Normal Lies

Episode 68. Linda, once again, brings a compilation of her most recent guest's answers to her finale questions:

• What’s The best piece of advice you received when you were younger?
• A lie you wish you discovered sooner?
• What’s the thing that makes you, you?
• What is one change you’d like to see in the world & one action, even a baby step, that we can take right now so we can move toward that change? 

The guests responses are brilliant, insightful and quite often humorous.

In order of appearance, you’ll  hear from:
Bill Gilliland (Episode 57) 
Michelle DeNio (Episode 60)
Dani Hamlet & Kristi Mitchell (Episode 61)
Beverly Price  (Episode 62)
Sarah O’Brien Hammond (Episode 63)
Gary Miles (Episode 64)

If you haven’t already, go to Normal-Lies.com to listen to their full episodes and find out how to contact them and follow them on social media .

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Episode 67. “We will stop someone from being foolish with their money. We'll stop someone from being foolish with their marriage. But we'll just let people eat their way into an early grave and not think anything of it.”

Mark Dulaney sucked at business, marketing and making money, and relationships (all kinds of them).

So he spent 30 years studying the world's most successful people, learning everything they did to be successful.  The problem was, he could never get himself to apply what he learned, except with his health and fitness.  

As a result of his decades of struggle, he finally realized his gift was in helping others take better care of their bodies and their health.

Today, he helps people become "Healthier, Fitter and More Powerful!”

Some of the insight Mark shares in his conversation with Linda:

- “If you don't like the way you look in the mirror, I believe you make some of the worst relationship decisions you will ever make in your life. You'll settle for men you don't deserve. You'll settle for women you don't deserve.”

-“Everyone in life, either lives based on what they want today and pay for it tomorrow, or, they pay for it today and they enjoy life tomorrow.” 

-“Healthcare is not healthcare, it’s sick care. Healthy people, people who eat healthy are of little value to the powers that be in healthcare.”

- “If you have a dessert after dinner every night, or have to have something sweet, it can just get to be a habit. I would love it if I could, through this conversation, get everyone to think, “Is this my normal or, is this good for me?”

Check out Mark's website to see the video Linda spoke about: MarkDulaney.com
Connect with Mark on Facebook and on Linked In.
Find Mark’s book, The 5 Reasons Personal Development Has Failed You on Amazon.

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Episode 66. “Sometime the things that we thought are good for us may not be good in the long term. Those are the moments when those things are happening (and) you will feel catastrophic loss and all those kind of things. Then later on if you look back, you say, “Oh, that wasn't good for me and it's a blessing that I came out of it, better and wiser.”

Dr. Rehnuma Karim grew up in Bangladesh and majored in Economics but decided to change her track when she came to pursue her Ph.D in the field of Environment and Leisure Studies at Penn State.

She was a full time faculty at SUNY Brockport but after 2015, she became an adjunct faculty and started her own non-profit, Heroes for All, both in NY and in Bangladesh.

She is also co-host of the Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast and is working on a book with Coach Jim Johnson.

Dr. Karim shares her heroes journey with Linda:

- “I’m watching this movie, Batman, when Batman was saying “What do I do? I cannot rise. Why do we fall?" And then Alfred says, “We fall because the universe wants to see how you rise again.”  It just resonated.

- “I think faith really helped me so I knew that no matter what, everything happens for a reason and I will be coming out of it. So usually faith, family, and friends. And when you have a meaning to what you are doing, that is what can lift you up.” 

- “There were neighbors who would come to my mom and complain. It looks odd, a girl hanging around and playing in the streets. But my mom and dad, they were very progressive, especially my dad. He said that it's her life. I don't see her as a girl or a boy. She's a human and she can do whatever she loves to do.”

 - “My dissertation was on acid attack victims, victims who were thrown acid at their face and how they even coped after such a tragedy. When I was doing the interview, I found out those girls are filled with life and some of them were saying that they knew more about life after the tragedy happened. And if it didn't happen, they wouldn't know that they had the power to make a difference.”

To find her podcast, Limitless Leadership Lounge. 

To contact Rehnuma and/or learn more about her non-profit, go to HeroesForAll.org.  

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Episode 65.   "This podcast is about the “normal lies" that we have been born into that have become so “normalized.” I think is one of them is that whole “American work ethic.” Yes, we, we want to work, but it's also important to take time off. It's also important to take care of ourselves and if we're working all the time, it's hard to connect with our families."

When this podcast airs, Linda will be on vacation with her family so she decided to run a replay or at least a partial replay of one of her favorite episodes. 

This is part of her interview with Amanda Harrington, who is a wife, and at the time that this first aired, a mom to a two and a half year old son, who also led a product strategy team as a senior product manager at an international tech company. 

Amanda is now the proud mom of a four year old and has risen to the position of Director of Product marketing at that same tech company. 

Amanda was Linda's first guest and she is also her daughter. 

Linda & Amanda discuss the joys and  struggles of motherhood,  mom-shaming and being a working mother in this day and age.  There are a few twists and turns in this episode as an unexpected guest shows up and Linda is confronted with the good and the not so good of her own motherhood experience. 
 
 Shame and vulnerability researcher, Dr. Brené Brown coined the term, vulnerability hangover. It refers to the time after we take an emotional risk and we are uncertain of the outcome. That is exactly how Linda felt after this interview.

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Episode 64.  “My happiness is being true to myself and being a better person today than I was last year. The only person I should really compare myself to is me. Am I growing? Am I learning? Am I responding better?”

Gary Miles is a four decade member of the legal profession, who has learned there is a solution to every problem. He loves helping folks solve their problems.

Gary is dedicated to helping lawyers, entrepreneurs and professionals achieve the success of their dreams. 

He is passionate about showing people how to free themselves from the prisons that entrap them, whether that is financial, emotional, or physical.

Gary is also a loving husband, father of five and grandfather,  and he believes that we all are entitled to the very best life possible.

In his conversation with Linda, Gary shares some of his journey and lots of the wisdom he has gleaned from his experiences over the years:

“When I reflected on my childhood, I realized that I'd gotten these messages, that I wasn't good enough that I wasn't liked, and my people pleasing behaviors made me sort of depressed, frustrated because I couldn't please everybody.  I realized I had to choose a different way of living life, where what I focused on was being true to myself.  And people who liked me for who I was, that was great, and that other people's opinions of me really don't matter.”

“I worked a lot with lawyers in recovery. Lawyers who are having wellness issues. And the biggest impediment is, sometimes it's hard for us to humble ourselves and say, “I'm struggling, I could use some support.”  

“The real me was different than what I portrayed to you and how you interpreted me, what you thought of me was different than what I portrayed to you. And to me, really, fulfillment comes from when they're one and the same. The me who I really am is who I show to you, and that's how you see me.”

To learn more about Gary and to find his podcast, The Free Lawyer, go to his website, GaryMiles.net  

Email G[email protected] and connect with Gary on Linked In. 

Linda also shares a review from one of her listeners. 

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Episode 63.   “My hope is really for people to reclaim or to claim and know that they have the power to design a life that truly serves them first and foremost.” Sarah O’Brien Hammond

Sarah O’Brien Hammond is Chief Community Officer and Founder of The Network of Women. Driven by her own life’s journey, her mission is to bring together growth-minded women through diverse and unique experiences focused on helping them live their best, most fulfilled life. 

She is also one of New York City’s most successful recruiters and career coaches and a proud mother of two daughters and a fur baby, a wife, and fitness enthusiast. 

What started as a side hustle, quickly became her life’s work and purpose. Her mission is to bring together growth-minded women through diverse and unique experiences focused on helping them live their best, most fulfilled life and hopes that the members of the network find greater clarity, fulfillment and happiness and create the positive shifts in life they desire. 

In this conversation, Sarah shares:

 - “Whatever you want in life, you have to first have a connection to self and know what it is you even want.”

- “I call it a midlife awakening which is really a woman's version of a midlife crisis. I think that's a bit too dramatic, a crisis. Mine wasn't a crisis, but it was more of an awakening of  “what do I want in this life?”

- “Ditching the hustle and grind, which I think is also a myth that we have to work hard and grind it out. And every day is just a churn and burn. And I did that for 20 years and society pays you handsomely for working like that, but it's at a really big sacrifice and expense.”

- “Gluttony, gluttony, gluttony, that’s a very strong societal message.  Forget about happiness, just have a lot.”

-  “…mindfulness is everything, it creates awareness. It lessens that loud voice, lowers that loud voice in your head, whether it's limiting beliefs, inner critic, anxiety, it just turns the volume down. It allows you to power through really difficult situations. It lets you have hard conversations. It grounds you, it allows you to have awareness, which is key to everything.”

 Learn more about the NoWNYC and, find her podcast Below the Surface at the NoW, at  https://www.thenownyc.com

Email  Sarah at [email protected].

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Episode 62.  “…one of the pieces of advice that I would give to any woman (is) to believe in yourself, no matter what, no matter what anybody says, no matter what your childhood was like, no matter what kind of experience you have. Find that something down deep inside…” 

Beverly Price is the Host and founder of Her-Self-Expression Podcast and, a transformational coach who provides knowledge, support, and insight to help women on their journey to self-empowerment, so they can take on the world. 

With an MBA and a background as a leader in the financial services industry, Beverly comes from a background of making herself small in order to make others feel safe. When she finally embraced her ability to own her power and make a statement, she went from self-loathing to self-love.

More Beverly wisdom:

• “I say to the people that say, “well, I don't wanna dress for somebody else. I don't feel like I have to wear makeup or put on an outfit.” And my comment to that was don't do it for them, do it for yourself.”
•  “…it’s so important to try and learn from whatever went wrong so that you don't repeat the patterns like I did.”
• “…think of somebody putting themselves down and kind of wallowing in that.  My theme song back then was, “I'm not much, but I'm all I ever think about.”

Visit Beverly’s website HerSelfExpression.com for more information, to contact her and to listen to her podcast. 

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Linda reads every one and every month, she chooses one review to read on air.  Who knows, she may choose yours!

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Episode 61.  “What role does social media play in your business? A lot of times, I don't think people can even answer that question. And so, if you're not clear on that, how are you gonna know if you're getting what you want out of doing social media?  And how are you going to know what you should be posting?”   ~Kristi Mitchell

If you have ever struggled with using social media for your business, you are going to love this conversation about mindset, marketing strategy and managing content with Linda, Dani Hamlet, a Social Media and Content Manager, and Marketing Strategist, Kristi Mitchell. 

From Dani- “I call it ‘trend paralysis.’  You see all these trends, you might like some of them, and some don't feel like you and you just kind of feel like, “That’s it, I just can't compete with this!”

- “You don't need to chase after the trends because it is ever changing. But the one thing that isn't changing is you. Your business is changing too, but your brand, that stays the same. You just gotta stick with your awesomeness…”

- “You don't have to sit there and try to be something, you are not. It's actually a really giving thing to post on social media.”

From Kristi- “We don't want you to feel like you have to. We want you to feel like you GET the opportunity. We want you to be excited about the content you're creating. It is supposed to be fun. It's not supposed to feel like a chore.”

- “If you're not excited about the message that you're bringing to social media to share with people, if you're not infusing the passion that you have for your business and the clients that you serve in the content that you're creating, it's gonna show...”

- “Creating content is always about solving problems for your clients.   It's about being a problem solver and a thought leader.”

From Linda- " We all have that voice in our head, that Judge who likes to compare us and our circumstances with everybody else. And so it's a downward spiral conversation and we can end up in a hole somewhere. So I really think we have to be aware of those lies that are just in our head.”

-“You have a voice, you have a message. You have something that the world needs. And so stop making it about yourself. And you both have said this, “make this about the people that you can reach and the impact that you can have on them.”  Take a stand, use your voice.”

-“We have to understand, why are we doing (social media)? It's not enough to say, “it's for my business,  I need to get clients and I need to make money.” To me, that’s not enough. We’ve gotta figure out exactly, “Why?"

Connect with Kristi Mitchell, Dani Hamlet and Linda Heeler on Linked In so you will be among the first to know when their upcoming program on social media marketing, management and mindset is taking place Fall of 2022. 

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Episode 60.  "I've never really feared failure. I've always felt like there's a million ways to make money in this world. You can figure it out, right? "

You are going to love Linda's  conversation with Michelle DeNio.

 Michelle is the founder of the Accelerated Business Alliance and Your Business GPS. She is an expert Business Strategist and Coach who helps online service providers navigate their most efficient, profitable, and sustainable ROUTE to Fully Booked. 

Michelle is a referral partner who tells you what you need to hear and always has your back. This conversation is like having coffee with a brilliant friend. 

Some of Michelle's wisdom:
- " … a big lie that a lot of people say (is) if you don't go all in on your business, you're not serious. And I believe the complete opposite. I don't think people should go all in because there's too much pressure on it. There's too much stress that comes with it, just too much riding on it."

- "...people view it as fear of failure, but the reality is I think it's a fear of success, "what happens when this does work?" " What happens when people start to notice me?" People will say that they're afraid to put themselves out there but the reality is that you're afraid it's gonna work most of the time."

- "It's just so much easier to fail because people expect failure. People don't expect you to succeed, especially all the naysayers in the world, they expect you to fail. So it's easy to  say,  "I failed,"  "it didn't work," but it's a lot harder to say, "Look at what happened. No, I didn't fail. I'm here. I'm doing it."  And so we tend to self-sabotage, and  hold ourselves back."

- "Instead of trying to come up with all the things that you have to do, start with one. Something small, something that is attainable and get comfortable with it. And then, add on something more, when you get comfortable there,  add on something more."

Michelle's podcast: Strategy In Small Doses
Michelle's website: Michelle DeNio Consulting
Connect with Michelle on Linked In

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Episode 59. At the end of each guest’s episode, I ask them to complete these sentences:

The best piece of advice when I received when I was younger is…

One lie I wish I discovered sooner is…

The thing that makes you, you is…

What is one change you’d like to see in the world? What is one action, even a baby step, that we can take right now so we can move toward that change?

Today’s episode is a compilation of the answers from my most recent guests to these questions. The guests responses are brilliant, insightful and quite often humorous.

In order of appearance, you will  hear from Theresia Intag, Vaida Cesnultye, Nyeshia Gibson, Megan Mills, Golden Madume, Elle Rosselli, and Mitchell Fink. 

If you haven’t already, go to Normal-Lies.com to listen to their full episodes and find out how to contact them and follow them on social media .

What about you? How would you respond?

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Linda reads every one and every month, she chooses one review to read on air.  Who knows, she may choose yours!

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To set up a coaching consultation,  go to Linda's calendar.

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