In this week's episode we bring on Sarale and Ahuva AKA Holy Shid. We wanted to share Sarale's inspirational story regarding her shidduch journey. We also discuss Lubavitcher dating.

 3. The early set familial & societal pressures to get married at a younger age and how that affects people.

 4. Creating a routine that keeps you moving through the years where you feel like you have nothing going on dating wise.   

 5. How Sarale becoming more open minded introduced her to therapy.  

 6.  The skills she picked up in therapy that helped her understand more about herself.   

 7. The differences and similarities of shidduchim within the Chabad community 

 8. Spotting the differences of who you were and you're becoming, and why it's ok to wait for the perfect time

 9. Understanding that may be the issue is you, and how becoming more open minded can bring the right person into your life. 

 10. Why you should not rely on the community at large to make your match for you

 11. Childhood patterns that may currently be holding you back from finding the right one.

In this episode Avery and IJ bring on Michal and Tami, two daters who reside in Lakewood and have experience going through the Shidduch system. Avery and IJ take a backseat and listen to what the girls have to say in regards to their dating encounters. 

1) A brief introduction to what dating is like in Lakewood 

2) Do you feel you are judged more harshly by people you meet because of where you're from? 

3) Lakewood is known for the BMG culture, we know what it is today. Are single Lakewood twenties still looking for that cookie-cutter type? 

4) Where do you think most girls get their ideal interests for what they are looking for in a guy 

5) They say the girls have it easy with matchmakers because they are not expected to push back or stand up for what they believe in. Do you think that is a correct statement?

6) How should a girl tell a matchmaker what they are exactly looking for?

7) what are the least relatable things in a résumé. What things do you think can be totally taken off.

8) in the mid 2010’s Bais Yaakov schools had to chase girls down for their social media participation. It seems that your generation has been able to grow up with this and have a healthy well balanced mindset in this area, what changed?

9) Is it difficult to explain your hashkafa to shadchanim, parents etc. Because they don't understand modern lakewood.

10) Can girls grow up in a rigid, frum environment and learn to rebel against it in a healthy way

11) Whereas girls 20 years ago didn't have an issue with photos and resumes, do you feel the yeshivish world is right to not allow photos to be sent?

58) Dating Apps, other ways to meet and Modox dating

56) How to be prepared for marriage In this week's edition of the NobodyTalks Shidduchim Podcast, we sit down with Avi Singer. Avi is a licensed marrige and family therapist as well as small business owner. Throughout this episode, we discuss:

2) How one can prepare him/herself to be the ideal person they see in a marriage

3) Are frum marriages more difficult to maintain due to the various factors (expensive lifestyle, religious levels, lack of incorporation of modern day life needs

4) Is the separation between boys and girls from a young age leading people people to be less ready for relationships

5) Should you have a short list of qualities you need in a spouse? If so, what are they?

6) How to tell you are really ready for marriage?

7) The things a married person only knows, and how to use that information to help others

8) Does our community put to much of a burden on the idea that getting married is the be all end all, and not enough attention on how to maintain a healthy relationship?

9) What are habits to pick up that will make you an a great spouse?

Ep 55: Seasons Come & Go But Yom Tov Never Changes & Shabbos Is On The Way!

In ep 54 the NTS crew with Meghan discusses hashkafa. We label it, we box it and we subject the hashkafic orientations out there. Just because We do this, doesn’t mean there’s less to a person. But in shidduchim it’s important to identify where you stand on things. What’s important to bring up, what should be brought up and what may just be ok to wait on.

Yona & Chani join Avery to have a sophisticated and nuanced discussion over the many differences and similarities those of us share when it comes to our hashkafos in Shidduchim.  We tackle the concept of dating someone based on various stereotypes such as wearing a black hat, davening in Young Israel's and preferring a TV in your home. 

 1) Defining religious orientation

2) Black hat

3) Zionistic

4) TV and TV in the house

5) Sending your kids to white shirt or co ed yeshiva

6) What community do we want to live in

7) Is how you observe Shabbos a hashkafic difference? ie how you want to run a Shabbos table, going swimming, wife holds of the eruv

8) How much do we listen to the families rov?

9) Do we put a filter on the house internet? Kids phones. Etc.

10) Making aliyah

11) Learning

EP 52: Don't Ask Me If I'm Shomer #3 [Part 3: The Rabbi Strikes Back]