I've spent most of my life, figuring things out and and being responsible. To be honest, a part of me revels in it because I am good at being in control & in charge & getting what needs to get done to a high standard, especially when it's in service to others.

 As great as that is may be that in-turn may be the problem too! I can't turn it off. So when I feel like to don't have control, I feels like I'm losing my mind & no-one can help... *sigh* What is that about?! 

Have a listen and let me know your thoughts  @just1tori on IG!

Book mention and HIGHLY RECOMMENDED is The Four Tendencies By Gretchen Rubin (Blue cover with a yellow circle). You can take the Quiz here; https://quiz.gretchenrubin.com/four-tendencies-quiz/ BUT READ THE BOOK FOR CLARITY the test is NOT enough!

Thank you for your time and your ears!!

There's a saying: "What people think about you says more about themselves then is does you" So I always to try to check myself on how I judge people especially, what I would never say out loud! I really said what I thought and Boy did I realise some home truth about a narrative around how a certain Black woman dresses that I internalised so unconsciously DEEP and in-turn has held me back from just exploring my womanhood, in all is visual capacity. Because In judging other black women (silently) I judged myself internally!

Mandem, gayldem Let me know your thought - Follow me on IG @just1tori. 

This episode was recored literally 5 hours after the accident. Fresh from Hospital. No fully formed thoughts , just out my mind straight recording as a way to mark my feelings and thoughts! Enjoy a peak into my my mind and mindset! Hit me up with your thoughts feelings and feedback, you know how I like it lol - IG @just1Tori Twitter @nophonethursday (not there much)!

I dont know if this is something that is innately wired or pass down to us as black people, to quit while we're ahead (or more like while we are doing better then survival) but it something that really annoys me about myself. I get more complacent as I get older and find myself making major moves by accident not on purpose. So every so often I have to remind myself that I am the ish and I still got more that I WANT to do & still capable of doing!!

Hit me up with your thoughts!

@just1tori @nophoneThursday 

I speak about my experience of being hyper sexualised from the age of 15 and my body & negative experiences that I've had being idolised by other black females (my peers). How I struggle with my desires and thoughts about myself in relation to being in a relationship because the world's opinion on my physical & mental state is loud - Black men & black women - Let me know your thoughts!

@just1tori on IG  @nophoneThursday On Twitter

I touch on being depressed as a black women, prompted by a post I saw from a black woman's therapist: "Black women often dont realised they are struggling with depression or anxiety. Instead they think they are failing" - I also speak on the culture of seeking approval and industry accreditation as permission to promote, share, create or sell and how that isn't actually a true narrative using my brand @STMNT.peace as an example. - I wonder if this os this a major struggle for black people and women? Hmm!!

(If your listening on apple podcast shout me, I need your help!)

What do you think? Hit me up on IG @just1tori & Twitter @noPhoneThursday

This week I'm excited to have my first guest Jay (@Jaycee_PT). We recorded this episode on the Fly, talking about Purpose and happiness. Should your happiness be tied to your purpose and way to find or discover your purpose in your life. I loved this conversation, especially as we are both at different points on our lives, to connect and "reason" was a great exploration between a Black woman a Black man, living in London.

As black people, Black British people, migrated or born in the UK (1st and 2nd generation), we were not taught to find or discover things that make us happy, certainly not career wise, let alone finding our purpose. We learnt how to survive from watching our parents trying to make ends meet while trying to navigate, prejudices that is being black in the UK. 

Here is the link to my skydive: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6eis14zx4c&t=475s (I'm actually cringing watching this lol)

You can connect with Jay on IG; @Jaycee_PT - As always, let me know your thoughts directly on Spotify, Anchor, whatapp or Instagram; @just1tori 

A bit of a late introduction for those that don't know me & my thoughts on finding my mission!!

"Best Career alive that I can give: Don't ever attach yourself to a person, a place, a company, an organisation or project. Attach yourself to a mission, a calling, a purpose ONLY. That's how you keep your power and your peace. It's worked pretty well for me thus far" - Tweet From Erica Willams Simon @missewill

Black affirmation brand stmntpeace.com @stmnt.peace

Creative Directing, photography, filming torilens.com @tori.lens  

Hit me up on Instagram @just1tori on IG

Exploring the culture of having to be the face of your brand 'to make'. How word of mouth is the the most powerful tool we posses (words).

I touch the creative industry as well as looking outside of whats is presented to us and letting go Ego to allow ourselves as Black people to be great! The royals I mention is today episode are on instagram; @Kloedean @littlesimz @DionneReid @Tinymanmusic @che_lingo & My sister C's (who isn't on IG).

I would LOVE to hear/read your thoughts. We can connect via Spotify Questions & Poll, via Anchor Voice-note or via IG @just1tori

I touch on my childhood, why I am here & the origins of "No Phone Thursday" 5 years to date! The greatness that is the Black women and the genius of how my minds works. (Anyone up for making me a jingle, hit me up lol) DM me your commnents on this episode. IG - @Just1Tori or leave me a voice message on Anchor.