Not Anymore!

What if we all walked around with a little sign above our heads that said, "I'M FREAKING TRYING!" 😂

I saw this on a student driver's bumper sticker the other day, and it got me thinking.

Why are we so dang hard on ourselves when we're learning something new? And why do we expect everyone around us to get things right all the time?

The truth is, we're SUPPOSED to be bad at something before we're good at it! We're supposed to make mistakes, feel uncomfortable, and have messy moments. That's how we learn and grow!

In this episode, I'm sharing a simple mindset shift that can completely change how you see yourself, your kids, your spouse, and even the stranger driving in front of you.

We'll talk about giving ourselves permission to be beginners, why changing old habits feels so hard, and how choosing compassion over criticism can change our relationships.

Because maybe your kids aren't trying to make your life harder. Maybe your husband isn't intentionally doing things wrong. And maybe YOU aren't failing at all.

Maybe we're all just FREAKING TRYING! 🙌🏻

It's time to stop expecting perfection from ourselves and everyone around us.

NOT ANYMORE!

#NotAnymorePodcast #MindsetShift #SelfCompassion #Motherhood #PersonalGrowth #Overthinking #MindsetCoaching #lifecoach

Have you ever been so worried about what could go wrong that you couldn’t enjoy something you’d been looking forward to?

Before leaving for Italy with Cody, I had planned every detail for our kids. But my brain kept coming back to one terrifying question: “What if we die?”

In this episode, I share the simple question that helped interrupt that spiral: “What are the chances of that actually happening?” I talk about using reliable information to challenge a scary story, a lesson from Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, and another thought I leaned on: “We’ll figure it out.”

And when my daughter’s car broke down at midnight while we were overseas? She did exactly that.

If your brain loves preparing for every possible disaster, I’m sharing a practical challenge to help you question those thoughts, put your fears in perspective, and come back to the life happening right in front of you.

Not anymore to believing every scary story my brain offers me.

#NotAnymorePodcast #Overthinking #MomLife #WorryLess #Mindset

If I could go back and talk to the younger version of myself who cried and cried over my babies starting kindergarten, their last preschool graduation, and every little phase that was ending, I would wrap my arms around her and tell her, "It really does get better!"

Now here I am with my oldest son getting ready to graduate high school, and I keep getting asked, "Are you so sad?"

And while there are definitely moments of sadness, I genuinely LOVE this phase of motherhood. In fact, I love it in ways I never could have imagined when my kids were little.

It got me thinking. Why do we automatically assume the best years are behind us?

In this episode, I'm sharing how I've intentionally changed the way I think about the different phases of motherhood, how I let myself feel sad without creating a sad story about the future, and how we can be completely present in the phase we're in while genuinely looking forward to what's next.

Because here's what I wish every mom knew. You don't have to wish away today to be excited about tomorrow. And you don't have to dread tomorrow to appreciate today.

What if the next phase is even better than you can imagine?

#Motherhood #MomLife #RaisingTeenagers #SeniorMom #EmptyNest #MindsetShift #IntentionalLiving #LifeCoaching #NotAnymorePodcast #ParentingTeens

What if one of the biggest reasons you’re struggling isn’t because of what’s happening in your life, but because you’re believing every thought your brain gives you?

I used to do this all the time. If I had a thought about my body, I believed it. If I thought Cody should be acting differently, I ran with it. If my brain started wondering what someone thought about me, I could spend way too much time creating an entire story that might not even be true.

Not anymore.

In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite ways to manage my mind. I’ve started treating my thoughts like songs on a Spotify playlist. Just because Spotify serves me a song doesn’t mean I have to listen to it, and just because my brain serves me a thought doesn’t mean I have to believe it.

Sometimes I simply notice the thought and say, “Interesting lyrics. Not my jam. Next.”

I’ll show you how I’m using this in my marriage, my fitness journey, comparison, body image and worrying about what other people think. You’ll learn how to stop giving every thought so much power, recognize the thoughts you’ve been putting on repeat and become more intentional about what gets airtime in your mind.

You may not get to choose every thought that pops into your head, but you can choose which ones you keep listening to.

#NotAnymorePodcast #Mindset #Overthinking #NegativeThoughts #SelfTalk #MindsetShift #PersonalDevelopment #PersonalGrowth #MentalStrength #LifeCoaching #SelfImprovement #BodyImage #Comparison #ManageYourMind

What if you stopped waiting to feel confident, ready, motivated or fearless before you took action?

In this episode, I’m talking about something I’ve been practicing in my own life: allowing uncomfortable emotions to come with me instead of waiting for them to disappear. Fear, worry, insecurity and doubt don’t always mean we should stop. Sometimes they’re simply emotions we need to be willing to carry while we keep moving forward.

I’ll share a simple visual that has completely changed the way I think about uncomfortable emotions. Instead of trying to get rid of fear, imagine putting it in a bag, throwing that bag over your shoulder and taking it with you. Give the talk scared. Have the conversation worried. Get on the plane anxious. Start the thing unsure. Let the emotion be there for as long as it needs to be while you keep moving.

You don’t have to feel confident to take confident action. You don’t have to feel brave to do something brave. Your emotions can be present without being in charge.

Take the fear with you and go do the thing.

#PersonalDevelopment #Mindset #LifeCoaching #Fear #Anxiety #Confidence #Courage #SelfGrowth #EmotionalHealth #Overthinking #MindsetShift #SelfImprovement #DoItScared #WomenEmpowerment #NotAnymorePodcast

What if you gave the best case scenario as much airtime as you give the worst case scenario?

I used to think imagining everything that could possibly go wrong meant I was prepared. I could play out the accident, the failed business, the bad decision, the wrong spouse for one of my kids and every other terrible possibility before anything had even happened. But I started realizing that I wasn't always preparing myself. Sometimes I was just rehearsing tragedies that didn't exist.

In this episode, I'm sharing how I'm learning to catch my brain when it automatically goes to the worst case scenario and intentionally ask a different question: What if it all works out?

I'll show you how to give the best case scenario equal airtime, use that incredible imagination of yours to picture what could go right and stop letting a future that hasn't happened yet steal the joy from the life you're living right now.

You don't have to convince yourself that everything will work out perfectly. You just have to remember that the worst case scenario isn't guaranteed either.

So if you're going to tell yourself a story about the future, why not tell yourself a really freaking good one?

#WorstCaseScenario #Overthinking #Anxiety #WorryLess #Mindset #MindsetShift #PositiveThinking #PersonalDevelopment #SelfGrowth #ThoughtWork #ChangeYourThoughts #MentalStrength #IntentionalLiving #BestCaseScenario #WhatIfItAllWorksOut #NotAnymorePodcast #lifecoach

What if you didn’t have to figure out your whole life today?

I’ve realized how often I let yesterday’s mistakes, conversations, and regrets follow me into today while also pulling tomorrow’s worries, problems, and what ifs into a day that hasn’t even happened yet. No wonder life can feel so overwhelming.

In this episode, I’m sharing one of my favorite lessons from Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living about learning to live in day tight compartments. Just like a ship can close watertight doors to keep one flooded section from taking down the entire ship, we can learn to stop letting yesterday and tomorrow flood the day we’re actually living.

I’ll share the powerful idea behind Just for Today and a simple way I’m learning to quiet the worry, stop trying to solve everything at once, and come back to what I can actually control right now.

You don’t need enough strength for the next year today. You don’t need all the answers. You don’t have to know how everything is going to work out.

You just need to live today.

#StopWorrying #Overthinking #AnxietyRelief #Mindset #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #BePresent #LiveInTheMoment #WorryLess #StressRelief #DaleCarnegie #MindsetShift #LifeCoaching #NotAnymorePodcast

I had a meltdown this week, and instead of immediately trying to coach myself out of it, change my thoughts, or hurry up and feel better, I decided to actually feel what was happening in my body.

In this episode, I’m getting real and raw about what happened, what I discovered underneath the frustration, and why I’m learning that sometimes the meltdown isn’t the problem. Sometimes it’s the messenger.

I’m sharing what it looked like to stop analyzing everything in my head, get into my body, feel the emotions I had been resisting, and finally recognize what I actually needed.

Personal development isn’t about becoming so evolved that nothing ever bothers us. Maybe it’s about becoming less afraid of what we feel and learning how to listen to ourselves before we hit the breaking point.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, irritated, emotional, or completely off and couldn’t figure out why, this episode is for you.

#NotAnymorePodcast #PersonalDevelopment #EmotionalHealth #FeelYourFeelings #SelfAwareness #Mindset #LifeCoaching #EmotionalIntelligence #MentalHealth #SelfGrowth #motherhood #overwhelmed 

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “If this one thing would change, then I could finally feel better”?

If my kids would behave differently. If my husband would understand. If I could lose the weight. If we made more money. If this person would change. If I could just get through this season.

I’ve done it too. I’ve spent so much energy believing that something outside of me needed to change before I could feel differently inside of me.

But what if your life doesn’t need to change nearly as much as you think it does?

In this episode, I’m talking about the incredible power our thoughts and beliefs have over the way we experience our lives. I share fascinating experiments about grip strength, poison ivy and expectation, along with some very real stories from my own life that have reminded me that I don’t have to believe every thought my brain gives me.

I can’t control my kids, my husband, other people’s opinions, the economy, what someone says or what happened yesterday. But I can start paying attention to the thoughts I’m allowing to run my life.

And when I find a thought that is creating a life I don’t want anymore, I can question it.

I can challenge it.

I can stop rehearsing it.

I can decide, not anymore.

Maybe there are parts of your life that are already beautiful and your thoughts just haven’t let you see them yet.

This week, I’m challenging you to notice when something feels heavy and ask yourself one simple question:

“What am I making this mean?”

Your circumstances are part of your story, but they don’t get to write the whole thing. Not anymore.

#Mindset #PersonalDevelopment #ChangeYourThoughts #ChangeYourLife #PositiveMindset #SelfGrowth #MindsetShift #LifeCoaching #MentalStrength #SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth #ThoughtWork #EmotionalWellness #WomenEmpowerment #NotAnymorePodcast

Have you ever noticed how quickly your body can turn something small into a full blown emergency? Someone is upset with you. You’re running late. You make a mistake. Your kid is melting down. You have a hard conversation coming up. Suddenly your heart is racing, your mind is spinning, and your body is screaming, FIX IT NOW.

I lived this way for years without realizing it. My nervous system had learned to treat discomfort like danger.

In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when we spend too much of our lives in fight or flight, how chronic stress can affect our physical and emotional health, and the realization that helped me start retraining my nervous system.

I’ll share some of the signs that your body may be living in survival mode, why calm can actually feel uncomfortable when you’re used to constant urgency, and one simple practice I use to remind my body that I am safe.

Not everything is an emergency.

Someone being disappointed in you is not an emergency. Being late is not an emergency. Making a mistake is not an emergency. Having an uncomfortable conversation is not an emergency.

This week, I want you to start noticing when your body sounds the alarm and ask yourself, “Am I actually in danger, or am I just uncomfortable?”

Take three deep breaths and remind yourself:

This is not an emergency.
I am safe.
I do not have to fix this right now.

It might feel unnatural at first. Keep practicing.

We are retraining that barking dog inside of us.

Not anymore.

#NervousSystem #NervousSystemRegulation #FightOrFlight #SurvivalMode #StressManagement #ChronicStress #AnxietyRelief #MentalHealth #PersonalDevelopment #Mindset #EmotionalWellness #SelfImprovement #Mindfulness #StressRelief #NotAnymorePodcast