Not Allowed

2022 for us is all about coming into your own and discovering yourself and your truest desires. On this new year and new episode we’ll be talking about casual dating! What is casual dating? We're really defining the term and boundaries and how it's not the same thing as a situationship. Also why I recommend casual dating to anyone that's like me and on the look out for a long term relationship. I tell you how you can do it too without the risk of heartbreak, enjoying the game of getting to know yourself and what makes you tick.

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#RELATABLE is a sub series of the podcast where I sit across the table and interview REAL women and talk about their REAL-ATABLE experiences. With the first ever guest and my oldest friend Tanya Malik - a psychologist by trade. On this episode we talk about triggering fatphobic Indian mothers and Indian doctors, does organic dating exist anymore?, being in a relationship that doesn't require a label, performative porn sex and Tanya's 90 min date trick.

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My Blog site - https://www.notallowed.in/

☼ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/notallowed.in/

https://www.instagram.com/itsjanani/

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A bitch is an assertive woman who makes no apologies for what she wants, isn't afraid to challenge authority and is an overall badass going after the life she envisions. But this world isn't ready for a bitch. We tear down women who possess the same traits we uplift in a man. Any woman who stands up for herself is met with a toxic society that wants to "put her in her place" aka back in the misogynistic box of being a good girl. People pleaser turned bitch, I explore the very real backlash from being a powerful and outspoken woman. From condescending men to tone policing work places, it takes a real cunt pounding to stand up for what you believe in and be a fucking. bitch. 

My Blog site - https://www.notallowed.in/

☼ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/notallowed.in/

https://www.instagram.com/itsjanani/

☼ Podcast  -- 'Not Allowed' on all podcast platforms  https://open.spotify.com/show/6T4zv41..

We're back on this Diwali special episode with a special announcement!! Keeping in the theme of Diwali on this episode we're talking about feeling the initial sparks fly when you're crushing on someone new and if it's stopping you from spotting the red flags.

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☼ My Blog site - https://www.notallowed.in/

☼ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/itsjanani/

☼ Podcast  -- 'Not Allowed' on all podcast platforms  https://open.spotify.com/show/6T4zv41..

a raw and unedited episode (and video episode) of the podcast triggered by a personal shit week. This past week I learnt some hard realities, realities about speaking up. When you're at the receiving end of any kind of injustice, especially women, and stand up against it, you're met with tone policing and the expectation to present your case in a palatable manner. If you dare challenge the status quo, expect hate, criticism and also...loneliness. 

I talk about the boys club, gatekeepers and their desperate cling to relevance, challenging the dynamics of your industry, owning your seat at the big boys table and reclaiming your power. This episode is dedicated to two lovely and incredible women, co-workers, trauma sisters and friends you know who you are. 

VIDEO EPISODE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=InsmhUlkh3w&ab_channel=JananiSuresh

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Today we're talking about Limp Dicks - not erectile dysfunction in the physical sense but we're talking about weak men who constantly find themselves in situationships or lure women into them. PLUS a storytime about my situationship trying to get my vagina to become probitic. 

What is SO appealing about having sex (or at least trying to) with multiple women and not enjoying intimate, safe sex, both emotionally and physically, with one person? We talk about how Limp Dick men are extremely insecure and feel the constant need for validation by trying to control the dynamics in a relationship. How pop culture has glorified "casual" "no strings" kinda sex but in reality its a callous and irresponsible way to be. If you're in a situationship, sis, get the fuck out. 

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The moment any girl learns about sex in India, the first thing she learns about is not that sex is a pleasurable act but that she has this thin(-ly veiled in misogyny) tissue inside her pussy that, all of a sudden, the world has ownership on and that she must protect this tissue at the risk of dishonoring her family. Apart from an antiquated cultural expectation, the reality is this discussion still comes up today - sneeringly asked by classmates, discussed amongst boys & girls and the peer pressure and shame around virginity that still very much exists. The guilt around being a sexually liberated woman and the guilt around virginity is proportionally the same. There's no win - win for women, it's always a lose-lose. The fact that in 2021, this will still happen makes me wonder where is it that we're going wrong?

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We're back with season 2!! Today's episode is an Indian Independence Day Special to all the independent single ladies out there, paying their own bills and for their automobiles. Our culture has normalized celebrating a ring on your finger and a corny wedding hashtag but we don't often celebrate - you. You, the woman who's learning about herself, you, the woman who's killing it at her job, you, the woman who's taken a leap of faith to start working on your dreams, you, the woman who's starting her own business, you, the woman who's traveling the world, YOU, the woman who's just figuring it out one day at a time. 

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On this episode I share a personal story about the time that I dated a narcissist. Dating a narcissist to me is classified under going through an abusive traumatic experience. The kind where you always consistently find yourself stressed out, in flight or fight or fawn mode, along with moments of euphoria. Things look ideal but don't feel it. Suddenly your emotions work against you, you question your own logic and you turn against yourself. You're being gaslighted, taken advantage of and all by the most toxic kind of person. And there seems to be no way out because somehow you're also being convinced that YOU'RE the problem. 

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I have been thinking about the idea of success, of "making it". If you had to define it, could you? We're sold this dream of being successful, our generation is full of online success stories unlike any generation before them. But if it really came down to it, do we ever know when we've reached this destination?

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