Do you feel like you’re always falling short? Struggle feeling like you’re not enough? Wondering why others have some of the things in life that you really want? If so, you just might be comparing.

Comparison breeds discontentment. It robs us of peace. It steals our hope.

This is what we tackle on Episode 12 of the No More Perfect Podcast and the conversation is richer because Shannon Popkin, author of Comparison Girl, joined me!

I first wrote about comparison in No More Perfect Moms. It’s a subject I’m passionate about. That’s why when I learned that Shannon had some unique things to say about the topic, I knew we had to have a conversation! It was an important one you don’t want to miss.

We talked about the fact that we can compare in two directions–one where we come out better than someone else and one where we come out worse than someone else. When we compare “up,” we experience jealousy. When we compare “down,” we experience disgust.

Shannon reminds us that Jesus was always interacting with people comparing themselves, but he never said, “Just stop comparing!” Instead He turns it upside down and changes the focus to serving. Imagine two glass measuring cups sitting side by side. When we look at what’s inside each cup and how it relates to the lines, we compare. When we forget the lines and look at the spout–pouring out what’s inside, we serve.

Challenging us to “Me-free living,” Shannon casts a vision that we can learn to live in a world that allows people to have more than I do. She reminds us that comparison divides. She helps us learn how to recognize that when the quiet voice telling us to compare, or telling us that we are not enough is there, we can actually start changing it’s power.

This is a rich conversation that promises to change your perspective and help you experience a freedom you might not even realize you need.

You can find the show notes for this episode here: https://www.jillsavage.org/is-comparison-robbing-you-of-contentment-with-shannon-popkin-episode-12/

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What happens when the Perfection Infection invades your parenting?

Your kids feel they can never live up to your expectations. They're worried about disappointing you and keeping you happy. They feel corrected by you a lot but not connected to you like they long for.

This is a weight no one should carry.

The Perfection Infection can invade your parenting at any stage of the game--when your kids are under your roof and even when they're grown and gone.

However, it's never too late to kick the perfection infection out of your parenting...and if you do, you'll find yourself more connected and tuned into your child's heart and dreams.

In this episode, I share how I kicked the Perfection Infection out of my parenting by applying the antidotes of compassion, love, acceptance, and perception.

I share mistakes made and changes that have transformed my relationship with my kids.

If you are a parent--no matter the age of your child--this episode is for you!

You can find the show notes for this episode here: https://www.jillsavage.org/how-i-kicked-the-perfection-infection-out-of-my-parenting-episode-11/

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Do you find yourself giving up more often than you like?  Have you ever gotten to the place where you just couldn’t take it anymore?
 
Dreams. Programs. Jobs. Relationships. There are so many different areas where we feel like calling it quits.
 
Episode #10 of the No More Perfect Podcast is an honest conversation about resisting the temptation to give up.
 
My guest is Nicki Koziarz, an author, speaker, and a woman who has thrown in the towel a time or two. In fact, she’s quit just about everything in her life. But with God’s help, she’s discovered a few habits that have helped her and others conquer the choice to quit.

This is a rich conversation that will give you a fresh dose of perspective from the Bible that will help you develop perseverance. 

Whether you're a Quitzilla who is furious, fed up, and fast to walk away or a Quiet Quitter who allows doubt to settle in and quietly slides into quitting, this conversation will help you keep going no matter what challenges come your way! 

You can find the show notes here: https://www.jillsavage.org/when-you-want-to-quit-with-nicki-koziarz-episode-10/

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Have you ever learned the value of forgiving in real time? It can be a game-changer for your relationships.

Most of the time we think of forgiveness as something needed for big things that break trust. On this episode of the No More Perfect Podcast my husband and I talk about why forgiveness is so important to use multiple times a day.

You read that right! Multiple times a day!

After all, you bump into other people's imperfect every single day. How do you handle that? With forgiveness!

Do you know that when we are unable to forgive we demonize someone in our head? However, when we are able to forgive, we humanize them. 

In this episode we dig into that PLUS we talk about:

• How to forgive.
• What forgiveness is and what it is not.
• How forgiveness doesn't rebuild trust but lays the foundation for trust to be rebuilt.
• What happens inside our head and heart when we don't forgive.
• Why forgiving in real-time is so important for relationships!

Understanding the power of forgiveness will affect every relationship you have! This is a must-listen-to episode! 

You can find the show notes for this episode at https://www.jillsavage.org/why-you-need-to-forgive-every-single-day/

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Is the empty nest on the horizon? A little closer than you’re ready for? 

Are you in the throes of letting go and trying to navigate a new normal? 

Do you have some out of the nest and some still at home? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you'll want to listen to Episode 8 of the No More Perfect Podcast! 

Letting go is one of the hardest parts of parenting. We're so accustomed to calling the shots in our kids lives--after all we've done that for 18 years--that letting them go is particularly difficult. 

In this episode we explore six things every empty nest parent needs to let go of:

1. Expectations
2. Opinions
3. Traditions
4. Our child's problems
5. Our own idols
6. Guilt

If you're an "empty nest" or "close to the empty nest" parent, listen in!

If you're not an empty nest parent, can you share this with someone who is?

Show notes can be found here: 
https://www.jillsavage.org/six-things-every-empty-nest-parent-needs-to-let-go-of-episode-8/

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Does life ever feel like it’s more than you can handle? Do you realize that hard seasons tend to be where we fight to maintain control? Do you know that learning to “let go” will actually bring about better blessings in the midst of difficult circumstances?

When life gets hard, aspects of the future are uncertain, and we’re at the mercy of other’s decisions, we want more power over the situation. This is actually when we need to learn to let go which is opposite of what we feel like doing!

Let’s face it, sometimes there are problems in life that can’t be fixed no matter what we do. The more we learn to surrender control, the more peace we’ll experience.

In this episode, author and speaker Barb Roose and I talk about how to replace control with surrender which is something we ALL need to learn how to do!

It's an episode you don't want to miss!

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How do you rebuild trust when it’s broken? In this episode, Mark and I tackle the question we’re asked ALL. THE. TIME.

We’re digging into rebuilding trust in a variety of relationships…not just marriage. After all, we deal with broken trust in parent/child relationships, friendships, extended family, and, of course, marriage.

The formula for rebuilding trust is this: changed behavior over time rebuilds trust. What does that practically look like, though? Join us in this episode where we dig into seven practical steps to rebuild trust and a whole new way of looking at accountability.

You can find the show notes here: https://www.jillsavage.org/how-to-rebuild-trust-in-a-relationship-episode-6/

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Have you ever felt like you aren't enough as a mom? Have you ever struggled comparing yourself to others? On this podcast episode Keli Reese joins me to talk about overcoming mom guilt, the power of surrender in motherhood, and the concept of the "ministry of motherhood." It's a conversation filled with wisdom, laughter, and valuable takeaways for every mom! 

Keli is the founder and speaker for Ministry in Mothering. Ministry in Mothering is designed to encourage and equip moms to live out Biblical truths, while in the throes of motherhood. Keli uses humor, transparency, and the Word of God to expose the ongoing reality of anxiety and guilt and to help moms replace it with fulfillment and joy.

Keli has been married to her husband Ken for 14 years. Together, they are raising their 5 children – Kenneth III, Kameron, Kenedi, Kylan, and Khloe – who are, as Keli calls them, her primary Ministry in Mothering.

Show notes: https://www.jillsavage.org/overcoming-mom-guilt-with-keli-reese/

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Do you ever feel that you need to be better prepared for the crazy things life brings to you? Today I am joined by Kathi Lipp as we discuss the importance of planning ahead and being ready for anything that comes your way.

Kathi Lipp is the podcast host of the Clutter Free Academy, and the bestselling author of The Husband Project, Clutter Free and Ready for Anything. She and her husband, Roger, live in the mountains of northern California run the Red House Writing Retreats. Using humor and wisdom, Kathi offers hope paired with practical steps to women looking to live with meaning.

You can find the show notes here: https://www.jillsavage.org/are-you-prepared-for-anything-with-kathy-lipp-episode-4/

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Every marriage has a story. Join Mark and I as we share a bit about our journey through marriage, children, surviving infidelity, and more! Tune in to find out how we went from Mark and Jill 1.0 to Mark and Jill 2.0.

Check out this episode's show notes: https://www.jillsavage.org/lessons-learned-from-an-imperfect-marriage-episode-3/

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