Do you ever look at something and think to yourself, "what the heck is happening here?"

Turns out we feel that way...about a lot. And we're not ashamed to admit it. 

Today, we're back with a Part 2 to an episode we did last year sharing the many things that simply just do not make sense to us. In talking about everything from DVDs and the internet, to family ancestry, underwater tunnels, and black holes, we realize that we have way more questions than we do answers.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Sometimes around birthdays people do lists like "20 lessons I learned at 20" and things of that nature. But that felt like a lot and also we didn't want to, so this episode isn't that.

Instead, this week we're sharing lessons we wish we learned earlier in life. Some are about our own psychology, some are about the world in general, but all of them could have saved us some trouble (and stress, heartache, regret, etc., etc.)

We talk about the importance of speaking kindly to yourself, why you can be bad at something and still enjoy it, how having a laugh can change your mindset, and why you can't avoid the hard stuff forever.

We also chat about abandoning perfection, why spontaneity is good for the soul, the insignificance of (almost) everything, and how there's more to the world than your nearest big city.

Plus, a series of unfortunate events with construction, a bog hike, rancid butter, and an exploding water heater (truly a story for the ages).

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Does anyone else feel like the back-to-school season is more like the beginning of the year than January 1st is? 

Today, we're chatting about the anticipation of heading back to the classroom - whether you're a student, a parent, or even a teacher - and why you never really outgrow that feeling (no matter how old you are). We talk about the pressure of starting a routine & and the importance of practicing it, how "new-ness" effects everyone differently, and why you're not a bad parent if you forget a permission slip. 

We also discuss why back-to-school shopping is about more than just folders and notebooks, how to manage separation anxiety, the benefits of encouraging kids to step out of their comfort zones, and how joyful memories can be made even in a time of stress.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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*This week we're throwing it back to an episode from a year ago! We'll be back next week with a new episode.*

We've all had moments where we want to tell people in our life to stop doing something - being friends with someone we think is toxic, dating someone that we think is undeserving of their love, engaging in bad behaviors that we ourselves have done that ended badly, and, and, and. So what do you do about it? Well...

Today we're talking about why you shouldn't give unsolicited advice and why people need to make their own mistakes (easier said than done, we know). We get into how to decide if a 'bad behavior' warrants sharing your input, why you might have your own personal needs for giving your opinion, the importance of learning from the consequences of our behavior, and why overprotecting people weakens them.

We also discuss why therapists shouldn't treat their patients like their kids, the difficulty in giving up the urge to parent your adult children, validation and resistance in therapy, and why we need to engage our frontal lobes.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Walk into any room where an icebreaker game is being played, and you'll see almost everyone cringe. Mostly because nobody wants to participate, but also because they raise the question: how exactly are you supposed to describe yourself in just 3 words?

Today we're talking about how we really develop our personalities and why our need to simplify things can actually create more problems. We chat about why we latch onto labels, why giving something "a name" can make it a bigger deal than it needs to be, and how we've confused trying out different versions of ourselves with being lost or not serious.

We also discuss the irony behind searching for things to be defined by, why we can feel judgmental of and superior to others, what happens when the boxes you put yourself into no longer fit, and how to reframe your language to reflect the whole person that you are.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

Note:

Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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Do you know that person whose middle name might be "chaos" and saves everything until the last minute? Or maybe you're familiar with the person who is more cautious than frenzied and likes to get ahead of a problem before it becomes a disaster. 

Regardless of which problem-solving style rings more true to you, it turns out that they have far-reaching impacts in your life.

Today, we're talking about the rescue vs. prevention styles of life and how your style not only affects how you respond, but what you take away from a situation. We chat through how to figure out what style you are (and how they relate to personality types), their consequences, how context and maturation may force you to change your approach, and the effects your approach can have on the people around you.

We also discuss why the majority of people who come to therapy are in rescue-mode, how two people can experience the same thing and take two VERY different things away from it, and what your reactions to a situation can teach you about yourself. 

Plus: Joyce is mad about a bear, we're having a TSITP renaissance, & a spider haunts us in the night.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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This episode is brought to you by yet another major thunderstorm that you'll hear in the background.

Today we're celebrating Ted Lasso's return, recapping our experience seeing Cats: The Jellicle Ball, and once again letting our health anxiety take the wheel while being offered only dirty dimes in return (trust us, it will make sense).

Then, we dive into an often overlooked type of grief: mourning the loss of a pet. On paper, it seems like it might be easier to handle, but if you've ever experienced it, you know that it can rival a human loss in a very real way. 

We chat about what animals can do for people that other people can't, why our pets can't simply be replaced by another, and how the responsibilities of pet care can help us be less self-centered.

We also discuss finding balance between wanting what's best for them versus wanting them to live forever, why the loss of a pet can make us feel that we've lost our purpose, the best way to keep your pets' memory alive, and why you can't delay the grieving process forever.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

Note:

Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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As a society, we treat talking about our salaries & income like bringing up Voldemort: they shall not be named. There's no denying that money is an intensely personal subject and is more than what's in your pocket. It's tied to power, security, access to things like healthcare, your sense of self-worth, and beyond.

But, if we never talk about it, it just gets bigger and scarier in our heads, like a monster in a closet.

So is there a "right" way to talk about how much money you make? 

Today, we're talking about how to talk about money. We get into the differences between discussions with coworkers and family & friends, why it's okay to be proud (and how to steer clear of bragging), and how to balance envy with feeling excited for someone's success. 

We also chat about "benevolent benefactor syndrome", separating your self-worth from your income and why money isn't a judge of character, how talking about money can help us set expectations, and why *asking* someone if they're comfortable speaking about their pay is probably the best solution.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

Note:

Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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We came back from vacation feeling...insane. Our lack of sleep and general confusion has resulted in whatever today's episode is. 

We start with a recap of our trip and the perils of early morning travel. Notable highlights include the curse of the brussell sprouts, a nearly-broken arm and a run-in with TSA, accidentally breaking out of our own car, and the humiliation that comes with almost knocking over a pilot at Starbucks.

Then we get into our biggest travel icks, from flip-flops and full plane meals to coughing and out of control kids. Plus our travel styles and why one of us has the urge to throw away all of our clothes on the trip home (again...insane?)

And then of course, the star of the show and the reason we're all here: what to do when you're feeling anxiety about traveling. Whether it's ambivalence about the trip itself and feeling like you should be happy but aren't, or the anticipation of turbulence and feeling like the left phalange might really be broken, we talk about ways to quiet your mind so you can actually have a good time.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

Note:

Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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Some weeks you're thriving, and some weeks you're dumpster diving. And unfortunately for (one of) us, we're knee deep in psychological garbage. 

Today, we're talking about bird calls, travel stress, and what to do when life's got you down. We discuss being an observer vs. active participant in life, the "workout mentality" and how to apply it to making plans, the need for community, and grieving past versions of yourself. 

We also get into the feeling of wanting to escape the monotony of your life, how to identify what you're running from and whether it's something you can actually avoid, and why "different" doesn't mean "bad".

Plus, a fun little side chat about what to do when someone's comment gets under your skin, whether getting an apology really solves anything, and how to remove power from the words people throw at you.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

Note:

Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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