Gen. 2:25 NLT Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.

Gen 3:7-13 NLT 

At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt 

shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. 

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When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord

God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. 

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Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” 

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He replied, “I heard 

you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.” 

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“Who 

told you that you were naked?” the Lord God asked. “Have you eaten from the tree 

whose fruit I commanded you not to eat?” 

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The man replied, “It was the woman 

you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.” 

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Then the Lord God asked the 

woman, “What have you done?” “The serpent deceived me,” she replied. “That’s 

why I ate it.”

The Shame 1-2-3's

1. We all have it.

2. We're all afraid to talk about it.

3. The less we talk about shame the more control it has over us.

I.

What is shame?

A.

Gen. 2:25 Now the man and his wife were both 

naked

, but they felt no 

sham

e.

B.

Shame is a feeling of being flawed that causes us to be fearful of being 

uncovered, unworthy, and/or rejected. 

II.

How does shame affect us?

A.

Gen. 3:7 At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt 

shame at their nakedness. So, 

they sewed fig leaves

 together to cover 

themselves. 

B.

Shame causes us to hide. 

III.

How do we overcome shame?

A.

Gen. 3:21

And the Lord God made clothing from animal skins for Adam 

and his wife.

B.

2 Cor. 5:21

For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for

our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ. 

C.

Hebrews 12:1-2 

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd

of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us 

down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with 

endurance the race God has set before us. 

2

We do this by keeping our 

eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because 

of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now

he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne.

D.Steps to Overcoming Shame:1.Get Naked 2.Get FocusedPs. 75:7 It is God alone who judges;he decides who will rise and whowill fall.3.Get to the Cross Mk 15:19 And they struck him on the head with a reed stick, spit on him, and dropped to their knees in mock worship.Big Idea: Jesus died a shameful death so that we don’t have to live a shameful life.

2 Corinthians 1:20

Galatians 6:9 Let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up.

Matthew 28:18-20 

Our understanding of Godly Authority is critical to our assignment and our life.

Luke 10:19 Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the  enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you.

Matthew 18:18 “I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.”

The authority you are under, determines the authority you carry.

Romans 13:1  Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. 2 So anyone who rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished.

#1 All Authority is from God. 

Romans 13:2 Anyone who rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished. 

#2 Rebellion against Godly authority is a sin with serious consequences.

 1 Samuel 15:23 for rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the LORD, he has also rejected you from being king.

The first test is The Arrogance Test.

      1 Samuel 17:34 David said to Saul, "Your servant used to keep his father’s sheep, and when a lion or a bear came and took a lamb out of the flock, 35 I went out after it and struck it, and delivered the lamb from its mouth; and when it arose against me, I caught it by its beard, and struck and killed it. 36 Your servant has killed both lion and bear; and this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, seeing he has defied the armies of the living God.”

       The second test we see in David's life is The Abuse Test.

        1 Samuel 19:10 David fled and escaped that night.

       The Advantage Test.

       The Association Test.

       2 Samuel 1:14 

      1 Corinthians 15:33 

Top It Off - Fulfilling the Goal of Marriage

The goal of marriage is that your oneness would display God’s glory in a way that no other event or institution could ever possibly display.

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured!

John 2:1-2 Now on the third day there was a wedding at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, and Jesus and His disciples were also invited to the wedding.

Jesus will show up in your marriage if you invite Him! 

John 2:3-11 When the wine ran out, Jesus’ mother said to him, “They have no wine left.” Jesus replied, “Woman, why are you saying this to me? My time has not yet come.” His mother told the servants, “Whatever He tells you, do it.” Now there were six stone water jars there for Jewish ceremonial washing, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus told the servants, “Fill the water jars with water.” So they filled them up to the very top.Then He told them, “Now draw some out and take it to the head steward,” and they did. When the head steward tasted the water that had been turned to wine, not knowing where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), he called the bridegroom and said to him, “Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the cheaper wine when the guests are drunk. You have kept the good wine until now!” Jesus did this as the first of His miraculous signs, in Cana of Galilee. In this way He revealed His glory, and His disciples believed in Him.

6 Now there were six stone water jars there for Jewish ceremonial washing, each holding twenty or thirty gallons.

God will bless your marriage in proportion to the amount you’re willing to pour in. 

John 2:11 Jesus did this as the first of His miraculous signs, in Cana of Galilee. In this way He revealed His glory, and His disciples believed in Him.

Treasure Your Role

Ephesians 5:21-22 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 

Ephesians 5:25 husbands… love your wives, just as Christ loved the church He gave up His life for her. 

We are about serving, not being served.Mark 10:45 The Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.”

We empty ourselves of pride. 

Philippians 2:7 He emptied Himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.

We lay down our own will. Matthew 26:39 And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.”

We strive to understand her perspective. 

1 Peter 3:7 all husbands are to seek to live with their wives in an understanding way. 

We are patient. 

We lay down everything for them.

Ephesians 5:22 Wives this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  

Out-serve One Another

“two people determined to out serve one another.”

Out serve your spouse spiritually.

Out serve your spouse emotionally.

Out serve your spouse in your house.

Protect Your Heart

Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart more than anything else, because the source of your life flows from it

Proverbs 18:24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly. 

friendly- kind, considerate, unselfish, and loyal

Focus on becoming the person that the person you're looking for is looking for.

Friendship is the base level of all relationships. 

Your destiny is tied to your relationships.

Proverbs 13:20 Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and suffer harm. 

1. The More the Merrier

crowded loneliness

You don’t need more friends, you need the right friends. 

2. The Only Friends I Need Are Family

Matthew 5:16Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.

3. Screen Time And Face Time Are Equal

#1 Godly Friendships Revive Us

I Kings 19:4 Then he went on alone into the wilderness, traveling all day. He sat down under a solitary broom tree and prayed that he might die.

Verse 9 “What are you doing here, Elijah?”10 Elijah replied, “I have zealously served the Lord God Almighty. But the people of Israel have broken their covenant with you, torn down your altars, and killed every one of your prophets. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me, too.”

#2 Godly Friendships Sharpen Us

Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. 

Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. 

#3 Godly Friendships Help Heal Us 

2 Kings 5:10-14 Elisha sent a messenger to say to him,“Go, wash yourself seven times in the Jordan, and your flesh will be restored and you will be cleansed.” 11 But Naaman went away angry and said, “I thought that he would surely come out to me and stand and call on the name of the Lord his God, wave his hand over the spot and cure me of my leprosy. 12 Are not Abana and Pharpar, the rivers of Damascus, better than all the waters of Israel? Couldn’t I wash in them and be cleansed?” So he turned and went off in a rage.

13 But his officers tried to reason with him and said, “Sir, if the prophet had told you to do something very difficult, wouldn’t you have done it? So you should certainly obey him when he says simply, ‘Go and wash and be cured!’”

14 So Naaman went down to the Jordan River and dipped himself seven times, as the man of God had instructed him. And his skin became as healthy as the skin of a young child, and he was healed!

Proverbs 18:1 the man who isolates himself rages against all wise judgment. 

James 5:16 Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. 

#1 Chase Your Future

#2 Schedule Time for Relationships You Care About

#3 Be the Friend You Would Want to Have

Galatians 6:7 “you reap what you sow”.

Become the person that the person you're looking for is looking for.

#4 Get Connected

Hebrews 10:24-25  And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.