Neurodiverse Love-Sharing Lessons Learned and Lived Experiences in Neurodiverse Relationships

We have changed the account we will be using for Season 2, so please check out the first episode and subscribe at:  https://anchor.fm/neurodiverse-love or check out the link in our bio on Instagram @neurodiverse_love

We hope you will join us and subscribe to Season 2 of the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast as Mona and Manecia share more lessons learned and lived experiences.  We will also have more guests joining us on the podcast.  We hope that hearing from others in "Neurodiverse Love" relationships, as well as those who are providing counseling or coaching to neurodiverse couples, will be helpful as you forward on your neurodiverse journey.

If you would like to be a guest on the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast please e-mail us at: [email protected] or DM us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love

For more resources on neurodiverse relationships please check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

If you are interested in joining the on-line "Neurodiverse Love" peer support group for the neurotypical partner, please send us an e-mail or a DM on Instagram.

Thanks for listening and for being a part of the "Neurodiverse Love" journey.

During this episode Mona, Olga and Manecia talk about how we have dealt with our emotions SO differently then our neurodivergent partners, and discuss the impact this has had on our relationships.  When we have shared our emotions and feelings with our current or past partners, they might respond by shutting down, looking very confused, or appear indifferent.  Understanding and coming to terms with how differently our partners processed our emotions has been a challenging journey, however, during this episode we have some epiphanies that may help others.  We discuss how important it is to understand that the way in which our partners may have showed they care about us is very different then we may have wanted or expected them to react, when we would get emotional.  Sometimes we need a hug, at others times we need calming reassurance that "everything is going to be okay" and we may expect our partners to "read our minds" about what we need. No matter what, (paraphrasing Oprah), we want to know that our partners "hear us" "see us" and "understand us" and we talk about some of the ways in which neurodiverse couples may be able to achieve this.  We hope you gain some insight from our mistakes, and the lessons we have learned on our neurodiverse journey's.

If you are in a "Neurodiverse Love" relationship,  or provide coaching or counseling to Neurodiverse couples we would like to hear from you.  If you are interested in being a guest on the podcast please contact us by e-mail at: [email protected] or send us a DM on Instagram: @neurodiverse_love

If you are interested in joining one of our free Zoom support groups for the neurotypical in a neurodiverse love relationship, please e-mail us or send us a DM on Instagram.

Also, please visit our website at: neurodiverselove.com for more resources.

Thank you for listening and please share this episode with others who may be in a "Neurodiverse Love" relationship:-)

In this episode, we talk about what we did do, as well as what we didn't do, to take care of ourselves in our neurodiverse relationships.  We also delve into why acknowledging and letting ourselves feel and work through our emotions is SO important.  Even though both partners may have different ways of expressing their emotions, we talk about the importance of understanding and experiencing your emotions in the ways that are healthy and healing for you (and don't cause harm to others).  Lastly, we talk about the ways in which we have grown in our relationships and how important it is to empower yourself, create boundaries and take time for "you", even when you feel like you're putting everyone else first.

Thank you for listening!:-)

If you would like to be a guest on the podcast, please email us at: [email protected].

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Check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

If you would like to join one of our twice monthly "Neurodiverse Love" peer support groups you can send us a DM on Instagram or email us to get the Zoom link.

During this episode we talk about how important emotional reciprocity is to the neurotypical partner and how each partner needs to create their own happiness, instead of relying on the other to be their only source of fun and happiness.  We also talk about some of the ways in which each partner can get their needs met through respectful. loving communication.  In addition, we talk about the challenges couples may have because of unresolved trauma from undiagnosed autism and how that can have an impact on the neurodiverse relationship.

As we continue to expand our podcast content, we are sharing more information that we hope will be helpful to neurodiverse couples, or those that are looking to begin a neurodiverse relationship.  Every love relationship takes work, however we also know that going into a neurodiverse relationship when you are expecting a neurotypical relationship, can bring many challenges and unintentional pain that we hope this podcast and the other resources and information we offer will help lessen.

If you are the neurotypical partner in a neurodiverse relationship and you want to join our twice monthly peer support group, please send us an email at: [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love and send a DM to get the Zoom link for the support group.

You may also want to check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

Thank you for listening to the Neurodiverse Love podcast and please share this podcast with anyone you know who is in a neurodiverse love relationship, or is interested in starting one.:-)

We are so excited to share this episode with our listeners.  Kate and Clark have been married for 9 years and in October, 2020, Clark was officially diagnosed as autistic.  During this episode, this neurodiverse couple share openly and honestly about the ups and downs of being in a ND Love relationship.  They share how they met, what attracted them to each other, what it's like to receive an ASD diagnosis as a married adult with two children.  They also talk about how they are learning to handle communication challenges, the importance of emotional reciprocity, more effective ways to address meltdowns and shutdowns, the importance of time alone, and how being in a ND relationship is a lot like speaking two different languages and always trying to translate in your head, so you "get it right".

This is the first time we have had a Neurodiverse couple on the podcast and we would love to hear from more neurodiverse couples who want to share their stories.  We also want to thank Kate and Clark for being both vulnerable and authentic with us.  Their love for each other is an inspiration and we really enjoyed talking with them during this episode.

If you are the neurotypical in the relationship and would like to be a part of our "Neurodiverse Love" peer support group, please send us an email at: [email protected], or you can send us a DM on our Instagram page @neurodiverse_love.  The group meets twice a month through Zoom, for about an hour, and we will send you the Zoom link if you would like to join us.

In addition, for more information on "Neurodiverse Love" relationships, please visit our website at: neurodiverselove.com.

Thank you for listening to this episode and please share it with others who may also be in a "Neurodiverse Love" relationship.:-)

Mona and Olga have a new co-host and welcome her to the 31st episode of the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast.  Manecia is in a neurodiverse marriage and shares her story in a way that is encouraging and enlightening.  During this episode, we all talk about the importance of understanding your partner and learning what you both need to do and understand to succeed and thrive, individually, and as a couple in a neurodiverse relationship. 

This is definitely a "don't miss" episode!!! 

We know that you will all enjoy hearing Manecia's story as she shares the ways in which her and her husband are growing and learning together on their neurodiverse journey.  We are so excited to continue sharing our lessons learned and for Manecia to be a part of this journey.  

Please ignore the technical glitches we had during this episode, we are recording from two different locations and learning about this new process:-)

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If you are looking for a Neurodiverse Love coach with many years of experience working with neurodiverse couples and neurotypical women in ND relationships, contact Dr. Pnina Arad at https://lp.vp4.me/efpr

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Check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

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As more and more adults are diagnosed with autism (or they self-diagnose), it is critical that we find ways to understand and accept the various neurotypes that exist.  We all bring strengths and opportunities for improvement to our professional and personal lives, however, if we are quick to judge or negate each other, and don't seek understanding and acceptance, we lose out on so many wonderful learning, healing and growth opportunities.  Many partners in Neurodiverse Love relationships may be dealing with the Cassandra Syndrome.  This happens when they share with others some of the unique experiences they are having with their partner and no one believes their partner is autistic.  During this episode we address these issues and ask listeners to share what happened when they shared with family or friends that they were in a Neurodiverse Love relationship.

If you are looking for a Neurodiverse Love coach with many years of experience working with neurodiverse couples and neurotypical women in ND relationships, contact Dr. Pnina Arad at https://lp.vp4.me/efpr

Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love

Check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

Email us at: [email protected]

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During this episode Olga and Mona discuss the difference between starting a relationship and knowing your partner is neurodivergent at the beginning, versus finding out after over 25 years of marriage.  Is one easier then the other and if so, why?

If you are looking for a Neurodiverse Love coach with many years of experience working with neurodiverse couples and neurotypical women in ND relationships, contact Dr. Pnina Arad at https://lp.vp4.me/efpr

Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love

Check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

Email us at: [email protected]

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In this episode we talk about how important it was for us to let go of the things we dreamed of having and experiencing in our Neurodiverse Love relationships.  In addition, we have learned over time that having expectations of our partners caused a lot of emotional pain and disappointment.  While there are strengths and challenges in every relationship, in the beginning of a ND relationship you are often your partner's special interest.  During that time, they want to do whatever they can to please you.  Once that changes and they focus on a new special interest or one they had prior to you entering their life, you can experience sadness and loneliness.  This change can been emotionally draining as you wonder "were my expectations too high" or "should I have no expectations at all"?

If you are looking for a Neurodiverse Love coach with many years of experience working with neurodiverse couples and neurotypical women in ND relationships, contact Dr. Pnina Arad at https://lp.vp4.me/efpr

Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love

Check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

Email us at: [email protected]

Mona and Olga are both comfortable with most change, and don't need to know, or understand the details regarding every aspect of their lives.  Instead, they tried to "go with the flow" as much as possible and find joy and the lessons to learn in the ups and downs of life.  In their Neurodiverse Love relationships change was a major challenge for their partners and "going with the flow" could lead to anxiety, anger or other negative reactions from their partners.  Knowing the importance of preparation or planning in a ND relationship can help reduce these challenges and this is what the episode will focus on.

If you are looking for a Neurodiverse Love coach with many years of experience working with neurodiverse couples and neurotypical women in ND relationships, contact Dr. Pnina Arad at https://lp.vp4.me/efpr

Follow us on Instagram @neurodiverse_love

Check out our website at: neurodiverselove.com

Email us at: [email protected]