know that a narcissist is a danger to your sanity. Both genders can be narcissist but I am a woman trying to help other women. But technically if he wasn’t diagnosed then he’s not a “narcissist”. But you should still run if you see any signs that look bad. Save your heart and your sanity. A lot of men don’t care and that’s a fact but that also is a lack of empathy which is very scary. If you feel like you have any of these traits, stay single (no sex) and do the self work. Be healed before you get in another relationship. Don’t hurt someone because you are being selfish. That damage can’t be undone. So just be careful out here and work on self-love.

What do you define as a friendship? I think we have different definitions but it should be mutual across the board. I think a lot of us use the word friend very loosely. I speak on these ideas and also how a lot of women praise the fact that they have a best friend to women who want to become their friend. So you think there’s only one best friend? If so, then why have other friends? I find it hard to nurture friendships that fulfill my emotional needs and always end up feeling left out. I can’t be the only one trying to grow with you and you don’t feel the same. I speak on some experiences I had growing up and how I became ok with not having a “best friend(s)”. It can be hard but at the end of the day just be yourself and someone will appreciate it. 😊

Today’s episode is more of me venting about what I’m dealing with hoping that you can learn from my mistakes. The don’t do drugs aspect is a metaphor for how break up to make up is like a drug, you keep feening for the next hit. Getting over a breakup is very difficult but you have to learn from it so you don’t make that mistake again. A man that is emotionally available will never invalidate or ignore your feelings. Don’t keep the door open for Pandora’s box because it will always be chaos. Close the chapters of your past so you can grow and do better. You have to protect your heart at all costs until he proves himself worthy. Just learn from me.

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Today we talk about some examples of trauma bonding and premature attachment. It is important to recognize these things so that you can develop a healthy loving relationship. I also speak on settling and how men will show you what’s important to them by what they do. These are my opinions however, I hope they can help you if you have been putting your needs aside for someone who isn’t doing the same. Don’t settle for less. If he doesn’t get right then he gets LEFT. You deserve the best even if you are just solo. Your time is too precious to waste on someone not sure and not ready. At the end of the day just do what is best for you and nobody else. 💖💖

This episode is about the phrase “protect black women” that has trended on social media shedding light on how black women are NOT protected in our community by our men. I speak on a YouTube video that showed a black man asking if black women felt protected and the responses that followed. As black women we need to learn that when someone shows us they don’t care for us we need to move on and know our worth. Don’t accept the stale crumbs when you deserve a fresh cake. These are my opinions through my eyes so don’t take anything personal 👍🏾💜💖

In this episode we discuss body image and how certain beliefs in the community about body image can be damaging, we also discuss how black women are over sexualized and how all of these things reflect low self-esteem and the seeking of external validation. This one is long but discusses some important themes. Tune in and let’s be better for the next generation 💖💖

On this episode we talk about the mindset of men who identify as “red pill” meaning exchange sex for sex and don’t do anything for a woman outside of that. MGTOW= men go their own way, which means don’t pursue a woman basically. What do ya’ll think about this new age mindset? Stay tuned to hear my thoughts 🤓