You’re the one who holds it all together. 📅💌

Your calendar. Their feelings. The plans no one else remembers.

This episode is a straight shot of clarity for the woman celebrated for reliability and secretly paying for it with her nervous system. 🧠⚡

🔑 What You’ll Feel Inside

📝 A clean definition of invisible labor that hits your body + your brain

🚪 Boundaries in action that still feel kind + steady

🤝 Proof you are not dramatic and you are not alone

🎤 Direct From the Room

“I am making a career out of the invisible work.” — Jessica Roth (00:27:04)

“I can help you. But I cannot do it all… I held to that.” — Jessica Roth (00:24:12–00:24:27)

“I was at that burnout stage.” — Lela Belayneh (00:43:53)

“And then of course we counter, because women do not counter enough.” — Lela Belayneh (00:44:37)

“I know us as women can relate, where we are able to crank out workflows, make things happen, still show up.” — Sade Akinkuotu (00:59:02)

“If you have ADHD or you are a woman that exists in the world, there is this masking… this good girl conditioning we all buy into.” — Mo Holloman (00:13:06–00:13:32)

“This is the labor you do… the things that are unspoken and unsaid. What you have been conditioned to carry.” — Mo Holloman (00:17:55–00:18:26)

⚡ Why This Matters for Your Energy

Invisible labor = a silent tax.

💸 ADHD brains already spend more fuel on emotional regulation + task switching. Add unpaid coordination + care, and you’re overdrafting every week.

🪫 Press play to learn how to name it, price it, and stop paying with your body.

📊 Stats & Receipts

🌍 Women perform over ¾ of all unpaid care work worldwide

💰 Valued at $10.8 trillion/year if priced at minimum wage

⏳ Women spend 2.5–2.8 more hours/day on unpaid care than men and will still be doing more by 2050

🧠 ADHD women experience 30% more emotional dysregulation, making invisible labor extra draining

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Change starts when we share...send this episode to your friends and communities, talk about it, and put it into practice so invisible labor finally becomes visible.

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Be the Storm: Your Anger is Sacred AF!

Anger is sacred data...your body saying no more. Saying pause! Saying..."HEY! LOOK AT THIS!"

Suppression is what drains your energy, not the anger itself. Especially for ADHD women, holding it back costs double: more dopamine burned, more fatigue, more disconnection.

This episode was inspired by Lela, one of our sisters who shared in our monthly community calls!

And today, we're going to break down what anger may want from you and why “good girl” conditioning trained you to fear it.

You’ll learn how to:

• Recognize anger as a boundary and a compass
• Stop wasting energy on suppression and reclaim it for yourself
• Use embodied practices to process rage without shame
• Apply anger as a guide for clarity, peace, and authentic relationships

By the end, you’ll feel lighter, clearer, and more energized because listening isn’t just learning, it’s an act of revolution.

🚨 FUN ALERT

Don’t stop here. If you want to keep building this radical, embodied relationship with yourself:

• 🌪️ Join Nice Girl Detox. Our Sisterhood Slumber Party happens the last or second-to-last Wednesday every month...where storms are welcome, not silenced.
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Your anger is not the problem. Your anger is the portal. Be the storm, baby!!!!!!!!

You’re not maxed out because you can’t handle life...you’re maxed out because you’ve been trained to carry everything.

This episode pulls back the curtain on invisible labor...the behind-the-scenes work that runs your home, career, friendships, and family… and quietly bleeds out your energy every single day.

Here’s what you’ll get in this episode:

• The real stats on how invisible labor impacts women and ADHD brains
• Why you’ve been programmed to over-function (and praised for it)
• The hidden cost to your focus, creativity, and emotional bandwidth
• A step-by-step way to spot where it’s happening in your life
• How to start reclaiming that energy...without guilt and without blowing up your relationships
• A free Values + Alignment Exercise to help you decide what’s worth your energy right now

By the end, you’ll know exactly where your energy is leaking and how to start spending it where it actually matters to you.

🎯 Free Values Exercise: Click here to access

💬 Let’s connect + work together:

• All my links & resources: linktr.ee/maincharactercoach
• Schedule a 1:1 strategy call: Book here
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• LinkedIn: Michelle Holloman

This Deregulation Toolkit installment gives you a practical way to forecast your own nervous system “weather” and get back into regulation before the storm fully hits.

We’ll walk through the “nervous system weather report” for ADHD and other beautifully wired brains, exploring how sleep debt, skipped protein, caffeine spikes, sugar crashes, emotional overload, and overstuffed calendars can set the stage for dysregulation. You’ll learn why ADHD brains are more sensitive to these shifts (hint: your prefrontal cortex and dopamine system) and how colonial ideas about productivity and compliance make it harder to honor your natural rhythms.

If you want to go deeper into how sleep impacts your mood, mental clarity, and overall brain health, check out Dr. Matthew Walker’s work...he’s a professor of neuroscience and psychology at UC Berkeley and one of the leading voices on sleep science. Here’s a great place to start: Why Sleep is Critical for the Brain – Dr. Matthew Walker.

Then we’ll move into a guided 5-step deregulation flow...rooted in neuroscience, somatic grounding, and gentle NLP...to help you bring your prefrontal cortex back online, quiet the amygdala, and re-enter your day with more choice.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to:

• Forecast your own “storm conditions” before they take over
• Adjust your day to protect your capacity
• Recover faster and with less collateral damage when dysregulation happens

Because regulation isn’t about being calm all the time... it’s about reclaiming your nervous system from systems that profit off your burnout, and living at your own pace.

📌 Resources & Links:

• ADHD Coaching & Programs: https://linktr.ee/maincharactercoach
• Join Nice Girl Detox: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1573948273221289
• Learn more about the science of sleep with Dr. Matthew Walker: Why Sleep is Critical for the Brain
• Follow Glucose Goddess for blood sugar level expertise.
• Follow ADHD Nutritionist for all things related to serving your ADHD brain + body.

What if you’ve been running your life on autopilot...not because you chose it...but because you were taught to keep everyone else comfortable?

This is what good girl conditioning does. It trains us to stay in motion, keep saying yes, meet every expectation… without pausing to ask if any of it is what we actually want.

In this short episode, we’re slowing it down...way down...to check in on your energy, your rhythm, and your capacity.

Are you honoring your pace in real time, or have you been living in a constant state of “go” with no space to notice if it even feels good anymore?

For neurodivergent brains, this pause isn’t indulgent...it’s survival.

ADHD and other ND nervous systems run on interest-based motivation and have limited executive function “fuel.”

When we never take inventory, we spend that fuel on obligations, expectations, and inherited routines that were never designed for our wiring.

Let’s dismantle the pace you were conditioned to keep and make room for the work, play, and rest that actually light you up.

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💥 EPISODE SUMMARY:

It’s my birthday episode, bishes and we went all the way in. 🦀🦄✨

This month’s Nice Girl Detox community call turned into a masterclass on boundaries, grief, and honest self-reflection.

From ghosting (on both sides) to the sneaky ways emotional labor burns us out, we opened some heart heavy truths.

You’ll hear raw, resonant shares from Lela (LEEEEE-La), Ashley, Vicki, and Seaira...each navigating what it means to be deeply giving without being depleted.

This one is for you if:

- You feel under-celebrated in your friendships

- You’re ghosting or being ghosted and don’t know what to do

- You’ve been living in “performer mode” and you’re ready to get honest

- You want your energy back. Like, yesterday.

- You’re calling in deeper sisterhood and actually ready to receive it

🔍 FEATURED TOOL:

Vicki’s FOG Boundary Framework

When deciding whether to say “yes” to something, ask yourself:

Am I acting from:

- Fear

- Obligation

- Guilt

If the answer is yes to any of these? It’s a NO from me, babe!

“Those feelings aren’t of God. They’re confusion. And confusion doesn’t get to lead.” — Vicki 🛐

Let this be your boundary mantra all month long: No more FOG. Only clarity, alignment, and peace.

(Inclusion Reminder: Ms. Vicki is a sweet Christian woman. And we celebrate that while holding space in Nice Girl Detox for everyone's personal faith, spirituality OR non-belief vibes. All of you is welcome here out loud.)

👻 BONUS RESOURCE:

The Ghosting Comeback Kit Podcast (All Platforms)

- https://rss.com/podcasts/nice-girl-detox/

The Ghosting Comeback Kit PDF- https://www.canva.com/design/DAGuxUyyNOk/9AAHqeHLCLj9SWaPi1uGHA/view?utm_content=DAGuxUyyNOk&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=hea437777e0

This one’s for the overthinkers, the emotionally ghosted, and the accidental ghosters too. It’s everything you need to:

1. Understand why ghosting happens (especially for ADHDers)

2. Repair or release with clarity

3. Rebuild trust with yourself in relationships

🎧 Listen to the podcast (15 minutes on 2x speed)

📄 Grab the FREE workbook (5 minutes to complete)

💌 READY TO GO DEEPER? DM or Comment “COACHING” for Private VIP Coaching for ADHDers with Mo

DM or Comment “DETOX” to learn more about our sisterhood in Nice Girl Detox or click to join directly: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1573948273221289

👯‍♀️ Invite your friends to join us this space gets better the more real ones we have.

📅 Next Call: Wednesday, August 20 at 7:00 PM CST Want the reminders + updates?

DM or comment your email and I’ll personally add you to the list 💌

Ghosting isn’t always about being rude.

Sometimes it’s ADHD. Sometimes it’s trauma. Sometimes your nervous system hits overload and decides "nope, we're out."

In this episode, I walk you through both sides of ghosting...the person who disappears, and the one left in the silence. You'll learn why it happens, how to repair it, and how to stop making it mean something about your worth.

Expect real tools, somatic support, and text templates for your comeback.

Yeahhhh....

Ghosting is hard but coming back doesn't have to be.

Let's make this known so less of us suffer in the silence...and shame.

Let's do this in Sisterhood.

Share this episode with others to help spread the good word on ghosting.

Join Nice Girl Detox - our neurodivergent community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1573948273221289

Want private coaching with me, your ADHD coach + new ADHD sister? Message me @maincharactercoach on Insta or email: [email protected]

GHOSTING COMEBACK KIT PDF

Drinking tea and I just came across a post by Tara (our sister). It was her and her family at festival. And seeing her happy made me feel so...happy.

And then, I started thinking about all of you.

And I imagined each of you happy.

And my eyes started raining pretty hard. As I type this message, in fact.

You know...once upon a time, when I was a little Mo...I started being silly with people because I could tell it helped.

I started to see how I was able to call forward something within people.

**THIS MAY SOUND LIKE A BRAG BUT HANG IN HERE WITH ME

I guess what I'm saying is, a long time ago I realized that we each have this power.

And when we interact with other people, we can influence their moment. The one we share.

The coolest part. That little Mo also began to notice those moments traveled with you long after the moment.

That one kind or fun moment...where you pour your energy + love into others...we both take it.

And "IT" interacts with all the parts of us.

And it changes them...

And it changes us.

Yes...just one moment.

What's really cool is when we each share what changed us with another. Because that's multiplying it.

Imagine that person going through this exact same process above and it keeps going...

Sweet Sisters of Nice Girl Detox...you are changing me.

And I love you for that.

It's a crossover...it’s an unintentional Pride Month takeover. In this special episode, I’m sharing my guest interview on Holy Unapologetic a soul-shifting conversation with Ayce and Marqus! Kindreds who know what it’s like to be shaped by performance, survival, and systems that never saw the whole of who we are.

Together, we go deep on:

⚡ ADHD and why it’s so often missed in femmes + folks raised under Good Girl Conditioning

⚡ The real cost of emotional labor, masking, and trying to be "palatable"

⚡ Why energy management is the actual revolution...not hacks or hustle

⚡ Reclaiming identity after decades of self-abandonment

⚡ How the intersection of neurodivergence, queerness, transness, and social conditioning is rarely acknowledged but almost always felt.

We unpack the lived experience of masking, identity distortion, and self-abandonment that comes from navigating a world that demands you shrink to survive.

Whether we’re talking about neurodivergence, womanhood, queerness & trans identity...the patterns are eerily similar:

👉 perform to be safe

👉 suppress to be liked

👉 disconnect to belong

We break it all open and talk about what it actually looks like to come home to yourself. This episode is a reminder:

✨The intersection of what makes us unique and what shaped us is where liberation lives.✨

Because when all of you can exist, everything changes. Everything.

🎧 Listen to Holy Unapologetic, Ep. 15 (And binge them all trust me.) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsJLC_o15CUYmQLVCFuPK8g

🌀 Work with Ayce:

(https://www.aycekyptyn.com/)

Follow Marqus on Instagram: @marquslouis 💫

Work with Mo & Join Nice Girl Detox: https://linktr.ee/maincharactercoach

📚 Mentioned in the episode: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson https://a.co/d/fHlYGKi](https://a.co/d/fHlYGKi

Not all grief is visible. Not all grief looks like sobbing in a corner. Sometimes it’s numbness. Sometimes it’s silence. Sometimes it’s just keeping it together when no one notices you're falling apart.

In this episode of Nice Girl Detox, Mo sits down with her former client and now soul-sister Leslie Heady...a future therapist, deep feeler, and grief warrior.

Together, they open the door to the kind of grief most people are too afraid to name… especially for neurodivergent women, people-pleasers, and those still healing their inner child.

✨ You’ll hear about:

– How grief shows up in ADHD, autism, OCD, and trauma survivors

– The sacred tension between public grief and private pain

– The grief of lost timelines, unlived identities, and emotional shutdown

– How to build rituals, boundaries, and body-based practices for grief

– Why grief doesn’t make you broken...it reveals what you’re ready to reclaim

This conversation is equal parts healing, holy, and raw. Whether you’re grieving a person, a past version of yourself, or the softness you never got to express...this one’s for you.

🖤 You’re not grieving wrong. You’re just grieving in a world that never taught you how to hold it.

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