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- Why Do We Listen to Our Inner Critic?
Why do we listen to our inner critic, especially when it tells us we’re not good enough?
In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I’m talking about where that critical voice actually comes from and why messages we learned from family, society, culture, and other people can eventually become so familiar that we mistake them for our own voice.
We’ll look at how other people’s unhealed Not Good Enough Stuff can become part of the way we see ourselves, why hearing something repeatedly doesn’t make it true, and how to begin questioning the negative messages you’ve carried for years.
The goal isn’t to eliminate your inner critic. It’s to understand where it came from, question whether what it’s telling you is actually true, and begin turning down its volume.
What is your inner critic telling you that you’re ready to start questioning?
New episodes of Not Good Enough Stuff every Tuesday.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction to the inner critic and its importance
00:58 How family, society, and culture shape our inner critic
01:55 The roots of negative self-beliefs from childhood
03:09 The influence of unhealed, unhealthy people on our self-image
04:40 Why we continue to listen to unhelpful voices
07:05 The impact of repeated negative messages from others
11:14 Understanding the triggers and roots of inner critic messages
15:10 Questioning the truth of negative beliefs and compliments
18:03 Unlearning harmful messages from unhealed people
21:06 Recognizing and challenging the inner critic's influence
23:23 Practical steps to heal and diminish the inner critic
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Resources & Links:
🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/
Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/
Connect with Me: ▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist 🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist 📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox 💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox
If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.
Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.
Music Attribution:
Music licensed through Soundstripe.
Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS
26 min - Your Life Experiences Are Not Your Identity | Why Your Worth Was Never Based on Your Story
What if the hardest things you've lived through aren't actually who you are?
Many of us unknowingly build our identity around trauma, chronic illness, childhood wounds, career roles, relationships, or accomplishments. Over time, those experiences become the lens through which we see ourselves.
In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I share how I made my car wreck, childhood experiences, and Ehler's Danlos Syndrome part of my identity and why healing required separating my story from who I truly am.
You'll learn why your worth has never depended on what you've survived, what you've achieved, or what you've lost.
If you've ever wondered who you are beneath the labels, diagnoses, trauma, or expectations, this episode is for you.
In this episode:✔ Why we confuse experiences with identity
✔ How trauma, illness, and life roles become who we think we are
✔ Why your worth existed before anything happened to you
✔ The hidden connection between identity and Not Good Enough Stuff
✔ How to begin separating your story from your true self00:00 Introduction
00:49 16 Years Since My Car Wreck
02:25 When Trauma Becomes Your Identity
04:10 Why Your Worth Existed Before Your Pain
05:35 How Not Good Enough Stuff Shapes Identity
07:20 Why We Attach Our Identity to Our Story
09:30 When Your Identity Disappears
11:20 Your Worth Was Never Earned
12:50 Who Are You Without Your Story?
15:05 Your Story Is Not Your Identity
16:55 Final Thoughts
Resources & Links:
🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/
Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/
Connect with Me: ▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist 🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist 📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox 💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox
If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.
Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.
Music Attribution:
Music licensed through Soundstripe
Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS
21 min - Why You Don't Know What You Need (And Where That Started)
Why don't you know what you need?
If identifying your needs feels impossible, the problem isn't that you're broken. It may be that you learned your needs didn't matter long before you were old enough to question that belief.
In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox explores how unmet childhood needs shape adulthood, why so many people become people-pleasers or hyper-independent, and how these early experiences become part of the Not Good Enough Stuff we mistake for who we are.
If you struggle with people-pleasing, hyper-independence, setting boundaries, understanding your emotional needs, or feeling like you're never enough, this episode will help you understand where those patterns began and how to start changing them.
In this episode, you'll learn:• Why you struggle to identify your needs
• How childhood experiences shape your identity and relationships
• The hidden connection between people-pleasing and unmet emotional needs
• Why hyper-independence develops
• How to begin recognizing and expressing your needsIf you've ever thought:
"I don't know what I need."
"I feel guilty asking for help."
"I take care of everyone else before myself."
...this episode is for you.
🎁 Download your FREE Not Good Enough Stuff Guide:
https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/📖 Download your FREE Inner Child Workbook:
https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-inner-child-workbook/🌿 Learn more:
https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.comIf this episode helped you see yourself differently, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.
Remember, you are good enough. You always were and you always will be.
Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.
Music Attribution:
Music licensed through Soundstripe.
Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS
27 min - How Childhood Messages Shape Your Identity
Why do so many of us grow up believing we're not good enough?
In this episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, I explore how the messages we receive from our families, both spoken and unspoken, shape our beliefs about ourselves. Even well-meaning caregivers can unintentionally send messages that become part of our identity, influencing our self-worth, relationships, confidence, and the way we move through life.
You'll learn:
• How childhood messages become lifelong beliefs
• Why your inner voice often reflects messages from your past
• The difference between who you truly are and what you learned to believe about yourself
• Why awareness is the first step toward lasting changeIf you've ever found yourself asking, "Where did I learn to believe this about myself?" this episode is for you.
Timestamps:
00:00 The Impact of Family Messages on Self-Perception
05:32 Understanding Achievement and Worth
12:13 Exploring Emotions and Relationships
20:24 Identity, Appearance, and Safety
21:30 Money Mindset and Self-Worth
Resources & Links:
🌐 Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/
Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/
Connect with Me:
▶️ YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
💼 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfoxIf this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.
Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational and personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, and listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.
25 min - Understanding the Inner Critic
Understanding the Inner Critic
In this first episode of Not Good Enough Stuff, licensed professional counselor Mary Beth Fox explains how your inner critic develops, why the voice in your head wasn't born with you, & how childhood, family, culture, & life experiences shape your sense of self. Learn how messages from childhood, family, culture, religion, & society become internalized, shaping the way you see yourself, your relationships, & your life. This episode will help you begin questioning the beliefs you never chose so you can start discovering your authentic voice.
Key Topics:
- The concept of "Not Good Enough Stuff" & how it shapes our self-perception
- How family, culture, religion, society, & life experiences shape the inner critic
- How repetitive negative messages become internalized & influence identity
- The link between inner critic messages and depression, relationship dynamics, & career choices
- Practical ways to recognize, question, & respond differently to your inner critic
- The importance of recognizing that your true voice is separate from learned beliefs
- Ongoing healing & the truth about eliminating the inner critic
- Examples of how societal expectations impact personal expression & confidence
- Practical steps in questioning & shifting negative self-talk
- Encouragement to affirm your worth & develop a new vision of self
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:02 How the inner critic develops
04:05 How beliefs become identity
06:24 My personal story
08:48 Questioning negative self-talk
11:37 Your true identity
13:00 Discovering your authentic voice
15:29 Managing the inner critic
18:12 Finding your voice
21:09 You were always enough
22:37 Final thoughts
Resources & Links:
Visit: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/
Download your FREE Not Good Enough Guide here: https://www.theinnerchildtherapist.com/free-guide-to-feeling-enough/
Connect with Me:
YouTube: @notgoodenoughstuff
Instagram: https://instagram.com/theinnerchildtherapist
TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@theinnerchildtherapist
Facebook: https://facebook.com/TICT.MaryBethFox
LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/marybethfox
If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, & share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every share helps more people begin questioning the messages they never chose to believe.
Disclaimer: The information shared in this podcast is for educational & personal growth purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy, mental health treatment, or medical advice, & listening does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you need support for your unique situation, please connect with a licensed mental health professional in your area.
Music Attribution:
Music licensed through Soundstripe.
Code: CDAA5GJA2635SEHS
25 min
About Not Good Enough Stuff
From the publisher's feed
Who would you be if nobody had ever told you who you were supposed to be?
If you've spent your life feeling like you're not good enough, wondering why you don't know who you are, struggling…
to recognize your own needs, or feeling like you're living a life that doesn't quite fit, you're in the right place.
I'm Mary Beth Fox, Licensed Professional Counselor.
You weren't born believing you weren't enough. Those messages were planted by family, society, culture, sometimes religion, and life experiences. Over time, they shaped the voice in your head, your identity, your self-worth, your relationships, your decisions, and nearly every part of your life.
Using the Not Good Enough Stuff Framework, we'll trace those messages back to their roots so you can understand how you became who you are, why you see yourself the way you do, why your own needs can feel so difficult to recognize, and how to separate who you truly are from who you were shaped to be.
We'll question the childhood messages that shaped your self-worth, fueled negative self-talk, left you carrying shame, made boundaries feel difficult, and convinced you that you had to earn love, approval, or your worth.
Sometimes we'll call bullshit on those messages.
Because they deserve to be questioned.
This podcast isn't about becoming someone new.
It's about returning to your True Soul Identity.
You are not lost.
Your True Soul Identity became covered by the layers of family, society, culture, sometimes religion, and life experiences.
Together, we'll peel back those layers, trace the roots that shaped your identity, and uncover the truth about who you've been all along.
Whether you're trying to understand your inner child, emotional neglect, childhood experiences, self-worth, relationships, emotional needs, identity, or the voice in your head, Not Good Enough Stuff will help you understand how you got where you are so you can return to who you truly are.