Most people think relationships are about finding the right person…But what if it’s really about becoming the right version of you
In this intimate and eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Stacey Martino a world-class relationship coach and co-founder of Relationship Development, who’s helped thousands of couples create passionate, lasting love… without needing their partner to participate.
But this episode isn’t just about “fixing relationships.”
It’s about rewiring the way we understand love, connection, and emotional safety in a world that constantly pulls us apart.We dive deep into:
- The moment that transformed Stacey’s entire view of relationships
- Ego vs. self-reflection, and why most couples get stuck
- The belief about love she had to unlearn
- Why relationships are a skill set, not something you “just figure out”
- Do wealthy couples face different relationship problems?
- The biggest myth that keeps people disconnected
- Can feedback actually help… or does it just push people away?
- Why trying to change your partner is the wrong game
- What most people misunderstand about emotional safety
- How social media is reshaping modern love (for better or worse)
- And the one belief that could change everything in your relationship
Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, this episode will challenge everything you thought you knew about love, and give you tools to build something real.🎧 Listen now. Reflect deeply. And start building a love that actually lasts.
00:24 – Stacey Highlights
01:49 – Nick’s Introduction
01:59 – Episode begins
02:00 – What was the moment she re-wired the way she saw relationships:
06:40 – Ego vs. self-reflection
08:53 – Is there a belief about love she had to unlearn?
10:57 – Why people feel stuck in relationships?
15:10 – Relationships are a skill set?!
16:48 – Do rich people have different relationship problems?
17:51 – Biggest misconception about relationships?!
20:09 – Can people improve by giving each other feedback?
24:10 – How do we balance being in love with reality?
28:14 – How love changes in relationships?
30:56 – What is relationship development?
31:55 – When are relationships the hardest to maintain?
30:25 – 31:42 Skool Ad Insertion (approx. 77 seconds)
32:43 – Are the Hormozis wrong about relationships?
35:32 – Why you should stop trying to change your partner?
39:17 – Was there a moment she almost gave up on her marriage?
40:12 – Are people breaking up because of incorrect beliefs?
44:09 – Were there moments she couldn’t live up to her own teachings?
46:48 – Has modern society made relationships easier or harder?
50:22 – Has social media negatively impacted relationships?
52:02 – What is the one belief that can change everything?
52:49 – What is emotional safety and how do we create it?
54:59 – Is there something she’s still learning?
57:00 – Does she still feel societal pressure about her work?
01:00:33 – What’s next for her movement?
01:02:27 – What is Inside Out for Stacey?
01:06:45 – Outro
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