New Thinking New Power with Dr. Paula

This is the last episode of a 4-part series called BACK TO SCHOOL.  In this episode, I discuss the importance of doing your homework.   In the classroom of life, there are certain lessons that life presents to us, but often time, we fail to learn the lesson because we don't do our homework.  In other words, we fail to reinforce the lesson that life is trying to teach us.    

#1 - Accept that this is a process.

Accept that this is a process.  Success does not happen overnight.  You're not in one grade for one day, so don't expect to master all of life's lessons in one day.  

#2 -  There should be no disturbances during homework. 

New research shows distractions affect the way people learn, which makes what you DO learn harder to use later on.  When you're working on yourself, do it with conviction.  Stay away from things that would generally interrupt your time. 

#3 -  Get a tutor to help you with your homework.  

If there is a particular subject or a particular area in your life where you need some assistance? It's ok to get a tutor.   In other words, get you a life-coach, a therapist, a personal trainer, or someone to help you accomplish the things you need to do to get to your goal. 

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This is the 3rd episode of a 4-part series called BACK TO SCHOOL.  In this episode, I discuss WORKING IN STUDY GROUPS.   You see, in this classroom called life, we have classmates, and our classmates can either propel us to greatness or hinder us from doing well.  This week, I would like to offer 3 rules of participating in study groups of life.  

1st Rule: Choose study partners who will stretch you, not break you.   

It's very important that you are intentional about the people you decide to form new relationships with and these people should inspire you to stretch and grow.   If you find yourself surrounded by people who don't push you to be your greater self, they are making you stagnant, and ultimately breaking you from your achieving your best life.  

2nd Rule:  Establish some healthy boundaries with your study group.

Establishing healthy boundaries is good for any team.  It's an agreement, if you will, that are put in place to ensure that your goals are accomplished.  Boundaries help maintain peace and respect. It makes team workflow more freely.  What are some boundaries you need to set with people around you so you can flow freely towards your goals? 

3rd Rule: Offer something to your study group.

Don't be that person who shows up to study sessions and study groups with nothing to offer.  In other words, don't be the person who goes through life with their hand out, seeing what you can get from others.  You see, if you want to be successful, look for ways you can contribute to others. 

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This is the 2nd episode of a 4-part series called BACK TO SCHOOL.  In this episode, I talk about TAKING NOTES as a good study habit.  But what does taking notes look like when it comes to our lives? Here are three practices of good note taking for your lives: 

The first art of note taking you can practice is writing about your future goals. 

Imagine your best, possible life that you desire, write about that life you desire in the PRESENT tense. Be as specific and vivid as possible.  

The next art of note taking is to plan your time to take notes and be consistent. 

it's not a matter of how much or how often you should write, what matters is that your CONSISTENT.  Successful people schedule specific times throughout the week when they are going to write -- and then they stick with their schedule. Writing at specific times and specific days help you develop self-control and to be more intentional about your life. 

The final art of note taking is to write in the mindset of gratitude. 

Practice The Three Blessing Exercise. Write down 3 things that you are most grateful for the day. Try this exercise every day for 3 weeks.  You will experience a deeper and restful sleep, less anxiety, and more happiness.

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This is the 1st of a  4-part series called BACK TO SCHOOL.  In this series, I discuss the various strategies you need to be successful in life's classroom.   Let me give you your list of school supplies to pick up so you can be successful in this classroom of life. Have you ever heard of the old saying the 3 R's of learning? Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic?  These are the areas on which we are going to get our school supplies.

1st Principle: READING

There are so many benefits from reading!  And if you really want the life that you desire? You're gonna have to do what it takes to LEARN about the life you desire.  So READ!!!! Even if it's a page a day, you owe it to your overall wellbeing, and your overall success if you would READ!

2nd Principle: WRITING

Study after study shows you will remember things better when you write them down. Studies show that  that you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.

3rd Principle: ARITHMETIC

With achieving your goals, you must have measurable outcomes.  When a goal is specific and measurable, it's more likely to be achieved.   Goals need to be made in such a way that measurable evidence can be accomplished along the way.                     

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This is a great time of year for a mid-year checkup, to REFRESH YOURSELF.  When you refresh something, you're enhancing something you already have. You are giving new strength to it.  So, now that you've reset yourself, let's refresh ourselves to move forward.

1st Principle:

Realize that you have the capability to achieve astounding success. Think about one goal that you set for yourself for this year.  Resist the temptation to just breeze by your milestones without acknowledging what it took for you to achieve them. You've likely done a lot in the past six months, whether it's personally or professionally. Remember that micro wins lead to macro wins. 

2nd Principle:

Understand who you are and who you are becoming in the PROCESS of achieving your goals. When you take the time to reflect, and be mindful, you learn more about yourself. Even if you have not made the progress you would've liked to made towards your goals, I'm sure you have learned lessons you would not learn otherwise. And you know what? Those lessons are sharpening you for future endeavors. 

3rd Principle:

Refresh your mental position.  Let's do as Lisa Nichols say do and move to another mental zip code. You see, energy grows where energy goes. So take on the mindset that you are moving from a position of setback and defeat to a position of success and achievement and happiness.  Start thinking like over-comers, start thinking and start talking like successful people talk.                          

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How do you know when it's TIME to reset?  In this episode, I give you 3 signs when it's time to press that reset button.

Reason #1: It's time to reset because you've realized that you've lost your passion for the goal you initially wanted to achieve. Remember, when you've lost your PASSION for something, your commitment level decreases.  Be honest with yourself.  Maybe it's time to reset your purpose and your goals because you've lost passion.  

Reason #2:  It's time to reset when your actions are counteractive to your overall goal. In other words, if you have developed a behavior that is not helping you reach your ultimate purpose, you need to reset your life.  Ask yourself this question, what am I doing that's pulling me further away from achieving my goal? Than ask yourself this, what can I do to change that behavior? 

Reason #3: It's time to reset when you're not in harmony with yourself and others. This usually takes place when you've isolated yourself either physically, mentally, or emotionally from others. We actually NEED to be part of a community in order to thrive. Do you find yourself becoming more isolated on your journey?  Who is your support community? Find some time to check in with your support team to make sure you're in harmony with yourself and others.

Remember, you can still pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and restart.            

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For this podcast, I share with you 3 main principles for you to REFLECT to RESET.  My principles are based on the principles used by Master Coaches Jacqui Phillips and Karl Romain.  Apply these principles to where you are on your journey of success.  Apply them to reset your life for long-lasting and positive change.  

Principle #1: ACCEPTANCE

In order to reset your life you must ACCEPT the truth about yourself, particularly in the areas in your life that need a rest.  For instance,  are you a procrastinator when it comes to putting things in place for yourself? Or, are you a perpetual "quitter"? Meaning, you start projects, but you never complete them.  Perhaps you're one of those who NEVER take time for self-care.   What are some goal hindering areas in your life do you need accept?After you have accepted whatever that area is, address it and start making improvement.  

Principle #2: ACTION

Those of you who know me, know that I teach ACTION!!!! Remember the scripture faith without works is dead? There's another translation I love that poses the same statement as a question. It says, what good does it do if you say you have faith but do not do the things that prove you have faith.  In other words, what good does it do you to have goals and aspirations, but you don't take the action steps to prove that your goals and aspirations are worthy?!?!  No action, no change. It's that simple!  

Principle #3: ACCOUNTABILITY

Being accountable is perhaps one of the main principles that fuels successful people.  You know why? Accountability eliminates the time and effort you spend on distracting activities and other unproductive behavior. When you make people accountable for their actions, you're effectively teaching them to value their work.   If you can't be accountable to yourself, then find a dependable friend or get you a coach to make sure you are not distracted from your goals.  Your accountability will allow you to experience your RESET mindfully and to make the decisions you need to create the change in your life you deserve and desire. 

Remember, the reset button is always available for you to press. Never underestimate the power of resetting your life.                             

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Episode 20 "Pruning to Spring" is the 3rd part of the SPRING FORTH - DO SOMETHING NEW series.  

Just as it is healthy to prune shrubs and trees so that they may grow, we also need to prune areas in our lives so that we can make way for new ideas and fuller growth.

In this episode, I offer you 3 rules of pruning and how you can apply these rules to your life. 

Rule #1 - You should prune to improve your appearance and overall landscaping. Do you have anything or anyone who's a part of the landscape of your life that 's hindering your growth in any way? What about undesirable structures that take away from the appearance. Are you ready to take a step in pruning that person or area?

Rule #2 - The timing of when you prune is EXTREMELY important. There are times when it seems like absolutely no growth is going on in our lives. This is actually the perfect time to take a look at your surroundings and your inner circle to determine who and what needs to be cut off. 

Rule #3  You must use the right tools for pruning. You need the tool of stillness and meditation, so you can listen intuitively to what your inner being is telling you.  Too often we're so caught up with people, things, and activities that it's actually a challenge for us to determine what EXACTLY needs pruning.  You also need the tool of healthy communication so you can get across the true sentiments of your pruning process, especially to those who will be affected. 

Remember, growth ALWAYS require pruning.

Coaching Questions:

What conversation do you need to have in order to prune a particular area in your life?  What is keeping you from having that conversation? When will you be able to take steps toward pruning so you can spring forth?

Episode 19 "Create a New Community" is the 2nd part of the SPRING FORTH - DO SOMETHING NEW series.

In this episode, I offer you the suggestion of creating a new community when you don't quite know WHAT new thing to do.

In an earlier podcast, I stated that when you look at the quality of your current situation and don't quite like what you like – you need to try something new.  Let me give you a suggestion of what new thing you can do to improve the quality of your situation.  CREATE A NEW COMMUNITY!!  That's right, create a new community!   I didn't say dump your old friends for new ones. I mean find someone, someone new, or maybe a few NEW people who are like-minded, who are forward-thinking, people who are aligned with your goals and aspirations. 

When you connect with someone new for the purpose of propelling your life forward, here's what happens, you will begin to see, hear, and experience new ideas, new achievements, and new success.  

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Episode 18 "No More Excuses" is the 1st part of the SPRING FORTH - DO SOMETHING NEW series.

In this episode, I discuss 3 reasons why we use excuses to keep us from trying something new.

Reason #1-  We haven't made what we REALLY want, a priority.  

If you want to see a shift in your life from being stuck to experiencing authentic happiness and fulfilling success?  You have to get to a place of doing something new.  But don't just SAY you're going to do something make it a PRIORITY in your life.  The things in your life that you make a priority are the things that you do not make excuses for it. 

Reason #2 -  Ee fear failure and it's difficult to accept responsibility when we fail.  

I honestly believe that our culture doesn't really teach us to be comfortable with failing. In fact, many of us fear failure! Failing is part of the process of trying new things.  However, when we DO fail, we tend to blame other people and/or elements as the reasons behind our failures.

Reason #3 -  We lack the discipline to sticking to the new thing.  

What you want or don't want to do is presently irrelevant – it's the end goal that matters. The reason you stay DISCIPLINED in doing this new thing is because you WANT to see the results of your work.  Being disciplined is just remembering what it is that you really want.

Remember...7Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things is the best way to grow.

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