No Deep Dives by FlexMami

Is it possible for our brainwaves to sync up with people we like? 🧠 Or how many virtual hangouts it takes to match a real-life four-hour dinner? 🍽️ We'll get into the nitty-gritty of why technology can't quite replace face-to-face interactions (I discovered this during my VOGUE CODES panel: Technocopia).

Plus, let’s clear the air on my Instagram sermon about the supposed death of chivalry – hint: it might not be feminism’s fault. 💡 I also take you through some historical detours, like the concept of courtly love. Expect some enlightening exchanges about the ever-evolving social norms and how patriarchy is like a house with serious structural issues – yep, it’s leaking!  ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you dearly!! Bye for now! 💖

IMPORTANT LINKS

https://www.vogue.com.au/vogue-codes/news/lessons-from-the-vogue-codes-2024-summit/image-gallery/1486dcbfe6b33350025d6f011a8001ac

https://www.instagram.com/p/C720M1ihtzj/?img_index=1

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/brain-waves-synchronize-when-people-interact/

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00:11 Natural High?

If you like someone's content, you can invite them to come onto your podcast and chat. On this episode of No Deep Dives, I chop it up with Jaliessa Sipress – Astrology, Wizard and MossPerson™️ about the pitfalls of being alive, the beauty of the birth chart, the joy of internet mutuals and the reality of practising esotericism.

IMPORTANT LINKS

https://www.instagram.com/jaliessasipress/?hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/edgewalkerpod/?hl=en

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00:00 Introduction

The more you watch people think without adding thoughts, the harder it is to remember that you also need to think to have thoughts? And other thoughts that are crystallising in real time, like, did a week of apples and peanut butter cause my constipation?

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00:00 Introduction and Hiatus Explanation

The wordsmith yapper jumped out. In this episode we're talking about friendship sustainability and social portion control. I would elaborate but that's what the podcast is for.

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IMPORTANT LINKS

ReFlex Conversation Cards https://shopflexmami.com/

Friendship Expert https://www.tiktok.com/@thefriendshipexpert?lang=en

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00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives

00:51 Moral Dilemma

03:31 Social Portion Control

05:36 Friendship Formula

13:02 Sustaining Friendships

17:41 In Conclusion

In this episode of 'No Deep Dives',  Flex dives into friendship sustainability (reduce, reuse, recycle,) and concept she termed 'social portion control'. Flex explores the nuances of enjoyment in eating, posing thought-provoking questions about preferences in the act of chewing vs. swallowing food, and relating these to broader themes of pleasure and consumption in life.

The concept of 'social portion control' is elaborated as an indicator of healthy relationships, where mutual understanding and reciprocity are key. The podcast also touches on the complexities of sustaining friendships, the role of expectations in relationship dynamics, and the challenges of friendship breakdowns.

Flex concludes with an innovative approach to friendship, suggesting a 'reduce, reuse, recycle' strategy for building and maintaining relationships, emphasizing a sustainable approach to social connections.

Sorry to stress you out!!!! I've had an epiphany spurred by flashbacks of Year 10 Religion classes. Didn't we learn in Buddhism that desire is suffering? So, the pursuit of joy is riddled with pain? Maybe the "bad" stuff we experience doesn't exactly mean that our lives are deficient – perhaps they're just symptoms of being a person.

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In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex starts with a brief mention of her newfound love for the movie Dune 2, highlighting its depiction of real-life issues such as colonialism and religious engineering, before diving into the main topic: suffering, stress, and Buddhism.

She discusses the nature of suffering and how it's intertwined with human existence, referencing Buddhism's Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path as a framework for understanding and potentially overcoming suffering.

Flex also explores the concept of karma, the impact of actions and intentions on one's future, and how modern society's perception and management of stress don't align with our evolutionary development.

Throughout the episode, she shares personal anecdotes and reflections on learning, the challenges of ethical living in a capitalist society, and the pursuit of enlightenment. The discussion extends into the societal and personal factors contributing to stress and the perpetual quest for joy and comfort amidst life's inevitable hardships.

00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives

Is your key to freedom on the other side of the diabolically embarrassing scenario you've been avoiding? Should the 'friends to lovers' trope be saved for romance novels? Is closure real? Did your heart break when you saw Jerrod Carmichael confess his love for Tyler the Creator?

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IMPORTANT LINKS

https://www.tiktok.com/search?q=jerrod%20tyler&t=1712809364136

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Welcome back to No Deep Dives, where Flex takes us on a journey through the intricacies of human connections. In this episode, we're diving into the delicate dance of transitioning friendships into romantic entanglements, the rising tide of extreme self-awareness in society, and the profound impacts our actions have on our mental well-being.

We'll navigate the complexities of secondhand embarrassment and the ever-present fear of being labelled as 'cringe'. But fear not because we're also spotlighting the myth of meritocracy in relationships and questioning whether closure is genuinely attainable.

A highlight of this episode is a deep dive into Jerrod Carmichael's revelation about his feelings for Tyler the Creator—an exploration of the intricate tapestry of human emotions and the elusive quest for closure.

So, join us as Flex challenges us to confront the romantic tropes we've internalized and embrace the unpredictable nature of real-life relationships.

00:00 Setting the Stage for Deep Exploration

00:10 From Friends to Lovers, Fantasy v Reality

00:35 Plot Awareness to Consequence Awareness

02:16 Unpacking the Jerrod Carmichael and Tyler the Creator Incident

08:02 Debunking the Myth of Meritocracy and the Elusive Quest for Closure

11:42 Reality TV, Situationships, and the Age-Old Friends-to-Lovers Trope

17:02 Final Reflections and Farewell

The softboys are fighting! The Pick Me(n) are turning on each other! The timeline wants to know, is the man content creating painting his nails, talking about the glass ceiling and lipsynching to Hozier a feminist or misogynist in sheeps clothing???

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https://www.tiktok.com/@quinnickleshow/video/7346640693902937390

https://www.tiktok.com/@quinickle/video/7232337055605378346?q=quinnickle&t=1712558892570

https://www.tiktok.com/@quinickle/video/7298752921800363306?q=quinnickle&t=1712558892570

https://www.tiktok.com/@angieemann/video/7182369370180422955?q=strange%20kevin&t=1712558799606

https://www.tiktok.com/@misterstrang4/video/7301150160363556139?q=strange%20kevin%20female%20gaze&t=1712558857512

https://www.tiktok.com/@tellthebeees/video/7349382297138892062?_r=1&%3B_t=8l0sr2k8DPm

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Welcome to the latest episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by Flex. Today, we're diving into the intricate world of TikTok's social dynamics. Our focus? The emergence of 'pick me men' and the intriguing concept of the female gaze.

Flex delves into the trend of men strategically distancing themselves from 'pick me' behaviours to position themselves as more self-aware than their fellow counterparts. Then dissects the evolution and occasional misinterpretations of the male gaze, ultimately leading to the emergence of the female gaze phenomenon.

Through the lens of notable TikTok creators like Strange Kevin and Quinn, we'll analyze how these trends mirror deeper societal shifts in gender dynamics, self-presentation, and the pursuit of authenticity in digital spaces.

Join Flex to challenge preconceptions and unravel the layers of these trends. Who truly benefits, and are we witnessing genuine progress or just a fresh coat of paint on age-old patriarchal norms? Let's dive in and find out.

00:33 The Rise of 'Pick Me' Men

Considering I only figured out the difference between emotions and feelings in 2023, it makes sense to revisit values. Words mean things and I'm determined to understand them!!!!!

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In this episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by FlexMami – Flex explores the identification and importance of personal values versus priorities, the challenges and revelations that come with trying new things like playing unfamiliar video games such as Baldur's Gate, and the value of imagination in personal growth and relationships.

00:33 What even is a "value"????

What happens when violence BY MEN against women is documented in real-time by said women on TikTok? What if this caused such severe outrage that the perpetrator was found and apprehended in days? Have you heard about the femicide in South Korea and the 4B Movement created in response?

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No Deep Dives TikTok

https://www.tiktok.com/@halleykate/video/7350308300317314350?lang=en

https://www.tiktok.com/@corabrei/video/7350874328407231786

https://www.tiktok.com/@dylan.page/video/7351882826792308001?_r=1&_t=8l9OKpxQ5A7

In this episode of No Deep Dives, hosted by FlexMami a pressing issue is discussed regarding a series of unprovoked and violent attacks on women in New York City. These assaults were initially considered isolated incidents until victims started sharing their experiences on TikTok, revealing a shocking pattern of similar attacks.

00:10 Unprovoked Attacks in NYC

Well, at least now it's abundantly clear that I really do take my dreams seriously. Why did I shave my head? It came to me ... in a dream (literally).

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In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex discusses her decision to shave her head exploring the strangely personal and societal implications of her choice. The discussion covers Flex's textbook impulsive nature, the sensation of freeing herself and a reflection on femininity and masculinity. Flex then delves into the complex relationship between blackness and hair, challenging stereotypes and attempting to embrace a more authentic self-expression.

00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives