Elaine has never been broken up with and she’s not necessarily proud of that fact. It also doesn’t mean she hasn’t had her share of rejection, heartbreak, and disaster. She’s just really really good at ripping the bandaid off, which is one of the most valuable skills to have and has led her to report from the other side with a healthy relationship full of personal space, self-worth, strong pheromones, and separate bedrooms. Listen up!

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Sophie is DONE being a manic pixie dream girl! She’s a real woman with real needs and real ghosts from the past who keep popping up and need to make their intentions clear or go haunt someone else. The key to ALL of that is going to be flexibility, working to change habits disguised as instincts, and learning to be direct in all the right places, while sitting back in some others. It sounds like A LOT but it’s really pretty simple and starts with getting off the apps and onto the dates! Let’s do it!

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Forget what you THINK other people want you to be and instead, be silly, dorky, messy you. My guest Jeremy is too nice and is trying too hard to be perfect! And it's really getting in the way of good smooch sessions. We do a MAJOR profile overhaul and start digging to rediscover that so not perfect but so much more appealing swagger that we know is hidden deep within. We also talk about dating with a dog and how to make it work FOR you instead of against. Listen up!

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Anonymous guest “Ellie” has had some rough dating experiences, causing her to use her career to shield herself from romance. Her MO is to self-shame and self-blame: Enough is ENOUGH and we’re over it! We talk about doing things that build up your confidence, and how that will lead you to meet your person. Holding out on sex isn’t for them, it’s for YOU. Wait til you LIKE a person before you let them do something with your body or your confidence. Time for Ellie to treat herself the way she wants to be treated. And you, too. Listen up!

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John is a writer who loves telling his own story. He’s almost TOO self-aware, to the point that he may be using all of his self-knowledge to actually block himself from getting into an LTR. Funny how we get so comfortable with our flaws and “I’m not good at this” that we actually never let ourselves be. We work on letting go of his daddy issues, fixing his picker (and profile) and finding a man who will take John out for non-dairy ice cream. Listen up!

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Jen is READY for a relationship but that doesn’t mean she should be rushing into one. Let’s get away from benchmarks and promises and move toward finding someone who is actually right, even if it takes a little longer. Jen hosts “It’s Complicated” podcast, and it certainly has been, but it doesn’t HAVE to be. We talk about her habits, how to break them, and how to actually start to enjoy this again. Also how to make her profile WAY less basic and WAY more effective and specific. Listen up!

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Ronnie owns that he USED to be a passive-aggressive f*ckboy but he’s worked on it and is a f*ckboy  no longer!! But it hasn’t been all sunshine and roses right away, with his first post-f*ckboy relationship turning out to be pretty toxic. We discuss focusing on moving forward to find him a partner who challenges him and respects both him and his relationship with his daughter. It’s all about one step at a time, holding your lovers to the same standards you hold your friends, and challenging EVERYTHING you usually do when it comes to dating. WIth patience and kindness for yourself, of course. Listen up!

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Sara is a freak like me: someone who LOVES dating and actually misses it now that she has a SO. A self-proclaimed “strong flavor” who got where she is in pretty much the opposite way that I did, we still manage to agree on dating technique and how to make dating not just fun but also extremely beneficial. Hint: Diversify your portfolio! Sara is one of those rare breeds who will set her friends up with someone she dated if they weren’t a match for her, speak up for exactly what she needs, and even occasionally let someone do something for her if they earn their way to it. We go over A LOT of tips, so listen up!

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Fellow redhead Steph is a “sensual spicy sweet woman looking for a man who wants to devour her.” (my words, quoted directly) Shas been out of the game for some time, with good reason. But no one who creates horny boards, loves chicken tenders, does karaoke, and wants to share a cheese plate should be kept from the world for too long! She wants to leave her trauma behind (having worked on it in real therapy, of course) and get some power and some fun back, which is NOT too much to ask. Let’s do it.

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“Leslie Knope” is an ‘amazing friend and coworker but kind of a nutjob when it comes to herself’ (her words; anyone relate?) She’s juggling moving across the country, looking for a job, living with her parents, body image issues, and bisexuality. She also doesn’t LOVE not being totally in control of the situation. Whew! Let’s see where we can fit romance (and maybe even a good time?!?!) into all of this. Listen up!

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