We're back with Part 2 of our interview series!

It's Coronation Day! The interview is tomorrow. You're probably wondering: what do I bring? How early should I get there? Did I prepare enough?

Today we're dishing out practical magic (read: advice) on navigating the interview itself, from the moment you start to prepare until you walk out of the building - or slam your laptop shut. We're talking about the potential consequences of over-preparation, the 5 year stranger rule, what you can learn from arriving early to your interview, and why taking a day off to go might be the best idea.

We also chat about what to do when you have a tough interviewer, how to not be defensive when you're put on the spot, why you shouldn't walk out of a difficult interview, and how to overcome the challenges that arise with virtual interviews (can you hear me now?)

Plus, why finding out the turnaround time for feedback will help you avoid the failure spiral.

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Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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There's nothing quite like getting an interview for a job that you're excited for. You're thrilled! A job is on the horizon! And then comes reality: oh crap, I have an interview to prepare for.

Interviewing can bring up issues you're struggling with (hello insecurity and people-pleasing tendencies), and get you caught-up in your own head. Add to that the current job environment. So how do you put your best foot forward and navigate an already-stressful situation without making it harder on yourself?

Today, we're chatting about how to set yourself up for success in an interview, and breaking down how your own psychology comes into play. We discuss why you need to frame the job outcome at the beginning of the process, how to be confident without being cocky, and why it's okay to let your personality shine.

We also talk about body language and non-verbal behaviors, the importance of humor in diffusing a tense situation, how to gauge office culture, and why interviewing needs to be a two-way street.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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Perhaps you've recently heard about the Artemis II mission around the moon. And if you haven't, we're here to tell you about it (and by "it", we mean a little bit about the mission and a lot a bit about how it made us think about life and our existence).

Not only was it exciting to collectively experience a historical moment that wasn't extra-strength awful, but it also showed us how an event like this can teach us a lot about who we are - if we think about it in just the right way.

Today, we're digging into the feeling of disbelief that Earth even exists, why footage from space makes us feel both insignificant/like nothing matters AND so special/like everything matters, and how to refocus when you're getting lost in the minutiae.

We also share our thoughts on "doing things scared" and balancing our fears with seizing opportunities, what it means to leave a legacy, appreciating "nerdy" subjects and why we need more women in STEM, and of course, the biggest questions of all: would you want to go to space, and is there other life out there?

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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What do The Pitt, The Bear, Hacks, and Best Medicine have in common? They're on our list of favorite TV shows, of course! (Some of these should be no surprise, tbh).

In today's listener-requested episode, we're taking you through our top shows across streaming services and regular, ol'-fashioned cable: the ones that have taught us something, brought us happiness, and made us look at things in a new way.

On the surface, our conversation might provide you with some new shows to get you through the day - or you won't like them, and that'd be a bummer lol. But it's also a discussion on emotional connection and humanity, how our favorite TV might be providing something we're searching for within ourselves, and why the characters we watch every week can make us feel less alone.

We also share our honorable mentions (some old, some new, but definitely all in our top 10)...but you'll have to listen to find out what they are!

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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The way success gets talked about is always confusing: on one hand, we should have a big goal we're working towards and if that doesn't get achieved, then we've failed; on the other hand, success is really about the journey (not the destination), and it can exist in other ways - maintaining your values, having a strong work ethic, improving upon your skills and learning something new. So which is it? And can it be both? 

This week, we're discussing what it really means to be successful, after watching an interview that entirely changed our perspectives. We talk about what we lose when we only focus on the "end result" as a metric of success, why goals that you're pursuing should be defined by you, and our own ways that we evaluate our successes. 

We also chat about what happens when you take metrics out of the equation, how the industry you work in can define your mindset (and why it can be hard to reframe it), and why comparing ourselves to others can make us feel like failures - even when we're not.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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How exactly does a person go about living their life and maintaining sanity while also constantly consuming news from the world around them that seems all bad, all the time? No clue, but we're trying to figure it out.

In today's listener-requested episode (thank you!!), we're discussing how to balance staying informed about the world without burning ourselves out, and how to avoid doomscrolling (as best we can). 

While sharing our own experiences with this dilemma, we talk about strategies on how to set limits on media consumption, clickbait and the overuse of "breaking news" headlines, and why your boundaries might differ from someone else's. 

We also chat about false control, learned helplessness and the importance of taking action, the impact of tension on our relationships and physical selves, and what to do to take control of your environment.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Whoever said that complaining is bad for you obviously just doesn't get it. It can be funny, a way to vent, and a means of connection - and there doesn't have to be an end goal or solution you're aiming for. 

Today, we're chatting about why complaining gets an often undeserved bad rap, how to know when you're taking it too far, when to offer solutions versus when to just listen, and why humor can make us feel better about the things that are making us unhappy.

Then, we're getting into the ~many~ things we are disliking right now - from too-tight socks, to poorly timed commercial breaks, to bad therapy, and our favorite items being discontinued. Plus, so much more. Trust us. 

We also have our first wheeze laugh of the show so if nothing else listen for that. 

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Today's episode is brought to you by the first warm day in months and the confusion that comes with daylight savings.

We're feeling extra chatty with our highs and lows this week, covering everything from entitled people in parking lots to German restaurants to Harry Styles and yet another meltdown over the Lion King (cue: look, there's a lion, omg). 

Then, we recap an experience from a year ago that led Joyce to realize how weird it is to gatekeep information as an adult (and also serves as a reminder that we never really let anything go, ever). We talk about what gatekeeping is, what motivates people to do it, and when it can actually be advantageous.

We also discuss insecurity and competition, why we withhold information from people we have history with when we're trying to reinvent ourselves, and why we can be unique AND generous of spirit at the same time. 

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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Having kids and starting a family can be such an idealized experience: the fun! the adventure! the excitement! But it also is a full-time job with immense responsibility. Add maintaining and running a home, and the pressure on parents rises. Add a working parent (or two), and it increases ten-fold.

Inspired by the show All Her Fault, this week we're talking about how to balance raising kids while working and sharing responsibilities between partners. We dive into the different expectations placed on different parents, how to effectively communicate if things are feeling unequal, and why it's okay to need alone time - even from your kids.

We also discuss the double standards for working moms and dads, how incompetence gets unintentionally reinforced, what to do when you don't want to be the "manager" parent but struggle to give up control, and how to handle parental guilt (trust us, your kids don't remember as much as you think!)

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Have you ever pursued the 'bad boy' over the 'nice guy'? The one with a bit of an edge, who you feel cares about you but also really...doesn't? If you have, it's no surprise: among other things, we're taught from a young age that the boys who bully us in school really like us, and we've popularized the enemies to lovers trope in the books, tv, and movies that we consume. 

So today, we're diving into how this relationship dynamic plays out as adults. We talk about why we tend to push people away who are overly affectionate and nice to us, whether it's *actually* too much or we've just gotten used to people being mean, when meanness goes from sexy to pathological, and how past relationships affect future ones. 

We also chat about the unconscious mind and attachment styles, the conflation of passion and anger, why we like relationships where we feel like we have to fix someone, and why in the end, nice people really shouldn't finish last.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

Note:

Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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