Not Bitter. Just Petty.

T. Calhoun, Jr. confesses saying some hurtful comments to his wife.  Statements like, 'I never should have married you', 'I don't love you and I never did".  Statements I and many women have heard before.  He explains honestly why he made those statements and reveals what examining himself revealed about his motivations.  

Find copies of Ree-Ree's book "Not Bitter. Just Petty. My thoughts on my cheating husband and his side piece that are trivial and of little importance" at my website www.goreereego.com

The words of a man in love, a liar, a fool under the spell of Krsicia?  Who knows?  I do know that I relied on the same words of love and appreciation that every woman in a relationship relies upon.

My friend Nicole Alston is my guest today.  She talks about how the words of her husband and his actions brought. child into their marriage and home.  She also discusses how her being afraid to ask for what she wanted in her marriage led to her being unfulfilled and accepting less than what she deserved.

In this episode I speak with Confidence Coach Crystal Belsar.  Her website is www.CrystalBelsar.com.  She helps women to find their confidence and move forward in life.  She discusses a facebook video she posted where she discusses the difference between confidence and self-Esteem.

Michele Lopez the guest on Episode 6 of the podcast.  She is a celebrity lifestyle coach and image consultant. She's the driving force behind Iyanla Vanzant's beautifully polished image. She is a film producer with a movie "Love dot Com" now streaming on Netflix. Michele is also the producer of two music videos for Raheem Devaughn. One of her mantras is "change begins at the foundation of your belief system".

Find her full bio at Michele's website and follow her own instagram at @MicheleLopez_llc.

Today she recounts meeting Ree-Ree at an event with Ms. Vanzant where Ree-Ree was Ms. Vanzant's bodyguard for the evening!  She talks to the listeners about finding power and purpose in their image.

Her tips for finding the confidence to walk into a room and own it. 

1. The primary reason people can’t have a image that speaks is because it doesn’t match the who you are on the inside.
2. Addressed the imbalance in the children’s and spouse coset than the woman she finds that with most women
3. Learn to show up for yourself.  God has a purpose and plan for you outside of motherhood and your marital status. 
4. Don't give out of emptiness, you have to give out of the overflow.
5. You honor God when you show up in your fullness. We are all storytellers and we get to decide how we show up.

Check out these tips and more in episode six.

Purchase Not Bitter. Just Petty. My thoughts on my cheating husband and his side piece that are trivial and of little importance" at Ree-Ree's website.

TRIGGER WARNING:  This episode deals with a very sensitive topic and may be a trigger for women who have not healed from sexual assault and molestation.

In this episode, Ree-Ree sits down with her cousin Vita and discusses the violation Vita suffered and how being forced to forgive without the tools of forgiveness impacted her life. 

TRIGGER WARNING:  This episode deals with a very ensile topic and may be a trigger for women who have not healed from sexual assault and molestation.

Continuing the discussion from episode 3, Ree-Ree sits down with her friend Keena and asks about how she was required to forgive her aunt's boyfriend.  A man who, when she was seven and he a a late teen, molested her over a period of months.  She got in trouble when she told her mother and eventually she was told she needed to forgive her abuser and move on.  The effects of that plan of forced forgiveness caused her to suffer emotionally for the rest of her life.

TRIGGER WARNING:  This episode deals with a very sensitive topic and may be a trigger for women who have not healed from sexual assault and molestation.

In this episode, Ree-Ree sits down with her friend Keena and asks about how she was required to forgive her aunt's boyfriend.  A man who, when she was seven and he a late teen, molested her over a period of months.  She got in trouble when she told her mother and eventually she was told she needed to forgive her abuser and 'move on'.  The effects of that plan of forced forgiveness caused her to suffer emotionally for the rest of her life.

Episode 2:  What is Petty

Today’s guest is  my friend Crystal.  Her ex-husband gained custody of their two young girls in the divorce process.  

She was unprepared at the way the court viewed home educators and stay at home wives.  She believed that because she invested so much in taking care of the family, she did’t think she needed a good lawyer.  She relied on her Christian background and believed that simply telling the truth would be of benefit to her.

We go through the official definitions of some of the words used to describe betrayed women. Words like petty, un-dignified, and bitter. We compare these definitions with the reality of the circumstances. Crystal's contention is that it is people that load more into the meaning of bitter and petty than the definition describes. During the discussion we also unpack our feelings as to how these negative labels are generally directed toward women.

Connect with Ree-Ree at www.goreereego.com. Download the free ebook "Who Told You That You Were Naked?" and purchase her new book "Not Bitter.  Just Petty."

In this episode Ree-Ree thanks listeners for tuning in to the first episode and shares her hopes for this podcast and when to expect future.  She makes her beginning declarations of who this podcast is for and what she's not.