Not Allowed

I love New Years because it feels like we all collectively hit the refresh button. And if there's anything I want, it's hitting refresh on the last few months of 2022. Entering this new year wasn't the most exciting time for some of us going through rougher parts of life. Getting fired, being dumped, losing someone - you feel like you're drowning and suddenly it's a new year and you have to figure it out. You desperately want a fresh start but some old wounds are still healing. I'm here to remind you that you *don't* need to figure it all out. What you do need to do, is be less ashamed of where you are, less critical of your desires and more optimistic that you're trying your best. A new year can be a new start, but it can also be a chance to change your perspective and do an inventory of things you're truly grateful for. 

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Welcome to SEASON 3 BABY!! With more real and (hopefully) relatable stories and experiences - in conversation with friends, family and the real people experiencing the world that celebrities aren't. We're kicking off this season with my Leo, bad bitch, 26F friend Veena. We talk all about our dating stories -matching with the same guy, lets call him Mr Pringles, sending 'thank you' messages after sex, being into the tall-skinny-with-glasses boy, and discussing the possibility of considering arranged marriages.  We had so much conversation to cover that THIS IS ONLY PART 1! Stay tuned for Part 2.

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Is it worth risking a friendship to pursue something more? I never really got the people that say that their partner is their best friend. On paper it seems like a good idea to date a friend but to me friendships have a different dynamic. Conversely, could we remain friends with an ex? It's hard to switch relationship dynamics back and forth because feelings are complicated and things get messy. Then of course, there's always that ONE friend you wonder about. The one you have insane chemistry with, palpable sexual tension, you can't stand when they're with someone else - yet it never goes anywhere beyond a friendship. But a part of you always longs for it. If we cross the friendship line, is there any going back? Will it be the most passionate, beautiful love affair? Or do we risk losing both the friendship and the person?

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Why do we feel like a failure when we aren't in a relationship or haven't found the 'one'. We have put traditional monogamous relationship structures on a pedestal and failed to give credit to new relationship structures that might actually work for us and our modern lives. Entering the dating world, expecting to find the ONE just sends us on a spiral of constant disappointments and slowly shattering our self esteem. But what if for a change, we didn't see ourselves as failures. Is it possible to re-wire our outlook on what kind of relationships work for us? What kind of partners we're subconsciously attracting? And how traditional relationship structures could be a trap people are stuck in, but find it hard to get out of because society rewards them for being in it.

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Tit Bit minisodes are BACK!!! I'm so excited now that I'm fully self employed to come back with casual, unedited (kinda, mostly) episodes of storytimes, general musings and most importantly - angry rants. We're back on the minisode today talking about the much talked about movie Brahmastra, foreplay porn, the dramatic b*tch in the elevator, and my cool-girl-with-anxiety breakdowns. 

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Quitting a job is not always easy, the mental exhaustion of the decision, taking the step that's right for you and disrupting a cushy stable routine. It's not easy but it is something we all have done or will do at some point. Our jobs and careers can be strongly tied to our self worth and sense of purpose in this world. Quitting can therefore feel like a failure, when in reality it is an opportunity. An opportunity to re-asses, re-build and get on the path that was meant for us instead of the path we 'think' we should be on. 

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Honestly, “taking it slow” can mean “this is never happening”. Some of us have been benched, waiting on guys to finally be ready to commit, finally be ready to be in a relationship if we just hold out long enough. But the truth is that no one has the f*cking time. If its not a hell yes then its a hell no. We got shit to do, dreams to make come true and careers to build. No one is worth the wait, and you’re too worthy to be waiting.

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There are definitely a few "post-seeing-each-other-naked" manners and texting rules that we should follow, but don't. Communication post coitus tells you a lot about what the relationship will look like going forward. Is he suddenly really busy or just blowing you off because he got what he wanted? Should you text him first after hooking up or should he? Is talking about your ex after sex a red flag? Janani navigates all the post sex rules and talks about the "naked zone" - the zone right after sex when you're laying in bed (cuddling or not) where everything is naked - your bodies, your thoughts and your emotional walls. And how the conversations that happen in this zone can tell you a lot about the future of the relationship.

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Janani turns 28 and is now on to the organic lifestyle. Moving on from the dating apps and into meeting people "organically" out in the wild. Janani tells you the juicy organic details about two dates (kinda) and the fun in fucking funny guys. Text banter, communication styles and expectations from the Y chromosomes all leads into a new chapter of Not Allowed. 

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I have a crush on someone...or is he just one of the few single people around me? As a hopeless romantic who wants to so desperately be in love, sometimes I just construct a crush around a cute guy who's giving me attention. If we have some cute negging banter, his hand touches my hand, he looks at me 3 seconds longer than normal - that's it. I'm in LOVE. kinda. Inevitably though, when the lack of compatibility starts showing up, the end of a crush is well...crushing. Kind of like a mini death. Crushes are so fun, yet, so nauseating. 

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