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August 29, 2022 80: How The Extra Curriculars Didn’t Help Us Or Did It?
In this episode NTS crew discusses how the "extra curriculars" helped or didn’t help daters in their shidduch journey. Growing up in the Jewish community, we are raised young to commit to duty, family and community. The propensity for young jewish people to be involved in the jewish community is ramped. There are hundreds of organizations that we get involved in. Looking back did it help? Was it worth it? We discuss.

Jared and Yosef join us!

1) Let's discuss the organizations we spent time in
2) Does everyone do it to find a shidduch!!
3) Was it real or was it a resume filler?
4) Some looking back nostalgia on these programs
5) Being branded as an "NCSY" guy or a "Chabad" gal
6) How can one move on if these choices don’t work out? (Example the forever Camp Counselor)
7) How to move on if there was a serious issue in this stage of your life

1) Chesed programs
2) NCSY
3) Chabad
4) Shabbatons
5) Bais Medresh
6) Yeshiva learning
7) Camp!
8) Israel program
9) Tomchei Shabbos
10) HASC Counselor
11) Chai Lifeline
12) Seforim sale
13) YU / Landers
1 hr 24 min
August 21, 2022 79: What Your Yeshiva Pick Says About You
Episode 79 - What your Yeshiva pick says about you
IJ is joined by Yeshiva Bucher Jeremy. He has a ton to share and help answer some questions about what goes on during this Israel yeshiva seminary gap-year experience and the yeshiva life when you get back!
1) What is the yeshiva seminary experience?
2) Describe the seminary’s for us…if you go here you’re like this etc… Group pics & experience search
3) Your response to brainwashing
4) Are there yeshiva seminaries to sell your first born to in order to get in?
5) What are the effects of certain Yeshivas on your shidduch resume?
6) What’s your response to a girl that says she won’t date you bec. Of the yeshiva you went too?
7) So they only teach you to become Rabbis and Dentists? What’s the occupations that they push on to you?
8) Do yeshiva's actually prepare you for real life?
9) Do you actually keep the Kesher of your friends and Rebbeim??
10) Thoughts on guys who go Shana bet or gimmel? Shana Gimmel!

42 min
August 14, 2022 78: A Single’s Guide To Summer
Episode 78: A Single’s Guide To Summer
Izak (IJ) sits down with c-host Paige for a one on one on how singles can manage their summer. Afterwards, Avery and Ahuva discuss what the Shid School of Love is!?
1) Summer is just another day that's warmer
2) Singles events and singles gatherings
3) The Shidduch Underworld
4) Community events! Bring a doggy bag
5) Assembling what's left of your friend crew
6) How to handle your Maaser money best when single :-)
7) Steps to decide to go to the summer soirée
8) How do you explain what you've been up to for all these years?

1 hr 1 min
August 07, 2022 77: Good Things About Shidduchim (ft. Baila Sebrow)
In this episode, the Mic gets turned around to the happy shidduch goer's side of the dating system. This is an episode all about Good things about shidduchim and the shadchan! We are joined by Baila Sebrow and Cousin Malcolm.
1) Benefits of using a Shadchanit
2) Baila gives us her take
3) What's holding back singles today?
4) Anxieties and what went wrong to lead to where things are now
5) Are intimate discussions better for the singles on their own?
6) The process of using a Shadchan
7) What your looking at when matching
8) Is the Shadchan ever wrong?
9) It’s so less awkward for everything
10) What girls like most about using a shadchan
1 hr 27 min
July 26, 2022 76: Age Gaps Explored (ft. Ahuva Shandelman A.K.A. Holy Shid)
Episode 76: Age Gaps Explored - Nobody Talks Shidduchim Podcast
We’ve discussed many age facets on this show, but IJ & Avery delve into this topic when it comes to the many classes of age compatibility. Are there actual reasons of age differences? There is such a stigma here about guys just dating younger girls, so many do that; so why do we make comments about it when it happens? Also we are happy when we hear about an older girl with a younger guy…is it ok to make a big deal about that? Ahuva Shandelman A.K.A. Holy Shid stops by, along with Miss Rivka.

Different age gaps:
1) The Classic: Guy is older then the girl
2) The uncommon: the Girl is older than the guy
3) The assumed: Girl & Guy are the same age
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1) What happened to the same age dater?
2) Does that even still exist?
3) Fertility for women
4) Is this a nature vs. nurture kind of thing?
5) Can this be explained?
6) Stories & people we know with age gaps
7) Are there really any differences between age blocks:
a) 19 to 26
b) 24 to 32
c) 30 to 40
7) When the younger girls father is just 10 years older then you!
8) You're parents are just way way way younger then her parents and thats tough!
9) What about someone married w an age gap, did it work for them? Should you ask them?
10) Freezing eggs
11) Friends being of age
1 hr 14 min
July 17, 2022 75: Workplace Shidduch Stories
75) Workplace Shidduch Stories & how to navigate working life while single.
Rachel Salutsky and JoJo visit IJ and Avery.
This episode is about American Jewish dating and its affects in the workplace. Have you ever been assigned to a new project at work and in comes your new partner...and wow!!! you’re taken by surprise because you think they’re cute. Well it gets even better you recognize that they are; Shidduch available, as you’ve gotten their résumé or you’ve asked a coworker or a friend to find out if they’re single and they are. For this episode Avery and IJ discuss the positives, the benefits, to the cons, the ramifications, the problems, the ethics, the everything of dating someone from work.
1) is a work relationship real?
2) When your coworker you hate gets married…do you say Mazal tov!
3) Can it actually go somewhere
4) Wanting to go out with a Co-worker!
5) Asking coworkers out
6) Asking Vendors out
7) Clients out
8) Work place love
9) How the workplace will treat you if you are single in a Jewish setting
10) How the workplace will treat you in a non-Jewish setting
11) Pay raises in some Jewish firms when you get married
12) What if you were seeing someone and it ended, now what do you do if you work with them
13) Getting into fights with people that work because they encroach on your singleness
14) Yeah power struggles like when he called me do you oversee the other person or they oversee you
15) When someone else is jealous of the relationship that you are in with that other coworker

1 hr 8 min
July 10, 2022 Ep 74: Culture Shockers (ft. Hassidic Hipster)
Hasidic Hipster Sarah Guigue stops by. Cousin Malcom too. Ever see my big fat Greek wedding? Culture shockers are real in Shiduchim. There are so many different kinds of minhags or customs or rituals that families have. In this episode, the NTS crew rant about the best to the worst in shidduch dating culture shockers!
1) Family Huggers
2) Bris
3) Sefardic kissing on cheeks
4) Bro Cuddling
5) Women cheek kissing
6) Men walking around the house in underwear
7) Women’s Nida (a guys house vs. a gals house)
8) Black hats
9) Sheitels
10) Men wear rings when married
11) Men wearing rings in general (Italian like)
12) Engagement bracelets
13) When the mother doesn’t cover her hair
14) Asking the father permission to marry their daughter
15) Pesach vacations
1 hr 1 min
June 28, 2022 Ep 73: A History on Jewish Dating and The Great Singles Migration to New York
A History on Shidduch Dating and The Great Singles Migration - NTS
The NTS Crew sits down with shidduch scholar Malcom.
In this episode we discuss the history of Shidduch dating, the great singles migration and how certain places became the singles go to places to live. What they are like and what they have to offer
This NTS episode discusses a brief history crash course on the history of shidduch dating. Where it began, how did it start, how we got to modern day dating!
We end off with where singles migrate to. Where do they end up and what happens to them?
1) History
2) Back to our Forefathers
3) Talmudic times
4) The enlightenment
5) How it was done in Europe
6) After the Shoa
7) Shmilka Bernsteins & Grossingers
8) Small towns
9) Rebuilding Jewish communities in the 70's, 80's 90's etc...
10) Globalism
11) The business of Shidduchim is business
12) Why singles are choosing the Upper West Side?
13) The great singles crisis of 2008
1 hr 19 min
June 20, 2022 Ep 72: A Long Distance Fairy Tale, Meeting On Social Media & Trying To Get Back Together
IJ sits down for a tell all to discuss his long distance fairytale. He found love but God had other plans. Long-distance can be quite the challenge for many couples but it could also provide a very unique and special experience. There’s a lot of character development and growth that takes place during long distance relationships; are you one of those who this has happened to?
Many times people wave their hand at you when they say “what you’ve never met each other in person“ Well I J is here to tell you why those people are full of garbage because long distance is more real than anyone could even imagine.

1) Does long-distance really work?
2) Making sure they are a real person and not a cat fish!
3) What if both parties struggle with moving away from where they are?
4) Is face timing a substitute for in person dating?
5) How come small minded people roll their eyes when you tell people that you met and are together primarily online
6) Taking long-distance breaks
7) Getting over regrets
8) Getting back together
42 min
June 07, 2022 Ep 71: Dating Coach Consultation
This episode discusses small tidbits from a consultation with a dating coach. We are joined by Rivka Janowski Rochind.
Rivka offers us tips so we can brush up on our dates. Is there a way for us to be more cognizant on our dates?
1) Being tuned in on dates
2) remembering there names
3) What if you seemed tuned out, what do you do?
4) Does this mean there’s a problem with you or even the match?
5) Is there one person you’re supposed to marry?
6) How do you know someone is right for you?
7) Not looking for “perfect” looking for “perfect for me”
8) “Pink” flags and dealbreakers
9) Some things that hold people back from committing/getting engaged/married
10) And How to overcome them
11) Understanding when dating may or may not be a good thing for you
12) How to properly tell someone they're not for you
13) When to realize you may be oversharing
14) When to realize you may to closed off
15) How maintain momentum with someone you just met without getting to anxious about the future...
1 hr 16 min