Nitzotzos: Inspiration to Keep Your Spark Alive with Rav Mordechai Burg

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The key to survival is knowing that you matter!

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Question: I am really close with my family but feel that they treat my husband really poorly. I want to maintain a positive relationship with them, but I feel stuck in a bad position. How should I approach this?

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Question #1 - I continue to struggle with defining my hashkafa and often find that this issue is more prevalent in women, as it may come down to the fact that I don’t have a Rav who I turn to in a shiur setting etc. How does Rav Burg think this can be achieved for someone who strongly feels they are in need of that clarity that a somewhat more defined path could provide.

Question #2 - I think it is easier for boys to know how they identify hashkafically. They have shiurs or rebbes that they may identify with or follow, while girls don’t necessary have something like morning shiur, night Seder etc. Since boys essentially have these different types of learning groups  (topics of chassidus, or more litvish, etc) i think it is easier for them to know where they’re holding. For me, I find it extremely difficult to know what type of guy I “need” or to tell a shadchan, because I never really labeled myself as anything. I’m a frum yid! - what else do I say?

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Question: How do we overcome the challenges of bittul Torah and bittul zman?

This weeks question is sponsored on zchus for a Refuah shelaimah for chaya fruma bas perel Miriam Malka. Zechus for shidduch Ariella grina bat chaya Sara, Devorah bat rivka Sima, Sara bat raizel Miriam, Rachel shirafat bat raizel Miriam.

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Question: I have heard you say in your recent responses that marriage is "designed tension"... in some ways when I hear that it makes me cringe and makes me feel that issues within marriage become a self fulfilling prophecy so to speak. Would you be able to elaborate on what you mean by designed tension? How do you suggest that we navigate this designed tension? If marriage can be like olam habbah then what is the designed tension?

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Question: Why is being religious the right move? How do we know that it's what were supposed to be doing? Why can't we live a regular life like the rest of the world?

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A short (five minute) inspirational message from Rav Burg on making space for all Jews.

This weeks Q and A has been generously sponsored by Eliana Schwartz in zchus of a refuah shlaimah for Mazal bas Bahiyah.

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What is the best way to balance the focus on my graduate school studies/future career and yiddishkeit? I am finding that my future career is taking over and leaving me less time for learning and developing in my avodas HaShem even though I know there’s a way to intertwine them.

This week was anonymously sponsored in zchus of shalom bayis and ahavas yisroel!

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Question: How do you deal with in laws that are very different from your own family (more upper class/high maintenance) and issues that come up regarding money?

This Q&A has been sponsored in zchus of Keren Eliora Bas Sarah Michal who is in surgery right now. It should go so smoothly and she should have a refuah shlaimah bkarov mamesh. (Note: Baruch Hashem we are pleased to be able to update that the surgery went well!!!)

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Question: My parents fight a fair amount and unfortunately didn’t try to hide it from me and my sisters - not then and not now - and even as we’re older, it’s still tough to watch. We all vowed we’d never be like that, never let our own kids one day feel stressed if there were Gd forbid any marital issues. But how do you do that? Because arguments (hopefully small ones, but still) are bound to come up. How can you guarantee your kids will always feel like they are in a loving home even when things get a little tough?